...HAPPY MARRIAGES Rosa M. Curet COM200: Interpersonal Communication Nicole Coy 09.20.12 Happy Marriages In order for a marriage to be a happy marriage, communication is important. There is different ways a couple can communicate. A couple can make a happy marriage last for years by self-disclosure. I feel I can relate to this article on self-disclosure in relationships. My husband and I have always tried to communicate our thoughts and feelings with one another. It has been challenging at times, especially after having children. We mainly find our “10 minutes” around bed time."Ten minutes is not that long, when you think about it…it just means paying attention to your partner and asking one question (and responding when) they ask one question (Schoenberg, 2011)". A recent example, after my husband and I were settled down for the day, we were watching the news. The news has plenty of topics for communication. The topic came up about winning the lottery. My husband and I had a really good conversation of what we would do with the money if we had won it. It was very pleasing to know that we were fairly on the same page. I do agree that self-disclosure is important and directly related to satisfaction in relationships. By being open and honest with each other on topics, it brings you a since of togetherness. It also opens up one’s soul. “The process of developing and deepening a relationship requires reciprocal and appropriate self-disclosure and the development of mutual...
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...Jamie Soldavini Week 2 Discussion 1 COM200: Interpersonal Communication (ACM1704G) Instructor: Bonnie Stiemke Bevan & Sole (2014) postulates that culture is the cumulative knowledge deposits, beliefs, values, experiences, attitudes, roles, meanings, hierarchies, notions of time, spatial relations, the worldviews and the material possessions that a group of people has acquired over generations through group and individual strives. Culture is not static; it is dynamic and is constantly reconfigured by the human behavior, beliefs, experiences, ideas and attitudes amongst another things a fore mentioned. Culture has its important in understanding communication because culture is symbolic communication, and the meanings of the symbols can be learned and perpetuated through institutions of a society (Beebe, et.al. 2011). I think it is very important to understand different cultures so you can effectively communicate with the natives and can hopefully avoid offend them. One of the first cultures I define myself with is the American culture. In Chapter 3, we Americans...
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...COM200 WEEK 1 DISCUSSION 2 SEIF AND COMMUNICATION In Chapter Three of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, the author lays out many psychological concepts concerning the “self.” How do all these concepts relate to interpersonal communication? Also, give an example of how your “self-concept,” “self-image,” or “self-esteem” has affected your interpersonal communication. When you think about “self” you can also look at “self-concepts,” “self-image” or “self-esteem” interpersonal communication. The main thing I think about when talking about “self”. Someone with a real low self-esteem might have something important to say, but might be so very scare or even shy could not say what they wanted to say. I can say that at one time I had a problem with no self –esteem before I had a car accident five years ago. The thing is after my car accident everything changed now I have self- esteem, but not high self –esteem or self-esteem. In my own opinion “self-concepts”, “Self-image”, or “self-esteem” does relate to interpersonal communication, because with out most of these how can you communicate. There are so many people that might not have any of theses like self- image “or even “self-esteem”. I know that there are still some times that my self-esteem does get low, because I am a double amputee and sometimes it makes me feel sad when someone one stares at me. The thing it does not bother when children come up to me and ask me where my legs are is. I tell them that...
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...COM200 COM 200 Week 2 Assignment Student name: University attached: Lecture name: Date of submission: I think the results provided by the language style matching were accurate. My family members and I were using a lot of communication between us. Our verbal communication was that we didn’t pay attention to the words we were using. We just talked everyday like we usually do. In the article, “Functions words tap into verbal coordination between two people because these words are independent of conversation topics and require shared knowledge to be used effectively.” Bruce Bower, U.S. News & World Report, Washington: Nov 2010, pg.1. Because we communicate with others, and they understand us, the word must mean the same to everyone else as it does to us. (Kreidler, 1998). My language style matching score was 0.86, which was an average score. Interpersonal communication; we communicate with people. I don’t think that language style matching is a thorough to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships. Why? Interpersonal communication is a social process. I think it is within people we communicate with others constantly. Once you have conversation with others you learn, listen, and observe people and he world around your. This is how we build and maintain relationships with others and meet our personal needs. Language style matching diminished as each relationship soared. Bruce Bower, Nov. 2010, pg. 1. Reference Bower Bruce, 2010 interview with Pennebaker...
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...Poor Communication Evelyn Bradford COM200 Thora Greaves 5/12/14 After reading Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication, I feel like this article gave great examples on how love ones can easily misunderstand each other. In a couple of studies, researchers have shown that for many people, couple communication skills with each other aren’t as strong as they think they are. Sometimes what we say can easily be taken the wrong way. For example, my fiancé and I often have misconnections. I think it’s very easy to have miscommunication, or not understand exactly what someone is saying if you’re already not agreeing with someone. The biggest of our miscommunications come from text messaging; I’ve found that it’s easy to have miscommunication with my fiancé through text. I think it’s because when you read a text message from someone, you set the tone on what you are reading based on your mood. When I do find that there has been a miscommunication with him through text, I tend to know right away based on his response. After detecting the poor communication, I always make sure to call right away to clear up the misunderstanding and make sure we both are at least on the same page. In those same studies, it has been shown that spouses sometimes communicate no better that a stranger. According to Savitsky, some couples may in fact be on the same wave length, but may not as much as they think it is. Which was statement made after his experiment with 24...
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...Interpersonal Conflict In Television George Morgan COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor, Elizabeth E. Nelson January 1, 2016 Relationship conflicts happen in television, just as they happen in everyday life. As in life, one can see interpersonal conflict in television that could have been resolved in a better way. I noticed interpersonal conflict in a television episode of "The Big Bang Theory" titled "The Empathy Optimization". Kaplan, E., Holland, S., Molaro, S., Lorre, C., & Cohen, R. (Executive producers). (2007-2014). The big bang theory [Television series]. United States: Columbia Broadcasting System. The resolution to the conflict could have been resolved better by using efficient methods of communicating between the actors. Verbal and non-verbal communications were not used to the scripts best advantage. The ability to listen, along with the use of problem solving skills, were not used effectively. We must remember this is a comedy series, involving several characters with different perceptions of what reality is. The conflicts in this particular episode revolves around empathy, and the actions and reactions, involving one of the characters temporary sickness. The sick persons’ empathic friends took into consideration their sick friends perspective, as well as his thoughts and feelings. His friends recalled similar experiences in their own lives that had generated needy feelings of their own. Their sick friend complained about...
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...Poor Communication no name COM200 Thora Greaves 5/12/14 After reading Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication, I feel like this article gave great examples on how love ones can easily misunderstand each other. In a couple of studies, researchers have shown that for many people, couple communication skills with each other aren’t as strong as they think they are. Sometimes what we say can easily be taken the wrong way. For example, my fiancé and I often have misconnections. I think it’s very easy to have miscommunication, or not understand exactly what someone is saying if you’re already not agreeing with someone. The biggest of our miscommunications come from text messaging; I’ve found that it’s easy to have miscommunication with my fiancé through text. I think it’s because when you read a text message from someone, you set the tone on what you are reading based on your mood. When I do find that there has been a miscommunication with him through text, I tend to know right away based on his response. After detecting the poor communication, I always make sure to call right away to clear up the misunderstanding and make sure we both are at least on the same page. In those same studies, it has been shown that spouses sometimes communicate no better that a stranger. According to Savitsky, some couples may in fact be on the same wave length, but may not as much as they think it is. Which was statement made after his experiment with 24 married...
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...COM200 WEEK 1 DISCUSSION 2 SEIF AND COMMUNICATION In Chapter Three of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, the author lays out many psychological concepts concerning the “self.” How do all these concepts relate to interpersonal communication? Also, give an example of how your “self-concept,” “self-image,” or “self-esteem” has affected your interpersonal communication. When you think about “self” you can also look at “self-concepts,” “self-image” or “self-esteem” interpersonal communication. The main thing I think about when talking about “self”. Someone with a real low self-esteem might have something important to say, but might be so very scare or even shy could not say what they wanted to say. I can say that at one time I had a problem with no self –esteem before I had a car accident five years ago. The thing is after my car accident everything changed now I have self- esteem, but not high self –esteem or self-esteem. In my own opinion “self-concepts”, “Self-image”, or “self-esteem” does relate to interpersonal communication, because with out most of these how can you communicate. There are so many people that might not have any of theses like self- image “or even “self-esteem”. I know that there are still some times that my self-esteem does get low, because I am a double amputee and sometimes it makes me feel sad when someone one stares at me. The thing it does not bother when children come up to me and ask me where my legs are is. I tell them that...
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...Self-disclosure in Relationships COM200: Interpersonal Communication Andrea Glenn November 4, 2012 . The article, “Can we talk? Researchers talks about the role of communication in happy marriages,” was very informative. This article made some good points about the different types of communication between couples. In this article, research scientist, Terri Orbuch, from the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, gave us a clear definition of the difference between communicating with your spouse and just talking with them. In “Can we talk, researchers talks about the role of communication in happy marriages”, Orbuch says a generalized conversation (sorting out who will pick up the kids, pay the bills or call the grandparents), is not a quality conversation that would take your marriage from good to great (Schoenberg, 2011). Orbuch talks about self-disclosure in a relationship. “Self-disclosure is the process through which you come to know the other person and to know yourself better as well” (Sole, 2011, sec 7-7). I can definitely relate to this article. Terri Orbuch brought up a great idea with her 10 minute quality conversation a day rule. My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and have 3 wonderful children. We often find ourselves talking more about the days schedule and what we have to do for the kids or the house rather than talking about ourselves and what we like and/or want to do. Just the other day, we had...
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...Poor Communication COM 200: Interpersonal Communication Poor Communication The article that we read this week was interesting and showed something that I have actually noticed before. I have seen and am guilty of myself of believing that I am closer and understand better certain people because of my personal relationships with them. There are certain key words or phrases that my wife and I will know and understand, but we misunderstand each other just as easily. The couples in this study seemed to have thought that their spouse would know exactly what they meant because, they are around them and speak to them on a daily basis. The very interesting part is that in fact they did not do better with their spouses than they did with strangers, and I wonder if that is because of how they said things rather than what they said. When I try to think back on if this has ever happened to me and if so how. I know for a fact that my wife and I have had moments of poor communication, and thought that we were on the same page and in fact were not. One of those moments were recently, my family was around and we were trying to be discreet in talking about our finances. We have little hint words or secret code names I guess you could say however, I thought we were talking about the code names and not our finances because in all honesty I wasn't paying complete attention since I thought we were on the same page. This is one of those times that...
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...Interpersonal Conflict in Spanglish Dolores Franquiz COM200 Instructor: Katherine Tracy September 30, 2013 The film Spanglish portrays many different interpersonal conflicts among the characters. Interpersonal conflicts is between two or more people it can be personal, an angry disagreement. Conflict can involve emotions and feelings and in the film Spanglish both of these where discussed. (Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication; Kathy Sole) The first conflict that is evident throughout the film was the language barrier and different cultural background. In the film one of the most noticeable conflicts occurs between Flor, the house keeper, and Deborah, the mother. The movie is constructed on the struggles of relationships, with others characters of the film and within themselves. Flor's personality and parenting methods conflict with Deborah's approach. This conflict resulted in a personal and cultural battle. The conflict between Deborah and Flor increases over time because Deborah is neurotic and her behavior is often irrational and it is upsetting to both the Clasky family and Flor. Flor speaks no English when she starts to work for the Clasky family as their housekeeper which presents a challenge and it is also another form of conflict. The Clasky’s have two children, George and Bernice, the famous chef and father John played portraed by Adam Sandler and, the alcoholic grandmother, Evelyn. During the summer the Clasky’s rent a summer...
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...Close Relationships Essay Juleika Solano Com200(GSL1209D) Instructor: Jacey Saucedo My current boyfriend and I are just getting back to our normal way of behavior because we broke up due to lack of communication. Last year, he asked me a question and he hated the answer and he broke up with me for three months. He had an engagement ring and he sold it back. Later on, we got back together and I got kicked out of school and I felt that if I told him that he would break up with me, so I kept it a secret, then when I finally told him , he was extremely upset and we broke up for six months. He told me that I could have trusted in him and that we could not be together if I could not communicate with him. Communication is very hard to do even if it seems to be the easiest thing to do. In the article, Close Relationships Sometimes Masks Poor Communications, proves that just because you do have a relationship you cannot take it for granted. I took my boyfriend and family for granted. I felt like just because I was not honest they would forgive me anyways. I was completely wrong. My family kicked me out and my boyfriend and I are just getting into each other’s good graces. Just recently, my boyfriend and I had a miscommunication and I felt that I had to tell him that I was not agreeing with his decisions. We sat down and talked and we worked out issues. I actually like talking...
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...Words and Relationships Jake Turner COMM 200 Interpersonal Communication Professor Janelle Harrison December 18, 2012 Words and Relationships As I read this article I was sitting close to my wife reading to her in order to get her perspective on this subject. After doing this I must agree with what this article says about couples and how they choose to use language styles amongst each other. After all using language is how we meet each other and grow closer together. As I have learned from this course so far, my communication skills with my significant other definitely should improve. However I do not agree with the results from the language style matching application. According to the site our communication was a .64 out a 1.00 which basically says that our communication styles are not that compatible (Bower, 2010). I think that there is more to being compatible with your mate then language styles alone. Although being able to share interests and being able to communicate are important, I just think that there is more to a successful marriage then what the author points out. One part of the article addressed a scenario involving speed dating and it reminded me of what the textbook labeled as trigger words. Trigger words are words that create an immediate emotional response when you hear that particular word (Sole, 2011). When you are in that type of setting you are only given a short amount of time...
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...Meaningful Dialogue Means Effective Listening Tarenzo P. Clemmons COM200: Interpersonal Communication Prof. Danielle Doud August 17, 2015 Meaningful Dialogue Means Effective Listening Self-disclosure is very important, especially in an intimate relationship where a couple is dating or married. The benefits of self-disclosure are great, because both parties begin and continue to understand each other and know things about each other that other people would not necessarily understand very quickly. Becoming comfortable enough with one’s own emotions and feelings, and being confident enough to communicate them is a great thing when it pertains to couples elevating and prospering in their relationships. To have meaningful discussion between two people or even a large group of people there has to be effective listening amongst everyone. Effective listening is what holds the discussion together, because if it is not in the conversation, the problem often times arises where one party does not know where the other party is coming from, and consequently they become totally misunderstood. With that being said, I can absolutely relate to self-disclosure in a relationship. In my opinion, there is no better way to ensure that your partner, mate, spouse, significant other, or however you want to identify the person you are in a relationship with relates to you. I agree wholeheartedly with self-disclosure. I have done it all throughout my marriage, and I practice it in the workplace...
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...Article Critique: Talking Styles Elaine Tate COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor: Robert Strain March 30, 2014 When we have good communication skills it will lead to a happier life, learning to communicate with others is to convey messages, thoughts, and emotions. In this assignment we will compare results acquired from utilizing the Language Style Matching website to see if they are accurate, and also to find out if the beliefs regarding the quality of an interpersonal relationship are based on the quantity of language match. What got my attention was the one sentence, “If you just click with somebody but can’t put your finger on why, there’s a fair chance that high language-style matching is going on”. (Bower, 2010). My score for the site was .75, I met this friend of mine at work she is younger than I but for some reason we just clicked, why I do not know because we have totally different lives, but we did click and now she calls me mom. “ If one friend works in an office building and another in a rock quarry, the two will use different nouns and verbs to talk about their work days but similar function words if they like and understand each other” (Bower, 2010). The friend I was discussing works as an RN with a Master degree; she was a Clinical Director which was my boss. Our jobs and lives were very different we understood one another and were very close. “You become a more effective communicator when you become a more responsible creator of messages. And...
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