Anger

Anger is defined as an intense emotional response that occurs when ones basic boundaries are violated (Anger, n.d.) How often have you heard the saying not “to keep any anger in for the sake of your health? Yet, according to a study in the University of North Carolina in 2000, 13,000 students were given questionaries’ in which they rated their tendency to get angry. Years later, a follow up study showed that there (wrong there/their) blood pressure was normal. Yet, those who frequently lost their temper were three times more likely to have heart attacks than others. For this reason, I believe people should not vent out in anger because it can affect your health, create separation, and hinder one’s ability to find a better way to handle the situation at hand. (Perfect topic sentence!)
Anger can affect your health in numerous ways. The constant flood of stress chemicals and metabolic changes associated with unmanaged anger can harm different areas of the body (Anger- how it affects people, n.d.). According to Jerry Kiffer a heart researcher at the Cleveland Clinic Psychological Testing Center quotes, “Stress response mobilizes for emergency, but when it becomes repetitive it causes wear and tear on the heart and cardiovascular system. Furthermore, frequent anger may speed up atherosclerosis – a fatty plaque that builds up in the arteries. How is it better to let out anger all the time? As it has been noted by professors and research sites anger can play a humongous roles in your health. So next time you want to blow your horns, think about the consequences in years to come. I hope with this mind you will be able to handle anger better.

Furthermore, anger can create separation (Brenner, n.d.). Anger can push people away, scare them, and make them fight back. Relationships where anger is continuously present will not survive simply because there is no room to breathe. There may be times when you may think anger is the best way or method of expressing yourself to your partner, but it is not. Anger is not the best solution and should be avoided as much as possible. For example, in my recent relationship, I had a tendency to always express anger so that he would know that I’m hurt inside. But this approach quickly began affecting our relationship and I became grumpier because of it. We began to communicate and care less for one another. It all started when I got mad at the small things that he would choose not to fix. We as human being forget how anger may or may not affect those around us. Who wants to be around someone who gets mad at small things anyways? Chronic, intense anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable because they never know what is going to set you off or what you will do.
As a final point, there are better alternatives to handling anger. You must first be aware of how your (you’re) feeling so you can ask yourself questions such as whether or not your anger is masking your feelings of embarrassment, insecurity, hurt or shame. If you answer yes to any of these questions your temper is covering up your true feelings and needs. Sometimes we become angry because we have a hard time compromising. People who have a hard time being open minded and compromising with others ideas and points of view can become rather angry, controlling, or demanding. I remember growing up a cousin who always wanted her way no matter what. If you didn’t agree with her she would always find ways to argue or simply dislike you. So, members of my family would always make sure not to get on her bad side. This childhood memory is a good example of one’s inability to control their anger. Such an example can be referred to as emotional awareness. It is defined as our ability to be aware of our emotions and be able to control them when necessary. Emotional intelligence is the key to understanding your feelings. If you can learn how to make emotional intelligence a priority in your life you will be able to recognize yours and other people’s emotions. It will guide your overall thinking and behavior, therefore, making you less angry. The fact that anger is a normal physical response is because it fuels the “fight or flight” in your body, so the angrier you get, the more your body goes into overdrive (Management, 2015). You can choose to simply walk away, jam to music, or do something physical. It important to think positive and avoid things such as overgeneralizing, blaming, obsessing on “should and musts.” It is important not to look for things to get upset about. In summation, anger can be avoided if you take the necessary steps.
Given the points that I previously mentioned, it is quite obvious as to why anger is an important topic that must always be controlled. Anger can create all sorts of problems in our daily lives if left unchecked. It is, therefore, very important to ensure that all necessary steps are taken in your daily live to avoid becoming angry. Doing so will allow you to live a life full of passion and abundance.