...Healthy grief Healthy Grief Elizabeth Garcia Grand Canyon University: Spirituality and Christian Values in Health Care and Wellness Dr. Sunshine Weeks May 4, 2012, 2012 Grief is a natural reaction to a loss that most humans experience at some point. Grief does not necessarily occur after the death of a loved one, but it can also occur after a diagnosis of an illness, a breakdown of a relationship, infertility, addiction, financial difficulties or job loss. These are examples of great magnitude stressors, and as a result, lead to an emotional response to trauma, and therefore, to live a duel. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who worked with terminally ill patients, providing comfort and support, developed a model known as "The five stages of grief." These stages are a very helpful tool to understand the stages that family members or either ourselves can go through when we live a duel, a perfect example that we can understand these stages is the story of the suffering of Job in the bible. In everyday life, people are experiencing losses like the loss of some friends who are going for personal reasons or death, loss of skills or habits, change of school, home, single life is lost, a divorce or separation, losses more severe than others. For each loss, the person experiences a process of suffering until the person reaches the acceptance that the lost thing or person are no longer with them. This process is called "duel" and as a process, it has...
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...Running head: STAGES OF GRIEF 1 Healthy Grieving: A Comparative Analysis Author Grand Canyon University: HLT 310 Summer 19, 2016 2 HEALTHY GRIEVING: A COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS Stages of Grief Introduction Here in this essay we examine the stages of grief as defined by the renowned thanatologist Elizabeth KüblerRoss. In conjunction with this review of grief we will consider the work of Nicholas Wollsterstorff in his epic Lament for a Son, written to express his still lingering grief at the loss of his son Eric, who tragically fell to his death while mountainclimbing at the age of 25. As we study the process of grief, one must bear in mind that for people suffering grief a range of emotions will come to the forefront"disbelief, sadness, anger, guilt, and selfreproach, panic, anxiety, loneliness, listlessness, and apathy, shock, yearning, numbness, depersonalization" (Bruce 2007) . Also, one must remember that grief is a natural response to losing a loved one. While looking at grief’s lingering effects, we will also discover how Wolsterstorff managed to find meaning, even joy, after the loss of his son. Stages of the Grieving Process All people experience grief and mourn at the loss of a loved oneit is a universal experience. To understand the grieving process better, it helps to focus on the five stages of grief as proposed by KüblerRoss in response to ...
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...Losing someone you love deeply can cause all kinds of difficult emotions. Grief is usually the natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering when someone you never expected will be lost forever was taken away from you. In the novel Stone Carvers by Jane Urquhart and the movie, Birdsong based from the novel by Sebastian Faulks, the protagonist both undergo grief during the Great War. Through all these sorrows, they both have similar ways to cope with their undergoing emotions. In coping with their repressed feelings, they need someone to open up their past and their wounds. When Eamon was declared missing in action at war, Klara Becker tried to hide her grief by isolation away from the society, ignoring every little being that...
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...difficult to live their life without their loved ones. Deaths of parents, siblings, friends, spouse or a child are some of the grief which can disturb an individual a lot (Sanders, 1980). Death is a natural part of the aging process and there is no way to prevent its occurrence. It is also important to note that grief has different implication on every individual. There are 5 stages of grief according to the Kubler-Ross model. First, is denial. When a person encounters some grief their thinking abilities freeze and they do not know how to react to the situation they have just found out. They usually try to deny the situation which has happened without acknowledging the fact that nothing can be changed. The person also denies discussing the situation about their loss. The second stage is anger. At this stage the person will be angry towards other people and blame them for the situation and the loss. The third stage is bargaining. This occurs quickly after the person acknowledges the death and tries to accommodate good things for the bad that has occurred.. The fourth stage is depression. The person becomes very lethargic and feels like they cannot live anymore, they sometimes lose weight, and life changes are known to occur in this phase. During this time, support is paramount to get through with this depressing time. The fifth and final stage of grief is acceptance and at this stage finally, the person gets the energy or courage to accept the loss. Once in this stage the person...
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...Running head: GRIEF, LOSS AND FINDING MEANING AND PURPOSE Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose Darren Pedro Grand Canyon University Psychology for Everyday Life PSY-100 Amanda Laster-Loftus May 21, 2014 Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose While dealing with death is never an easy process, knowing how to handle the grieving process could prove to be beneficial to you and those around you. How we deal with our loss will play our in various emotions. In this paper we will take a look at the emotion a person goes through when dealing with death, how a person deals with death in their own way, and finding the meaning and purpose of dealing with grief. Death is never an easy subject to approach. When a person loses a loved one, various emotions come into factor. These emotions trigger feelings which otherwise would not be compromised under normal circumstances. However, the various emotions that a person deals with assist them in the mourning process. There are different stages of emotions a person deals with after having lost a loved one. It is perfectly normal to have experience these emotions and should go through each stage of these emotions. It is believed the common stages of coping with death are as follow: shock and disbelief, sadness, guilt, anger, fear and physical symptoms (Smith & Segal, 2014, p. 1). According to the article done by M. Smith and J. Segal; these emotions are onset early stages in the grieving process. They also stated it...
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...The Journey of Greif In life grieving is a type of emotion that transpires when something traumatic happens. In everyone’s lifetime they will experience the emotion of grief at least once, if not more. In the book called the Wild, the main character Cheryl and I both share similarities, although there are many differences between us. As we both experienced our journey of grief, it was a long road for the both of us. In a person’s life that is grieving it is very difficult for them to see the bright side of things, or in another words to be optimistic. Although Cheryl and I both experienced a very difficult time in our lives, we both handled our situations very differently. “Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” In saying this, grieve can be one of those moments that take your breath away. It is by choice the way you cope with the cards that have been dealt for you! In the book Wild, the main character Cheryl experiences the death of her mother. Cheryl and her mother were very close all throughout her life, considering that her father was out of the picture at a young age. When Cheryl’s mother past away, Cheryl’s life shortly spiraled out of control. Cheryl and her family grew apart, and soon after that Cheryl’s marriage was destroyed. Cheryl and I share a few similarities in our journey of grieve. I lost my grandmother who I very close to and held dearly to my heart. I did not only consider her my grandmother, but...
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...Healthy Grief: Kubler-Ross Grieving Process and Stages of Grief Alice Verrett Grand Canyon University: HLT 310v June 16, 2013 Kubler-Ross Grieving Process and Stages of Grief We are examining the grief process and the stages of grief by evaluating and distinguishing differences, or similarities of Kubler-Ross, Job of the Bible, and Hinduism. We also looked at a connection and interplay linking joy, the grief process, and its stages we will also look at personal means of dealing with the grief process and whether or not it merits change. Kubler-Ross acknowledges; {People in some aspect of time in life will grieve over the loss of someone or something of importance in their lifetime.} We cannot forget about them. People will deny the grief process to avert pain but it will be much healthier for us to accept the loss as we journey through the grief process. Kubler-Ross says; “The grief process follows a normal sequence of deny, rage, trying to negotiate, a depressed state, and finally acquiescence”. (Kübler-Ross, 1969). Kubler-Ross five stages of grief: 1) Denial, 2) Anger, 3) Bargaining 4) Depression, 5) Acceptance.. A model proposed by Stroebe and Schut is also in place and utilized. The grief model used today is a two track process model. The first track looks at loss (separation distress), while the second track looks at re-establishment of means (the progression of opportunities in which to maintain living on one’s own). (Stroebe and...
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...Stages of Grief Human is made of different emotions. It is impossible to live social life without emotions inhuman. Human often identifies negative and positive emotions. Happiness, joy and laughter are considered as positive emotions where anger, grief and pain are consider as negative emotions. Sometimes we do not realize that negative emotions can also guide us towards positive event in life. In Lament for a son authors replications are similar with this theory. These great thinker studies the death of Eric by indirectly explaining the five stages of grief. Wolterstorff experiences the pain and finds that no one can take his son place, but it is up to living family members how they can agree on death reality. His argument shows journey of suffering father changed to acquiescent person who accepts that endless knowledge and thinks that almighty does everything for a reason and individual must accept to understand life in better way. Before understanding dilemma of Wolterstorff and his idea about anguish, it is significant to analyzed and recognize five stages of grief which are described by Ross in a book of Death and Dying. Every individual passes through thru grieving stages during their life time but it is might not happened in same order of stages as describe by Ross. In the beginning, death of close loved one creates misbelief from reality, which is considered as denial and isolation stage according author Ross. Knowing the truth that the reality will give them...
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...Stages of Grief There are five stages of grief that a person goes through when a loved one passes away. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, we all go through these at our own pace and in our own way. In the written “Lament for a Son” we will go through the journey of a father’s loss of his son and how he goes through the stages of grief (Wolterstorff, 1987). Denial and isolation is the first stage of grief, in lament for a son it does not specifically discuss that he goes through specific denial. Denial is the first reaction most people have when learning of the death of a loved one (Axelrod, 2014). A person will just hear part of what the person is saying when they are being informed that a loved one as died, especially in an untimely death such as the one we read about a 25 year old dying while mountain climbing. This is usually the most temporary stage. Anger is the second stage and this when reality usually sets in and the pain and intense emotions arise (Grand Canyon University, 2015). Sometimes the anger is directed and the one who died sometimes it is at us for not spending enough time with the person who passed away. Some of the anger that was discussed was with how people try to console you, when they say “it’s really not so bad” or “I know how you are feeling (Wolterstorff, 1987).” Death is really that bad and there is no way anyone could know how another person is feeling in their own grief. Bargaining is the third stage of grief; this is the...
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...Stags of Grief Grand Canyon University HLT-310V Spirituality in Health Care Xochitl Harris July 17, 2016 Stages of Grief In our lifetime at one point or another we will experience grief. We may grief a loss of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, a friendship. Grieving after a loss can come at anytime after the loss happened. Some times grieving may take some time to sink in. It may start six months after. Everyone grieves differently and at different times. A person has his or her own way of grieving and dealing with loss. Its important to understand the process of grieving. It will help understand what one is going through emotionally so that one can help someone going through this process. The five stages of grief are identified in this paper by analyzing the book “Lament for a Son” and how the author found joy after his loss (Wolterstorff, 1987). The author of this paper will also identify and explore the meaning and significance of death in the light of the Christian narrative, and how the hope of resurrection plays a role in comforting the author. Five Stages of Grief Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, the five stages of grief that one goes through after a loss significant to them are identified by Dr. Kubler-Ross. Every individual grief’s in his or her own way. There is no particular other to follow in the stages. One will experience one or the other, or may start all over again and repeat a stage. To grief is to come to terms with...
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...Supporting the Older Adult to Cope with Grief and Loss Grief and loss are inevitable experiences that affect the older adult. Grief is defined as “the emotional response to a loss or death” (Yancey & Hunter, 2014, p. 449). As adults age their friends gradually die, they may outlive older generations of their family, health may deteriorate, and abilities and independence may diminish. The loss of loved ones, health, and independence, among many other losses, can give rise to grief in the older adult. Grief is a natural response to loss. While some can adjust to the conditions of loss in others it can intensify to the point where the individual is unable to cope with the loss (Gibson, 2012). The inability to cope with grief can yield undesirable effects such as: depression, anxiety, insomnia, increased use of alcohol or drugs, and decreased social interaction (Potocky, 1993). This is why it is necessary for the nurse to facilitate the grieving process. Jean Watson’s theory contains relevant concepts that nurses can incorporate into their care of the older adult experiencing grief. Nurses can fulfill their role in facilitating the grief process through the application of therapeutic communication techniques in the appraisal of grief, by preventing isolation through social support, and promoting hope as a coping strategy. The use of therapeutic communication techniques will aid the nurse in making a valid appraisal of the patient’s grief. This involves assessing the value of the...
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...Parental Grief Also, sometimes a parent's love makes them unable to let go. I've seen so many parents put their needs above their infant's because they just can't bear to suffer the grief of losing a child. It's heartbreaking when you can see parents in total denial and you know that the end will come one way or another but they just can't accept it. I don't know if that's the case here or not, but it's certainly a possibility. Parental Grief The theme of parental mourning has been a universal one throughout the centuries. In the literature on bereavement, writers repeat certain themes, thoughts, and reflections; they talk of the powerful and often conflicting emotions involved in "the pain of grief and the spiral of mourning; [they refer to] the heartbreak at the heart of things...grief's contradictions"; they speak of parents devastated by grief (Moffat 1992, xxiii). It is frequently said that the grief of bereaved parents is the most intense grief known. When a child dies, parents feel that a part of them has died, that a vital and core part of them has been ripped away. Bereaved parents indeed do feel that the death of their child is "the ultimate deprivation" (Arnold and Gemma 1994, 40). The grief caused by their child's death is not only painful but profoundly disorienting-children are not supposed to die. These parents are forced to confront an extremely painful and stressful paradox; they are faced with a situation in which they must deal both with the grief caused...
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...Dee Adams October 5, 2014 PSY-100 Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, the term “grief” is defined as: a deep sadness caused especially by someone’s death; trouble or annoyance. In today’s culture and society, when we hear this term, it is often associated with the passing of a loved one. Though a very familiar terminology in culture and society, it is sometimes known but rarely understood. When it comes to the loss of a loved one or someone special in a person’s life, how one deals with and recovers from that is called the bereavement process. The approach to death and grief can be widely vast in the way a person reacts or expresses their grief during their rough time. Both grief and bereavement encompass a range of feelings from deep sadness to anger, and the process of adapting to a significant loss can vary dramatically from one person to another, depending on his or her background, beliefs, relationships to what was lost, and other factors. Grief is associated with feelings of sadness, guilt, regret, anger and so many others. The thought process during the grief process can also be challenging and difficult and can also range in its expression. Thoughts can vary from “there’s nothing I can do about it” to “it’s all my fault.” Grieving behaviors can shift from crying to laughter, and from sharing feelings to engaging silently in acts such as writing or exercising. One of the biggest issues associated with coping with...
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...Derek Cuthbert Psych 100 7/26/15 Sheia Dwyer Grief Essay In this paper I will discuss the five stages of grief which have been identified as: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (Kubler – Ross, 2014). The stages don’t always come in order and there is no specific time frame, which a person goes thru them (Kubler-Ross, 2014). Kubler Ross explains the five stages as follows: Denial which is usually the first stage, where the person can’t believe that it is happening to them. Anger person may become angry with themselves, family members, network or even God. Holding everyone responsible for their plight (Kubler-Ross, 2014). They begin to bargain/negotiate with God to allow me to make it thru this situation or allow me to stay around long enough to make sure my family will be safe (Kubler-Ross, 2014). They become depressed and despondent giving up hope as well as all sense of positivity (Kubler-Ross, 2014). The last and final stage is acceptance of their fate. They have made peace with God and their inner circle, most importantly with themselves (Kubler-Ross, 2014). Although the Kubler-Ross model is a process for dealing with death, she original wrote it as stages dealing with any form of major personal loss (Larry Menkes). All cultures handle death differently, In Switzerland they accept death as a part of life. They compare it with birth, as a process and people are allowed...
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...Healthy Grief in the Kübler-Ross Model, the Book of Job and Buddhism Grand Canyon University HLT-310V A loss of a loved one elicits the natural reaction of grief from human beings. Such a loss is a source of psychological and emotional trauma, especially when the friend or relative who passes away does so before the expected time in the “social clock (Myers, 2011, p. 184)”—the death of a child can cause a longer and more intense period of grief than the death of an older loved one. While grief is a natural response to lost relatives and friends, it is beneficial for an individual’s psychological and emotional well-being to transition away from a state of mourning without any long-term detrimental effects to one’s well-being. Healthy grief can be described as a manner of experiencing and expressing grief that allows for this smooth transition. Grief is largely a cultural phenomenon, with different practices and rituals that vary from culture to culture with regard to overcoming grief (Lehto & Stein, 2009, p. 29). This paper will look at some of these cultural variances, with the comparison and contrast in the views of grief among the modern Western world with the Kübler-Ross model, Western theological tradition in the Book of Job and the Eastern theological tradition, with the views of Buddhism on grief. The paper will also look at the conception and role of job in relation to grief in the three views of grief tackled by this paper. The Kübler-Ross model of grief is more...
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