...Sexuality Paper: Marriage Infidelity Abstract This paper will cover the topic of marital infidelity. In recent years divorce has gone over 50% and Christian divorce has grown closer to 57%. Why are there so many couples willing to throw in the towel? Adultery is the cause for many, certainly not all, divorces that occur in our country. There are many reasons why a spouse will choose to stray from the marriage, as well as many reasons for that the marriage should be worked on and saved. God has blessed us with marriage. God wanted us to have a “helper,” someone who could walk through this world with us. God wanted us to have somebody who we could share our joys with and somebody who could keep us focused on His purpose for our lives. Proverbs 6:32- Whoever commits adultery with a women lacks understanding, he who does so destroys his own soul. In the culture of current society the idea of marriages seems to be slipping into being a thing of the past. Monogamy within a marriage seems to losing ground even faster than the idea of marriage. This paper will be outlining the rise of infidelity and the role that society has had in not just looking the other way, but oftentimes praising the act as “human nature.” Is it possible to bring marriage back to its roots, and return the marital bed to one of loyalty, respect, and spiritual oneness? As Carder states, “What is most needed upon the revelation of an affair is compassion and understanding, not condemnation. That the...
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...is the issue of infidelity. It discusses the problems that arise from infidelity and touches on the reconciliation process that couples have to go through if they have a desire to stay in their marriage. Communication and forgiveness within the marriage is also discussed. Challenging Issues that Face Marriages Today Introduction In the world today, there are a lot of marriages going through some trying times. Parents have put their children first instead of their spouse which have created a barrier between the couple. Some families are dealing with extra effort children that require more time with them and put their spouse on the back burner. Financial burdens have been over whelming for some marriages causing stress, anger and even resentment. The issues that this research paper is going to explore are the challenges of cohabitation, infidelity, communication, and forgiveness. These issues seem to be an important part of marriages that are continually brought forth in many therapy, counseling, and laypersons offices. Premarital Cohabitation Couples will move in together before marriage for many reasons. These reasons include financial situations (fewer bills; mortgage, electricity, automobile expenses, etc.), beliefs that loving each other is enough and a piece of paper does not mean anything, or to “test” the waters. “60% of young adults believe living together before marriage will help with later marital happiness and stability”...
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...Saturday, June 16, 2007 Concubinage Meaning: Commonly refers to a relationship between a man (usually of higher social status) and a woman, where the man has an “official” wife, and possibly more than one concubine. Concubines had limited rights though any children are acknowledged, though their status is second to that of children born unto the “official” wife. Concubinage was usually an “exclusive” arrangement between two parties. Biblical: With the tolerance of polygamy, a concubine was only defined in terms of her disparity in position or rank with the principal wife. A legitimate spouse, of an inferior social grade or a bondwoman, is often given the appellation of concubine. This term did not invalidate her marriage, it did, however, indicate that she was not equal to her husband in rank, nor did she share in her husband’s property or in the administration of his household. From Genesis 21:9-14, we see that the dismissal of a concubine and of her children was permissible. Ancient Greece: Concubines were permitted in ancient Greece and their children were legitimate if recognized by their fathers. Roman Empire: A concubine was recognized by law in the absence of a legal wife. She was usually from a lower social rank than her husband, and her children, though not considered the equals of those of the legal wife (uxor) were nevertheless termed natural (naturales) to distinguish them from spurious offsprings (spurii). The father of these children was required...
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...Experiencing Relationship Difficulties? You, like many couples before you who walk through our door, may feel very stuck and pretty hopeless about your marriage or relationship. When you made a commitment to your partner, you never imagined that the two of you would ever have the kinds of emotional distance or conflict in your relationship or marriage that you are now experiencing. Amid these conflicts you may be asking yourself, have I made a mistake? It is a normal part of marital development to come to a place in the relationship where the dream of how you thought things would be, and the reality, do not match. Many people make one of three choices. They can leave, possibly trying to get it right with a different kind of person....
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...Dissonance is an uncomfortable feeling which people undergo after facing conflicting situation and which incite a drive to change the situation. It can also be considered as a lack of harmony between ones behavior in relation to their belief. Post-decision dissonance refers to a situation where people try to justify the decisions they made in the past mostly after been infringed on. This is because by making a choice to follow certain decisions they may experience disturbance for having left some other likeable decision. In this situation people and especially victims of harm tend to review whether certain decision they took towards perpetrators were the right decisions. It is a situation where people agonize over whether they made the right choice (Kowol, 2008). Various factors affect the amount of dissonance that may arise. The key factor that influences occurrence of post-decision dissonance is the magnitude of the situation at hand and the consequences that may result from it.If a situation is highly consequential there is a high likelihood of this dissonance occurring. Another factor that may affect the dissonance felt is the time taken to be decisive and come to a conclusion on one decision. The longer decision making on a situation is taken the more the dissonance. Difficulty in changing a decision once settled on is also another factor that affects the dissonance felt by an aggrieved person, the less difficult it is to reverse a decision the more the post-decision dissension...
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...fact that opinion polls indicate as many as ninety percent respondents reporting fights over money. Likewise over 34% couples indicated that money was one of the major problems. Alcohol and Substance Abuse Any form of substance abuse can put a terrible strain on a relationship as substance abuse is often followed with abusive behavior. Many people cannot put up with the addictive behavior of their partners and this causes divorce. Sexual Problems Improper and problematic attitudes towards sex also results in problems within the marriage and this is responsible for eventual divorce. Infidelity in particular has been responsible for breakdown of many relationships and marriages. Immaturity and Jealous Attitude Immaturity on part of one of the partners and placing excessive demands on the partner are also some of the causes of divorce. Violence The actual figures of marital strife, abuse and violence in marriage are not completely known but studies indicate...
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...handkerchief is extremely important to Othello because it was his mother’s and he tells Desdemona, “She, dying, gave it to me; And bid me, when my fate would have me wive, to give it her” (III. iv. 64). The handkerchief later in the play symbolizes Desdemona as a whole to him. More specifically it represents Desdemona’s chastity and faith to Othello. However, the physical reality of the handkerchief is different. Othello tells Desdemona that the handkerchief was woven by a two-hundred year old Sybil using silk from sacred worms and dye extracted from the hearts of mummified virgins. Othello also tells his wife the handkerchief is cursed; “But if she lost it or made a gift of it, my father’s eye should hold her loathed and his spirits should hunt after new fancies” (III. iv. 60). To Othello, the...
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...uses his lavish home to throw elaborate parties in hopes that one day Daisy will attend. One of the key elements in The Great Gatsby is the use of symbolism throughout the novel. The use of symbols can add a level of depth to a novel, as well as help the reader...
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...characters in Gatsby live in a time of corruption. Tom Buchanan’s infidelity, Nick Caraway’s fascination with the lifestyle of wealth, and Jay Gatsby’s idealism of riches are all a reflection of the lifestyle that the author, F. S. F. and his wife Zelda led in the roaring 20’s. Scott Fitzgerald and Zelda had had marital problems as well as Tom and Daisy Buchanan did. Like Tom, Fitzgerald had a mistress. Tom insisted that he “[wanted Nick] to meet [his] girl,” he did not care about how uncomfortable it would make Nick to meet the woman he was fooling around with (p 28). Tom and Daisy moved around multiple times similarly to Fitzgerald and his wife. Both couples lived in Chicago, but an incident caused the Buchanans to move up Northeast to New York. “They were careless people Tom and Daisy” just like Zelda and Scott, “they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back to their money or their vast carelessness, or whatever it was that kept them together and left other people to clean up the mess they had made.” (p 179) Always running from their problems, Tom and Daisy did not like facing the music. Along with Scott and Zelda, Tom and Daisy “had spent a year in France, for no particular reason, and then drifted here and there…” (p 10) The money that these two couples had caused them to be self-centered, out and about. Nick felt that modern people on the east coast had completely lost their values chasing after money. Nick felt that...
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...Pros & Cons of Annulment Vs. Divorce Last Updated: Aug 16, 2013 | By Mike Broemmel Reaching a juncture in your marital relationship at which you desire to dissolve the union with your spouse, you are likely to find yourself contemplating your options. Divorce certainly is an option available to you. In some states, you can obtain a legal separation. In all U.S. jurisdictions, annulment laws exist, as well. If you end up focusing on a divorce or an annulment, you need to weigh and balance the pros and cons of both proceedings. Function The primary function of a divorce is to terminate a valid marriage, according to "Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce" by Emily Doskow. The basic function of an annulment is to obtain a declaration that no valid marriage existed in the first place. Judges in both cases issue other orders to deal with issues like property division and custody of children. Benefits The benefits of both types of proceedings include leaving the parties free to remarry. Divorce and annulment also structure the legal relationship between the parties at the conclusion of the actual judicial proceedings, according to the American Bar Association Section of Family Law. Disadvantages A disadvantage of divorce is that obtaining this type of legal remedy may violate the tenants of your religion. Some religions significantly restrict an adherent's ability to continue involvement in formal activities. A disadvantage of annulment in many jurisdictions is that you cannot...
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...forced to work extremely hard for minimum pay, start a business or engage in illegal activities in order to secure wealth. The social stigma in the 1920’s was predicated on wealth. If you weren’t privileged to be born with wealth you weren’t socially accepted. Those who became wealthy by working or illegal activity still weren’t allowed to shake hands with high society; leaving the privileged in a league of their own. This novel remains a timeless piece do to the human behaviors in the 1920’s that can be seen almost 100 years later. For example social drinking, smoking, partying, infidelity, a division amongst economic backgrounds, lies, love, betrayal and death (Fitzgerald, 1925.) During the 1920’s which has been referred to as the jazz years, during an era when women were encouraged to marry men of power and wealth. Many became obsessed with money, material processions and the glamorous lifestyle in hopes to maintain a spot in high society. High socially partied and socially gathered with the likes of their own, invitation only affairs. Throwing expensive parties and dressing to impress; catering the best food possible, serving illegal alcohol throughout the night. Women were dressed in formal dresses with satin gloves and high heels, entering the party on the arm of their beau, who was also formally dressed in three piece suits, patent leather shoes, and handkerchief with matching hat. These festive events brought out the who’s, who of East Egg (Fitzgerald, 1925.) Adulterous...
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...ASSIGNMENT 02 NAME: Monica Schellingerhout PO BOX: PO Box 11979 Wierda Park South 0057 MODULE: MGG201W SEMESTER CODE: Year Module ASSIGNMENT NUMBER: 02 STUDENT NUMBER: 4396-359-5 ASSIGNMENT DATE: 2011-07-25 Contents 1 PART 1 3 1.1 PREMARITAL COUNSELLING 3 1.1.1 Definition of premarital counselling 3 1.1.2 Purpose of Premarital Counselling 3 1.1.3 Purpose of the Helper 4 1.1.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 4 1.1.5 Degree Of Structure Needed 5 1.1.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 5 1.2 MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT 7 1.2.1 Definition of Marriage Enrichment 7 1.2.2 Purpose of Marriage Enrichment Counselling 7 1.2.3 Purpose of the Helper 7 1.2.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 8 1.2.5 Degree of Structure needed 9 1.2.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 9 1.3 COUPLES COUNSELLING 11 1.3.1 Definition of Couples Counsellin 11 1.3.2 Purpose of Couples Counselling 11 1.3.3 Purpose of the Helper 12 1.3.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 12 1.3.5 Degree of Structure needed 13 1.3.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 14 1.4 DIVORCE COUNSELLING 16 1.4.1 Definition of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.2 Purpose of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.3 Purpose of the Helper 16 1.4.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 17 1.4.5 Degree of Structure...
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...The story Hosea was a reminder of an event in our congregation many years ago. The story is of a member who husband left her another woman and a life of pleasure. After many years of being separated, he returns very sick requiring much help and assistance. I watch this story from a distance and ask myself many times” how can she do it?” She went out of her way to make him comfortable giving him the best bedroom and preparing the right foods. She took him to every doctor appointment she took him and even staying at the hospital when he needed surgery. I wonder why she was not angry. One day I ask”, are you angry with him for what he has done to you and why now are you waiting on him”? Her answer causes me to question myself concerning my walk as a Christian. Her answer was “I am a Christian and I must be “Christ like” even toward those that hurt me such as my adultery husband”. Her smile and say “I was not always faithful either.” I said “enough said”. In the book of Hosea, we will be reading about the same situation. A person that has broken covenant with their God and were now is entertaining strange Gods. It is very difficult to describe how bad Israel’s spiritual condition had become by the time this book was recorded; I will just...
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...life was to enhance the sharp contrast in Fiona's behaviors as her Alzheimer's progressed. At first, Grant believed that her moments of forgetfulness were just that, but the occurrences became more drastic over time. The turning point that clearly demonstrated Fiona's Alzheimer development was her wandering across the forest in the freezing cold, where Grant had to drive around town to find her looking at the sights over a bridge far from home. This led to an official diagnosis of Fiona's Alzheimer's disease, and left them with the difficult challenge with what to do next. The option to admit Fiona in Meadowlakes Alzheimer's care center was strongly supported by Fiona herself, and Grant was resistant towards her placement after visiting the center. After mild deliberation, Grant gave in to Fiona's request and she was admitted...
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...Does the Divorce of Parents Harm Their Children? Each year the American society deals with divorce. Divorce introduces a massive change into children and adults life no matter what the age is. Divorce can be harmful to children if the parents continue to fight and argue and can never get along. Children can be made out to believe that the divorce between their parents was their fault or that they aren’t loved anymore. However, children can come out strong in divorce as long as their parents can be co-parents without conflict. Divorce in America now is more common than it was back in the 1960’s and 70’s. Many couples got divorced due to infidelity and abuse. Now, in this day and age, men and women get divorced due to their own personal happiness. Professor Tamara D. Afifi spoke on a TEDxTalk in 2012 and said that many children from families who divorced and fight have more trust issues and hurt more on the inside than from children whose parents get along and co-parent without conflict. (Afifi, 2012) Each year, over 1 million American children suffer the divorce of their parents; Half of American children born this year will witness divorce with their parents. Of that 50% another 50% will experience a second divorce. (Rector & Fagan, 2000) Many believe that divorce has a negative effect on children. Not only does it cause them to have trust issues and often have relationship difficulties later in life, but they tend to dwell on the divorce as their fault. Children of divorced...
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