...immortalized in history books, but that does not mean that they are forgotten. They are remembered by their friends and family. And some special people are remembered by people they hardly knew. My grandfather was one of those people. My grandfather was a special man. What made him special? Why will he be remembered by not only friends and family but also by small acquaintances? It was because he was a very selfless and compassionate man. He put everyone before himself in every situation. This was a man who worked three jobs at a time to support his wife and six children. He struggled most of his life to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table. But he did so with a positive attitude and a smile on his face. He didn’t just speak of compassion. Often he would let his children’s friends stay with them when their parents couldn’t keep them in their own home for various reasons. And though he wasn’t a rich man, he provided them with a roof over their head and food on the table, the same as he would do his own family. These children will remember the man who took them in when they had nowhere else to go. And he did not just speak of courage. He was enlisted in the U.S. Navy during World War II. Often he would treat me to stories of when he saved fellow shipmates from being thrown overboard in the middle of a typhoon. And when he pulled into the port of Nagasaki and saw the devastation that he described as “the only thing there was black ash as far as the eye could see.” The soldiers...
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...If you look up compassion in the dictionary, you will see the following definition: A deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it. The construct of compassion is not clearly defined in psychological literature. Another definition of compassion is a feeling of sorrow or concern for another person's suffering or need, accompanied by a subsequent desire to alleviate the suffering. Compassion is felt as an emotion: a feeling that anyone may experience at some point in his or her lives. There are many instances where one may perceive specific conditions in which people will be more likely to feel compassion. There are also differences in the degree of an individual’s feelings of compassion, and that many people and cultures view compassion as a basic human value. If I see someone in pain or someone struggling, my first instinct is to help, to listen, to be there for them. I will be there if someone needs help, if someone needs an ear, if someone just needs another friendly person who can provide a simple thing: to acknowledge that they are here, and that their gripe is valid. I would rather live like that. It does not always make life easier for the listener, though. The Bible tells us of the many selfless and compassionate acts that Jesus performed during his time on Earth and His teachings to his disciples and followers about this topic. Jesus extends the virtues of mercy and compassion to us for our faulots, which may have resulted from the...
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...Combating Compassion Fatigue Kadijatu Lewis Grand Canyon University: HLT.310V April 14th, 2013 Nursing is an emotional, physical spiritual and hard work. It is also rewarding and most times satisfying. Nurses witness pain and suffering of others daily, resulting in increase risk for emotional stress. Nurses also work under demanding conditions related to budget constraints, and short staff resulting in increase workload. Compassion fatigue is the last stage of compassion discomfort and compassion stress. The nursing profession does not provide adequate resources to help combat this condition, like other professionals who deal with similar situations. This paper will identify signs and symptoms of compassion fatigue and ways of combating them. Compassionate fatigue is an emotional, physical and spiritual exhaustion from witnessing and absorbing the problems and suffering of others. Compassionate fatigue usually affect selfless, caring and sacrificing nurses who are emotional attached to their jobs. It usually comes on gradually. It usually occurs when a caregiver attempts to give out more compassion and energy than they are getting in return. When we exhibit compassion fatigue, our natural human desire to help is significantly diminished (Frandsen, 2010) Compassion fatigue manifest itself in different ways, these include feeling of exhaustion and overwhelm with ones assignment before the start of shift, this feeling occurs...
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...We had just gotten off the taxi at the front gate to the apartment complex. We always were out and about visiting and participating in many adventures with many of my family members. In July, I went with my father, mother and brother to Poland for five weeks. As I stepped out of the door, I noticed sitting outside the doors of a little store was a man in ripped jeans and a stained polo shirt. The sleeve on his right arm was half cut off and his skin looked dirty, like he hadn’t had a shower in months. His hair was grey and it looked like he hadn't shaved in a while because his grey beard was grown out all the way down to his chest. When people walked by him, they usually ignored him and acted like they didn’t notice him, but he was the first thing I noticed. As I walked past him I had to hold my breath, but I didn't want to make that obvious to him. He smelled musty, like a mix of sweat, urine, and tobacco. I had to think of things that smelled good to prevent myself from gagging near him. Next to him on the ground was a half eaten box of cookies laying on a cut up blanket. On the other side of him was a can with some coins in it. He held a sign that looked like it was made out of a cardboard box. His sign said, “please help this homeless buying cookies, thanks.” It made no sense to me when I read it, partially due to the fact that it was written in Polish and my Polish reading skills aren’t too proficient. I couldn’t understand if he wanted people to buy the cookies...
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...Furthermore we watched the DVD and it shown example of bad communication and how it can be so devastating and affect the patients negatively if they don't get the enough information about their illness and treatment. The Nurses and Midwifery Council (2008) recommend is very essential that the nurses are able to give patients, information, advice and a guideline about what is going on. Furthermore if patients are given enough information it will empower them as it reduces their concerns about the illness. We also discussed in small groups the definition of stereotype, prejudice discrimination and how they are connection between these words. Moreover in the group discussion we discussed how can easy lead to other, for instance, is very easy to certain group to be stereotype which can results poor care to their patients which leads be prejudice and then into discrimination. Therefore The Equality Act (2010) is law to protect people and is against the law to discriminate. http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/publications/equalities/equality-act-publications/equality-act-guidance/individual-rights1?view=Binary access date on 5/2/13 I found watching the DVD beneficial as well touching. I felt that my self-awareness and communication skills already improved. It clearly highlights what patients really feel and want from the nurses. For example I have learnt that effective communication skills such as active listening, the right facial expressions and explaining what is going on will make...
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...Communication Release to Employees I would call a mandatory employee meeting to address the other employees of the mine and inform them of the incident face to face as a group. It would go as follows, it is with a heavy heart that I come to you today to inform you of the tragic events that have stricken our family. On the fifth of August, 33 men were trapped in a mine collapse. They are approximately 300 meters below the surface. We have not been able to establish any line of communication with them yet, but we are hopeful that will change very soon. We have rescue crews working diligently, as we speak, to locate the exact location of the collapse in order to assess the condition of the miners, and to establish a means of communication. We do not know the condition of the men in the mine as of this moment, but we are hoping to find the men alive and well and be able to bring a safe end to this tragedy quickly. Please refrain from going to the site so the rescue crews are able to do their work. Any information obtained will be relayed to you in a timely manner. Stay calm and keep these men in your prayers. Thank you for your cooperation. Communication Release to family members I would not consider any other means of communication other than face to face to inform the family members of this tragedy. It would go as follows, I am very sorry to inform you that there has been a collapse in the mine. Right now we have rescue crews searching for the exact location of the miners...
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...I never truly grasp the concept of “benignancy” until I met my host family on the edge of Sioux Falls, a place where I would call “home” since then. From them I have learned that benignancy is the high erect of humanity; it is compassion, selflessness, and hope. My host parents, Peter and Susan, are both pure and pious Catholics. Together with their three sons, three international boarding students including me made up this family of benignancy. From them, I learned the highest level of benignancy is compassion. One of my daily routine is to embrace the vivacious welcome from some of the thirty plus homeless dogs that Susan took under her wings. Susan demonstrated for me that benignancy is unconditional, regardless how dirty looking, disabled, or sick the homeless dogs are, and Susan displayed the same level of affection. Whenever any of them get sick or injured, Susan takes them to the veterinary immediately no matter how late it is. When I first arrived, I asked Susan to why not let the community to take in some of the stray dogs. She refused and claimed “They need family”. It is true, we all need family. Now as I cleaned the yard and washed the dogs habitually with my host brothers and roommates, I find joy in offering my helping hands to this compassionate lady. Benignancy is about selflessly helping others without asking for any payback. I’m a lucky recipient of this lesson through volunteering work. I had been a volunteer in my community center in China before I went...
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...MANAGING COMMITMENT-BASED ORGANIZATIONS IN COMPETITIVE ENVIRONMENTS V. Aruldas, P. Zachariah, S. Awale Commitment-based organizations (organizations with a strong commitment to help individuals, groups or communities as a labour of love) are typically found in areas of need – working with street children, the homeless, healthcare for the poor, battered women, etc. Some of these areas of need have, over time, attracted other providers who see a business opportunity, resulting in a competitive setting. In India, the church-owned hospitals are an example of commitment–based organizations facing a competitive situation. Most church-owned hospitals in the country when there was little private or government healthcare, with a strong commitment to provide health care to the poor. Over the years, the number of healthcare providers has increased, the technology of healthcare provision has changed, funding for care of the poor is no longer easily available, and the founders of the hospitals have handed over leadership to the next generation. Managing such commitment-based organizations in this changed environment is a challenging task. A case-based study of 6 Indian church-owned hospitals was undertaken to understand how this challenge can be addressed. The findings suggest that such organizations need to have three primary areas of management focus: a) managing the operations b) managing the environment, and c) managing the ideology. Managing the operations...
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...Homero Rivera January 22, 2015 Social Psychology PSY/400 Debbie Simms 1. Compassion has a very special meaning in my life, first of all I do believe in God and how his compassion towards myself has allowed me to be compassionate with my surrounding. Going back to that particular day, I found compassion to be more than just kind to others. As per the assignment I not only had to be compassionate to my loved ones but to every living thing, I do have to admit that it took a little more effort than I initially thought but it felt awesome at the end. Compassion is being able to act on a level of being able to feel what the other being is feeling and not judge, mistreat, or act on the defensive side towards them. 2. I began my day by getting up early, took a shower and had breakfast. I then went to feed my dog and gave him water as well as dessert treats and played with him a little bit afterwards, the joy that he was getting from it made me really appreciate how much he really likes me and is there for me no matter what, that includes not playing with him more often or offer him treats. I then decided to go the extra mile and went to visit my parents and not only that, I got my friend to help me out and paint their living room. They had been asking for such a long time that paint job that I took matters into action and did that, went to the store with my mom and helped her chose a new living room set. She was almost in a stage of shock about so since I rarely spend...
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...COMPASSION FATIGUE and THE PATH to RENEWAL Presenters: Kathy Hoppe, D.Min. and Loretta Oldfield, RN COMPASSION FATIGUE and THE PATH to RENEWAL Presenters: Kathy Hoppe, D.Min. and Loretta Oldfield, RN 1. Introductions 3. Learning to Juggle 4. Most of us have trouble juggling. The woman who says she doesn't is someone whom I admire but have never met. Barbara Walters Most of us have trouble juggling. The woman who says she doesn't is someone whom I admire but have never met. Barbara Walters Juggling Misconceptions about Helping Others * I can fix the problem and everything will be ok. * If I care enough, everything will turn out right. * I have enough resources on my own to fix it. * The person I’m helping will appreciate everything I do. * I know what I’m getting into. 5. Definitions * Stress: the nonspecific response of the human organism to any demand placed upon it * Suffering: a state of severe distress associated with events that threaten a person’s intact state * Compassion: deep awareness of the suffering of another person along with the wish to relieve that suffering * Compassion Fatigue: A state of tension and preoccupation with an individual or cumulative trauma of clients as manifested in one or more ways including re-experiencing the traumatic event, avoiding triggers or feeling numb, or feeling persistent arousal. Or The natural consequence of stress resulting from caring for and helping...
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...Another point that needs to be considered is our griever’s compassion towards his fellow co-worker, Mr. Butler. Knowing the uncomfortable relationship between him and Mr. Chevalier, who is the boss, our griever was concerned that Mr.Butler would have a possibility of losing his job although his intention was not realistically harming Mr. Chevalier. Our griever understood that Mr.Butler has been working hard for the university for 15 years and it would be unfair for him to be fired due to Under 7:4427: Compassion, it is written that It is a well-settled principle of arbitration law that a board of arbitration should not invoke its discretionary powers to mitigate a penalty on compassionate grounds alone. 1 …On the other hand, the view has also been expressed that if, at the end of a case, an arbitrator harbours any reasonable doubt as to the propriety of a sanction, then the grievor should be given the benefit of that doubt. In the past, similar cases have happened that we could relate to this problem. First case occurred in National Car Rental Inc. The greivor in this case left work without permission to drive company’s vehicle. However, it was found that greivor’s action was motivated by a legimate concern for the safety of a loved one who appeared to be in danger. Evidently, the arbitrator reinstated the grievor to his formal position. Another case that we could relate to occurred in St. Lawrence Seaway Company. The greivor got into an argument with the manager during the meeting...
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...Compassion Within each of us lies an unexplained emotion that causes the suffering of others to affect us as though it were ourselves. It is a deeper feeling that, at one point, has overcome us all. This is compassion. Compassion is commonly known as a virtue of empathy for the suffering of those around us. What is compassion? Compassion is an emotion that anyone can experience, whether short-lived or thought out. Situations vary, causing more compassion for some, and less for others. For many, compassion has grown to become a way of life. It is finding ways to help others in their times of need or misfortune. It is a matter of putting others before yourself, which means doing whatever is necessary in any circumstance. According to dictionary.com, compassion is defined as “A feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.” Although, to me, compassion is treating others the way you want to be treated. It is taking a step back, looking at the big picture, and putting myself in their shoes. It is realizing the world isn’t perfect, and neither are the people. Knowing that there are times where life is not fair and accept that; but not give up hope. It is always striving to help others at times when they need it most. Compassion is an aspiration to help change the world. Knowing that one person alone will not change the world, but doing what is possible. Compassion is a way of life. It...
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...A Mother’s Story I. INTRODUCTION A. A child is a gift from God. A child doesn’t get to choose who his or her parents or family will be. God has blessed me with seven beautiful children who has made me the person that I am today. B. I am a mother. My children are my inspiration to be protective like Maui, nurturing like Hina Ke Ahi, and compassionate like Kamehameha. I have, and continue to, illustrate these traits towards my children and grandchildren. II. BODY PARAGRAPH 1 A. Topic Sentence: Like Maui, being protective of his mother Hina, I am protective of my children. B. Specific Example: I was in the process of a divorce from my husband of 14 years. Being separated for several months, we had to create a visitation schedule for our children. My 2 older children lived my husband, their father, and my baby, 3 years old at the time, lived with me. It was always miserable for me to take my daughter to visit her father. Knowing that he loved her dearly, he didn’t know how to be compassionate, comforting or understanding to her. Nanea is our baby; we struggled to care for her since birth. He didn’t have the patience to care for her. Several visitations would occur between Nanea and her father which she would return to me crying because she didn’t like the way he treated her older siblings. He would physically hurt them if they didn’t follow his directions or instructions. This would traumatize her as a young toddler, not wanting to be around his negativity...
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...Healthcare providers are at increased risk for compassion fatigue (CF), which has also been called secondary traumatic stress, second hand shock syndrome, secondary stress reaction, and vicarious trauma (ABA, 2011). Compassion fatigue begins to become an issue when caregivers give too much of themselves to others and neglect to provide for their own needs. Neglecting one’s personal needs can be harmful, leading to destructive behaviors and patterns, such as over indulgence and increased sick calls. Over time the provider has a decreased ability to show compassion. This paper will discuss and describe compassion fatigue, warning signs of compassion fatigue, and discuss recovery options for those suffering from compassion fatigue. Compassion fatigue is expressed as a form of burnout due to the intensifying emotional, physical, and psychological effects of being exposed to the stressful and often emotionally draining circumstances of our patients and coworkers while providing care. Coupled with our own stressors in our everyday lives can lead to spiritual exhaustion (Pfifferling & Gilley, 2000). Compassion fatigue may change the overall view of how the caregiver or nurse views their everyday life or society in general. Caregivers with compassion fatigue often expend a huge amount of care, energy and compassion to those they care for, but do not get enough support for themselves individually to replenish their depleted energy. It has often been said that caregivers make the...
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...Barbara Lazear Ascher in “On Compassion” believes that compassion is something that we learned and develop, not something that is embedded in our DNA. Compassion is a trait that we are born with. After all, would compassion even exist if one did not have it in the first place? In order for humans to survive, we had to naturally have compassion in order to survive on our own and as a race. When a human is born, their innocence to the world makes them naturally have an instinct of compassion and to help others. When can haul this behavior is hate. Hate is something that is learned overtime. A child has no hate in his or her’s heart until taught to by their environment. They are taught not to talk to a certain someone, or they are bad, or “I don’t...
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