Arranged or Loved

Marriage is an opportunity that everyone is given in life as a human being. Many cultures and societies have their own different prospections of marriage. Such as in most European countries they such as India the women are forced into arranged marriages. The way an arranged marriage is set up is that the mother and father go out finding a boy that they feel would be good for their daughter then tell their daughter they are going to marry this person. Therefore, it’s almost impossible for a women to search a man she might like on her own. Even the men are expected to follow the decision taken by parents who choose you to marry their daughter out of respect no matter how you feel about the girl.
On the other hand love marriages are considered more acceptable and common to the modern generation. Love marriages are processed with the two people getting to know each other well, before making a decision to be with each other for life. Love marriages grant the opportunity to choose the partner but the responsibility of choosing the right person is the biggest obstacle in the whole situation. With loved marriages people lend to look for the person that will make them happy, feel loved, someone they can never get tired of and always want to be with, unlike in arranged marriages, where the responsibility of choosing the right person is up to the parents.
During an arranged marriage when the two unknown individuals come together, they don't have any expectations from each other since they both really don’t know each other and what each is capable of doing. So since they really don’t know each other getting to know and understand each other can take a long period of time, during this period they must learn to compromise and accept each other as they are. The difference in a love marriage is there are higher expectations from both the man and women. Since the two already know each other and know what each other are capable of so circumstances and responsibilities can change after marriage. Many couples find it hard to adapt to the changing situation and expect things to go as smoothly as it was before marriage. This is one of the main reasons that divorces occur in loved marriages because more is expected out of each other and some people aren’t willing to give it more.
Even though, surviving an arranged marriage is tougher then love marriages, the two individuals can easily get through tough times if they have real faith and love in each other, if the two are well aware about the qualities and love of each other they have. Which can easily predict and control the behavior for future situations that may occur. In arranged marriages these advantages of knowing each other’s qualities and true feelings are missing, most of the times when they get into a situation it turns into tension which isn’t good for two married people to have.
Even though there is no such rules for a successful marriage I feel that loved marriages are better because it’s being in a situation that you want to be in and you’ll be with someone that you know makes you happy. Yet the debate about whether arrange marriage or love marriage is better than the other will always occur because everyone has their cultural values in which they follow.