...Letter to the Editor on Children of Divorce In the article of “Is Divorce Bad for Children?” by Hal Arkowitz and Scott O. Lillenfeldm, talks about how children are affected, when their parents are going to split up. I had felt so many things, when my parents split up, luckily I was old enough to understand, but yet I felt all kinds of pain and emotion’s going through my head. I know how it feels, when I see children go through so much mixed emotions. Growing up with my nephew’s who lived with me for 20 years went through their parents divorcing. From what I know, divorce is a bad separation, because it can cause children to have bad grades, they can be affected emotionally, and mentally. Everyday the divorce rate is growing rapidly. Which means that half of American families are likely to split up, and more than half of the kids from these families are likely to be depressed and poor academic in school. First, American families are likely to split up, and more than half of the kids from these families are likely to be depressed, and poor academic in school, has become a major issue in today’s society. Today, many people see divorce as a bad or good thing. I personally think it is bad for every child to go through this. Although couples that are divorce, benefits them because they are no longer suffering from each other and their children can stop seeing them argue. And “a separation may be in the best interest for the child in the long run, but tangible change is difficult...
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...Divorce is always bad for children Divorce, which is usually defined as the legal dissolution of marriage or the termination of an existing relationship or union, is unfortunately familiar in today's society. In marriages with a lot of conflicts, divorce seems to be a final solution. However, the result is not only the legal end of marriage, but also the effect of divorce which children have to experience. For adults, divorce is a conclusion, but for children it is the beginning of the uncertainty. Knowing that things are going to be different after a divorce, but not knowing how can be frightening for most children. In addition, one of the biggest fears for children is change. With divorce, the family they have always known will be different, changes will occur in many ways. Children may have to learn to cope with new things, new schedules or new routines. Moreover, they may no longer have contact with some friends and extended family members; such as grandparents or cousins. However, divorce is not always bad for children. Being in the environment of high conflict marriage can cause children to face multiple stressors. They may want stay away from home as much as possible in order to avoid the tumultuousness at home. Divorce could be a relief to the children and offer them a happier life. The diminution of stress allows them to spend more quality time with family. Nevertheless, this does not mean that a divorce is the only way out of all...
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...Half of American children will witness the breakup of their parent's marriage and close to half of these children will also see the breakup of theirs parent's second marriage. Thankfully I never had to experience this and my parents are still happily married after twenty-seven years. Unfortunately, my husband's parents divorced when he was only three years old. Even to this day he still lives with the effects of it. Divorce is a horrible thing and it is really hard on anyone that is involved. The stress of modern living makes a long list of causes for a divorce and the effects from a divorce are never ending. The most common causes for a divorce are bad communication, cheating, financial problems, sex, and addictions. My husband's parents got divorced because they were no longer happy and fought all the time. Each parent has different reasons for their divorce, but I personally think that they got married young and they were growing into two different people. I know that financial problems and the stress of having two young children did not help with their marriage problems. I think there were a lot of causes behind their divorce and the last fight was just the straw that broke the camels back. Most three year olds can't remember what happened a month ago much less remember something twenty years later, but my husband remembers the fight that led his parents to divorce like it was yesterday and he was only three. I think it mentally affected my husband. He tries to avoid...
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...Half of American children will witness the breakup of their parent's marriage and close to half of these children will also see the breakup of theirs parent's second marriage. Thankfully I never had to experience this and my parents are still happily married after twenty-seven years. Unfortunately, my husband's parents divorced when he was only three years old. Even to this day he still lives with the effects of it. Divorce is a horrible thing and it is really hard on anyone that is involved. The stress of modern living makes a long list of causes for a divorce and the effects from a divorce are never ending. The most common causes for a divorce are bad communication, cheating, financial problems, sex, and addictions. My husband's parents got divorced because they were no longer happy and fought all the time. Each parent has different reasons for their divorce, but I personally think that they got married young and they were growing into two different people. I know that financial problems and the stress of having two young children did not help with their marriage problems. I think there were a lot of causes behind their divorce and the last fight was just the straw that broke the camels back. Most three year olds can't remember what happened a month ago much less remember something twenty years later, but my husband remembers the fight that led his parents to divorce like it was yesterday and he was only three. I think it mentally affected my husband. He tries to avoid the...
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...Bibliotherapy I. Introduction and Summary of Books Children are the heart of a parent. Two people get married and they have a baby. It easy to get into a relationship, however, it is hard to maintain the long term relationship. Two people stay together under one roof, problems such as characteristics of each person and others, stress or others, at the end, quarrelling happened and make decision to separate. So here come the situation, how are we going to tell our children? Children are so naïve, they believe in what they saw and they don’t think much. Children recognize good or bad, they don’t want their parent to be the bad person. Children ask questions when they didn’t see something they expected. Compared to my country to United States, divorce percentage are much lower. Especially in traditional Chinese family, parent will always want to have the best for the children, no matter what happen between them. Even though some of the parent already divorce, but they still stay together and act like nothing happened in front of the children. The reason why I’m choosing this topic because I remembered I have a same aged cousin, which his parent divorced. As we played together, we hanged out together, we asked him, why he was staying with his grandpa and grandma every day without going back to his parent. He told me that he only see his dad and mum once a month because they are working outstation. However, what I heard from my parent is, their parent were not together any...
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...Divorce or dissolution of marriage is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony existing between two persons, thus restoring them to the marital status of being single. A divorce does not declare a marriage null and void, as in an annulment, but rather declares that a fully consummated marriage is irretrievably broken and that it should be dissolved, allowing the parties to marry other individuals. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world. Divorce is not permitted in some countries, such as in Malta and in the Philippines, though an annulment is permitted. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt, though these matters are usually only ancillary or consequential to the dissolution of the marriage. In some jurisdictions divorce does not require a party to claim fault of their partner that leads to the breakdown of marriage. But even in jurisdictions which have adopted the "no fault" principle in divorce proceedings, a court may still take into account the behaviour of the parties when dividing property, debts, evaluating custody, and support. In most jurisdictions, a divorce must be certified by a court of law to become effective. The terms of the divorce are usually determined by the court, though they may take into account prenuptial agreements or postnuptial agreements, or simply ratify terms that the spouses may have...
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...realm of their own world cracked in some manner leading to functioning parts of the society slowing to a halt. Either this falling apart of oneself comes on by divorce or some type of dysfunctional family situation. Only the ones who express these faults to the open public are deemed as social problem. This could cause status to be formed and to put down these people. Families are supposed to be the nurturing source of life which protects its own members from harm, but not all family housing is perfect, let alone normal, considered under these circumstances; we see and know these groups as dysfunctional families. When dysfunctional families are thought of, most tend to think of unruly children, or teenagers, who want nothing to do and who are quite unstable with their parents or guardians (Akerman, 2009). This situation can be true; however it is not always included in the top percentile. Within dysfunctional families, most are caused by the splitting of parental units, divorce. Although this is not the one and only factor that causes a family to begin to tear down the inner walls of compassion, resulting with a dramatic dispersion; this scenario has quickly grown to one of the main factors of this equation. Spouses who have grown apart from each other can and will affect the whole family and the outcome of their children if they have any. In turn, when remolding people of society, the society itself will change due to their upbringing. As dysfunctional families are looked on...
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...Millions of married couples in America file for divorce everyday. The causes are numerous ranging from boredom of the spouse to violent treatment. Couples who get a divorce often have children, which are the most affected when a divorce occurs. Divorces usually lead to separation of belongings (including children), absence of one parent during children’s growth, and destruction of the family unit. When a divorce is filed it means that a couple has reached a point in which they can not stand to be with each other. The ones who suffer the most in these cases are the products of the love the couple once had for each other: their children. After a divorce takes effect, each of the parent’s belongings are usually evenly divided. The things that can be easily divided include a house, car, and bank accounts. But, children are not things that we can sell or divide. For this reason, divorced couples fight in court for the custody of their children. Each parent has to present their case and demonstrate that he or she is the most capable parent to take care of the children. This includes economic, social, and other aspects of life. Once a judge decides who the children will stay with (usually the mother) the other parent will have no other choice but to limit himself to visitations to his or her children. Some might even be obliged to pay a monthly amount for child support. After custody is won by one of the parents, children will have to adjust to living with just that parent most of...
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...Effects of Divorce in Adolescents Danielle Nicole Mickens Holmes Community College Abstract Lately there has been an increase in the divorce rates in the United States. While there may be ways to prevent it, it affects the lifestyles of adolescents’ and other people around them. Usually children and adolescents take divorce harder than the adults involved. This review shows how adolescents can be psychologically and emotionally affected by divorce. It also reviews how they may be able to cope during the process of divorce. The Psychological and Emotional Affects of Divorce in Adolescents “Till death do us part” are the vows people normally say when they get married. People often dream of a fairy tale wedding and they also believe that they have found what they may call their soul mates. Apparently as years go by, those vows and beliefs seems to decrease. Divorce is known as dissolving the legal union of marriage. And with that being said the divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. 50% of marriages end in divorce. However, children and adolescents that are involved in the divorce can be psychological and emotionally affected by it. Divorces can change a person’s lifestyle. (Wendel, 1997) One out of every two marriages that end in divorce includes children and adolescents. Research collected gives an understanding on how adolescents psychologically act, emotionally feel, and the resources they have to cope with the divorce. There...
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...The Impact of Divorce on Children Under the Age Of Eighteen Benjamin D. Hinely Liberty University Online PSYC 210 – D29 Abstract Divorce is the act of separating two married individuals legally and absolves both parties of marital obligation. It is, by its nature, destructive and stressful. Pulling a family apart rarely happens along clean lines and children can often be left confused and permanently effected emotionally and mentally. Depression is a major result in children. As are self esteem issues regarding self worth in relation to possible future marriage partners. In addition, there are other general relational problems. Children previously affected by divorce are more likely to see it as an option in their own relationships. Problems with relating to others and a lack of ability to trust implicitly are common as well. Academics are often negatively affected (ie. lower grades, in class disturbances, concentration conflicts) by these factors. It isn’t universal, however, that divorce always is a negative influence. There are those who go on to have good relationships and marriages. It is then not an exact thing to say divorce is always harmful to children. But the possibilities do exist and should then be accounted for. . Research The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines divorce as “the action or an instance of legally dissolving a marriage and or separation and severance.” In more practical and real terms it is where two people split up their lives and divide...
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...Children of Divorce Kirsten Honahan Devry University Children of Divorce Divorce is never a goal when people get married, but in today’s society it has become the norm. Why is it that so many do divorce? I believe the stigma of being divorced is not there anymore, meaning it’s not a bad thing. Divorce being so common now I believe people are in a throw away society, the commonality is too popular. We are in a society now that if something is too hard we just give up and throw it away. Why are people so consumed with themselves and not with others especially when it comes to their children, we are in a selfish society and it is all about me. I understand when abuse is involved and the necessary steps to remove yourself from that situation. I’m focusing on married people who decide to dissolve a marriage whatever the reason besides violence. Being a child of divorce myself the questions I still have are, did you really try hard enough or it must have been easier to give up. Was it that bad that you had to move out of a beautiful home into a rented run down home you could barely afford. Do parents consider the consequences children will experience when they do divorce or do they just think of themselves. Marriage is not easy being in one myself almost twenty five years; having children myself I made it my goal to raise two stable productive people of society. I’m sure that is a goal for every parent, but I put my children first besides my own needs. Nothing...
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...Developmental Delays and Trauma Mukia Myrick Coun 502 4/5/2014 Developmental delays and trauma Developmental delays is when your child does not reach their developmental milestones at the projected times. It is an ongoing major or minor delay in the course of development. Developmental delays can have many different causes. There are many types of Developmental delays in children; they include problems with language or speech, vision, movement (motor skills), social, emotional and cognitive skills (van der Kolk, 1995). Developmental delays are easily distinguished if you pay close attention to the development and milestone periods contained by children; for example if you notice a child having a low attention span, they can’t stay still, they’re highly active and energetic all the time, that’s perhaps due to attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, known as ADHD. There are so many different things that can cause developmental delays and children aren’t always born with developmental delays. Although, developmental delays can be genetic or born with, there are times when trauma at different ages can cause developmental delays such as a child being abused and suffering brain trauma, concussion, which could cause memory lost. Or there could be an accident and a child or adult undergo serious injuries to the spine, eyes, etc. Spinal injuries can be of damage to you motor skills. Spinal injuries or brain injuries if serious can lead to you basically having to start over...
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...are various explanations as to why children exude appalling and deviant behaviors that contradict the dominant social norms. The root of these improper tendencies could be traced to family background, personality disposition, child socialization and genetic make up. Research spawned by Tamminen (2006), Shows that early lack of people skills could aggravate violent, rude and arrogant tendencies amongst children later in life. These skills include empathy, impulse control, problem solving, and anger management (Cole & Cole, 2003). In order to combat dissipation and bad behavior in children, parents must device complete long-term programs to teach children social skills and align their characters in accordance with the social norms. Many theories have been hypothesized to postulate why children behave in reprehensible discourteous and uncouth manners. This paper will offer biological, psychological and social explanations as to why children exhibit unexpected behaviors and how their mannerism is related to their parents and family background. There are numerous fundamental assumptions that cut across all psychological theories for explaining abnormal child behavior. To begin with, psychologists believe that the individual with the deviant behavior are responsible for their abnormal acts. Secondly, the individual’s temperament and disposition contributes towards the behavioral tendencies they exhibit. Finally, children who exhibit bad behaviors suffer from personality...
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...every two marriages end in divorce has a huge effect on the children growing up in our today’s culture. Luckily, many of the parents seeking a divorce think about how that will affect their children’s lives as well. (Children and Divorce, 2013) Divorce is a complex process which does not end in a courthouse, but a lifelong struggle. Before a child reaches 18, 2 out of 5 children will have to experience the divorce of their family, with about 1,250,000 divorces per year in America. (Matthews) Children of divorced families are affected in a number of ways. Their future relationships between the child and parents suffers, the child’s development will be hindered physically, socially, emotionally, educationally, morally and spiritually, there will be short and long term effects, show signs and symptoms of...
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...Effects of Divorce Nancy Marie Brown January 1, 2002 "In the 1970s, divorce escalated like crazy. Women were entering the labor force in incredible numbers. Are those two things related," asks Alan Booth, "or aren't they? "And if divorce is not related to women working, what is it related to?" Booth, a Penn State sociologist, has been asking that question for 20 years. He himself has been divorced and remarried in the meantime, as has his co-investigator on the National Longitudinal Study of Marriage, Paul Amato. More to the point, they and their colleagues have amassed hours of survey data on 2,000 married men and women, interviewed by telephone, paper, or computer survey up to six times over the 20 years, "through a whole marital history, if you like," says Amato. "Some people in the study are on their third or fourth marriages. We've followed them through divorce, singlehood, and remarriage." They've also interviewed many of their children. Then in 2000, the research team interviewed a completely new random sample of 2,100 married individuals. "So we can look at two different kinds of change," Amato explains: "How individual marriages change over time, and how the population of married couples has changed between 1980 and 2000." Their results are changing the way people think about marriage and divorce, and particularly about the effects of divorce on children. "I think it's our study," says Booth, "that put the capstone on the idea that divorce can be bad for children. That's...
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