Growing up, JG’s family has always been suspicious of his sexuality, often asking each other if they thought he was gay. I’ve known JG and his family since the sixth grade, and I was often pulled into these gossips, his family begging for more information that I frankly did not have. In the eighth grade, JG accepted the fact that he is attracted to other men. Partially joking, I asked if he just woke up one day and realized. “No,” he explained, “you always know, but you don't accept it until later.” JG has gone from meaningless hook-ups to currently entering his first ever relationship in a matter of two years, and although he is still uncertain about where marriage will fall in his future, he does seek long-term commitment and eventually, …show more content…
If asked, JG has no problem labeling himself as gay, as it is “easier to explain” considering he only has experience with men; however, he is “down to try stuff with a girl.” From seventeen until now (nineteen), JG has been ‘hooking-up’ with men from seventeen to thirty-three years of age. Hooking-up is a rather plastic term Paula England has been interested in and studying in college students(Dr. Charuvastra COD Lecture). JG uses the term ‘hooking-up’ to describe anything from making out to sex, and doesn’t see it necessary to have a friendship or commitment of any sort beforehand, although he appreciates “like, 10 minutes of conversation before, you know, getting down to business.” The only expectation JG has for a hook-up is that they both leave sexually satisfied. This differs vastly from most heterosexual hook-ups, however, as it is extremely likely that only the male would achieve orgasm, regardless of the type of sexual act, as men orgasm sometimes more than twice as much as their female partners (Dr. Charuvastra COD Lecture). JG assures me, however, that if he ever does hook-up with a woman, her orgasm would be “just as …show more content…
“I'm not opposed to it,” he admits, “but it's not, like, the biggest deal for me.” It appears as though many people are beginning to feel this way, considering 30% of the country(over the age of 18) is single and never has been married (Dr. Charuvastra COD Lecture). When asked about kids, I was truly shocked to find out he does want them someday. Many of the arguments against gay marriage is the fact that they cannot have children. Although it is true that they could not have a biological child together, that does not mean they cannot raise a child at all, as there are multiple other methods of obtaining a child. In 1990, three same-sex couples requested a marriage license in Hawaii and were denied. In 1993, the “Hawaii Supreme Court rules that there must be a compelling state interest” and so the case is reheard, with the testimony beginning three years later in 1996. In Hawaii's defense of heterosexual marriage, Eggebeen states, “Well, to me it’s the... the conclusion is clear that marriage represents a gateway to becoming a parent. When people get married, by an extraordinary margin they intend to become parents.” This is not always the case, as many heterosexual couples marry with no intention of having children, as well as gay couples marrying with the intentions of having a