From novels to history, males have always played a pertinent, and occasionally overbearing, role in the world around us. In the past, they have been depicted as domineering social figures in a patriarchal world. Now, as times change, people are trying to look more into the struggles that men face regarding their own identity and masculinity. One such person is Dr. Michael Kimmel, a sociologist who works to uncover the dynamics of becoming a man and what it means to be a man. He documents his collection of such experiences in Guyland and analyzes the thought process of many young men go through when determining their own worth. These complex encounters of sociability, sexuality, and masculinity parallel to Richard Blanco and his memoir, The Prince of Los Cocuyos. Richard must battle with his family’s immigration, conforming, and all the negative repercussions of doing so, or not. His thoughts of maintaining a strong mental and physical appearance, to friends and family, troubles him as he tries to explore his differences. Although everyone faces …show more content…
Richard Blanco experiences a large amount of uncertainty regarding his own sexuality and masculinity, while Dr. Kimmel notes that these expectations can result in bad behaviors or violence. These unfair expectations harbor the ideas that people must conform to specific standards, something that should never be the case. The identities and aspirations of many young men can be conflicted if their standards continue. Instead, people should support young men and rather than focusing on expectations and obligations, should push them to be a better and more open person. Working to establish a judgmental-free society can truly result in a happier and more substantial way of life. Removing the struggles between the dynamics of friends and family can help push individuals forward into a more welcoming and accepting