...changes in family formation. A happy marriage may be built only on love, tolerance, mutual understanding, equality, and respect. The problem is important because both husband and wife are now in many cases on equal terms. More and more women demonstrate higher levels of education than men, more and more women compete with men, holding leadership positions in business, politics and social life. Now a lot of women are the financial support to the family. As the result, women become materially independent. They are not materially tied to a family anymore. When they get married, they enrich their world that is now built on kinship, love, safety, quality leisure time activities in which all family members are involved. A family develops a collective feeling of interconnectedness, which is opposed to loneliness. Joy and duty, love and care, discipline and kindness - all these are taken together in a family as a pillar of stable social development. I have talked to married people in search of a "happy family" recipe. I want to share some of my findings with you. A happy marriage is based on intimacy and commitment. It is a bond that outgrows passion as the feature of romantic love. It is a bond that is based on mutual respect and the feeling as if both husband and wife were in many respects one. It is a way of constructing lifestyle, emphasizing intimate relationship and devotion to a person of your choice. It is confidence in the stable character of marriage, reinforced by having kids...
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...What are the ingredients that make for a happy marriage? According to H. Norman Wright, communication is the key to a happier marriage. One must know how to converse collectively, how to listen in and know we are being heard, how to comprehend and convey our feelings and from this, how to get unstuck and start growing again. Communicate! Lack of communication is the number one reason even good relationships fail. And here is a useful format for doing so, especially when dealing with incendiary topics: Listen to your partner's position, without interrupting him. Just listen. When he is finished, summarize what you heard him say. If you can, empathize with your significant other even though you don't agree. This will take your partner off the defensive, and make it easier for him to hear your thoughts and feelings. It's hard to argue when you use this format. While on the other hand, Respect your partner, and don't take him or she for granted. Treating your partner with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding him how much he or she means to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings of appreciation with your partner — they will be thankful that you did. What are the fundamental differences that separate happily and unhappily married couples? Happily couple communicates more to each other than unhappily married couples. A Happily married couple expresses the thoughts that they understood...
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...Monitor on Psychology journal, Daniel Gilbert began his speech about marriage (2010.) While growing up, Gilbert’s mother had told him to aim for three things in life, “finding someone nice and getting married; building a fulfilling, well-paid career; and above all having children” (Munsey 2010.) Before I read this article, I used to think that getting married made things better. You would be closer to one another, trust more in one another, and build a better relationship with one another. I have been with my partner for almost four years, and even though marriage is one thing on our list, we haven’t felt that it has been something we have to do right away. I have a four and a half year old daughter from a previous relationship. Since my partner and I have been together, it seems that the more time and time goes on, the more the four of us grow together as a family. There are some things about this article that I completely agree with and some that I will definitely disagree with as well. As twenty-three women who has lived with the same man for almost four years, and have risen a little girl together seems fair enough that I can consider myself basically married. There is no paper that states that, but I believe that our history and current state very well proves that. There are three main topics that this Harvard professor discusses and that is bottom line, being married and happy, money and finances, and marriage and kids. In my personal opinion I believe that I can give my opinion...
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...Do marriages always end happy? Martha Washington was born Martha Dandridge on June 2, 1731, in Kent County, Virginia, on the Chestnut Grove plantation. At 18 years old, Martha married Daniel Parke Custis, a rich plantation owner, in 1749. The couple would have four children, though only two, Jack and Pastsy, lived past childhood. The first two children, Daniel and Frances, died before the age of five. It is believed that Daniel died of malaria and Frances cause of death is unknown. Custis himself died in the summer of 1757, and Martha became the inheritor of his 15,000 acre estate. The death of her husband left Martha being one of the wealthiest women in Virginia. The love between Martha and George Washington. Martha met a young colonel in...
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...Financial stability has always been regarded as the most important factor in ensuring a happy marriage. It is the pillar that holds a family together just like how pillars (the foundation) are imperative in preventing buildings from collapsing (good analogy). Without financial stability, marriages often end in divorce. A recent poll by the Jiayuan match-making website has shown that sixty percent of 1000 women are not in for ‘naked marriages’ this means that more women will only decide to tie the knot if their spouse owns a house. This just further proves (word choice - emphasizes) the importance of financial stability in marriages and that it plays a big role in ensuring happy marriages. So, what exactly is financial stability? In my opinion, being financially stable does not necessary mean that one needs to be rich and can afford a very extravagant lifestyle. Instead, it should simply be when one is debt-free, is able to afford and pay for the expenditure of their family and have the monetary means, savings, income to meet the needs for today and the future. (good definition of key terms) “Money can't buy you happiness.” (Dialogue) I believe most of us are very familiar with this quote and are now wondering, if money can’t buy us happiness, how or why does financial stability ensures a happy marriage? Couples get married not only to justify (word choice - as a testament of) their love for each other but also in view to start a family. (explanation) In today’s fast-paced...
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...After being married for five years and divorcing I believe that I have a clear understanding of what makes a happy marriage. In my opinion a happy marriage begins with the persons seeking marriage finding their true identity. I believe that when you know who you are that you will make clear and concise decisions. Some people marry when they do not know who they are in life or what they want out of life which results in an unhappy marriage. I also believe that being equally yoked is very pertinent to having a happy successful marriage because how can a married couple be one or in union with one another when they have different beliefs towards very important matters. I also believe that good lines of communication will create a happy marital atmosphere considering when you communicate you remain on the same sheet of music. The last thing that I will include is finances because when you are stable you are able to remove some unneeded stress that many people face due to the lack of funds. There are also many fundamental differences that separate unhappy and happy married couples such as happy married couples are deep rooted in their marriage when problems and situations arise they work hard and fight to keep everything together. However when unhappy married couples face trials and tribulations throughout their marriages they are ready to throw in the towel and yell I want a divorce because they do not feel that they have anything to...
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...Introduction Dating and courtship is a foundation for having a happy and successful marriage. Countless millions of shattered families began with wrong dating habits. These habits made proper courtship impossible. And the results have been tragic. The almost universal effects of modern dating demonstrate widespread ignorance, even on the most basic points of right dating (Eagar, 2002). Almost no one understands the real purpose of dating or of the courtship that can ensue. The next step, achieving a happy marriage, then also becomes impossible. This research paper will try to tackle some points regarding the courtship, dating and marriage to help people achieve a happy home. Dating, followed by courtship, is supposed to lead to a happy marriage. But marriage cannot be happy if it is not built on the right foundation. Most couples have no idea that the foundation of a successful marriage begins long before the wedding day. In addition, a direct by-product of the wrong foundation is that most people have no idea how to select the right mate. “Like a triangle it has three sides, if one side is taken away it would no longer be a triangle. Also in marriage there must be three elements to complete the sacred union.”(Burell, 2000, p. 105-106). Like a triangle, God has to be at the top, and at the foundation it is you and the other significant person at either side. To be close together is to be closer to God. Many have been closer together only to be hurt because God was left...
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...discuss things and compromise without feeling that they are being taking advantage of, or their opinion is not even considered. By not being able to have a reasonable solution between both parties in a marriage this sets up for problems in the future. The problems will most likely lead to a couple feeling there is nowhere to go in the marriage, and find that they are unhappy. There are also many reasons that a couple fill a divorce is needed. Divorce offers both people in the relationship a better since of happiness, a stable life for themselves and the family, and divorce allows a person to regain their identity. The option of filing for a divorce is a tough and very difficult decision that is brought onto a couple when faced with a family problem. Once the idea of divorce is considered or brought up, either by one of the people or both people in the marriage feel that the relationship cannot be repaired or worked on. In a marriage both people want to have a sense of self worth and also for both people to be happy. By filing for divorce the couple may improve their overall happiness. A problem has occurred somewhere along the lines between the married couple and they are unable to come up with a solution that would make both people in the relationship feel happy. Being happy is one of the main reasons that a couple decides to get...
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...Different Cultures In Marriage And Dating When someone talks about marriage, he is talking about commitment, which is one of the most important and happiness moment in life. Marriage is a commitment that makes people happy and bring joy to your life, really is more then a commitment. You are forming a family by your own, and that is one of the grates and magical moment in the world when you see your son for the first time and you are so happy. But in every country is different this wonderful commitment, because of the cultures, the religion, etc. and all this reasons brings different methods of a marriage, but still this big important commitment all around the world. In United States of America, the main religion is the Catholic. So marriage is a very important commitment. To get married you need to be a catholic, who all ready have been baptized, have done the first communion and finally do the confirmation, that consist in reaffirm you faith on God and in the catholic religion. United States of America has a big problem with marriage, because they have a big rate of percentage on divorces. United States has 4.95 per 1,000 people letting him the country with the biggest rate of divorce. The weddings celebrations are part of the traditional marriage. After the ceremony the couple goes to there house, a restaurant or a facility with some friends to celebrate the special occasion and to finish they greatest day...
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...T.L.E Mark Anthiny Osting COMPUTER Mark Anthony Osting I. Introduction Marriage is far more profound than our contemporary culture would lead us to believe. It is a life-long commitment that restrains self-centeredness, self-indulgence and self-gratification. It is the one relationship that effectively prepares and conditions us for community. By restraining self-centeredness and promoting love of another, marriage becomes the foundation for social order. When this commitment labeled “marriage” is reduced to nothing more than a mere contract between two consenting persons, or worse just another option, it ceases to restrain our self-centered passions. Self-centeredness harms not only that relationship but also others as well until it spreads throughout society like ripples in a pond. Abandoning the “others before self” concept of marriage for the self-serving concept of contractual relationships between autonomous individuals makes us increasingly narcissistic, ultimately leading toward moral and social collapse. II. Questions A * Where did you meet each other? * How many children do you have? * Where did you married? * Who supported to your marriage? Answers: * Kami ay nagkakilala sa Taiwan at magkasama kami sa trabaho. Ang trabaho naming doon ay bilang English teachers. * Isa lang ang aming anak. Pangalan niya ay si Jarriet dahil sa aming panagalan na John at...
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...2015 Women that are to Sorrow In both stories A Secrets Woman and “A Sorrowful Woman” are about two woman centered on ideas of marriage and family. However, marriage and family are viewed and experienced in two different ways. Karen van der Zee shows a married life style with the perfect children and family in her dream; it’s what Faye, the protagonist of A secret Woman, wants for her happiness. While Godwin’s protagonist, marriage and family has already come true, and searching for a resolutions why she is suffocating of her home and eventually leads to her suicide. Both of the Protagonist in the stories have experienced a dramatic crises in their lives. In A S Secret Sorrow, Faye’s dramatic crisis comes before her marriage. She is discomposed because she can no longer have children, and she fears that her being unable to have children will prevent her from marrying the man she loves. Both Fays and her husband Kai always wanted marriage and children, and she assumes that it’s only under those conditions to be truly happy. Faye feels that she is incapable of having children now is a flaw. “Every time we see some pregnant woman, every time we’re with somebody else’s children I’ll feel I’ve failed you!” (36). Faye’s fears is not getting married to the man she loves and not having children. In “A Sorrowful Woman” The dramatic crisis comes after her marriage and family has already started. Unlike Faye, she would be blissful in this woman’s shoes, the protagonist of Godwin’s story is...
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...The Factors Causing Extramarital Affairs Introduction According to Herbert S. Strean’s “The Extramarital Affair”, only happy people can have a happy marriage and an extramarital affair is almost always a sign of a conflict marriage. People who have unhappy marriages tend to have extramarital activities in order to achieve happier marital intersections therefore they can return to their stable family lives and continue their marriages. Extramarital affair also can refer to a way of expressing the anger and unhappiness for people who are in unhappy marriage. In addition, the couples who have longer marriage years tend to have more chances to have extramarital activities since they will have less willingness to make up their relationships. Especially if their relationships already have had problems for a long period of time, they will have extramarital affairs instead of solving the problems in their relationships since solving the problems is more difficult and sometimes people tend to do something to achieve happiness and avoid the difficulties in their lives. Theoretical Model In the project, I assigned the number of affairs as the dependent variable. Since individuals’ extramarital behavior has a close relationship with their married years and their happiness in marriage, I assigned the number of years married and the self-rating of marriage as the independent variables. I am going to discuss how the two factors affect the individuals’ number of extramarital activities...
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...Breanna Westbrooks Ms. H Marriage & Family paper 24 February 14 Marriage and Family Once said by Winston Churchill, “There is no doubt that it is around the family and home that all the greatest virtues, the most dominating virtues of human society, are created, strengthened, and maintained.” Marriage is a socially recognized union between two people, which may pave the way to starting ones family. Usually, when one thinks of the definition of family, the picture of a mother, father, and children come to mind. Yet, as a society if we were asked what family means to us there would be different definitions for most people. With that being said, before you can begin a family usually two people decide to be together in a committed relationship. This leads to wanting to take things to the “next level” or making the decision of making another person their partner for the rest of their life, normally done so by the male party by proposing to his mate indicating the longing to be with this person forever. Given by dictionary.com, marriage is the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitment. Just like many other things in life, if you want something to last and work then you must be willing to put in the effort that is required to have pleasing results throughout the marriage. When deciding to marry someone, you then make the decision of making a commitment to your partner, but to yourself as well...
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...They deserve to be happy and marry whom they love. They have the rights as the heterosexual couples. It has become more egalitarian, and it is considered to be a human right. Marriage should be made available to couples regardless of their genders. Many people say it might be against many religious beliefs. There's a lot of people that are too afraid to let people know what their sexual choices are. The same sex marriage has been a widely debated in many countries for a very long time. It's a really important issue because it concerns basic moral and human rights. Theres many gay couples have come out and expressed their sexuality choices. Although there's a lot of people the think it should be legalized. There's also a huge number...
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...Chapter 8 “Whiten Marriage” Marriage Marriage is in retreat • 71% people married • 15% never married • 5% divorced or separated • Now 50% married and almost 20% divorced Why people get married? • Love • Family • Having children • Financial stability • Making lifelong commitment Is marriage bliss? • 36% married people happy • 22% not married were happy Is happiness related to marriage? Decline in marriage • “do your own thing and you will be accepted • 41% births outside of marriage • What once seemed shocking has now become mainstream 11.7 million single-parent household Divorce much more prevalent though now declining • Higher amongst inter racial couples • 1 in 5 American divorce involve Facebook • 100 divorces per hour Highest divorce rate is in Nevada 16% Are children better off w/ unhappy marriage? Gray divorce • People older than 50 years old • Growing trend of divorce w/ baby boomers • Projected 800,000 divorces in 2030 3 of 4 people claim divorce was right decision Gay marriage • People changing perceptions and open mindedness of globalized world • People change perceptions because they know someone who is homosexual • Knowing someone that is LGBT main diver for perception change • Increasing support • 9 in 10 LGBT believe acceptance is growing every year • Support amongst generations o Millennials 70% o GEN X 49% o Boomers 38% o Silent 31% • Most now say they wouldn’t be upset if children were LGBT • Survey ...
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