...Abstract Regardless of situations in one’s life there comes a time when they are going to be faced with conflict. Conflict is inevitable, even in a marriage. However, it is how the conflict in a marriage that will determine how it affects the longevity of the marriage and the effects it has on any children involved and if the affects become detrimental to the parties involved. When there is unresolved conflict in a marriage it not only has an effect on the emotional well-being of those involved but also has an effect on the mental, spiritual and physical well-being of all individuals involved. This paper will discuss how conflict in marriage affects those involved as well as the longevity of the marriage itself. Studies have shown that conflict and disagreements within a marriage have and affect or couples and the relationships versus couples who are willing to confront their issues and talk their problems out. Individuals were studied over a ten day period using two separate groups to see how they dealt with conflict. The first group consisted of 128 individuals and their conflicts for a ten day period were recorded. The second group consisted of 75 couples in a laboratory setting. The couples were monitored to see how they related to their mate and how they responded to conflict in which they faced. This was to measure the commitment level of each of the mates before the discussions they had and after their discussions...
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...The Impact of Divorce on Children Lisa Greatwhite Liberty University PSYC 210-D07 Abstract Compared to forty years ago the divorce rate has increased at an alarming rate. Leaving the children torn and confused about their lives before and after. Children that where once seen as resilient are now seen as vulnerable. There is a vast amount of research that supports how children are affected before, during and after their parents’ divorce. Some of the issues that impact children can cause short-term psychological issues. Leaving those children that are affected to act out in various ways, from regressing backward in the developmental process to psychosocial well-being as it relates to academic performance. Long-term effects for children that result from divorce remain present throughout life. The adult child of divorce may carry unresolved issues into their own relationships. This behavior can put the adult child in high risk for divorce. With this understanding many schools and courts are beginning to offer ways to help children emotionally and socially through counseling and interventions. The Impact of Divorce on Children The research conducted on the divorce rate in the last decade has shown a steady climb. Daniel Pickar (2003), stated in an article from Sonoma county Medical Association, “Forty percent of all children growing up in America today will experience a parental divorce”. (Pickar 2003, p. 1) Most contributed the drastic increase to the court laws on what...
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...Running head: MOVIE FAMILY CARE PLAN Movie Family Care Plan Marcheta Hays University of Phoenix Movie Family Care Plan Introduction The intent of this paper is to assess and develop a care plan for a selected patient and their family. Attention will be directed to the family structure and function and the interactions between the patient and the family. SW is a single white female living New York City. She is a successful playwright in her thirties and her health status is free from disease or illness. There are no current physical manifestations of illness for SW; however she has had periods of psychotherapy for unresolved childhood issues and ineffective copying mechanisms. Family Members SW Age- mid thirties Sex –female Marital Status – engaged to CM Ethnicity- Caucasian Religion- Catholic Education- College degree Occupation – Professional playwright Interests and Hobbies – unknown VW Age- 60-70 Sex –female Marital Status – married to SJW Children – 3 female, 1male Ethnicity- Caucasian Religion- Catholic Education- some college Occupation – homemaker Interests and Hobbies – socializing with life-long friends the Ya-Yas SJW Age- 60 -70 Sex –male Marital Status – married to VW Children – 3 female, 1male Ethnicity- Caucasian Religion- Catholic Education- some college Occupation – Farmer Interests and Hobbies – unknown CM Age- mid thirties Sex –male Marital Status – engaged to VW Ethnicity- Caucasian Religion-...
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...obstacles and problems that might occur in the relationship. In his short story “The Hair”, Raymond Carver shows the consequences of the lack of connection in a normal marriage. He especially focuses on the emotional causes of malfunctioning relationships and how it has a psychological influence on everyday life. Using minimalistic tools such as symbolism, Raymond Carver tells the story of a man, struggling with his marriage, developing an internal conflict. Carver uses a minimalistic style of writing in his short story “The Hair”. Minimalistic writing effectively expresses feelings and conflicts, yet allows the reader to be part of the interpretation of the story. Methods such as symbolism, setting, superficial descriptions, and the reticence towards giving the reader information about emotions are often used in minimalistic short stories. Carver’s use of symbolism, setting and the lack of emotional description helps the reader understand the protagonist and his struggles. Reading “The hair”, we are introduced to a man who discovers that a hair is stuck between his teeth. At first, the short story appears anticlimactic, because of its open ending and everyday-life circumstances. However the actual plot in the story, which is not given to us directly, tells the story of the man’s internal conflict, and the effect it has on his life. The mood of the story is very tense, guiding the reader to an understanding of the situation. The use of minimalism opens up to a more meaningful...
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...properties collectively and at the same time to a single party or a consortium/joint venture, which has the intention of redeveloping the site into a new development. The Land Titles (Strata) Act (Chapter 158) (in short LTSA) came into effect in 1967 to facilitate the subdivision of building or land into strata units (Christudason, 2003). The strata units are known as a “strata lot” which is a volumetric parcel defining a flat unit. There is a widening disconnect between effective and efficient dispute resolution processes for strata systems and faster, simpler and cheaper settlement of disputes. Disputes can be extremely upsetting and disruptive to individual members and to the strata community. Unresolved disputes or continuing violations can produce negative impacts on these important elements of a good neighbourhood. Living in a good neighbourhood includes having good and friendly neighbours even if there is not much interaction and active engagement involved. However, when people live close together, disagreements and disputes may arise over quality of life issues commonly referred to as “home-garden-and-kitchen” conflicts. Sometimes, disputes occur due to the “querulous behaviour” of residents who would make trivial complaints just to create issues in the neighbourhood. In courts,...
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...comedy depicts the follies and absurdities of human beings." Webster's Dictionary defines comedy as: "A drama or narrative with a happy ending." Shakespeare's play, Measure for Measure, fits both of these descriptions. Follies and absurdities are present in the play: Lucio slanders the Duke, not realizing that his crude remarks are being spoken to the Duke himself; Angelo abuses his power thinking that the Duke is not present to know; and Ragozine happens to die in prison the day a head is needed to substitute for Claudio's. The play also ends on several merry notes, consistent with the definition of comedy. For example, Angelo's life is spared and he is forgiven; Mariana is married to Angelo; the Duke punishes Lucio humorously with marriage; Barnardine is pardoned; and Claudio is saved. The parallels between Measure for Measure and three other Shakespearean comedies, The Merchant of Venice, As You Like It, and Twelfth Night, also help to classify Measure for Measure as a comedy. In Measure for Measure, like in The Merchant of Venice, As You Like It, and Twelfth Night, an arbitrary law or obstacle is eventually overcome; a disguised character affects the outcome of the play; a clown adds humor to the plot; a female character bears a large responsibility for the final resolution; and forgiveness and reconciliation mark the conclusion of the action. Some critics consider Measure for Measure a "dark" play because of the serious obstacles encountered by the characters...
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...Erikson’s Theory Micah Schenk AIU Online Abstract Inside this essay the Erikson’s Theory on developmental psychology is described in full detail, the stages how everyone is affected throughout the stages with detail inside the examples. Using personal and televised characters to define how each character fits inside the specific stage. Detail on how the person had managed to progress or did not progress inside the stage and how to overcome the negative effects. Erikson’s Theory There are eight stages in Erikson’s theory. The first stage in Erikson’s theory is trust versus mistrust, and it lasts from birth through 18 months of age. During this stage, a child must successfully develop a relationship to a caregiver and become attached in order to establish trust and security. This is accomplished when the child’s basic needs are met by the caregiver. The child is likely to develop feelings of anxiety and insecurity if their needs are not met. For example, Adeline is only two weeks old at this current time. Adeline has a strong sense of trust to her mother proven by the fact that when her mother is not around Adeline gets scared and cries during this time Emily or I would have to pick her up to give her that comfort again of being held and fed and providing for her needs and therefore is resolving this stage. The second stage, autonomy versus self-doubt, begins at approximately 18 months of age and lasts until...
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...sought to resolve some of those issues. Bill, a 65 year old chartered accountant, is very happy with the business turnover and is keen to maintain the status quo. Bill is concerned that an expansion might see him lose the business. Jo, 35 years of age, a chartered accountant with an MBA, wants to expand the business and increase the business profits. Both of the partners were able to come to an agreement at the mediation to hire a temporary employee for three months. This would free up Jo to develop new models for business expansion and a phase out plan for Bill to retire over the next five years. It was helpful to read Peter Condliffe's Conflict Management as well as Tania Sourdin's Alternative Dispute Resolution to understand the role and methods of mediations. The book covered in detail how a mediation is to be conducted as well as how to assess the strengths and weakness of a mediator. Some of the journals I've read, especially the once I've referenced below helped me understand the importance of active listening. emotions and how important it is to effectively assess them in mediation. It was very helpful to read the journals as well as the text to understand that regardless of how neutral a mediator might be, they do in fact effect the outcome of mediations. Issues raised in Mediation, Issues left Unresolved in Mediation & Solutions Reached in Mediation There were a number of issues raised during the mediation. The main issue...
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...is typical within marriages. All couples have a difference of opinions in situations in their lives together. Marital conflict is not a matter of a difference in opinions. Marital conflict stems from a development of unfortunate series of circumstances that have caused a rift in the unity of the partnership of the marriage. The source of marital conflict consists of issues that have boiled up to the point of a severe lack of communication. When married couples stop communicating with each other, they grow farther apart in their marriage. If married couples have the opportunity to identify the causes of marital discord, they will develop healthier ways to resolve the complex issues within their marriage. In general, all couples have dealt with issues with finance, parenting, and domestic duties. This case study analysis will discuss the facilitator’s report of the relationship dynamics of a conflicted couple, Steve and Cindy. This analysis will focus on the identification of key strengths and weaknesses between the couple, how the couple’s personalities might be influencing their situation, and developing a strategy to counsel and support the couple. This analysis will highlight conflict resolution skills that the couple may be able to employ as a way to build upon their foundation within their marriage. Case Study 2: Steve and Cindy Introduction When a couple enters marital counseling, they are seeking to identify potential relationship issues and resolve complicated...
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...WHAT CAN YOU AS A PARA-COUNSELOR DO TO STEM THE ISSUES IN NIGERIAN MARRIAGES BY AWUA STEPHEN INTRODUCTION The institution of marriage remains a cherished jewel of society. This is because from it, the family unit springs forth; as there is no denial that the family is nucleus of society. In Nigeria today, many marriages are going through a plethora of problems, very many of which are threatening the unity, love and life of marriage. These problems range from poor/lack of communication, substance abuse (addiction), sex-related complexities, etc. Given these unfortunate state of affairs in Nigerian marriages, the question what counselors would do to arrest the situation becomes crucially relevant. This is the take-off point of this write up. MEANING OF MARRIAGE Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that create kinship. The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but is usually an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged. Such a union is often formalized via a wedding ceremony. In terms of legal recognition, most sovereign states and other jurisdictions limit marriage to two persons of opposite sex or gender in the gender binary, and some of these allow polygynous marriage. Since 2000, several countries and some other jurisdictions have legalized same-sex marriage. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity...
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...birth of psychoanalysis is given credit to a man named Sigmund Freud. He is considered the father and main influence on this field of psychology. “Freud lived most of his life in Vienna and died in London in 1939. He discovered psychoanalysis by systematizing ideas and information coming from different, theoretical and clinical directions.” (Jones) His research and ideas paved the way for modern psychotherapy to be used by doctors worldwide. Psychoanalysis has been used since the 1900’s to treat patients with underlying psychological problems. • Psychoanalytic psychologists see psychological problems as rooted in the unconscious mind. • Manifest symptoms are caused by latent (hidden) disturbances. • Typical causes include unresolved issues during development or repressed trauma. • Treatment focuses on bringing the repressed conflict to consciousness, where the client can deal with it. (McLeod) According to Freud, the mind was made up of three egos. The Id, ego, and superego. “The ego represents ongoing conscious experience or awareness, while the id and superego represent the subconscious, of which we are not aware. The interesting notion about the subconscious, as conceived by the psychoanalysts, is that it controls the vast majority of our behavior. It would follow then, that most of the things we do are controlled by forces of which we are completely unaware. In fact, it is virtually impossible for you or I to become aware of what is...
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...desegregation between races, specifically Blacks and Caucasians. Despite decades of desegregation, cultural and social differences still exists. These differences are present in the institution of marriage. Americans have and are slowly evolving away from segregation. In the past forty years a multitude of changes have transformed schools, jobs, voting booths, neighborhoods, hotels, restaurants and even the wedding altar, facilitating tolerance for racial diversity ( Norman 108 ). Since the 1960's, when the housing discrimination was outlawed, many Blacks moved into mainly Caucasian neighborhoods. The steadily growing areas in the west and south-west are least segregated, because these areas never had the entrenched Black and Caucasian sections of town (Randolph 154). Even more visible signs of desegregation can be seen in the areas of education. A study done by the University of Michigan shows that integration on campuses occurs on a regular basis. The racial lines are crossed routinely; about 50% of Blacks and 15% of Caucasians reportedly study together. Eating patterns also share the same similarities. At a social level there has been a steady convergence of opinion on a variety of racial issues. Since 1972, surveys have asked whether the respondent would favor a law making inter-racial marriages illegal. In 1980 the results showed that 30% of Caucasians and 18.3% of Blacks favor such a law. By 1994, the collected data showed 14.7% and 3.2% respectively. Similar trends have also been...
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...Family Systems Theory I have quite a large family. My nuclear family consists of my mom, dad, brother and myself. My mom’s side of the family equates for that majority of our family. My mother is the youngest of nine! As one could guess, I have many aunts and many cousins. Because there are so many people of all different ages there are many patterns of interaction and diversity issues that affect the family dynamics. The nature of my parent’s relationship is extremely loving, affectionate and kind. My parents were strict in many aspects but lenient in other aspects. Luckily my nuclear family and extended family have not had to face issues with substance abuse, violence or disabilities. However we did have to face two major losses in the family, both of my grandmothers. When thinking about interaction patterns, family rituals and celebrations come to mind. Our celebrations particularly Christmas and birthdays were rituals, which bring us together. Christmas is important because my family is Catholic, so this connects us all in a special way. When it comes to diversity issues, issues arise between the young individuals and the older individuals pertaining to beliefs. Even though most of the family is Catholic, everyone is unique and has their own personal beliefs that sometimes can be cause for arguments. This can affect family dynamics. Overall, though there is a mutual respect for everyone. Bowen’s approach has eight major concepts. One of them, Triangles/...
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...PAPER 1 What Makes a Dysfunctional Family Appear Normal Name University 10/26/11 THESIS: DENIAL LEADS TO DETERIORATION OF DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES Introduction There is a very thin line between functional families and dysfunctional ones. At the same time, the term ‘functional families’ does not give the true picture of such families. This is because it describes a nonexistent phenomenon. There is no such a thing as a completely functional family. Instead, there is a desirable family, one which exhibits very few of the characters that describe the dysfunctional families. Every family has problems of their own and it is how they tackle them that define them in terms of functionality. Of course all families desire to be close to perfect and try to solve their problem whenever they arise. However, what is most important is identifying a problem, accepting that it actually exists, diagnosing its source and solving it in a way that limits its recurrence. This paper aims to establish how denial is an obstacle to families’ efforts towards regaining their functional status and why dysfunctional families remain so. Study Problem There is an inadequacy of the information available for psychologists and other social work experts on which they should base their strategies for helping families develop effective communication in an attempt to solve the family and social problems. ...
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...Journal Writing What is Journal Writing? Journal writing is a series of written passages that document the personal events, thoughts, feelings, memories, and perceptions in one’s journey throughout life. Through journal writing you can sort through problems and come to a deeper understanding of yourself or the issues that a person may be dealing with. The word journal comes from the French word journee, which means from sunrise to sunset. It is important to remember that this technique is used to strengthen the bond of honesty between your mind and soul. By being able to read your journal, the writer is able to perceive experiences more clearly and feel less stressed, having both mental and physical health benefits Journal writing should be used in conjunction with other techniques and not solely in order to effectively cope with a stressor. Used by many different professionals such as: psychologists, life coaches, and health educators as a tool for self- exploration, soul searching and the enhancement of personal development. History: * Originally started as a record of orientation on long trips to find a safe return. * History is based on the journal writings of many different travelers and explorers. These include Columbus, Admiral Perry, astronauts etc. * Journals were used as a way to calculate the passage of time and distance. * Originally mostly men did journal writing because women were not educated to read and write, however when...
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