Should you require the Ninety day rule of your man? Yes. Of course, I believe a woman should require certain rules for a possible relationship. Just to define respect –is to hold one in esteem. Respect denotes both positive feeling of esteem for person. A woman should have certain standards from the beginning because she has no knowledge or history of this particular man. First and foremost my man would have to prove that hardworking, able to keep a job and is a breadwinner in order to be in a worthy relationship with me. This would be the beginning stage before we could move any further. If he proves that he is capable of meeting the requirements, then we can start a relationship. My man would have to have benefits because it doesn’t do a woman any good to get someone in the same state that she’s in. It would only lead to disaster depending on how ambitious that man is toward the relationship and what he desire for the future. My man would definitely have to meet the challenge in order to prove or show me that he is serious. Another aspect is if my man is faithful and on time for his job to receive the promised benefits. Then I know he would definitely prove that he is up for the challenge and will not stop until he has attained the reward which is “me”. Speaking from a woman’s perspective, you have to demand respect. You can’t lower your standards because it would make a man challenge easier and he wouldn’t put up the effort because he know that the benefits with you are just a breeze. Nothing in life is free. So until proven differently there should be no cooking, introducing of parents until you truly get to know him. Last, there shouldn’t be any sex period. Again, the ninety day rule is definitely a great rule because men are so clever today. Today’s men do what it takes to get you but aren’t willing to do what it takes to keep you. So as women, we have to be wise and put the man up for a challenge. Anything that any individual desire or want, he/she invest time, effort and more time into it. A woman should never unleash everything about herself unto a man until she knows the potential to go further. While reading the Chapter I recall Steve Harvey saying he had to work ninety days before he’d cover his health benefits. Many times that where women go wrong, they provide the man with benefits before he earns it. A woman shouldn’t provide a man with any special benefits until he’s been proven worthy, hardworking and able to provide for more than just himself. In A ninety day period, a woman can get a chance to do a background check and to see what was his previous job status and previous relationship. A famous quote by Jennifer Simmons “A woman is not to sail out on a ship until she knows exactly who she’s sailing away with”. A man would have to show me that he’s serious and ready for the challenge that the relationship makes take him too. My man has to be romantic, perky, and full of surprises. It’s really simple, my man would have hardworking. This particular guy would have to know how to wine and dine with the absence of sex. Preferably, flowers, rose’s chocolate and so much more. Sex would be far away from the equation. I strongly believe that if you hold off on sex, it would strengthen the relationship and make it more meaningful. Until then, my man would have to prove that he’s the man he has presented himself to be. We could go out to dinner but no benefits would be involved. However, down through the years, I learned that just because a man is currently on a job doesn’t mean that he’s committed to what he does. On contrary, he could just be on the job just for the benefits and not committed. It’s possible that, he could have gotten a job to impress you because he familiar with your status, realizing that he wouldn’t stand a chance unless he was somewhat compatible or a higher status. I don’t believe in giving the benefits so quickly not even in ninety days. Another passage I must agree with is if a guy gets sex earlier on in the relationship, it lessens his work of proving his self, he’ll eventually leave you and move on; find another woman that didn’t lower her standards. As a result the other woman would have succeeded because she took the time to find out about him. As a woman, I agree, you must lay out your rules form the very beginning. This would foretell if your man wasn’t in the relationship for the long hall but just in it for sex. If a man wanted to be with me, I would be straightforward from the beginning. In doing so, that man would know you are unique jewel and not a toy to be thrown around. As Steve Harvey said a man who is willing to put in the time and meet the requirements, is more likely to stick around because this guy isn’t into playing games but willing to do what it takes to stay with you. As I said earlier, ninety days is a great method to use for potential relationship. The way to determine if your man is the one, watch how he reacts to friends, family, children or expression when he sees you. These will be an important signal that stands out and determine if you want to be in a committed relationship. As a woman it’s you right to get the man of your dreams and just not settle for the everyday norms in men. If the man doesn’t meet the qualifications for the benefits, make him qualify. If your man has met the requirement, if you’re satisfied then it safe to cater to him. As Steve Harvey said then you man can pass the benefits out at the picnic like sandwiches. There are other ways of finding out if he’s that man for you by the way he responds to you when you have a problem. For example, if your vehicle broke down and you don’t have the means to have it repaired. If your man says Ok we’ll figure something out. It proves that he has a concern for your problem and will assist you in how you can get your car fixed. As Steve Harvey stated real men extend themselves to the person they care about. If you have a problem or situation and your man doesn’t extend himself to make things better, he definitely isn’t the man of your dreams nor the man destined for your benefits. Another thing that will help you to determine this is the right man for you. See how your man reacts under pressure? For example, If you are being stalked by an old boyfriend I a past relationship. Once you discuss it with your man, a benefit worthy man would immediately launch to see what he can do to fix it or make you feel safer. A second aspect to see if this is your man, See how he reacts to bad news. For example, if you lose your mother. He is man that plans on being with you in the future. He would do all that’s in his power to comfort and help you in the time bereavement. If he doesn’t respond with some type of solution, he has no right to your benefits. A man who is worthy of the benefits will be there for you no matter how bad the situation comes along. Simple things like providing you with groceries, helping on bills and making sure you are happy dictates whether he’s committed and ready to take the relationship to the next level. The final aspect of the whole chapter is that if you and your man have dated almost ninety days or longer. You and you’re man just returned from dinner and he asks you to have sex. If your reply is No. The way he responds will tell you what his alternate motive for being in the relationship. If he say, sweetheart that ok, I can wait until you are ready. He has just proved that he is a man worthy of the benefits because he is willing to wait. On the other hand, if your man stop the surprises gifts and roses slowly. Your man wasn’t in the relationship for what he could contribute but in the relationship for what he could benefit from it. In conclusion, ninety days can seem like a very long time. In reference to (pg.159) find things that you and your man have in common. Host a super bowl party and invite him over to meet your family and friends. If he’s genuine about you, he’s going to be excited to meet your people. Other suggestions go to church function together. This will give you insight about your man’s religious preference. This will let you know if you two are compatible spiritual beliefs. Also, try new things and see if he would be interested. This will determine if Your man is the one.