...t he fine art of small talk How to Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills— and Leave a Positive Impression! new york To Jared Fine Holst and Sarah Fine Holst, my inspiration and motivation. And the gentle wind beneath my wings, Steve Tilliss. C ontents Preface ix chapter 1 What’s the Big Deal About Small Talk? 1 chapter 2 Get Over Your Mom’s Good Intentions 12 chapter 3 Take the Plunge: Start a Conversation! 27 chapter 4 Keep the Conversation Going! 37 chapter 5 Let’s Give ’Em Something to Talk About 49 chapter 6 Hearing Aids and Listening Devices 66 viii . contents c hapter 7 Prevent Pregnant Pauses with Preparation 84 chapter 8 Conversational Clout 108 chapter 9 Crimes and Misdemeanors 114 chapter 10 The Graceful Exit 139 chapter 11 The Conversational Ball Is in Your Court! 154 chapter 12 Make the Most of Networking Events! 159 chapter 13 Surviving the Singles Scene 165 chapter 14 Feel-Good Factor 185 chapter 15 Holiday Party Savvy 192 chapter 16 Carpe Diem 195 Acknowledgments 201 Preface W hen I first got into the business of helping people cultivate conversation skills, I ran into a lot of skepticism. Invariably, executives would scoff at the idea of a housewife’s trivial initiative to overcome boredom. Then I would get clandestine calls for assistance from folks with prestigious titles...
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...employees complained to HR because her schedule was changed by Wendy to accommodate the needs of the department, her argument was that the previous supervisors were able to give her a set schedule and keep with the needs of the department. The employee also states that maybe Wendy did not know how to do her job. Wendy was met with quite the dilemma, so the first thing she did was seek the assistance of her Manager, she discussed the situation with him and was able to practice her conversation that she would have to have with this employee on him. Wendy called the employee into her office and explained to her the reasons for the schedule change, she offered no excuse for the way previous Supervisors did their schedules, and she remained calm even though the employee was irate and threatening to terminate her own employment unless she can get her old schedule. At the end of the conversation the employee understood the need for the change, however not happy about it. Two weeks following the conversation the employee had begun an active search...
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...Leadership Is a Conversation by Boris Groysberg and Michael Slind The command-and-control approach to management has in recent years become less and less viable. Globalization, new technologies, and changes in how companies create value and interact with customers have sharply reduced the efficacy of a purely directive, top-down model of leadership. What will take the place of that model? Part of the answer lies in how leaders manage communication within their organizations—that is, how they handle the flow of information to, from, and among their employees. Traditional corporate communication must give way to a process that is more dynamic and more sophisticated. Most important, that process must be conversational. We arrived at that conclusion while conducting a recent research project that focused on the state of organizational communication in the 21st century. Over more than two years we interviewed professional communicators as well as top leaders at a variety of organizations—large and small, blue chip and start-up, for-profit and nonprofit, U.S. and international. To date we have spoken with nearly 150 people at more than 100 companies. Both implicitly and explicitly, participants in our research mentioned their efforts to “have a conversation” with their people or their ambition to “advance the conversation” within their companies. Building upon the insights and examples gleaned from this research, we have developed a model of leadership that we call “organizational...
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...interactive website leading to discussion forums and chat rooms, where the action really takes place. Call it a behind the scenes look at Tribes. Teams are put together, players are taught and assisted, and even more so, long-lasting friendships are made. I studied the discussion forums of Tribalwar.com and continually entered the Tribal war chat room hosted by the server irc.dynamix.com for a period of two weeks. I found an online community full of life constantly being infested with anything from small talk to serious gaming talk. In the article “Log on and Shoot,” Katie Hafner discusses online gaming becoming a sort of addiction. She claims it is turning into a “virtual party” and that oftentimes the game becomes the underdog when conversation takes over (Hafner 75). And this, Hafner says, is the kind of stuff that gaming networks want. They want to have the it takes to create an online type of community for gamers in order to keep their clients and players devoted (Hafner 75). T ribalwar.com states that the “Most users ever online was 212 on 09-23-2002 at 04:20 AM” (tribalwar.com). Take note of the time. With that many people actively using tribalwar.com in the early hours of the AM, it is only plausible that every time I read the discussion forums there were never less than 150 members and guests currently active. Every post had responses. MIRC is the program in which the Tribes...
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...Build Trust- *Acknowledge feelings-emotional response* -Never pretend they don’t show -If you ignore your own or the other parties emotional response to that of another you damage trust between both. -Accept Criticism- Constructive criticism is key between both parties. -Evaluate its merit -Choose to *ignore it, follow it or take issue with it -Acknowledgement- *Difficult Conversations* -Require Trust- -constructive criticism -Safety – view as threat (communication not working, must revise approach) -respect -Acknowledgement -Requires Mutual Interest- -Common ground -Win-Win -Relate to other party(s) of the conversation (stay open-minded) *Exchange of information by 2 or more parties through a medium of transmittal such as writing, speaking, or signing. -pay attention to other party -If other party is withdrawing or starts to verbally attack you, communication is not effective at the moment you may need to revise approach… -Thinking of how you would feel in the same situation…Listen to how they feel and watch them. Ask yourself if they are withdrawing from the conversation revise the approach before it gets that far. -Trust – Sense of safe space -Communication- - 3 types of communication- Verbal – expressed in spoken or written language Non-Verbal – does not rely on the written or spoken word. *Virtual- Synchronous – takes place in real time simultaneous...
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...|Question about New Classroom Interactivity |Your Answers | |Why is it important for you to check your |It is very important to check your Gmail account because there may be an important | |Gmail® account regularly as a student? |update to the site or classroom that could affect you doing or viewing your | | |coursework. | |What is the difference between the activity| The activity stream is an overview of everything that is has happen with your | |stream and Classroom Discussion? |peers and helps you keep track of where the topic of conversation is at with your | | |classmates and instructor. The classroom discussion is the actual discussion of the| | |classroom. | |How do you respond to Learning Activities? | To submit any assignment you click on your due assignment and then click on the | |How do you attach and submit assignment |assignment files. Then you upload and then submit your paper. If you decide to | |files? |engage in the learning activities then there is a discussion option so you could | | |talk about the learning...
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...LEARN FRENCH..........STARTING FROM LIPS so here's the first lesson Equipments Required: There are only two important things to learn this language.A girl of your choice and a very strong and deep feeling of learning this language How To Start: Eyes are the best part of any conversation and people in France use a lot of this organ to well express their feelings.So to learn french it is very essential to learn to make a successful eye-contact.Remember without a successful eye-contact,speaking in french specially through lips become very uneffective. For a beautiful eye-contact make your eyes very genuine.Try not to stare but make your eyes as clear as your heart,making it easier for your partner to see through it into your heart.Now it depends on your partner's capability of seeing through your eyes Now to make the eye-contact a successful one,get a bit close to her,not much but close enough to feel her body near yours and accompany it with a small smile.This will ease up the situation and develop a feel of trust and understanding because in this language it is very important to make a bond of trust with your partner's mind.But see to it that u dont smile too much and ease up the situation a bit too much that u end up giving her a greedy look and an awkward look in return.An enough smile to make her feel comfortable but a bit confused and anxious to know what's going on. And while she is lost in your eyes searching for anwser to that,make your swift move which will give her...
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...Media Multitasking: A Lack of Social Skills? Many people in today’s society may look at multitasking as a harmless way of accomplishing multiple tasks at one time. For instance, one could be chatting with a friend online while listening to music and doing homework. Although multitasking can indeed be helpful in completing tasks in a timely matter, one must recognize the definite price that is being paid for this practice. Media multitasking is damaging today’s students by not only hindering one’s ability to fully absorb information, but by changing student’s understanding of what the term socializing means. In order to fully understand how media multitasking is damaging students, we must first realize what exactly is happening in the brain during multitasking. Those students who multitask during homework may be doing things such as browsing Facebook, checking email, texting, and instant messaging. Scientists believe that when a person is trying to complete multiple tasks like this, the brain is distributing low amounts of information to each task instead of concentrating on one task at a time. This creates a sort of “brownout” effect inside of the brain. University of Michigan Professor David Meyer states that “all the lights go dim because there just isn’t enough power to go around.” This means that even though you think you are giving most of your attention to that homework assignment, your brain is actually rationalizing instead. During this rationalization, the brain...
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...what others think of us and want to be liked (despite what rebellious 15-year-old you might have said). The basics of getting people to like you are obvious--be nice, be considerate, be a decent human being. Those things are all true. However, there are also many smaller, more discreet things you can do that can have a huge effect on how others perceive you. Most of these tips are little techniques you can implement every day. They may seem insignificant or even silly, but give them a try and you might find yourself becoming exponentially more popular. 1. Use a Person's Name Let's face it--we're all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an individual's name in a conversation. A classic from Dale Carnegie's famous book How to Win Friends and Influence People, this tried-and-true technique is sure to increase your fan base. 2. Smile--With Feeling! Although we live in a digital age that increasingly substitutes technology for human interaction, we are still at our cores very social creatures. As humans, we use social interaction as a tool for feedback, and we make a lot of conscious and subconscious choices based on how others engage with and respond to us. When someone offers a huge grin brimming with authenticity, happiness rubs off on its receivers. There have been many studies showing how mood, whether positive or negative, spreads between individuals. If your positive attitude brightens someone else's...
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...Small Talk—Engaging Children Who Have Communication Needs By Jan Bunce and Terri Mitchell part of the conversation. Consider the following example: see?” Such repetition helps children to anticipate what comes next and to become familiar with the story. Eventually they will begin to use the repeated phrases themselves, as in this example: ommunication is nearly always the foremost concern of parents and teachers of children with special needs, regardless of the type of disability a child might have. For most children, talking is just “doing what comes naturally.” The ability to express what’s important to them develops smoothly and easily. But what happens when talking does not come as naturally? In most classrooms, the more children listen, the less they talk. Therefore, it’s important to allow time for children to carry on conversations with adults and peers. Remember, too, that opportunities for children’s conversations occur throughout the day in a High/Scope program. Here are some ideas for supporting children’s language. They are helpful for all children, but particularly those with special communication needs: U Encourage natural conversation. Often work time is considered the time for choice, play, and talking. But children will have more to say if freedom of expression is encouraged during all parts of the daily routine. By conversing naturally with others, both in groups and one-on-one with peers or adults, children develop trust and a sense of security. We...
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...•Integrate research findings that address the selected topic. •Discuss the key issues and controversies surrounding your selected topic. •Discuss multiple perspectives on the selected topic, so that the discussion is balanced and not one-sided. •Include a summary and analysis of the findings from the research. •Include any additional research that could be done in the future, and provide solutions that could be implemented in the present regarding your selected topic. •Consider the cognitive and behavioral implications might play a role in your selected topic. What learning principles could factor into the topic? What theories of motivation and personality could influence your insights into the topic? Writing the Final Paper The Final Paper: 1.Must be eight to ten double-spaced pages in length (excluding title and references pages), and formatted according to APA style as outlined in the Ashford Writing Center. 2.Must include a title page with the following: a.Title of paper b.Student’s name c.Course name and number d.Instructor’s name e.Date submitted 3.Must begin with an introductory paragraph that has a succinct thesis statement. 4.Must address the topic of the paper with critical thought. 5.Must end with a conclusion that summarizes your research and reaffirms your thesis. 6.Must use at least five scholarly sources. 7.Must document all sources in APA style, as outlined in the Ashford Writing Center. 8.Must include a separate...
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...Cameron Lawson Case Study Analysis #1 COM 3152 Tues. Thur. 11AM Spring 2014 Phil and Trish’s communication issues were caused solely because of Phil. He didn’t see her as an equal, and thought he was better than her. In the conversation Phil had with his wife before the plane trip, he said that her age and gender bothered him. Trish was intimidated and recognized that Phil didn’t have respect for her, as mentioned in the conversation with her husband. Marshall’s communication failure with both of them came when he didn’t establish himself as the boss. It wasn’t said in the email that Marshall had a sit down with both Trish and Phil. With out them having sit down conversation to get to know and understand each other, they just saw him as a newcomer, instead of their boss. It was stated that Trish had no idea what Marshall thought of the inventory system and that Phil didn’t respect him because he thought Marshall took his position. All of them seemed to ignore communication as a process and purpose. Marshall’s leadership style didn’t really follow one specific idea. His style could fall on The Tannenbaum and Schmidt Leadership Continuum, and it would be on the Subordinate Centered Leadership end. He never declared himself a boss, and outside of the car ride and flight they never did things as a group. All of them talked to different people at the luncheon and kept distance from each other. Marshall passively suggested that they discuss things the next morning, instead...
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...character. The building is comprised of two restaurants a pub, which is located on the west side, and a Chinese restaurant located on the east side. It appears tiny in size, as does the parking area. There is beautiful green ivy intertwined on white lattice leading up to the front of the building. This ivy wall conceals a small, enclosed outside seating area for when the weather is nice. I then round the corner and a big, bright red door is waiting to welcome all who enter. The atmosphere inside is a drastic contrast to the outside. The walls vibrate with life! There is a line waiting just inside the door and the place is completely packed. There is so much chatter. One cannot detect a single conversation from another as they all blend as one massive, noisy conversation. As I entered, a polite young woman explained it would be a moment before a table is ready. The interior is huge, which is very deceiving from the exterior. Lighting is moderate yet comfortable and bright enough to read a menu and to see others easily. The back wall is comprised of the kitchen and a massive, beautiful wood bar. Not one bar stool is empty as it seats roughly 15 patrons. The pub is famous for its great burgers and what a better accompaniment then one of the 18 different brews on tap. The walls are a beautiful...
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...In the first scene of ‘The Glass Menagerie’ Williams paints the scene from the outset to his audience that Tom feels trapped by his Mother. This particular arrises in the conversation between Amanda and Tom at the dinner table: “honey don't push with your fingers” “chew - chew” “eat food leisurely”. Which evokes the reaction in tom “I haven't enjoyed one bite of this dinner because of your constant directions on how to eat it”. This could indicate, for reasons unclear at this time in the play, that Tom feels trapped by the constant nagging he receives from his mother and as a result, has no time to think, or do things for himself. This, perhaps is due to the fact that Amanda of an affluent decent and so such things as table manners when she was growing up, would have been of more importance than perhaps to Tom and his current financial situation. Tom does not appear in the second scene and so this could elude to the idea that Tom is trapped by financial burden. As we have discovered from Toms opening monologue, his father disappeared leaving Tom to be the sole provider for the family. This could perhaps suggest, through the theme of being male, that Tom is perhaps trapped by his gender, as in 1937 it was the role of the man in of the house to provide for the women. As a result of this societal norm, tom had to take work wherever he could find it, and so works in a low paid, low skilled job in a shoe factory. Perhaps the shoes are a metaphor to the running he is so longing...
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