...Marriage versus living together. Craig Moody ENC1101-12 Colin Lessig December 12, 2011 As a live in relationship I have done both and I know a live in relationship can retain as much or more love, permanency and stability then a lot of marriages. Really it depends on the couple in the relationship. You cannot honestly on a board bases say which is better for people that live together or married that are more committed. Some people would say that when you are not married that you have more freedom but you do not you have just as much freedom as if you were married. Others would say that there are two types of people living together; those that are engaged and living together for a brief time before marriage and those people that live together without definite plans of marriage. Some couples live together before marriage because they might have poor communication skills with each other, and do not want to spoil what they have which in turn could affect their relationship with one another. Marriage is the foundation for family in most modern societies. It is a contract arrangement that is binding two people together by law and is legally recognized would wide. Living together on the other hand, mimics the structure of marriage without the legal binding contract and also the exception of being legal. In some countries or states common law marriages are recognized, completely along with the legal ramifications in the event of dissolution or in some cases of an annulment...
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...Cohabitation versus Quality The Reasons of its Popularity Word Count Cohabitation versus Quality Sociology is an attempt to understand and explain the way that individuals and groups interact within a society. Considering the new age perspective, the purpose of my paper is to explain the newest trend in marriage and family, known as, cohabitation. I will define cohabitation, explain its sociological acceptance as a new norm, and the sociological effects on a quality relationship; these ideas will help to explain some of the reasons for its new found popularity as the new form of un-marriage. Cohabitation versus Quality Cohabitation is a very complex family structure. For about half of cohabiters, it is a relationship that lasts about 2 years and then ends, either through marriage or just termination. For others, it is a predecessor to marriage. Except for one tenth of these cohabiters, it is just a long-term relationship. Even though the majority of these relationships share many of the qualities of marriage, like sharing a residence and personal resources, monogamy, and, in a substantial number of cases, procreation; we know very little about the quality of cohabiting relationships compared with what we know about the quality of marital relations (Brown and Booth 1996). One of the most fascinating perspectives of relationships today is the new standard by which people relate. Traditionally, there was dating or courtship and then marriage. No exceptions. Marriage is known...
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...Almost 40 percent of children will spend time in a cohabiting household by age 16. Living together is now common, but it is not without consequence—particularly for children. The effects of this family structure on children are just beginning to be understood. However, initial research by Brown and others suggests cohabitation is generally a less stable family structure than married couple or single-mother households. While there is some evidence that children in cohabiting households fare worse than those in married or single-parent families on several key indicators (Manning & Lamb, 2003), what is less clear is why. Do these negative outcomes stem from something inherent in the family structure? Or are these effects due to the types of parents who choose to cohabit (rather than to the experience of cohabitation itself)? How does living in a cohabiting household affect both children and adults? Impact on Children Development Spending extended time in cohabiting households at an early age is linked to slowed cognitive growth and language acquisition in children. Brown notes that even in stablecohabiting households, children show smaller gains in mental development. The Urban Institute finds children in cohabiting homes are also less likely to be read to than other children. Poverty Poverty is higher in cohabiting homes, around 23%. By contrast, the poverty rate for married couples is just 7%. Researcher Linda Waite of the University of Chicago confirms cohabiting households...
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...The Impact of Divorce on Children Destani Hill 201320 Spring 2013 PSYCH 231-B06 LUO March 10, 2013 Abstract Unfortunately divorce is at an all-time high around the world today and there aren’t any signs of it slowing. Numerous amount of stress can stem from divorce, not only for the couple involved but for the child or children involved as well. This paper reflects on the many different effects that divorce can have on children ages eighteen and under in the United States, as well as other countries. In comparison, studies show that there is usually an emotional disconnect involving children of divorced parents or ones whom have begun the long strenuous process. The emotional disconnect can cause children to act different in more ways than one such as; an academically, socially, and unfortunately can lead to relationship problems of their own one day. In contrast, studies are showing signs of improvement in the children of divorced parent but only if the parent seek proper guidance and focus on the security of the child’s feelings and emotions towards throughout the process. Keywords: divorce, children, emotional, social, academic, world, effects The Impact of Divorce on Children At a young age, I became the child of divorced parent, where my parents decided to go their separate ways due to irreconcilable differences. Fortunately, my parents were devoted to raising me together as they planned, just because they had the desire to be in other relationships they agreed...
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...I want to know when a couple comes in for treatment: Look for; 1) strengths in the marriage as well as 2) areas that need improvement. Assessment takes three sessions- a conjoint session that lasts an hour and a half, and two individual sessions, one with each spouse, each a half-hour long. Investigate 7 different questions; - Overall, where is each in the marriage? - Martial satisfaction - Divorce potential - Each person’s commitment to the marriage - Their hopes and expectations for the marriage (including potentially getting out of their marriage) - Their hopes, expectations and theory of the therapy - Their big cost/benefit analysis of the marriage. Discrepancies between spouses? - Pattern of emotional abuse? Therapist to confront this. - Marital Therapy Contraindicated? - An ongoing extramarital or disengagement? - Ongoing physical abuse? - Other betrayals? - What is the nature of their marital friendship? - Is there emotional engagement or disengagement? - Lifestyle needs similar or different? - Passion and romance in the marriage? - Sexual satisfaction and intimacy? - Fun? - Spiritual connection? - Loneliness - Parallel lives? - Other salient areas? (eg. Finances) - Positive affect? - The Fondness and Admiration System? - Phsycial affection - We-ness versus me-ness? - Cognitive room (Love Maps)? - How do they talk to each other in a nonconflict context? - What do they see as the strengths...
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...0736-9735/04/$12.00 DOI: 10.1037/0736-9735.21.3.353 THE UNEXPECTED LEGACY OF DIVORCE Report of a 25-Year Study Judith S. Wallerstein, PhD Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition and University of California, Berkeley Julia M. Lewis, PhD San Francisco State University This follow-up study of 131 children, who were 3–18 years old when their parents divorced in the early 1970s, marks the culmination of 25 years of research. The use of extensive clinical interviews allowed for exploration in great depth of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors as they negotiated childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, and adulthood. At the 25-year follow-up, a comparison group of their peers from the same community was added. Described in rich clinical detail, the findings highlight the unexpected gulf between growing up in intact versus divorced families, and the difficulties children of divorce encounter in achieving love, sexual intimacy, and commitment to marriage and parenthood. These findings have significant implications for new clinical and educational interventions. The study we report here begins with the first no-fault divorce legislation in the nation and tracks a group of 131 California children whose parents divorced in the early 1970s. They were seen at regular intervals over the 25-year span that followed. When we first met our young participants, they were between ages 3 and 18; by the mid- to late 1990s, when our study ended, they were 28–43...
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...Marriage Guidance – Summary MGG201W MGG201W – Marriage Guidance – facilitative couples counselling Theme ONE – Understanding couples Intimacy involves: love, affection and caring, deep attachment to another person. The TRIPOD of couple relationships An intimate relationship consists of three factors that form a tripod on which the relationship rests. 1. Passionate attraction (PA) 2. Mutual expectations (ME) 3. Personal intentions (PI) Passionate attractions (PA) → Individual experiences intensely pleasurable sensations when thinking about or being with a new partner. → Blushing, trembling, breathlessness, high sexual desire → Referred to as infatuation = passing love “a foolish and unreasoning love’ → Infatuation is not a realistic / accurate appraisal of the relationship / idealisation → Negative / flaws in the idealised beloved may be intellectually recognised, but disregarded as endearingly special. Person chooses to ignore the negatives → Normal phase in the process of relationships → Infatuation can lead to a lasting relationship – but it mostly fades away and relationship based on infatuation alone will fail. Love → Involves physical attraction - deeper → Love encompasses PA, ME and PI → People rely mostly on life experiences to guide them to their own unique way of demonstrating love. → Eric Fromm “love is active concern for the life and growth of the person we love” → Love is deep, unselfish, caring, deep respect Hauck’s basic principles about love • It is not just...
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...Introduction In mass media today, there are numerous gaps between reality and the information that is presented. Seemingly every current issue, whether it’s political, social or otherwise, is reported through so many different outlets and with so many different facts that it’s hard to grasp what the reality is. The role of media in democracy is to represent every perspective and to provide well-researched and accurate information to create an educated and involved society. Media’s representations impact our society’s perception and shared reality. The way media represents a certain topic creates a public perception. Because of media framing, they can show us certain sides of an issue or shine a light on one perspective while effectively dimming the light on another. Because of this, we create perceptions based off of information that may not be whole. With these perceptions, we begin to construct a social reality. Once this reality is created, it is difficult to change it even if we find contradicting information. Because of these reasons, the way media represents information is crucial. The issue that will be discussed in this paper is that of gay marriage, stereotypes of homosexuals, and the scientific side of homosexuality. The way media has represented this topic over the past 30 years has varied immensely. We’ve come a long way over the past couple decades and homosexuality is now widely discussed in all forms of media including news, television, advertisements, movies...
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...from the Marriage Project of the Institute for American Values. Maggie Gallagher, the principal investigator, is an affiliate scholar at the Institute and the director of its Marriage Project. The Institute is grateful to Amara Bachu, Douglas J. Besharov, Norval Glenn, Dana Mack, Steven L. Nock, and Maris Vinovskis for their scholarly and editorial suggestions, and to the William H. Donner Foundation for its generous financial support of this initiative. The contributions of other supporters are also greatly appreciated. On the cover: Maternity (1950) by Milton Avery. Oil on canvas, 32 X 46 inches. Collection of Sally M. Avery. ©1999, Milton Avery Trust/Artists Rights Society (ARS), New York, NY. © 1999, Institute for American Values. All rights reserved. No reproduction of the materials contained herein is permitted without the written permission of the Institute for American Values. ISBN 0-9659841-5-X Institute for American Values 1841 Broadway, Suite 211 New York, NY 10023 Tel: (212) 246-3942 Fax: (212) 541-6665 info@americanvalues.org www.americanvalues.org The Age of Unwed Mothers Is Teen Pregnancy the Problem? Executive Summary Why have three decades of intensive national effort to reduce teen pregnancy not been more successful? Largely because for three decades, we have framed the problem falsely. What we have called our “teen pregnancy” crisis is not really about teenagers. Nor is it really about pregnancy. It is about the decline of marriage. What has...
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...Conjugal versus Revisionist Marriage: The ongoing debate in the U.S. over what constitutes marriage. What is Marriage? Are there qualifiers for what relationships can be classified as marriages? This paper will examine the arguments for defining marriage through the lens of Western Moral Tradition. According to the U.S. Government marriage is define as, §7. Definition of “marriage” and “spouse” In determining the meaning of any Act of Congress, or of any ruling, regulation, or interpretation of the various administrative bureaus and agencies of the United States, the word “marriage” means only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife, and the word “spouse” refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife. (Added Pub. L. 104–199, §3(a), Sept. 21, 1996, 110 Stat. 2419.) Where does the official United States Federal definition stem from? The answer to that question is not a single source but a series of teachings handed down from Western society stemming, arguably going back to ancient Greece and ancient Jerusalem. The legal use of marriage is not just for religious purposes but also for tax, property rights, and child rearing. Recently, a cultural divide has invigorated a debate on redefining marriage to include same sex or non-traditional unions as marriages. The debate is largely two sides each defining the specifics of what marriage entails. The first is referred to as conjugal view and the latter is revisionist view. Conjugal...
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...Researches UNDERGRADUATE RESEARCH WORK THE EFFECT OF BROKEN HOMES ON SCIENCE EDUCATION STUDENTS (A case study of some selected secondary school in Sokoto south local government) BY MUSTAPHA ABDULHAMID 0711404245 BEING A PROJECT SUBMITTED IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF THE REQUIREMENT FOR THE AWARD OF BACHELOR’S DEGREE IN SCIENCE EDUCATION, EDUCATION CHEMISTRY, DEPARTMENT OF SCIENCE AND VOCATIONAL EDUCATION, FACULTY OF EDUCATION AND EXTENSION SERVICES USMANU DANFODIYO UNIVERSITY, SOKOTO. DECEMBER, 2011 . TABLE OF CONTENTS TITLE PAGE. i APPROVAL PAGE. ii DEDICATION.. iii ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS. iv TABLE OF CONTENTS. vii CHAPTER ONE INTRODUCTION 1.1 BACKGROUND OF THE STUDY. 2 1.2 STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM… 4 1.3 RESEARCH QUESTIONS. 5 1.4 RESEARCH HYPOTHESES. 6 1.5 OBJECTIVES OF THE STUDY. 6 1.6 SIGNIFICANCE OF THE STUDY. 7 1.7 SCOPE AND DELIMITATION OF THE STUDY. 8 CHAPTER TWO REVIEW OF RELATED LITERATURE 2.0 INTRODUCTION.. 9 2.1 CONCEPT OF HOME, SCIENCE STUDENTS AND EDUCATION.. 10 2.2 IMPORTANCE OF THE HOME. 13 2.3 NEEDS OF SCIENCE STUDENTS AS CHILDREN.. 15 2.4 THE ROLE OF HOME IN SCIENCE STUDENTS EDUCATION.. 18 2.5 BROKEN HOMES. 19 2.6 INFLUENCE OF BROKEN HOME ON ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENT OF SCIENCESTUDENTS 20 2.7 CONCLUSION.. 24 CHAPTER THREE RESEARCH METHODOLOGY 3.1 INTRODUCTION.. 25 3.2 RESEARCH DESIGN.. 25 3.3 POPULATION OF THE STUDY. 26 3.4 SAMPLE AND SAMPLING TECHNIQUES. 28 3.5 INSTRUMENTATION.. 28 3.5.1 VALIDITY OF INSTRUMENT. 29 3.5.2 RELIABILITY OF INSTUMENT. 29 3.6 METHOD OF...
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...CHAPTER 1 THE PROBLEM AND ITS BACKGROUND INTRODUCTION Marriage is one of the deepest and most complex involvements of human relationships. It is a corner stone of society and a very necessary part of the social system. It is a crucial and sacred bond between two personalities merging into one for ideas, attitudes, habits and likes and dislikes. In Philippines marriage is considered a lifelong partnership. It is the foundation stone on which the family is built. Basically marriage is a social and legal contract. People marry great number of reasons- personal or social. Usually they have a certain preconceived notions about the kind of person they would like to marry. The large percentage of separation each year, non-marital pregnancies and premarital cohabitation have all dramatically changed the traditional family structure (Amato et.al, 2003). Millions of children are no longer being raised in nuclear families. The institution of marriage, the backbone of society, appears to be under threat. Marriage has, despite demographic and political shifts, significant value for the individual, families and the society (Nock, 2005). When looking at marriage as an institution, as opposed to a free-standing concept, marriage represents socially sanctioned behavior. Marriage embraces traditionally virtuous, legal and predictable assumptions concerning what is moral and what is proper (Nock, 2005). Through marriage an individual is transformed; they are perceived and treated differently...
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...Department of Justice Ministère de la Justice Canada Canada WORKING DOCUMENT THE EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN A Selected Literature Review Research and Statistics Division October 1997 WD1998-2e UNEDITED Research and Statistics Division/ Division de la recherche et de la statistique Policy Sector/ Secteur des politiques WORKING DOCUMENT THE EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN A Selected Literature Review Research and Statistics Division October 1997 WD1998-2e UNEDITED The views expressed in this paper do not necessarily reflect those of the Department of Justice Canada. iii TABLE OF CONTENTS 1.0 INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................... 1 2.0 LIMITATIONS OF THE RESEARCH .............................................................. 3 3.0 FACTORS AFFECTING CHILDREN’S POSTDIVORCE ADJUSTMENT ................. 6 3.1 Child Characteristics............................................................................ 6 3.1.1 Gender ................................................................................. 6 3.1.2 Age at Divorce ....................................................................... 8 3.2 Family Characteristics.......................................................................... 9 3.2.1 Socio-economic Status .............................................................. 9 3.2.2 Ethno-cultural Background...................................................
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... The answer to the first question (uniqueness) is yes, and the answer to the second question (superiority) is yes and no. To understand how online dating fundamentally differs from conventional offline dating and the circumstances under which online dating promotes better romantic outcomes than conventional offline dating, we consider the three major services online dating sites offer: access, communication, and matching. Access refers to users’ exposure to and opportunity to evaluate potential romantic partners they are otherwise unlikely to encounter. Communication refers to users’ opportunity to use various forms of computer-mediated communication (CMC) to interact with specific potential partners through the dating site before meeting face-to-face. Matching refers to a site’s use of a mathematical algorithm to select potential partners for users. Regarding the uniqueness question,...
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...this global world (Waldman & Rubalcava, 2005). Furthermore, Globalization has brought about intercultural marriage. In today’s world intercultural marriage is inevitable, therefore potential and existing couples are more likely than not to encounter intercultural differences and intercultural shocks such as divorce (Tallman & Hsiao, 2004) Globalization wise intercultural marriages are vital. They create a new wave of culture called the third culture (Casmir, 1993). Intimacy between persons of diverse cultures is becoming a common phenomenon lately, and has led to an upsurge in intercultural marriages, (Waldman & Rubalcava, 2005; Frame, 2004). There are degrees of differences in marriage including intercultural relationships or marriages. When you meet someone for the first time, you see them; you talk to them, so the first important question is, ‘Do we look alike or the same? Furthermore, you talk to them, so the subsequent question you ask yourself is ‘Do we speak the same language or different language? Do we speak with the same accent or different accents? Do we use the same vocabulary or different vocabulary? (Anon. 2014). Furthermore, another important third question is ‘Do we exhibit the same manners because different cultures place emphasis on different aspects of mannerism, and lastly, ‘do we think alike, that is, do we have the same ethics? Believe in the same religion? What are our shared values? What are the moral common...
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