Personal Reflection #1
Chapters 1-4 brought many subjects to my attention that I have never really learned about in my past. What caught my attention was a topic in Chapter 3 in dealing with female sexual anatomy, physiology, and response. More specifically, I learned a ton in the section with regards to female sexual response. As a male, I know for the most part that the sexual response for men and women might be slightly different for both. From reading the section, I was able to learn about the three models used in describing the changes and patterns that take place in a female body during sexual arousal. Whether looking at Master and Johnson’s four-phase model, Kaplan’s Tri-phasic model, or Loulan’s sexual response model, they all explain some very important stages that occur. These phases can range from feelings such as desire, excitement, orgasm, and even the resolution. All these areas stood out to me in really trying to understand and grasp how the female mind works during this time.
When I came across the subject of female sexual response, I dove right in and wanted to gain as much knowledge as possible from reading the section. Being in a relationship for three years now, I have always tried to learn as much as I can in respect to my partner. When the sacred time comes of exchanging my energy in a sexual way with my girlfriend, it is always a priority to please her in the best way that I can. By studying how the mind of a female works during this time, I can make the whole experience more enjoyable for the both of us. With a better understanding of the changes a female goes through in her mind, senses, and hormones I am now capable of counteracting any situations that may arise. Instead of getting right into it, which may happen at times, I would rather take my time and fully get my companion aroused first. I truly feel that learning this subject makes me more understanding of the needs of a female.
Currently, the amount of time set aside for intimacy between my partner and I has lessened, and to change that I plan on taking the many things I learned with me and using it. I may have been focusing on myself a little too much lately and there is a good chance that is the reason behind it. As individuals, I think we sometimes tend to get too caught up in how we want to feel that we make it an expectation. Expectations come with attachments. So the next time, I plan on leaving that at the door and really focusing on the moment.