...THE Five LOVE LANGUAGES How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate G C ARY HAPMAN NORTHFIELD PUBLISHING CHICAGO © 1992, 1995, 2004 by Gary D. Chapman All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews. Scripture quotations, unless noted otherwise, are taken from the Holy Bible: New International Version®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved. The use of selected references from various versions of the Bible in this publication does not necessarily imply publisher endorsement of the versions in their entirety. ISBN: 978-1-881273-15-6 To Karolyn, Shelley, and Derek Other Great Books by Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages Men’s Edition The Five Love Languages Gift Edition The Five Love Languages of Children The Five Love Languages of Teenagers The Five Love Languages for Singles Your Gift of Love Parenting Your Adult Child The Other Side of Love Loving Solutions Five Signs of a Loving Family Toward a Growing Marriage Hope for the Separated Covenant Marriage CONTENTS Acknowledgments 1. What Happens to Love After the Wedding? 2. Keeping the Love Tank Full 3. Falling in Love 4. Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation 5. Love Language #2: Quality Time 6. Love Language #3: Receiving...
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...Introduction The Love Language video presents a male and female communicating with each other. The female initially seems very uninterested, but the male is persistent and is very interested in getting to know the female in the video. There’s constant use of nonverbal cues being sent that can easily be misinterpreted. The video depicts several communications concepts including stereotyping, barriers, non-verbal communications, mutual attraction, and self-disclosure. The Love Language video ultimately reveals the reason the female initially seem uninterested and why she was giving the male in the video a hard time; the female is deaf. Social Learning Theory The social learning theory argues that children abandon behaviors when they are punished and repeat behaviors that are rewarded. This process of reinforcement continues throughout life, where men are continually encouraged to engage in masculine behavior and women are encouraged to behave in a feminine manner (Wood, 2007). As children become adults, they transfer these beliefs onto future generations (Basu, 2004). According to this theory, girls and boys assume a passive role rather than an active role in the learning process. We see the social learning theory displayed as the male in the video initiates the interaction between himself and the female sitting next to him. He first tries to initiate a conversation by saying “nice day today, huh”, but he gets no response. He then asks to borrow her pen and then the female...
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...http://www.wisegeek.com/what-are-love-languages.htm What Are Love Affirmations? Is Love Addictive? What Is Transactional Analysis? What does "Falling in Love" Mean? What is the Difference Between Infatuation and Love? What is Puppy Love? Which Brain Chemicals Underlie the Experience of Romantic Love? What are Love Languages? Dr. Gary Chapman, a Christian family counselor and author, has developed a relationship-building program called the 5 love languages. Love languages are defined as verbal and non-verbal communications between couples which improve the mental and physical well-being of both partners. These mutual expressions and actions help to build up a nurturing environment in which couples can improve both their emotional and physical intimacy levels. The first of the five love languages includes words of affirmation. These words go far beyond a perfunctory "I love you" ritual, and include specific recognition of a partner's contributions to the relationship or the household or a career. The point of the exercise is to provide enough positive affirmation of a partner's self-worth to motivate that person towards even more personal growth. By telling a partner or friend or co-worker how much you appreciate his or her efforts, you are speaking in a language he or she can understand. The second of the five love languages involves spending quality time with a loved one. This means setting aside a meaningful amount of personal time in which the friend or...
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... 2012 The Five Love Languages With the divorce rate at over fifty percent, what can be done to keep love alive? What is the secret to a happy marriage? These are questions that Gary Chapman explores and defines in The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. If couples are to communicate effectively with each other they must learn the language with whom they want to communicate. This book explores the five emotional love languages and the way couples speak and understand emotional love. Specifically the emotional love language a husband or wife would consider as their primary “love language”. Couples may be expressing what they know is their love language, but they may not be speaking their spouses love language and their spouse is interpreting it as a foreign language. Chapman insists when you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting loving marriage. The Five Love Languages explored in Chapman’s book are: (1) Words of Affirmation, (2) Quality Time, (3) Receiving Gifts, (4) Acts of Service, and (5) Physical Touch. “At the heart of mankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love” (Chapman). Each person in a marriage has an emotional love language that speaks loudly to them and when used by the other person it fills up the receivers emotional love tank. Gary Chapman...
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...For the five love languages quiz I scored a nine in acts of service and in quality time. I scored an eight in words of affirmation, a three in physical touch, and a one in receiving gifts. I feel that these results definitely match up with my own personal love language. One way in which they match up is my score of receiving gifts, in my family or in my love relationships gifts were never a big part of the relationship and receiving gifts did not make me love the person more. Another way is through the physical touch score of three, I have never been a touchy feely person in any of my past relationships. However, I do like some touch and to hold my boyfriend’s hand when we’re walking or for him to give me a kiss on the check in public. I was...
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...English 178 - poetry | Donne’s “Language of Love” in Elegy XIX: “To His Mistress Going To Bed”. | Poetry Semester Essay | | Telan Hamer | 18184626Tutor : Tamsyn Allies | | The poetic works of John Donne has been afforded high acclaim when it comes to his use of language in the dominion of love. In his elegy “To His Mistress Going To Bed”, he beckons for his lover to be bedded with him, describing her beauty as he tries to influence her to disrobe. Donne, in this poem, makes visible the way in which love and desire can be expressed in language attiring his poems with extended metaphor, metaphysical conceit and masterful wit, to the extent to which one may re-read the poem simply to savour the way in which Donne has sculpted his imagery. “To His Mistress Going To Bed” is seen to fall under the poetic genre known as ‘the blazon’, a genre of poetry that glorifies a woman by focusing on certain desirable body parts whilst using appropriate metaphor. Hence, the main focus of this essay will be to provide a commentary on the use of “the language of love” with reference to Donne’s blazon, by highlighting a series of appropriate examples that will provide a platform to analyse what it is that Donne is trying to convey in his poem, and how he accomplishes its conveyance. The examples will be analysed with reference to how the poet incorporates certain aspects of language such as diction, form, style, tone, rhetoric, and his use of figures of speech. The opening lines...
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...Marvell have used poetic form, structure and language to present their thoughts and feelings of love Both Shakespeare and Marvell present a vast array of thoughts and feelings regarding love. Shakespeare makes his true thoughts and feelings apparent through a declaration in ‘Sonnet 116’ by stating how love cannot be shaken by adversary or changed by time. However, in Marvell’s ‘To his Coy Mistress’ the speaker is more impatient, presenting a sense of carnal desire to fulfil his sexual desires rather than true love. Where Shakespeare is influenced by the concept of romantic love in the Elizabethan era and follows traditional sonnet formats to create passion, Marvell creates a satirical tone to comment on romantic love through the conventions of a metaphysical poem. Despite this difference, time is personified in both poems to represent an enemy of all lovers. Shakespeare is inspired by his era and is more sincere and passionate in his portrayal and belief of true and constant love in ‘Sonnet 116’, whereas in Marvell’s ‘To his Coy Mistress’, the speaker is driven by passion and desire to fulfil lust, that could potentially turn into love. Marvell’s representation may be harsh, but it is more considerate of a harsher reality. Through structure, Shakespeare defines his true feelings of love – by telling the reader what love is, and what it isn’t. It presents the extreme ideal of romantic love and insists that this is the only love that can be ‘true’, otherwise ‘no man ever loved’...
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...with a focal point focused on love and innocence in the context of death. At the establishing point of the story, the first story lines already shows a tint of innocence and simplicity but the gloomy tone of the story is already felt. The situation is just a very typical scenario in the Philippines but through the writer's prolific used of diction and imagery a common situation is turned into something new - a work of art. As you look at it, the plot is so simple. But what will move most of the readers is the author's command of language and smooth flow of situations. In economic terms, the reader can easily predict that the characters are somehow wealthy considering that the narrator, who happens to be the niece of the dead poet is boarding at the big girls' college in Manila, the presence of a conference room and the regular use of Spanish language. These are matters that only well-off families can afford and practiced. The story is so culture bounded and is so reflective of our society. Some reflective traits are the delicadeza system being practiced, the unfaithfulness of husbands, presence of gossipers, scandals in public and ridiculous funeral set-up with two different camps in opposite sides. A minimal Spanish colonialism practices is also being reflective in the story through the practiced of delicadeza system and the regular used of Spanish language. Along the way, the reader can feel that the narrator itself is being caught between love and disloyalty. [ chieftest mourner ...
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...such as diction and language variety and second, to characterize non-linguistic factors such as types of movies. This research is expected to be beneficial for the students, the advertisers and the other researchers. It shows a specific example of register namely the register on Philippines movie advertisement. This can be used as an additional reference for studying language and creating advertisements text that is considered to be efficient and effective for attracting and encouraging readers to make use of the company with its products and services. Moreover, the results of this research also can be hopefully used as a reference for those who are interested in analyzing language variety, especially the one in movie advertisement. Communication also happens in the business and industry. The most common form of communication in business and industry is between the manufacturers and the consumers. In business, someone will do everything to get the maximum profit and the success of his/her company. One of their effects is through advertisement. It represents pictures of life in daily life. Advertisements are identified as the texts that do their best to get people‟s attentions to make them turn toward them (Goddard, 1998: 6). The purposes of advertisements are to influence and motivate the public to buy and use the products or services or to follow the ideas. The advertisers spread the information of their products by using appropriate and effective language. By using appropriate...
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...Impacts of the Vernacular Language In this paper we will be discussing a few different aspects to the rise of vernacular languages, its use, the spread of it and how it impacted the different cultures within the medieval age. From the rise of the Christian Churches to the time of courtly love, troubadours and the romantic love era vernacular languages impacted the people of France throughout Western Europe and the rest of the world. Though the people of the general population where not able to interpret and understand the Latin language known as the language of the elite (the educated or the people of higher and political authority) until mid to late middle ages, they began to write and speak through the common languages within their countries to make it easier to communicate and understand laws, romantic love and to also spread the words of god within the Christian churches. The Catholic Church was established in 325 CE (Sayre,2013), approximately 300 years after the death of Jesus Christ. By 476 BE, the Germans had taken over the Roman Empire under the rule of Constantine as he started to build his empire known as the Byzantine Empire . Constantine, the first Christian ruler, a believer of Jesus Christ, moved the Roman Empire to Instanbul, formerly known as modern day, Turkey. Upon establishing his empire and the Christian church Constantine named that city after himself, Constantinople. After the Christian Church was established came the Medieval Ages which took...
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...How is language used to show the relationship between Olivia and Viola in 1:5? In Act 1 scene 5 we witness the first meeting of Viola, dressed as a man and calling herself Cesario, and Olivia. During this scene Olivia uses language to hint at the fact that she loves Cesario but at the same time Viola is using language to hint at the fact she is indeed a woman. We see hints of Olivia falling for Cesario as she sends away Maria, "Give us the place alone.", which makes the audience question why she wants no one else present. She then, clearly impressed by Cesario, tries to impress him too; She uses her beauty. She unveils, "we will draw the curtain" to "show (him) the picture". Just like with Feste, we see that Olivia likes Cesario's cheekiness and boldness. We know this because she let's Cesario get away with being rude, only commenting, "Yet you began rudely." Another interpretation of this is that at the beginning of the meeting Olivia isn't impressed by Viola/Cesario's boldness, but by the end has warmed up to 'him' and stops treating 'him' as a servant, or another one of Orsino's messengers whom she finds annoying. "From the count Orsino, is it?" "We'll once more hear Orsino's embassy." In this interpretation she goes from using a more reserved tone, answering little to Viola's long texts, "Tell me your mind." to using a more interested tone, "What is your parentage?" The shift in her feelings are due to how Viola presents herself and uses her language to give Orsino's...
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...Language and Literacy As the geographic territory under Roman control grew, the use of Latin as a common language also spread. In areas under Roman control, Latin was the spoken and written language of the courts and commerce, as well as the language of the Christian church. As the Roman Empire expanded, Latin served as a common language that allowed for people of diverse linguistic backgrounds to be able to communicate. Latin, like other languages past and present, had more than one form and changed over time because it was both written and spoken, and the educational level or social status of the writer or speaker often determined the final form of the language. Latin was also influenced by local languages spoken or written within the larger territory under the influence of what later came to be known as the Roman Empire. During the Carolingian Renaissance, throughout the reign of Charlemagne and his successors, the development of Latin literacy was greatly promoted. Although reading and writing were skills that some people had, literacy was not widespread before that time. Literacy in Latin was generally limited to people of the upper classes and members of the clergy. Charlemagne invited Alcuin of York to become his personal tutor and the head of his court school. Charlemagne charged Alcuin with the development of a literacy curriculum for children that would provide for their instruction in reading and writing, as well as for further study in the liberal arts and theology...
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...Melissa Butler Dr. Mark Howell English 112 2/28/2016 Young Love vs Chanel No. 5 In today’s world we see advertisements such as billboards, benches or commercials on TV and almost everywhere else we go. Our society is constantly influenced by advertising. While enthusiastic people work hard to create their masterpiece of a commercial, most people try to avoid them due to the inconvenience of them interrupting their favorite TV show. Today they have become a part of our life and the competition to produce an effective commercial is always booming. A reason for the widening of advertising is certainly the stressful expectation to produce a unique representation of a product that stands out in the market, as well as selling the product itself. TV commercials are used to attract the audience and the producers spend a lot of money and time to obtain the attention of the viewer. The most glamorous commercials I feel are certainly those of perfumes. That is why I chose to do this paper on two perfume TV commercials and examine the features that are used to produce an effective advertisement. One will be a TV commercial of 1962 that deals with the perfume “Young Love” while the other represents the “Chanel No.5 “production of 2006. These are chosen to point out the difference with regard to the use of visuals and text that are important for the development of a commercial. A TV commercial usually consists of text, visuals and sometimes incorporates music. All these features seem...
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...[16] 1st part The language spoken and written of great romances is often poetic, passionate, and filled with metaphors of beauty and devotion. In short, the language of love is the language of exaggeration. William Shakespeare ‘s most powerful description of love is when he satirizes this method of writing and in so doing instead claims that honesty and sincerity are the greatest literary devices when speaking the language of love. Shakespeare's sonnet number 130 demonstrates this. This sonnet hooks the reader from the very outset while maintaining sonnet structure and using literary devices as a source of irony. Shocking the reader by using an unconventional method of satire to introduce a topic is the most effective way to hook an audience. Shakespeare begins his sonnet with the line; "My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun -" (line 1). The reader immediately becomes curious to the poet’s reasoning for speaking in this tone. The first quatrain of this poem introduces the topic of beauty.The second quatrain enhances the topic and adds sentiment. In the first quatrain he describes the looks of his mistress, while in the second quatrain he relates how these looks affect him. The third quatrain releases this sentiment, the narrator concludes that he is aware of the ordinary nature of his mistress. The sonnet also satirizes literary devices such as metaphors and similes to enhance its theme. Conventionally,metaphors and similes are used in love poems as a tool to express...
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...shown as well as forms of figurative language used to show them. When writing, Shakespeare uses figurative language in the form of metaphors, similes, personification, and imagery in order to advance the overall theme, the brutality of love. The brutality of love in this play is that a boy who may seem to be fully committed to one girl, can so easily turn to be in love with another when he is not given his way, as well as the fact that love may not always last forever when the fate of love is put in the hands of other people, and there are always outside forces urging the two of them to stay away from each other. All of this is seen occurring very early in Romeo and Juliet, and continues...
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