What is the best way to bring up a child?

“Parents around the world are doing their best to raise their children to become happy, responsible adults. They take care of their children and try to teach them the values they think are important for them to learn.” But is there a way of bringing up child that is better than the other?
Amy Chua believes that if you nurture your children, they will be better off when they become adults. She thinks that children need boundaries. She believes in making all of the decision for her children because she does not think that they will make the right decision.
Also the Eastern way of parenting they can be very upfront with their children, for example they can tell them to lose some weight if they think they are to fat, without their children ending up feeling less worthy, were Western parents are very sensitive, they do not tell them directly but in a more discreet way.
The Eastern parents also demands their children to get straight A’s and to be the best at everything they do because they know that their children have ability to do it, so they put a tremendous amount of presser on them to make them the best, if they do not end with the best result, the parents will push them and go over why they did not do their best and the go over it again and again until they succeeds. That can either end up making them better or break them, if they do not have the capacity to handle all the pressure it will end up crushing them and making them feel like a failure. If they have the capacity to handle the pressure, they are going to be the best at everything they do because their parents have thought them how to handle the pressure and if they do not end with the best result, they will know what they did wrong and make it better the next time. They do all of this to make them prepare for the future when they become adults and they will know to handle them self.
Bryan Caplan view on parenting is that parents should take a more of a backseat, he thinks that is should be nature rather than nurture. He believes that children should be more free to do what they want and that there should not be that many boundaries. Caplan also thinks that you should not push your children to do anything they do not want to do. He also states that parents do not have that much influence on their children life when they grow up.
In his book he makes an argument about nature versus nurture, where he had studied identical twins whom where adopted by two different families but ended up having similar lives.
Caplan may have something right here that children do not need that many boundaries and parents should not force their children to do something that they do not want to do, but still children needs some short of boundaries or else they will think that they can do everything that fits them. There is some good points in the way Chua believe children should be raise, like Eastern parents believes in their children ability and want the best for them.
Chua and Caplan both have different opinion on have to raise children but they both want what is best for their children.
You cannot really say that there is a right of bringing up your children. Ultimately it comes down to what you as a parent chose to do and how you are going to prepare your children for the future, that does not indicate that you have to choose one over the other, you can choose to take some part from the Eastern way of parenting and mix it together with the Western way of parenting.
For example my parents did not raise my siblings and I base on the Eastern way of parenting only but they also took some of the Western way of parenting in. My parents do not force me to do anything I do not like but they expect me to get good grades, even though they do not force me to go over it again and again if I get bad grades, I know they are a little disappointed that makes me want to try harder the next time, I do have less boundaries than some of my Asian friends that is properly because my parents know that I need a break once in a while, I get to do a lot of different things that some of my friends do not get to do because they are strictly raise in Eastern way of parenting.
So out from my example you do not need to choose one, you can just choose both and it will still end up well.

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[ 1 ]. http://www.topics-mag.com/edition10/child-raising-page.htm
[ 2 ]. ”selfish reasons” for parents to enjoy having kids by NPR Staff - http://www.npr.org/2011/04/22/135612560/selfish-reasons-for-parents-to-enjoy-having-kids