La vaca
One of the things that impact me the most when i was reading this book was describing me in some aspects of my life. I have always lived with some thoughts that have limited my life in certain way.
As the book said, the mediocrity and conformism always give us the bad idea that we cannot be better than we are now. And in some cases we have to face some rude situation, like the family of the book that lost the cow, to reorganize our thoughts and ideas in order to be different and reach different goals
The book said that the limitations are created by ourselves, and that is totally true, and I speak by myself. At the time I read this quote I was imagine myself nowadays in the university, the way I suffer every time that I have to make a presentation in front of my classmates, it is so hard, but now after I read this I realized that it is a vaca that I was feeding since I was a kid and I have to take the decision to kill it
One aspect that I want to take into account and also to add to this great book is the felling to be less than others. It is a big cow in my life and this book showed the way how to overcome it. I always had the feeling that everyone around me is better than me at the time to speak in English, I can imagine all the words and phrases in my mind, but at the time that I have to speak and my classmates stare at me I panic and I start to think that I am not good enough to do what I have to do; I remember a lot of opportunities that I lost because of my fear to do something…..but that was until today..
This book presents us different kind of vacas that can be affecting our lives, I just added one that was affecting my life. One of the greatest are the excuses that we create when we think that we are not able to do something. Excuses are part of our daily life, because we let it to be.
I have lost, and I continue talking about my own experience, a lot of opportunities in my life because I let the vacas controlled my destiny. There was I time that I was unemployed and I was looking for a job everywhere. I assisted to a lot of job fairs but I always passed the ones that require certain level in English, I never found a job in a job fair because of that.
The vaca number two, which to me was really interesting was that we do not see the reality of things. This is very common in a couple, mostly in women that have lived always with an aggressor. They refuse to see what is going wrong, believing in a sudden change of their husband, phrases like “he is the love of my life”, “I can live without him”, “my life will not be the same” are very common in this cases. One of the things that I learn of this vaca is that happiness do not depend of others, you create your own destiny and happiness depend of you not of everyone else.
Vaca number three that we can find in this book is fear; in my opinion it is closely related with excuses because when we have fear we use excuses to not face the situation. Just like I used to do. Fear to do something and fear to be rejected for someone. When I was younger I lost the opportunity with a lot of women because I was afraid to be rejected and later on I realize that she felt the same way to me but it was too late. This is a funny story but it is true and is closely related to fear. I could spent four hours sitting beside a woman in a bus trip, and I preferred to listen music instead of say hi to her.
Justifications are the vaca number four that we can find, people use justifications in order to avoid responsibilities, I used to use justifications and there are big problem when justification become in a daily bread in our lives.
There is interesting to read how this vacas mark our lives since we are kids, in sometimes limitations are imposed by the society or our families. In some cases the way we grew up is the one that determine our destiny. Most of the people believe that is they come from a humble or poor family that is the way that they have to live their entire live. We are the ones that established the limits of our lives and the ones that have to break that paradigm.
Finally I want to add another interesting quote that I find very interesting: “our future does not have to equal to our past.” Totally true and is a true that since now I going to apply in my life. It is going to be difficult but nothing is easy in this live and I sure that before Seminario II my presentations fear is going to be overcome.
Thanks for this amazing book.