...Forgiveness Forgiving someone who you believe has done wrong to you is a very difficult thing to do. Some people live their entire lives unwilling and unable to forgive someone else and carrying this burden on their shoulder all through their lives. For some, a grudge rakes place when you focus on the bad things that you think has happened to you. For others, a grudge is silent and you think you’re over it, but then you discover you still haven’t forgiven the other person. The only person being hurt by you not being able to forgive is YOU. Often, the other person doesn’t even realize you have these bad feelings because, they think everything is okay between the two of you. With that being said forgiving someone is hard but, if you do things between you and that person would become much better. Forgiveness is the key to life. It is very important to forgive someone no matter what they have done to you in the past. If you haven’t forgiven someone they tend to be on your mind a lot or either the situation that may have took place. Many people go on with their lives knowing that they haven’t forgiven someone and the guilt tends to eat them alive. You would also feel even terrible if the person whom you haven’t forgave passes away. The most important thing is too forgive once you forgive you will be able to finally move forward in your own life. You’ll feel as though a huge weight and burden has been lifted off of your shoulders. While forgiveness may not always be easy, it is...
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...completely on accident. Forgiveness is called for in both circumstances. The audience is adults and anyone else who is interests in reading about forgiveness. This piece is not light reading and therefore would not be for children. This piece is composed of many main points that all circulate around the fact that everyone needs to be forgiven. People that do wrong to others are not monsters. They are humans just like the rest of us that have made mistakes. This point is very scary. It is easy to call people that have hurt others monsters, but that is not the case. Everyone is capable of hurting each other, just like everyone is capable of forgiveness. Everyone has hurt and been hurt by others. It is the way we handle the aftermath of both situations that matters. After hurting someone it can be extremely difficult to apologize and ask for forgiveness. After being hurt it is even harder to give forgiveness and not seek revenge. Revenge is a danger matter that causes the cycle of hurt to become constant and to never end. What truly defines forgiveness? Forgiveness helps to stop the cycle of retaliation and to let go of all the negative feelings towards another person. It is not possible to forgive someone if feelings of hate still arise when thinking about or seeing the wrongdoer. Forgiveness can be both bilateral and unilateral. It helps when both parties want the same outcome, when the wrongdoer apologies and the victim is ready to give forgiveness. Sometimes the wrongdoer...
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...or actions. The person has two options either hold on to the anger and think of revenge or be a good person and forgive and move on in life. Forgiveness is a decision to let go the bitterness, anger or feeling of revenge. Forgiveness is a process (or the result of a process) that involves a change in emotion and attitude regarding an offender. If a person hold on the grudge against another person and doesn’t plan on to forgive all his/her life he/she would feel restless and pain whereas on the other hand if a person forgives it will lessen the pain and help focus on the better things in life. When a person is hurt by a loved one and is unforgiving the person becomes sad, anxious and keeps thinking how to take revenge and it starts affecting his/her life. You stop trusting other people assuming even they will hurt you. The feeling of injustice prevails and person starts feeling life lacks purpose. To forgive is not easy especially when a person who caused the hurt is not apologetic. It takes lot of strength to forgive a person as Mahatma Gandhi said “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong”. If you forgive and move on in life you will have healthier relationships and you would be able to trust other people, life would be more peaceful and less stress and anxiety. Even Jesus showed us the path of forgiveness and showed us that if you forgive your enemies you make the Lord happy. As Jesus said, "Peace be with you! As the Father has sent me, I am sending...
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...the topic of forgiveness Chasity Webster PSY 400 Martin Methodist College Forgiveness is one of the most compassionate things that we can do for one another. The term is greatly misinterpreted and because of this it is not often given in the truest sense of the word. Forgiveness requires finding and feeling compassion and then being able to let go of anxiety, anger and yearning for revenge. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. In an article reviewing compassion, the authors define compassion as the feeling that arises in witnessing another’s suffering and that motivates a subsequent desire to help. The definition theorizes compassion as an affective state defined by a specific independent feeling, and it differs from treatment of compassion as an attitude (Goetz & et. al 2010). According to Webster’s Third Edition, to forgive is to cease to feel resentment against, on accord of wrong committed, to give up claim to requital from or retribution upon an offender, to absolve; pardon. Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting...
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...Forgiveness is being able to let go of the pain or harm done. Sometimes we feel like we cannot forgive without the other person feeling the pain he or she has caused us. But forgiveness lies within us, not in the actions or attitudes of others. I am the type of person who has a hard time forgiving people who have caused me pain. Everyone has this nature of forgiving others but in my part, it is really hard and it takes so much time to heal. Getting hurt is normal. All of us experience pain and it cause our lives to change. I have been hurt so many times before that caused me to change. I feel bitter whenever I remember what that person did to me. What hurts the most is knowing that the one you really love hurt you. I thought that if you really love a person, you would never do something just to hurt you. I guess that the one you don't expect to hurt you will actually hurt you. It's been a month since I got out from a very long relationship and until now, flashbacks come to my head that drives me crazy. That's why it is hard for me to forgive a person because I blame him for the pain that he left me and makes my life miserable. I cannot believe that he could actually cheat on me. But then as time pass by, I come to realize that whatever pain I experience now, I can only forget about it if I learn how to forgive....
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...The power of forgiveness In order for people to be happy and content, they must have inner peace. Lack of inner peace results in emotional disturbance, fear, anxiety, distrust and a life filled with restlessness and uncertainty. In order for people to be forgiven, they must first learn to forgive themselves. Self- forgiveness removes any obstacles caused by self- criticism and in return provides love, inner peace and happiness. Forgiving oneself does not erase past experiences, it just creates new ways to remember them. The memories from the past can be transformed into hope in the future. The bible makes no mention as to what Jesus looks like. In the movie Bella, Jose’s character bears a striking resemblance to many modern-day images of Jesus. He is an ordinary looking man; tall and lean with long flowing dark hair and beard, and wears a chef's jacket that favors a shroud. What is so remarkable about his character is his attitude and demeanor. He is non-judgmental, compassionate, empathic and understanding to Nina’s situation. At no point did he offer her any advice when she made the decision to have an abortion. Instead, he was supportive and lent her a shoulder to cry on. Because of his character, Nina could be able to trust again which in turn led to her giving birth to her daughter. Helping Nina was an act of atonement for Jose. For the past four years, he has struggled with the guilt of accidentally causing the death to a child. It is evident that he is remorseful...
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...Self-Forgiveness: The Stepchild of Forgiveness Research CUON506-B13 September 25, 2011 Self-Forgiveness: The Stepchild of Forgiveness Research is an article that focuses on the importance of comparing and contrasting interpersonal forgiveness as well as intrapersonal forgiveness. Not only does this article emphasizes the definitions and classifications of self-forgiveness, but also identifies the emotional and social cognitive determents, the limitations and implications self-forgiveness may trigger. Julie Hall and Frank Fincham composed this article with great detail and research to analyze the importance of self-forgiveness and examining the conventional issues that must be directed when considering the suitability of self-forgiveness. This article evaluates the components of self-forgiveness through a model that outlines its implications through research. Guilt, shame, attributions, conciliatory behavior, perceived forgiveness from victim or higher power, and severities of the offense are some of the many processes that constitute self-forgiveness. These processes causes the offender or the offended to account to more positive reprimands and fewer ongoing negative reprimands of the transgression than do offenders who have not forgiven themselves. Hall and Fincham explain that three levels of self-forgiveness and self-respect must ensue to involve restoration. First, self-forgiveness requires an objective fault or wrongdoing; second, negative feelings triggered...
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...unforgiveness. Only the forgiveness of Christ and the blood He shed for our sins and for the sins of the people who committed these atrocious acts can break the powerful hold the enemy has. God modeled for us the ultimate act of forgiveness. He sent His innocent Son to be tied up, ridiculed, abused, beaten, and brutally murdered; taking on the sins of the whole world. In the last moments of His life, Jesus asked for forgiveness for the sins of those who were hurting him. Amazing! But, He is God and we are human. It takes the healing power of Christ in our lives to receive His forgiveness for us and to give ourselves the gift of forgiving those who hurt us. What we cannot even imagine doing in our own power can be realized through the redeeming power of Christ who transforms our minds and our lives. Christ wants to restore us. He loves to take messed up, used up, damaged, and destroyed people and completely transform their lives. We just have to be willing to let Him. All we have to do is be willing and He does the rest. Trust me; I know. Have you ever read the story in the Bible about the maniac of Gadara? I am a living example of that transformation. I don't know or have all of the answers but I do know that while there is still life, there is still hope. I know too that the kinds of big hurts that some of us have experienced can be extremely difficult to overcome on our own. We may need to be guided through the forgiveness process by someone who is...
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...Dealing with Guilt & Forgiveness Choice is not defined by others for you. Choice is defined by you alone. When you allow others to make choices for you, you give up your potential, power and ability to live your most authentic given life. In having said that, when we live our lives by our own choices, we also experience our own trials and tribulations which in effect become our compass that puts us on the course we choose to take based on how we choose to learn, or ignore the lessons that life bestows on us. On our life journey, hurt and pain will be experience at some stages in our lives. When you are the cause of that pain, whether it is by deceit, betrayal or physical, as humans, there will be impact on your own life. When we are the cause of that pain we have the unique ability to punish ourselves, mind, body and soul. The truth is we allow ourselves to be punished. We make the choice to burden ourselves with guilt. We be-little our self worth and deem ourselves not worthy to be called upstanding human beings. The flip-side is we also have the choice to forgive ourselves, acknowledge our mistakes, take responsibility and then give ourselves a break. The failure with us is we tend to look outside of us to seek redemption. We look for other means or person to give us the OK and that all is forgiven and alright so we can let go of the past. Unfortunately there are no redemption tickets out there! Even if your victim or entity has expressed forgiveness, the road to your own...
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..."The forgiving state of mind is a magnetic power for attracting good." Catherine Ponder You will experience betrayal of one kind or another At some point in your life . At such times, when you are feeling hurt, anger, disappointment, guilt and a host of other negative emotions, forgiving may be the last thing on your mind. Yet, when you don't forgive, you harbour these negative emotions. They fester and can become even more dangerous to you than the original betrayal. These negative emotions create blocks which have a negative impact on every area of your life including your health and the level of success you achieve in life. However, when you understand the Law of Forgiveness ,you understand that forgiving is liberating and expansive. As...
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...has been a tremendous increase in research regarding intrapersonal forgiveness, but very little regarding self-forgiveness. The purpose of this article was to bring attention to the topic of self-forgiveness within this growing body of research. The definitions of self-forgiveness from many disciplines were reviewed along with what features of self-forgiveness differ from those of intrapersonal forgiveness emphasizing the need for an increase in empirical research on the subject matter. There are many unanswered questions regarding self-forgiveness. It is questioned if the true self-forgiveness yields the same result as pseudo self-forgiveness because both allow the person to feel better about them. While there is little research on the answer, it is doubtful because true forgiveness is built on self-evaluation and pseudo self-forgiveness is built on self despite. There is also a question of when self-forgiveness is appropriate. Many times a person blames his or herself for things that are not their fault. In this case should a person be told to learn to self-forgive? There are many questions regarding self-forgiveness that if given the time and research could be answered. Based on the little research available Hall and Fichman were able to develop a theoretical model of self-forgiveness to be used in future research. In this model the emotional, social, and offense related determinates of self-forgiveness where outlined and explained. The limitations of the model where then...
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...“Forgiveness is God’s command” (Martin Luther King Jr.). God says that every person deserves to be forgiven no matter what wrong they did, and every person should be quick to forgive. The action of forgiveness grows to become the major idea of the novel, The Shack, because Mack must forgive several important people in order to further his relationship with Christ. There are many cases throughout the novel where Mack must learn to forgive those who have hurt him deeply to better himself and his relationship. Research and multiple cases have continued to prove that forgiveness is a key aspect to maintaining a content life. William P. Young’s novel, The Shack, ties in this main goal of forgiveness and portrays the overall theme of forgiveness through the actions of Mack forgiving God, his father, and Missy’s killer. To begin, forgiving someone who caused severe pain and hurt can be hard, but it is definitely not impossible. Nearly every person in the world has been hurt...
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...Abstract The nature of forgiveness is often misunderstood and misinterpreted. After experiencing organizational damage, trauma, or injustice, one challenge facing leaders is to help the organization heal, restore positive energy, and enhance resiliency. Fostering forgiveness is one effective mechanism for achieving those outcomes. This paper illustrates how justice and forgiveness was analyzed within my workforce and implications established to eliminate the issue from reoccurring. Primary focus will be on interpreting the problem from the perspective of self-responsibility. Keywords: workplace, justice, forgiveness, self-responsibility, accountability, ownership. Justice and Forgiveness in the Workplace Socialization and positive chemistry amongst individuals of any given company is desired yet not always attained. Having a work environment in where most individuals get along not only makes it a suitable environment to work in but also an enjoyable one to be a part of. However, in order to portray such healthy environment one must first analyze the individuals that make up such environment and ask are they here for the betterment of the company or are they just here for a paycheck? This paper discusses the importance of self-responsibility and exemplifies the power of justice and forgiveness. Issue at Hand Within the past, couple months my company had been going through many unforeseen changes. Due to the unsolicited changes, employees’ morale and spirits had...
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...In a perfect Utopia world, humans are born without flaws and live in a perfect world. How awesome would it be to live in a place where no hurt is present and forgiveness is unnecessary? Sounds like Heaven right? However, the act to forgive is one of the most challenging aspects of human life. It is difficult to display the act of forgiveness, especially when pain and pride is at the center of one’s heart. Often times, this act can be taken as weakness rather than strength. The Merriam- Webster definition for forgive is “to stop feeling angry or resentful toward an individual for an offense, flaw, or mistake”. This Journal Article Review will discuss intervention studies on forgiveness and obtain the following sections: summary, reflection, and application. It will also highlight forgiveness case studies and define forgiveness according to findings within the research analysis. The quote “Forgive, but never forget” is an oxymoron...
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...This form of forgiveness is a business transaction that involves a creditor absolving the debtor from paying back a debt. Dictionary.com defines this aspects of forgiveness as a financial pardoning of debts: “To give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.) (Dictionary.com para.2). In this manner, forgiveness has nothing to do with an emotional pardon, but it is more related to relieving a financial burden of a debt by the creditor. For instance, a banking institution has given a loan to a local business, which has failed to successfully pay back the loan. Due to a bad economy, the government may allow the business to declare bankruptcy, which would forgive the individual owner(s) of the business for not paying back the loan. Under these dire circumstances, the government and the bank may forgive the loan (and the recurring interest that ahs been accruing on the loan) due to the impossibility of the debtor paying back the loan. This is an important interpretation of forgiveness, since it is often utilized in business or financial language as a way to relieve the debt of an individual. This is why the word ‘forgive” is primarily asking the creditor to “give up all claims” on the debt in order to resolve an extremely difficult...
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