Foster home more than 3, serious physical abuse,
Age 7, in his room, sexual abuse, by foster father
Insecure, defensive
Bad neighbourhood, Southie
Event:
1) Talk with therapist at pond 2) Caught for assaulting police 3) Got girl’s number at bar 4) Met with professor
Obliged when therapist asked him not to smoke
Sat there and not talk
First time talked, talked about the girl,
Got laid before
Imperfections are what make each person
Reluctant to get out of Boston
Cynical view of rich people
Got stabbed, cigarette put on him,
Hide from true self – worked in MIT, sneak around, do other people’s formula and lie about it
Cannot answer the question “what you want to do?”
Afraid to express his love
Likes to look tough, drink, smoke, act cool, rebel against authority, swear a lot, never loved any girl, just want to be the classic cool American guy,
Afraid of the future, insecure
His friend seems more mature and understands the stakes behind, his friend more pragmatic than him and tried to persuade him
He is abandoned by the one that should love him the most, he hangs out with his retarded friend because they are loyal, he is defensive, he doesn’t want to get hurt again that’s why he tries to leave others before they have the chance to do that
Rebellious playful at the therapy session-> conflict -> obedient, reasonable -> even asking for more time
Wrench, stick, choose, hit by Foster Father
He wanted to prove he is better but he is afraid
Will broke down and cried and hugged the therapist, lowered his defence mechanism, shows his willingness to open up himself, Will has blamed himself and hated himself, therefore, the phrase “it is not your fault” touches his heart.
Will was hurt by his parents who left him, he wanted to revenge and asserted himself by hating the whole world, by saying that he is tough and does not need the love
Therapist had same experience with Will
Will didn’t want to have any connection to any people, except his mates, safe-zone for him
Therapist said “Good luck son”
Getting a car from his friend for his 21 birthday, sense of responsibility and power
Assaulting both a man who bullied him as a child and a police officer who attempts to break up the fight
Gave a note to the therapist
Will went for his girl

1. Old Support Group 2. Old identity 3. Old Identity completion 4. New environmental demands 5. Liminality 6. Activation 7. Agony 8. Numinosity 9. Accommodation 10. Ecstasy 11. Transcendence 12. New Identity 13. New Support Group 14. Identity Reinforcement