...Tahmina Ahmed Professor Cammilleri English 201 19 march, 2013 “Forgiveness is not forgetting an injustice done; it is the understanding that allows us to set aside the emotional impact of that injustice pertaining to ourselves. When we no longer hold those emotions, and have understanding for the person, we forgave them “(singer). In other words, this quote means being able to forgive a person actually allow the person forgiving to begin the healing process, but this does not mean that the person forget what damage it has caused them. In psychology, “forgiveness is a process that involves the change in emotions and attitudes regarding the offender.” This definition of forgiveness points out that forgiveness is a personal choice and is not dependent on the person who is receiving this forgiveness. You can forgive and move on with your life to be happy but not forget. In the short story “Forgiveness” by Rebecca Brown, the protagonist does not forgive her mate for taking advantage of her to an extent where she is completely broken. I personally believe in all circumstances, in order for one to be truly happy in life, it is critical to forgive but never forget. In the short story “Forgiveness” the lead character says “when I said I’d give my right arm for you, I didn’t think you would ask me for it, but you did. You said, give it to me. And I said okay” (brown 1). With the use of metaphors and symbolization, Brown illustrates to the reader of a visual picture...
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...Not holding grudges on the people that have wronged you, but instead forgive them is a crucial, aspect of life. In Langston Hughes’ short story, “Thank You Ma’am” he shows the importance of mercy through his two main characters, Roger, a young poverty-stricken boy, and Ms. Luella Bates Washington Jones a large compassionate woman. In the beginning of the literary work, the author wrote that Roger snuck up on Mrs. Jones and attempted to steal her pocketbook, but his mission failed when the wide women simply turned and gave him a kick in his jean’s sitter. However, she later forgives the vulnerable boy’s actions and takes him to her house where Luella would feed and care for him. Although forgiving one another can be extremely tough, “Thank you, Ma’am” demonstrates the practice of forgiving people out of their kindness of your heart, even if they have harmed you. Furthermore, in Langston’s work, he stresses the significance of being compassionate through the protagonist, Mrs. Luella Bates Washington Jones. After almost having her pocketbook stolen, she puts herself in Roger’s shoes and feels sympathy for Roger, which...
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...the topic of forgiveness Chasity Webster PSY 400 Martin Methodist College Forgiveness is one of the most compassionate things that we can do for one another. The term is greatly misinterpreted and because of this it is not often given in the truest sense of the word. Forgiveness requires finding and feeling compassion and then being able to let go of anxiety, anger and yearning for revenge. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. In an article reviewing compassion, the authors define compassion as the feeling that arises in witnessing another’s suffering and that motivates a subsequent desire to help. The definition theorizes compassion as an affective state defined by a specific independent feeling, and it differs from treatment of compassion as an attitude (Goetz & et. al 2010). According to Webster’s Third Edition, to forgive is to cease to feel resentment against, on accord of wrong committed, to give up claim to requital from or retribution upon an offender, to absolve; pardon. Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting...
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...by all to becoming the rebellious young girl she is. As she became older that bad side ultimately matured her overall personality and made her see what was wrong, as she was in disbelief that she did such things. “ After the death of Neda Baba- Levy, my life took a new turn. In 1984 I was fourteen and a rebel. Nothing scared me more”(p. 145) She began to switch what was wrong into right and she represented that through her innocence, as she began to see that perceiving an image of herself playing as a rebel and torture was very wrong. When she began to see how others are also doing the wrong actions and seriously impacting others around them, it was hard to “forgive’ for Marjane. “ Bad people are dangerous, but forgiving them is, too” this quote signifies that forgiving is not going to make the bad guy better, rather give them more opportunities to be worse. She is reminded by all the bad things occurring and caused by the new Islamic Republic and begins to contradict the forgiveness given to the...
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...FORGIVE and YOU WILL BE FORGIVEN. Without forgiveness, there is no growth, and without growing, there is no learning, and without learning, we do not ever mature. One should not forgive everything. A balanced perspective on forgiveness would suit best, for not all things can be easily forgiven. One can forgive when the other is expressing true remorse for his deed as long as his deed does not surpass the reasonable boundaries of forgiveness. Forgiveness should stop when the deed (done with intention) constantly and permanently alters your trust in that person. Forgiveness shall not be granted to the one who commits murder, rape and other abominable deeds.Do you believe you could and should forgive someone for killing a family member? For rape? For wide-scale massacre? Just something to think about. I'd like to try and give you some thoughts, but it would be easier if I knew exactly what your thoughts were. If you are encouraged to write in first person and make it really personal, maybe you could work in a story from your life where you forgave someone, or where someone forgave you, and how that affected things? Forgiveness is needed to put the past into the past. To remove yourself from a frame of mind that holds you back. Only in forgiveness do you free yourself from the shackles of another person's wrong actions. To forgive, you must first accept your responsibility for provoking the other person, intended or not. However, the act was not totally yours, thus you must...
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...Gunny sacking is when someone brings up old conflicts, problems, and issues from the past in order to use it against someone else. (It is really quite clever, like pulling ammo out of a bag to use against someone.) I feel like I have a particular problem with gunny sacking. I tend to subconsciously use it at very opportune moments and I honestly do not realize I am doing it. I feel like I do this a lot because when something happens I tend to bottle up my emotions about a problem or an issue. I will briefly talk with my partner about the problem and then I want to immediately jump to forgiving and forgetting. I just want to put it behind me without actually talking it through and coming to terms with it. I just want it to be better. I am very guilty of trying to avoid conflicts as much as possible, and trying to be one of the most agreeable people in the world. So as little conflicts build, as bigger conflicts are pushed off, I eventually explode and throw everything out there at once. This is especially stressful and emotional for my partner because he always assumes that those are taken care of done with, but clearly when I freak out and bring them up, they are not. This just makes him more angry and the conflict we were fighting about gets worse. I have recognized the fact that I am very guilty of this and have been really trying to work with myself on it. My partner has been an amazing support for my improvement and I feel like we are communicating a lot better now...
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...Ephesians 1:7- REDEMPTION, FORGIVENESS 1:11- INHERITANCE 1:22-23-CHURCH 2:1-DEAD 2:4-MERCY 2:8-9- GRACE,FAITH 3:18-19-LOVE 4:4-6-BODY 4:15-LOVE 4:26-ANGRY 4:32-FORGIVING Philippians 1:21-GAIN 1:23- CHRIST 2:4-INTEREST 2:5-ATTITUDE 2:8-CROSS 2:14-GRUMBLING 3:8 LOST 3:13-FORGETTING 3:20-CITIZENSHIP 4:4 REJOICE,REJOICE 4:6-CAREFUL 4:11-CONTENT Colossians 2:9-DEITY 2:12-BAPTISM 2:13-DEAD 3:1-ABOVE 3:9-LIE 3:14-LOVE 3:16-SINGING Philemon 5-LOVE 10-ONESIMUS 18-ACCOUNT 1 Thessalonians 4:3-FORNICATION 4:14- ASLEEP 4:15-COMING 4:16-SHOUT 4:17-CLOUDS 5:2-THEIF 5:17-PRAY 5:18-THANKS 2 Thessalonians 1:8 VINGence 3:6 withdraw 3:10 EAT Hebrews 1:2-SON 2:1 drift 3:12 UNBELIEVING 4:15 TEMPTED 5:12 TEACHERS 7:22 COVENANT 8:8 COVENANT 9:12 BLOOD 9:27 JUDGEMENT 10:4 BULLS and GOATS 11:1 FAITH 12:1 ENDURANCE 13:4 MARRIAGE James 1:2-3 TRAILS 2:17 WORKS 2:24 FAITH 3:5 TONGUE 4:14 MIST 5:16 PRAYER 1 Peter 1:15 HOLY, HOLY 2:9 PEOPLE 3:12 RIGHTEOUS 4:8 LOVING 5:7 ANXIETIES 2Peter 1:3 ALL 2:20-22 LAST,DOG 30:10 THIEF 1john 1:7 CLEANSEs 2:2 PROPITIATION 2:15 LOVE 3:18 DEED,TRUTH 4:20 LIAR 5:13 KNOW 2John v. 9 GOD 3john v. 9 FIRST Jude v. 24 BLAMELESS Revelation 1:7 clouds 2:4 FIRST LOVE 2:10 DEATH 3:15-16 LUKEWARM 20:11-15 JUDGE, BOOK OF LIFE 21:1-4 BRIDE, HUSBAND,TEAR,EYES,DEATH 22:7 BLESSED 22:18 ADDS 22:19...
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...that sometimes that’s just not good enough. I am from learning who my true friends are because they are the ones that were there for me when I truly needed them. I am from to many fights to count with my sister to finding out that she understands me more than anyone else can. I am from losing many family members to diseases I still don’t understand. I am from missing my long hot summers where I didn’t have a care in the world. I am from sharing uncontrollable laughs with my friends when we’ve had to many sweets and monster energy drinks to count. I am from staying up till 4am. to play with legos just because me and my best friend found them in the closet. I am from keeping secrets to save people. I am from forgiving and forgetting because I miss the friendship we once had. I am from long naps on Saturday...
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...The Sunflower is a first person account of a Jew living in a concentration camp during the Holocaust confronted with the question, when such an atrocity has been committed is it possible for a person to forgive? Throughout Simon flashes between the present in the concentration camp, back to his recent past, even further to his time as a youth. Selected to work outside of the camp one day Simon and others were marched through the town. Along the way he noticed a graveyard for Nazi soldiers and above each grave, a sunflower, had been planted. Upon seeing this, he experienced envy for the soldiers who were still connected to “the living world”(Wiesenthal, 1998, p. 14). Simon indicated his desensitization to death, but upon seeing the graves with flowers and knowing when he died, he would be placed in an unmarked grave with no flowers to tie him to this world, he felt bitterness along with a small hope that he “would come across them again; that they were a symbol with a special meaning”(Wiesenthal, 1998, p. 15). Arriving to the work site, Simon is approached by a nurse inquiring if he was Jewish. Acknowledging this, she took him to a room that had been transformed into a sickroom for Karl, a dying SS soldier. Karl’s story began with his youth and Catholic upbringing and he joined the Hitler Youth and SS willingly. He then gave his account of the crime he committed and was so desperately seeking forgiveness for. Simon listened silently to the murder of more Jews and walked...
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...Living with the past? Should we forget or remember? A dilemma - to remember or to forget? To perhaps gain "closure" from some past physical or emotional trauma by confronting it or by letting it go? Which between "remembering" or "forgetting" creates more private or social well-being? Or is there a third option? Forgiving - and is this even considered? Which provides "health"? What is "health" - freedom from trauma, management of pain? Can a "country" be seen as suffering "ill health"? Can a nation be diagnosed "healthy" or in "ill-health"? Does a "collective memory" embody collective guilt or collective innocence or collective amnesia? Funder's “Stasiland” provides a relatively balanced but personalised analysis of the rise and then demise of East Germany after 1945 and from Communist occupation to re-unification and democracy. Most potently, Funder "records" the personal testimonies (memories) of how both the victims and perpetrators she interviews were affected by such sweeping changes. As a journalist, while she may bias our interpretation towards the victims of the "Stasi" she does not glibly provide simple answers, but she does perhaps re-emphasise both the dangers of forgetting and the dread of remembering the past – the tyranny and fascism of Nazi Germany and the East German totalitarian regime which supplanted it - "to remember or forget— which is healthier? To demolish or fence it off? To dig it up or leave it in the ground?” Chapter 5: The Linoleum Palace: Funder...
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...That makes forty-three" (Wilson, 1445). Troy responds, "Hank Aaron isn’t nobody" (Wilson, 1445). Cory provides successful African American Athletes to his dad to show his possibilities to achieve success. But Troy refuses to see it as it would make him accept his misfortune. He left stuck in his past. That prevents him to embrace happiness, and he is still wandering for something undefined and unknown. “When the sins of our fathers visit us, we can banish them with forgiveness” (Wilson, 1430). We should always try to transcend. Troy was a product of his past experiences which included his father who did not teach him violence instead of love. The mistake his father made in the past, he is making them in the present instead of forgetting them and forgiving...
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...depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, learned helplessness, and even ongoing resentment of the abuser. Out of many that suffer the emotional/psychological abuse, few seek treatment. There is little treatment recommended for this type of abuse as there is lack of evidence that any may work. Brief therapy is recommended with a focus on anger validation and interpersonal skill building, however, forgiveness therapy is a new form of treatment that focuses on forgiving an injustice and with helping with anxiety and depression as well as improving self-esteem (Reed & Enright, 2006, p.920). This therapy targets the ongoing resentment that can lead to the depression, anxiety, anger, and other psychological disparities (Reed & Enright, 2006,920). Forgiveness therapy gives an understanding to how unhealthy it is to hold on to the anger and the resentment. When offering forgiveness therapy as a form of treatment, the therapists must explain to them difference between forgiveness and condoning, excusing, or forgetting the acts of wrongdoing. Forgiveness is about promoting reclamation of valued personal qualities for women...
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...discrimination he felt and shares his mother’s reply. Wanting revenge and wanting to retaliate because of the horrible atrocities committed against his people, his mother provides words to change his views. His Seneca mother suggests “ Do not be so ignorant and stupid and inhuman as they are. Go to an elder and ask for the medicine that will turn you heart from bitterness to sweetness.”. She gives insight to never fall down to the same level as those who are committing evil unto you a statement in which I too believe in. Hobday believes that forgiveness and forgetness are together mainly since forgiveness is of the heart. He believe’s that he would be able to forgive Karl as well as have it for his own peace. Hobday finishes of with “ Forgiving is the real power” indicating that it takes strength and courage to get there but it is much better than resorting to...
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...Violence is the only effective weapon available to the people who are oppressed. How far do you agree or disagree? I personally do not agree that violence is the only effective weapon available to the oppressed people. It is not the only way for people to get their view across or secure their rights and justice. However, throughout the history of mankind, violence has been widely used as a method to gain control over a person or a group of people or a nation. Unfortunately, the present day media is also filled with news of violence. What exactly is violence? Violence can be described as an act of intentional harm to some individual or group. Violence can be physical, mental or sometimes even emotional. It disturbs peace and harmony in the society and slows down the overall development. Securing ownership over land and resources, power hungry leadership, extremism, racism, sociocultural differences, ethnic and caste conflicts are causes of violence. For example, the violence between the Indians and the Pakistanis over the land of Kashmir is motivated by the desire of securing land and resources. The conflict between the Israelis and Palestinians is driven by religious differences and extremism. There are constant fights between different tribes in many parts of Africa. These African tribal conflicts are usually motivated by ethnic and caste differences. Centuries prolonged conflicts between the "blacks" and the "whites" were the results of racism. There are still residues...
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...Abigail said the girls were not practicing witchcraft, Elizabeth blurts out, "John, if it were not Abigail that you must go to hurt, would you falter now? I think not." Elizabeth is confessing that she believes Proctor had an affair with Abigail. She is giving him no mercy by showing that she will never forget what happened. When Elizabeth is being accused of stabbing Abigail, she instructs Proctor to go to court, and tells him "Oh, John, bring me soon!" Elizabeth is gaining trust in John. She is forgetting his act of adultery and now has faith that he will defend her. At the end of the play, when Proctor is sentenced to death, Elizabeth says that "he [has] his goodness now. God forbid I take it from him!" Elizabeth is admitting that John was righteous to confess his sin of lechery, and she should have pardoned him. She considers herself impure for not showing mercy, and does not want to take away from his glory. Elizabeth has transformed from an ignorant victim of adultery, to a forgiving, loving wife. Reverend Hale arrives in Salem thinking that he will become a hero and rid Salem of the devil. Hale is speaking to the townspeople when he says, "Have no fear now--we shall find him out if he has come among us, and I mean to crush him utterly if he has shown his face!" Hale thinks that...
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