...practicing alternative methods to discipline children, the child and parent will both be rewarded. Introduction [Attention] I. Quote. II. Definition of Spanking III. Even though physical punishment has declined since the 60s, two-thirds of Americans still use it as a form of discipline. IV. Today I would like to persuade you to use different forms of discipline other than spanking, now or when you decide to start having children. (Transition: Let’s begin by addressing why spanking would not be good for the child.) Body [Need] I. According to psychcentral.com, spanking children can send them wrong messages. A. Spanking can show a child that violence solves problems. 1. Physical punishment can be seen as a form of bullying. 2. Can send a message to a child that hitting is an effective way to get others to things their way. B. The idea that “stronger” is always right is another message a child could take away from spanking. 1. It shows a child that whoever is stronger is always right. 2. A child may think that if he or she gets stronger than their parent or someone that they will always be right by using violence. C. Spanking could also teach a child how to be sneaky. 1. Some parents think spanking their child I the quick way to change the unwanted behavior. 2. It may solve or fix the behavior for a short period of time, but not permanently. 3. The child might make the parent think the...
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...will be discussing the ethics of Child Discipline and Psychical abuse. The issue of parental rights is an existing part of the ethical dimensions of a parent-child relationship. It is parent’s duty to decline their child as part of their many responsibilities, however the way in which they approach this issue differs between individuals. Some people may consider smacking as a form of instilling obedience in their child from a young age. The essay will be segmented into 3 parts, firstly the supporting evidence behind why a parent my feel the need to smack a child is a necessary form of discipline, secondly why smacking a child is not the best form of controlling a adolescent and lastly ones opinion on the topic after analyzing the contrasting literature. Many people agree on the fact that smacking a child should be allowed in order to encourage appropriate behaviour. Corporal Punishments may cause a child to think twice before doing the wrong thing again due to the consequences, which consequently develops decision making skills at a young age. There are many arguments stating that smacking is different to physical abuse. Smacking is a gentle but firm slap on the child, typically with the palm of the hand as a disciplinary measure. In contrast physical abuse is punching or kicking the child with unnecessary excessive force which is not considered as a acceptable form of conduct under any circumstances. Smacking should not leave marks, no child likes to be punished, but in the...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...Discipline Discipline is the process of teaching the child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable, it teaches a child to follow rules. Discipline may involve both punishment, such as a time out, and, more importantly, rewards. It sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline. Every parent wants their children to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat. Our responsibility as a parent is to help our child become self-reliant, respectful, and self-controlled. Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals, and others can help. But the primary responsibility for discipline rests with us parents. Take a look at current parenting styles. According to Baumrind there are three styles of parenting: • An authoritative parent has clear expectations and consequences and is affectionate toward his or her child. The authoritative parent allows for flexibility and collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing with behavioral challenges. This is the most effective form of parenting. • An authoritarian parent has clear expectations and consequences, but shows little affection toward his or her child. The parent may say things like, "because I'm the Mommy, that's why." This is a less effective form of parenting. • A permissive...
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...their children to inevitably {hopefully} produce respectable adults. Often parents will emulate the style of discipline they experienced growing up. It is important to know the effects discipline may have emotionally on children. A few techniques that can be utilized in positive parenting are discipline, a child’s growth mentally and physically, and how to be consistent. Discipline is often a touchy subject when it involves a legal situation. Parents are often confused about where to draw the line between utterly innocent disciplining or perhaps overdoing things which can result in what could be considered abusive behavior. It is important to discuss the various styles of parenting. For instance; permissive parenting is someone who displays a lack of discipline with little or no boundaries, but is otherwise a loving parent. Setting boundaries helps children build confidence instead of insecurity. Next is Neglectful Parenting. One who may neglect their children by not making the effort to discipline or guide them as they are simply too lazy to expend the time necessary. Neglecting children can scar them deeply emotionally. Then, there is Authoritarian Parenting -someone that does not show any affection but is focused only on control and disciplining. This style of parenting can lead to unnecessary arguments and resentment between parent and child or parent and spouse. Last but not least there is an authoritative parent. Children’s growth will be stunted...
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...versus child abuse The most common misconception that spanking is a form of child abuse has now affected the proper discipline of today’s children and young adults. Some parents are actually afraid to discipline their children in the same way they were brought up due to fears of child abuse claims. Are you one of those parents? It is surprising how many of us are. Is there a right or wrong way to discipline children, and who has the say in it? Most experts on child rearing are against spanking in belief that it causes negative long-term effects, but parents who were spanked as a child tend to believe it is the only way to discipline their children when severe behavior problems arise. So do we act on an old-fashioned learned method or concede to following the expert’s advice and find other alternate measures for discipline in hopes that children will behave? Most adults can say they were spanked as a child and they turned out just fine, so what would be wrong with using that same form of discipline on their children? Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. Parents who do spank their children argue that if done properly and only when absolutely necessary, spanking can be an effective disciplinary tool. However, parents who choose not to spank their children, say that hitting a child only teaches them that violence is a way to solve problems that arise. At what age is it appropriate to start disciplining or spanking children? Teaching children discipline should...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...Has Discipline Gone Too Far? What is acceptable and for whom? English 105 Since the beginning of time it has been heavily debated about the use physical discipline in homes and schools around the world. It has been speculated that physical punishment is an extreme and inappropriate. Why punishment on a physical level in the eyes of so many is labeled wrong but in the eyes of others they believe it’s not only right, but effective. Who is right in this matter? Who has the right to tell a parent that they should not be spanking their child? How do we draw a line between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable and should the government step in and make an anti-physical punishment law? About 30 years ago this form of reprimanding a child was a norm. Many child psychologists and other health care professionals have been discussing and debating this very topic for many years now. In fact according to Dr. Gregory K Fritz’s article “Should Spanking a Child Be unlawful,” a survey was conducted 15 years ago of family practitioners and pediatricians and it was found that about two thirds supported mild spanking in some disciplinary situations. However, times have changed and so has the way we discipline our children. As time passes our world changes and adapts. Things are different, technology and the human life is constantly revolving. Therefore the way we raise our children has evolved to. Punishment for a child can be as simple as taking away their...
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...BETWEEN DISCIPLINE AND OBEDIENCE FROM THE MONTESSORI PERSPECTIVE. EXPLAIN HOW DISCIPLINE AND OBEDIENCE ARE LINKED TO THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE WILL. The present document will focus on the relationship between discipline and obedience according with Montessori’s philosophy. I will explain to how discipline and obedience play a vital role in the development of a child and how both these are linked or connected to the development of the will. First, current definitions of the terms discipline and obedience will be discussed and will be compared with Montessori’s interpretation of these concepts. The influence of favourable environment in the development of the will and in discipline will be explained. Following there will be explained how the maturational develop of discipline is linked to the development of the will. Then there will be a consideration in how these aspects of development are the foundation of the development of obedience. I will then describe the there levels of obedience linking the first two relevantly to the spiritual and social embryonic stages of the absorbent mind. Finally I will conclude my argument by summarising the main ideas of this essay. The term DISCIPLINE is often define in the dictionary by “training to act in accordance with rules; drill; punishment inflicted by way of correction and training; behaviour in accord with rules of conduct;” This term is still very associated with punishment in your society. We say a child needs “discipline” when they...
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...rod can be damaging to establishing order in your child. As well, using the rod can affect the child’s long term mental behaviors, social norm, and the parental relationship. An article by John Fletcher titled, “Positive Parenting, not physical punishment” he addresses some of the concerns regarding corporal punishment. “Is spanking wrong? Clearly, hitting anyone in anger or when losing an argument is bad behaviour. To do this to children sets a bad example and may only teach them that violence is a means to getting their own way” (J.Fletcher 2012) By exploring the need of corporal punishment as it relates to it effect on children’s cognitive behaviors to punishment, alternative punishment methods and non-physical discipline may prove to be the best disciplinary method for children today. According to Miriam Websters Dictionary, corporal punishment as it pertains to children is defined as “punishment administered by an adult (as a parent or a teacher) to the body of a child ranging in severity from a slap to a spanking.” (M. Webster n.d.) Corporal punishment as it relates to children is sometimes administered in a school setting by administrators or teachers, however most corporal punishment is administered at home by a parent, guardian or other relative. Typically the discipline is given in the form of a spanking or whipping; sometimes discipline is given in the form of smacking or slapping the child. This type of discipline, although it has possibly shown positive short term...
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...Banned in Homes? The spanking of a child, also known as corporal punishment, by their parent(s) is one of the most common forms of disciplinary action used to date. Although many people have different ideas of what spanking really is, the term universally means “striking the child on the buttocks or extremities with an open hand without inflicting physical injury with the intent to modify behavior.” (Bai) Some parents and researchers would say that spanking one’s child is a form of child abuse because it is practiced with the intent of causing physical pain to the child. However, the use of corporal punishment is necessary because a child who is not disciplined will not learn the difference between right and wrong and should not be against the law for parents to use in their home. When I was five, I got a “spanking” from my father for biting a family member. During and after the spanking I cried and was very upset with my father for what he had done. I thought it was unfair and “mean”. But like my parents, a recent survey estimated that ninety-four percent of parents with children age’s four to five spank their children occasionally. (Larzelere) While some call it discipline, others believe it is a form of violence. Research shows that corporal punishment leads to more serious problems than just getting your feelings hurt. In many cases when a child is spanked, it can leave a lasting impact and cause poorer relationships between a child and the parent. Also, there is an increase...
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...------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- By:Shada Roshan ------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- Punishing children is a popular method that most people use in order to discipline children. They see it useful and more effective as its response is quick. On the other hand some people do not agree because in their opinion punishment is more harmful as it can escalate to child abuse. So it is a controversial issue. There are basically 4 kind of punishmentI am going to talk about one of them which is corporal punishment. What is corporal punishment? ------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- Is corporal punishment an effective method of disciplining children? Why some people use it as a method to discipline children? Should corporal punishment be banned, and what are the other ways to discipline children? ------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------------- I am interested in presenting this issue because most people thought that corporal punishment is the right thing to do, and other disagreed. I personally found this issue compelling because I am from Yemen where corporal punishment is seen everywhere and every...
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...Some parents spank their child not only to punish him or her but to change their child’s behavior. Does spanking have that effect? Dr. Kazdin: Spanking is not a very effective strategy. It does not teach children new behaviors or what to do in place of the problem behavior. It is also not useful in suppressing the problematic behavior beyond the moment. Research indicates the rate of misbehavior does not decline, in fact, the problem behavior returns, even if the parent escalates the punishment. APA: What other types of physical punishment do some parents use? Dr. Kazdin: The task is to help children change their behavior, and physical punishment is not needed to accomplish that. Developing positive opposite behaviors, i.e., the desired behaviors that the parent wants, is much more effective. Gershoff reports that Straus and Stewart (1999) found that 94% of American parents spank their children by the ages of 3 or 4. Primarily they spank children up to age 5, one to two times per month. Gershoff notes too that the US Department of Health and Human Services (2001) indicated that 13 of every 1000 children are abused or neglected. Thinking that spanking leads to abuse, Gershoff investigated the effectiveness of spanking by conducting a meta-analysis. Holden, Baumrind, and Parke respond to her article, and she replies. However, attitudes in many countries changed in the 1950s and 60s following the publication by pediatrician Benjamin McLane Spockof Baby and Child Care in 1946, which...
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...When Does Discipline Cross the Line to Child Abuse? In this report, I concentrated my research on the fine line between physical discipline and child abuse, with emphasis on spanking vs. not spanking and its effects on children. Included are research from statistics, opposing views and arguments, advocates’ and Department of Children and Families’ position. The use of corporal punishment, or spanking, as a form of parental discipline is a controversial topic. Adults who remember being spanking by a parent for misbehaving may carry on this behavior as an acceptable form of punishment for their own children. Others believe spanking to be an outdated punishment that is cruel and can cross the line to physical abuse. 2010 NATIONAL ABUSE STATISTICS NATIONAL ABUSE STATISTICS - - (www.nationalchildrensalliance.org) nearly five children die every day in America from abuse and neglect. In 2010, an estimated 1,560 children died from abuse and neglect in the United States. Nearly 80% of reported child fatalities as a result of abuse and neglect were caused by one or more of the child victim's parents. Children Welfare League of America (www.cwla.org) In 2010, Connecticut had 45,313 total referrals for child abuse and neglect. Of those, 25,777 reports were referred for investigation and in 2010, 4 children in Connecticut died as a result of...
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...November 9, 2005 Punishment and discipline is the most effective on children today. Some people think that discipline and punishment is the same thing, but there not. Discipline is helping children develop self- control and sets limits and corrects misbehavior. Punishment is physical hitting, yelling, holding back rewards, and penalizing a child. “Not all children respond to discipline and punishment in the same manner” (Moore). Why do parent’s discipline there children. The most know reason is because parents want there children to act in a certain way that allows them to function on a day to day basis (Frazier). Discipline should teach a child to think about there behavior and why it was inappropriate. Discipline is effective because the child learns to take responsibility for his or her behavior .Discipline is one of the biggest problems that every parent faces. It also can help a child get alone with the family and friend. Punishment is usually used on a child because it is quick and easy punishment shows adult power and it vents adult frustration. There are many methods parents can use to discipline and punish there child, such as spanking, time out and taking privileges away. These methods will help a child build mutual respect, accountability, responsibility, self-discipline and problem solving. Studies show that the majority of parents who spank their children wish they didn’t (Moore). One of the least effective ways of punishing a child is spanking, “there is no research...
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