One important message to disciples of perfectionism is that perfectionism will not only hurt them but also the people around them. Hence the need to overcome it.

The result of this is that because perfectionists are afraid of failing, they will most of the time refuse to act or give their lives a meaning. Now to make matters worse, as they gradually sink into the ocean of low self-esteem, they procrastinate and never do anything. Furthermore, if they even muster enough courage to do something, they never are satisfied with their achievements or results. As you have read, perfectionists are prone to having low self-esteem because they always rate themselves not to be up to standard.

How you can overcome your perfectionist tendencies is simple. …show more content…
I write this point like a command because of its importance. You should know that when you compare yourself with others you are gradually pulling the line of destruction. Do not attempt to put yourself on the scale of comparison with others, this is a dangerous habit. When you compare your job, your possessions, your lifestyle etc. with other people, you will discover that you will often come up short. There is always someone out there who has more money, better car, is more fit or has better job.

Dear reader, if you are battling with comparison issues what you need to do is to put a stop to it. How you do that is to replace the habit totally. Instead of comparing yourself with other people, compare yourself with yourself. Compare your performance last year to this year or your success last month to this month. Like that, you will strive to break your own records and not other people’s records. In athletics, it is called “personal best” i.e. your performance when you are running or training alone. It will also motivate you to improve your …show more content…
Meaning that from time to time, we interact with people. The people we associate or spend our time with determine the quality of life we have. This point is important because if you successfully adopt the first six points, this seventh point might undo you. People we meet and interact with along life’s road input in our lives either negatively or positively.

We all have some form of influence in other’s lives. We have people that influence us and if they are negative, you might end up with low self-esteem. Some people are critical perfectionists and would go extra length to tell you how bad your ideas or performances are. They would impose the 100% rule on you and keep discouraging you when you fail. For you to come out of your low self-esteem state, you must run away from people like this.

Avoid mingling with them for a change and your life will be better. Many individuals, one way or the other have suffered from people like this. It could be their spouse, parents, trainers, managers etc. Some of them mean well but their goodness will gradually lead you to feeling low about yourself. Be wary of people who don’t support your dream or goals, they will dig your grave to low