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The sensible comment by the Minister for Women and Child Development [a very rare occasion] about legislating on 'marital rape' has, expectedly, raised a storm of protest, especially in the print media. A national daily recently carried a comment by its regular columnist who claims that "marriage itself is often devoid of consent in any real sense." "Why should marriage" he asks "give licence to a man to force himself on a woman against her will?"

The problem with such journalists is that they intervene in a public discussion without understanding the question. The opinion piece is titled: "A Question of Consent."

This column displays ignorance about the cultural as well as the contractual aspects of marriage as a social institution. The questions asked reveal an immature understanding of marriage as it has existed in India for millennia. He asserts (falsely) that "The marriage itself is imagined as a form of blanket consent. For a woman, the exercise of consent before marriage is denied, (sic) for any consensual sexual contact on her part is considered taboo, and after marriage it is seen to be unnecessary for the act of getting married is seen to be a form of consent to all that is to follow. The reason why sexual violence is so embedded is because individual consent on an everyday basis has never been part of the deal in the first place."(sic).

The sheer inanity of this argument is so obvious that it is surprising that it is advanced in the first place. When two people enter into a contract to manufacture a product, they are both expected to know the nature of the product as well as the processes necessary to produce it. They are also expected to know the financial, the commercial and the social consequences of manufacturing and selling the product. The contract cannot be said to be a contract unless these conditions are present.

Marriage as a contract is no different. Both the partners to the marriage contract are assumed to know what "marriage" is all about. That is why there is a legal age (age of consent) before marriage can be undertaken. It is certainly not a tea party; nor is it a casual "affair" as it is sometimes made out to be in the West. This columnist decries the fact that the marriage contract is "blanket consent." What is wrong about "blanket consent"? Is not any legal contract "blanket consent" to do and not to do what is stipulated in the contract? Does the fact that it is a "blanket consent" make it any less binding or any less legal? This columnist demands that the consent be on an "everyday basis". If this stupid suggestion is taken seriously, it will mean that the husband (who is usually the party who is liable) will have to get her written consent, duly signed before two witnesses and attested by a Notary Public each time that he desires to undertake his conjugal responsibilities!

Columnists like this one should be extremely wary about rushing in where angels fear to tread. They have not given the problem/s sufficient consideration to find out the reasons why the institution of the family has survived in its present form over the thousands of years of human social evolution. They also need to understand the cultural milieu within which families today are struggling to survive. It is not enough to have facile answers to the grave challenges facing the families today. It is certainly irresponsible to shift the blame without knowing what is to blame.

The tendency of journalists, in general, to rush into print, and express opinions on matters which are beyond their understanding is an unhealthy tendency which needs to be curbed. The only ones, of course, who can curb these undesirable tendencies, are the journalists and writers themselves. External mechanisms such as the Press Council of India or Journalists' Associations have proven to be ineffective.

It needs to be pointed out that another journalistic pitfall is the habit of writers and opinion makers to mix up issues. In this case, the columnist has tried to deal with two distinct issues in one piece - marital rape (so-called) and domestic violence. These are two distinct issues which need separate treatment. To combine domestic violence with marital rape is simply to confuse the issues further. Such journalism might win the writer a Sahitya Akademi Award, but it will certainly not help resolve the burning issues on the ground.

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