...Controversy and Its Effects on Parenting Styles Kristal Sacco Kaplan University During the years from 1986-2012, Asian-college bound students scored remarkably higher than any other race tested in the mathematics category for the Scholastic Assessment Test (SAT) (Fast Facts, 2013). Within those 26 years, one constant that has remained the same is the Asian culture and their authoritative parenting style. It is this style of raising children that makes them so academically successful. Amy Chua, author of ‘Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother’, wrote a memoir in 2011 to help and try to explain how a tiger mother raises her children. Tiger mother parenting bases its methods on ancient parenting styles. It is understood that in Asian culture, parents assume their children are born strong and meant to be successful, whereas in Western culture, parents assume fragility and that their children need to be given several chances to overcome and obstacle. Tiger mothers take it upon themselves to place certain pitfalls within their children’s path, as a way of teaching them problem solving strategies (Chua, 2011). The Wall Street Journal published the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” based on Chua’s work. The article contains excerpts from Chua’s memoir, and made the plea that strict Chinese upbringing was superior. This was further recognized in a poll from the Wall Street Journal website, where the majority of poll takers voted that the strict Eastern parenting method was far better...
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...with developing effective ways of parenting their children. Many people are unsure of how to be a good parent to a child. People strive to be the ideal parent to their children. To some people an ideal parenting style is based on the way that they were raised. Other parents want to be a friend to their child rather than a parent. Every parent is different in his or her own way and sees different parenting styles. According to psychologist Diana Buramind, parents will show at least one of three parenting styles. One parenting style is the authoritarian style. In this parenting style the parent is in full control. When a child messes up they are usually punished which instills fear, discipline, and manner. When a parent of this style makes a rule they are to be followed without questioning. Parents of this style don’t give their children any choice in situations. With no choice in situations children usually do not know how to be independent. While developmental experts agree that rules and boundaries are important for children to have, most believe that authoritarian parenting is too punitive and lacks the warmth, unconditional love and nurturing that children need. Authoritative parenting is the main parenting style across the world and sometimes referred to as the best parenting style. Authoritative parents listen to their children while at the same time place limits and consequences to their child’s behavior. Unlike authoritarian parenting independence is strongly encouraged...
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...There are many different factors that are involved with parenting. Suppose you have a child named Michael who is 13 years old and wants to rent an M-rated video game he has heard about from his friends. The response that Michael receives is strongly influenced by the parenting style his parents use. There are four different styles of parenting; they are authoritarian, permissive, authoritative, and uninvolved/disengaged. Each style of parenting will have different reactions and answers towards Michael’s request. The first type of parenting style is authoritarian parents. Authoritarian parents are “parents who are controlling, punitive, rigid, and cold, and whose word is law. They value strict, unquestioning obedience from their children and do not tolerate expression of disagreement.” (Feldman, 2014). If Michael’s parents are authoritarian parents, it is likely they will be angry and upset with Michael. They will tell him he will not rent the video game, he will be punished for it, and will be told not...
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...Parenting is different for everyone, but is any one way really better than the other? Amy Chua, a professor at Yale University, believes that the strict parenting style of Chinese mothers is the way to go. She believes that her strict and often harsh parenting style contributed to the success of her daughters. Chinese parents believe that if their children are successful, it is a reflection of the parents. Hanna Rosin, a contributing editor for the Atlantic, has very different views from Ms. Chua about the correct parenting style. Ms. Rosin believes that the more relaxed, nurturing, and self-led style of Western parenting is the better way to raise children. She believes that placing your children under immense pressure can produce negative effects, and create lifelong problems. Both sides seem to agree that, with careful control and monitoring, a child can be made perfect. Even though they have similar beliefs of the outcomes of their parenting choices, both types of parents have very different ways of approaching the situation, but are either of them really right? According to Ms. Chua, the strict parenting style of Chinese mothers is the best way to raise children. Chinese parents look at children as being in-debt to the parents. If the child becomes successful, it is a reflection on the parents’ success as well. Because the Chinese parents are not as concerned about their children’s self-esteem as Western parents, it is easier for them to push the children to...
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...The Two Approaches to Parenting “Two styles to consider are quite similar sounding, but have some much nuanced differences. These styles are authoritative and authoritarian and here we will compare and contrast the two styles of parenting” (http://studentoffortune.com). “Child-rearing plays an important role in building up children’s characteristics. While all parents have their own ways in child-rearing, there are two main parenting styles: authoritative and authoritarian”(http://studentoffortune.com). “Authoritarian parenting styles are highly demanding and direction oriented but relatively non-responsive. They expect their children to obey them without question. Explanations for their demands upon their children are unnecessary and can be seen as a challenge to their authority” (http://www.parenting-healthy-children.com/authoritarian-parenting.html). Authoritarian parenting is similar to monarchic administration. In this style, parents establish must to follow rules and regulations for children. Minor failure to obey these guidelines will result in punishment. This is the most unproductive and closed way of parenting as in authoritarian parenting parents never explain the importance of following the rules, or they simply do not bother to understand the emotional or feeling level of kids who may wonder why to follow rules. Authoritarian parents do not tolerate kids questioning their authority on kids. Kids are expected to follow blindly what is ordered by the parents. In authoritarian...
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...school; this will in turn affect the child’s cognitive development and social skills. When a baby is first born, his or her brain begins to go through developmental changes. During the early stages of childhood, experiences can be split into two categories, experience-expectant and experience-dependent. Expectant experiences are those experiences that are common and somewhat universal experiences, and that most infants go through. Some of these experiences can be, but are not limited to, love from parents or families, perception of surrounding objects, and recognizing facial expressions (Berger, 2008). Dependent experiences are less universal and are more individualized, and depend mostly on the infant’s environment and surroundings. Different cultures and family belief systems come into play in dependent experiences. The experience-dependent aspects of development are the experiences that create diversity among infants and young children. Parents and or caregivers have a very dominant role in an infant’s early stages of development. If an infant is...
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...Why you should consider Authoritative parenting style There are many studies on parenting styles ( Abell, Clawson, Washington, Post, Vaughn...Etc. ) In all of their studies, they talk about the 3 main styles of parenting. Authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Authoritarian style of parenting has high demands and low responsiveness. Authoritarian parents have very high expectations of their children, and their mistakes are not taken lightly but rather are punished harshly. Children of Authoritarian parents tend to have low self esteem, low self worth and lack basic trust in people. They also are more likely to show signs of psychological problems like depressions and anxiety. They also tend to lack in imagination and creativity due to the fact that they are trained to have good grades....
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...“Does Parenting Style Matter” Author vs. Author Demanding vs. Relaxed Veronica Miller October 30, 2015 WRTG 101S Amy Chua, an author and Yale law professor and Hanna Rosin, an author and journalist have written competing articles in the Wall Street Journal about their parenting styles. The woman have different childhoods and backgrounds that have altered their views and styles as it relates to raising children. Ironically, it appears that even though the views and styles of parenting are different the results appear to be the same. Amy Chua believes in a more strict rigid style of parenting that applies a lot of pressure on the child to perform at a high level. Amy Chua’s style does not necessarily allow children to enjoy being a child but places high demands on them to be extremely successful. Hanna Rosin believes in the exact opposite style of parenting than Amy Chua. Hanna wants her children to enjoy their childhood with as little pressure as possible and to have the ability to enjoy making their own choices in life which will eventually become their path to success. Amy Chua sparked a lot of conversation and controversy with her Wall Street Journal article “Tiger Mom” referring to the fact (in her opinion) that Chinese mothers are superior to Western mothers when it comes to raising successful and productive kids. (Chua) Amy Chua believes Western mothers don’t have the tough love techniques that Chinese mothers possess in order to carry out the necessary task...
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...This journal argued that control and harshness are relevant to the development of perfectionism in children. The way parents raise their children plays a role in the way their children pursue work and activities in regards behavior to perfectionism. If a parent raises their children in an authoritative style, their children might foster adaptive perfectionism while a parent with an authoritarian style might have children who foster maladaptive perfectionism. In this journal study, Hibbard and Walton predicted that an authoritative parenting style would be positively associated with a high personal standard and negatively associated with the child's doubt in itself. An authoritarian parenting style would be positively associated with feelings...
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...PARENTING STYLES: EAST OR WEST? Name School Parenting Styles: East or West? Parenthood is a privilege but is also a great responsibility. Parents wish there was a manual that came along with children when they were born; however, that is not the case and parents can only do their best in different situations. How parents act in child rearing is called parenting styles, and geographically speaking there is a wide variety of styles practiced. The most controversial styles are the ones adopted by the eastern and the western cultures in the world. While eastern parents are stricter and demanding, western parents are more flexible, nurturing, and more tolerant. Amy Chua’s article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” and Hanna Rosin’s counter-article “Mother Inferior” explore three basic concepts that make the difference between Chinese and Western parental approaches: children’s self-esteem, children’s appreciation, and children’s interest. Amy Chua states that the first difference she notices between these two parenting styles is that Western parents care a lot about their children’s self-esteem and psyches, while Chinese parents don’t. She explains that Western parents worry too much about their children’s feelings; hence they are always trying to comfort them. She also points that Chinese parents, on the other hand, demand perfection through criticism, punishment, and shaming the child, because they believe with this humiliation the child will be properly motivated to...
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...Sydney L. Guy Dr. Chabot November 10, 2013 English 1302.T.11 Parenting Styles Every day persons engage in others who have been conveyed up in different dwellings than they have been raised in. The new people they meet converse, proceed, and respond differently than what that individual may anticipate. These outsiders act this way, not by alternative, but by the way they were raised. Parents around the world have numerous distinct ways and traditions that they bring their young kids up in that these parents believe will arrange their children for the genuine world. There are three different kinds of parenting methods that are prevalent in this generation. Authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative parenting methods each have distinct characteristics and effect the way their young kids grow up and evolve and are classified accordingly in the society today. “Old-fashioned rules help your children understand where they stand, what they are allowed to do, and what is expected of them. Unlike permissive parents who always want to be liked, authoritarian parents expect to be respected” (Llyod). Authoritarian parenting is dictatorial, unjust, and rough. With obedience being the first priority, authoritarian parents are strict with their children. These parents do not display much warmth or nurture towards their children and are inclined to be requiring yet not responsive.”These parents support one-sided communication where they establish rules without explanation and expect them...
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...of Parenting Styles Parents are a huge part of a child's life. However they act, whatever they say, anything that they do largely impacts a child's development from the moment they are born. According to psychologist Diana Baumrind's research, she found that there are four types of parenting styles (Parenting Styles in Psychology, Brittany Olivarez). Through naturalistic observation, parenting interviews, and other research methods, Baumrind identified the following four parenting styles: * Authoritative: democratic style of parenting, parents are attentive, forgiving, teach their offspring proper behavior, have a set of rules, and if child fails to follow their is punishment, if followed their is reward/reinforcement * Authoritarian: strict parenting style, involves high expectations from parents but have little communication between child and parents. Parents don't provide logical reasoning for rules and limits, and are prone to harsh punishments * Permissive: parents take on the role of "friends" rather than parents, do not have any expectations of child, they allow the child to make their own decisions * Uninvolved: parents neglect their child by putting their own life before the child's. They do provide for the child's basic needs but they show little interaction with the child Each of these different parenting styles impacts and influences the development of child. Through Baumrind's observations she found that the most ideal and balanced style that...
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...Rowela B. Bacaycay October 23, 2014 ------------------------------------------------- AC1321 Comarts2 Parent’s Molding “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). The behavior of a child is greatly affected by the way he was raised. Parenting styles, the way parents raise their child, can affect child’s behavior and personality. Bjorklund and Blasi (2012) describes parenting style in terms of two dimension: (1) the degree of warmth a parent shows toward a child and (2) the degree of control a parent attempts to exert over a child’s behavior (p. 528). There are four major classifications of parenting styles – authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and neglectful. But what are the effects of the different parenting styles to a child? Authoritative parenting style produces self-reliant, self-controlled and curious children. Authoritative parents set clear standards and enforce their rules with warmth and explanation (Bjorklund & Blasi, 2012, p. 528). They provide appropriate balance between restrictiveness and autonomy. They set rules to their children but they are also open for their children’s justification. They maintain good communication towards their children. Authoritative parents also consider their children’s wishes and opinion. Being raised by authoritative parents, children become independent, cheerful and achievement-oriented. They get along well with other children and perform...
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... | | |Research Title: | | | | |THE ROLE OF PARENTING STYLES IN CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR | |Introduction: | | | | | | |This article study investigated the combination of mothers' and fathers' parenting styles (affection, behavioral control, and psychological control) that | |would be most influential in predicting their children's internal and external problem behaviors. A total of 196 children (aged 5-6 years) were followed up| |six times from kindergarten...
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...As a parent, I’ve made it one of my life’s goals to influence my children’s social and instrumental development and influence their outcome into adulthood. Many theories of parenting style have been developed over the years. Diana Baumrind has formed four styles of parenting authoritative, permissive, authoritarian, and uninvolved. Although all categories of parenting are associated with the defined styles of parenting, the outcome of the child is as diverse as the parenting types. Authoritative parenting is an affectionate type of parenting. They do discipline their children and show love for them as well. Douglas Hardwick, Ph.D. has stated authoritative parents “set limits for their children and expect their children, to follow family rules”. Children brought up in authoritative parenting homes have the best outcomes, however; not all children are exposed to this type of parenting. Permissive parents are similar to authoritative parents; however they apply diminutive control in their parenting. Rules may be set but are not enforced which makes the child have “lower impulse control and difficulty handling everyday frustrations” according to Dr. Hardwick. In addition to the permissive style parenting that has little control there is still another style that has no control. Authoritarian style parents follow the “because I said so” ruling. Children do not revolve around their lives. Children from authoritarian parents are more likely to be underachievers in their education...
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