Eros: A Kind Of Early Relationship For Some C.G.E.A.H.S. Students

A Research Paper Presented to the class of Miss Rosa G. Payumo Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School

In Partial Fulfillment Of the Requirements for the Subject English IV

by

Chester M. Cucio IV-Aguinaldo

January 7,2015

Table of Contents

I. INTRODUCTION (pp. 1-5) 1. Background of the Study 2. Objectives 3. Hypothesis 4. Statement of the Problem 5. Significance of the Study

II. REVIEW OF RELATED LITERATURE (pp. 6-8) 2.1 Review of Related Literature 2.2 Conceptual Framework 2.4 Definition of Terms

III. METHODOLOGY (p. 9)

IV. RESULTS AND FINDINGS (pp. 10-13) 4.1 Graphs and Interpretations

V. SUMMARY/CONCLUSION/RECOMMENDATION (p. 14)

VI. BIBILIOGRAPHY (p. 15)

APPENDIX

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

The Researcher wishes to extend his heartfelt gratitude to the following who exerted effort in making this endeavor possible:

MR. RONALD D. CUCIO AND MRS. MARILYN M. CUCIO, whose moral support and parental guidance remain unsurpassed;

MISS ROSALIE G. PAYUMO, the Researcher’s Academic Guide and also a Source of inspiration;

IV-BONIFACIO STUDENTS OF CAMP GENERAL EMILIO AGUINALDO HIGH SCHOOL (C.G.E.A.H.S.) OF A.Y. 2014 – 2015, who showed willingness and submission to the fulfillment of this Research;

AND TO OUR ALMIGHTY GOD, the number One Researcher without whom things wouldn’t be possible;

Many thanks.

I. INTRODUCTION

1. Background of the Study

Academic Year 2014 – 2015 for many Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students continue to prove that Erotic type of relationship or the popular love affair between boys and girls continue to rise at a very speedy rate. And so chances for an early experience of responsibility are heightened. What with the advent of different forms of media and its alarming influence in the minds of many young Filipino boys and girls, most especially those that are yet to establish a significant contribution to society. More than just being “in” with what seems to be a common practice for some, this Researcher is guided by what is now a famous line from a well-known cartoon character (Spiderman): “WITH GREAT POWER COMES GREAT RESPONSBILITY.”

Involving one’s self into an Erotic relationship at a considerably early stage in life may result to the acquisition of great power that may also demand great responsibility. This reality in life does not excuse Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students mostly those enrolled for Academic Year 2014 – 2015. The limits and/or boundaries set by self-reservation are also regarded. Even if the statistics brought about the many students who entered into this type of relationship, the Researcher prefers to look more extensively to the positive side of it.

Accomplished because of a what is best known as an activity with love, this Research may be by young students, moved by a young Researcher with the guidance of a young Academician, a Research as this is intended to be of global importance.

2. Objectives

This Research aims to guide many students especially the young students of Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) in the formation of their opinion regarding Erotic relationship and the overwhelming demands that go along with it. It also aims to encourage the thoughts not only of the young Filipinos but also of the adults to be better aware of the seemingly deceiving act of getting into an Erotic relationship. As a Research that is supposed to be of relevance to many, the culture of a widespread significance is anticipated. This Research is designed to make many, if not all participants, better equipped when it comes to Erotic relationship.

3. Hypothesis

With the influx of the various forms of social media, many Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students tend to indulge early into Erotic relationship. In addition, a sudden switch or change of focus or importance [commonly those of Academic relevance]for some who are into it, is most likely to come along . Furthermore, the relevance of a learned and/or educated community disappears swiftly. Not to mention the scandalous realization of a probable Teenage Marriage.

4. Statement of the Problem

Many Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students are vent to ride the bandwagon of early demands for emotional responsibility without being cautious of the would-be consequences. Do they still regard the existence of many older people who have benefited from experiencing such.

5. Significance of the Study

This Research is highly significant as it pictures, in a not-so-traditional or common manner, the possibilities of an erotic relationship specifically for some Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) enrolled for Academic Year 2014 – 2015. In this era of Soap Operas that usually feature ”Young Love” or those who get into early erotic type of relationship, a Research as this may serve to be an advocate of a lasting and more responsible type of relationship.

An added significance of this study is the fact that young men and women are a sort of rebirth characterized by new desires, urges, impulses, interests, attitudes---- in two words: behaviour patterns. And they certainly decide what kind of adult a man will be. An added significance is that although the age at which an individual attains social and emotional security varies mental maturity is also reached at this particular stage in life. Also significant are the words of our National Hero, Dr. Jose P. Rizal: “THE YOUTH REPRESENTS THE ENERGY OF THE PRESENT AND THE HOPE OF THE FUTURE”, and C.G.E.A.H.S. students made it happen.

II. REVIEW OF RELATED LITERATURE

2.1. Review of Related Literature

The famous Filipino Psychologist , Rocio Reyes Kapunan, in one of his Psychology books, The Psychology of Adolescence, (Rex Printing Company, 1971), clearly speaks of an early indulgence to an Exotic type of relationship by many young men and women . Said personality furthered that like childhood, adolescence follows an orderly sequence or pattern. And therefore, it is possible to observe certain characteristics and behaviour typical of them.

In the same book, Kapunan declares that young men and women differ in many aspects and/or disciplines in life. And this difference among them continues even to their adulthood. . Many. if not all, embrace this reality: Some are short, others are tall; Some are slender, others are big; Some are graceful, others are clumsy; Some are well-groomed, other are not-so-tidy when dressing; Some are virile and healthy, others are weak and sickly: A group of young men and women may be ready to face problems and/or the demands of life, others are not. This book authored by Kapunan reminds us that youthful interest, as in the case of most C.G.E.A.H.S. students who are into early emotional exercises, is attitude. For the same, it is the feeling side of interest.

Also according to Kapunan, emotions, especially by those who belong to a more prone idealistic/hopelessly romantic young men and women, are effective experiences resulting from the fusion of complex sensory and perceptual stimulation with established patterns of behaviour, accompanied by inner adjustment of stirred-up states as expressed in one or another form of overt behaviour. There are three patterns or components of an emotion: the stimulus, the feelings or impulses, and physical or physiological response [reaction].

Added to this, Filipino Philosopher, Corazon L. Cruz in her book, Contemporary Ethics, (National Bookstore, 1995) explored on the reality of Premarital Sex among Filipino teenagers (C.G.E.A.H.S. students, included). Cruz said that premarital sex seems to be quite a common practice. To heighten this consequence is the seemingly uncontrollable influences made by different forms of Social Media. Many pretty young brides are observed to be pregnant or “on-the-way” on their wedding day. The reaction of the bride’s parents is usually one of relief, the “all’s well that ends well” thing. Realistically, many attend “formal unions” if only to have a firsthand information or news on the matter. Eros, for said writer, involves the dignity of the persons involved. These are: 1) Eros cannot develop a mature inter-personal relationship of love for true love demands possessiveness, exclusiveness and permanence; 2) Eros cannot demand fidelity and trust, especially in casual affairs; 3) Eros can end in degradation of the other who is looked upon only as a sex object or a thing deserving of funny acts. Participation in early type of erotic relationship many

result to self-indulgence or fornication and may promote irresponsibility, for it shelves future repercussions and obligations especially towards a possible offspring.

Finally, American Sociologist-Priest-Writer, Fr. Andrew M. Greely, in his book, Faithful Attraction, ( Tom Doherty Associates, 1991), stressed that the younger ones who indulge into Eros (and some C.G.E.A.H.S. students did/do) are surely more likely to engage in erotic amusements than the middle and older generations do at the present: 28% of the younger, 24% of the middle, and 9% of the older swim in the nude at least sometimes; 64% of the younger, 41% of the middle, and 16% of the older take showers or baths together; 39% of the younger, 21% of the middle, and 7% of the older busy erotic underwear; 34% of the younger, 24% of the middle, and 10% of the older watch X-rated videos together. Greeley learned that younger respondents are far more likely than older respondents to score high on the playfulness measure, but though there is only a few percentage points difference between men and women at all ages, men, as was manifested in the statistics earned by this Researcher from some C.G.E.A.H.S. students, are more likely to report romantic play than women. The book reminds us that cohabitation and/or premarital sex represents major social change.

2.2 Conceptual Framework

A research on the demands of getting into an early state of national responsibility stands apt and fitting for all. Just like in other Researches, respondents of a survey conducted are given the benefit of the doubt as they are hold liable to stand and/or maintain their privacy. Following a series of questions asked, one is to benefit from the clear outcome of an endeavor designed to learn more or better of one human activity. A research on a popular activity which has reached global extent with some C.G.E.A.H.S. students clearly involved, is the Framework of a noble acquisition of knowledge.

2.3 Definition of Terms

ADOLESCENCE – v. To grow, to grow toward maturity.

CONTEMPORARY – adj. Occurring or existing at the same time.

EROS – n. Relation to or dealing with sexual love.

EXPLICT – adj. Clearly and precisely expressed.

FIDELITY – n. The quality or state of being faithful.

INDULGENCE – n. The act of indulging or gratifying one’s taste or desire.

INFLUX – n. A coming in.

MATURITY – n. Full development or the quality or state of being mature.

TESTIMONY – n. Exidence based on observation or knowledge.

VIRILE – adj. Having the nature, powers or qualities of man.

III. METHODOLOGY

The Method used in this particular research is the Survey-type method. Thirty (30) students from another Grade 10 Section studying in Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) (IV-Bonifacio) for School Year 2014 – 2015 were asked to answer Survey Forms with similar questions that were very much related to the topic of this research. From the data gathered based on their responses to the questions asked, this research earned its foundation or they provided the fuel as the research went on. As a result, diagrams were created and were made possible because of it. The researcher regarded the fact that respondents that come from the same Section or Class will make possible an almost similar schedule or availability. Enhancing the Method used will also mean the thinking and/or considering of possible Force of Influence exerted by other factors ( Social Media, included).

Comparison is of course another highly available action for it, and their answers vary or differ in some of the Five (5) questions written in the Survey Form. School Year 2014 – 2015 is a must for every student-respondent to be included, along with their being present School Year’s students of Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.). This research was dependent on the variety or on the difference of their answer. Collecting different opinions as to things connected with early relationship is depicted in different situations beginning with the finding out if one was or is into an erotic relationship and ending with a question on the necessity or significance of involvement in a relationship at a chronologically early age. The respondents willingly answered questions and some even went to the extent of sharing his or her unsolicited advice.

Such Method of data collection is popular to many and research that involves personal experience on situations is of great help and/or assistance. Conclusion or finding out is made easier and accessible to many.

IV. RESULTS AND FINDINGS

This researcher’s work on Eros, a kind of early relationship for some Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students who are studying School Year 2014 – 2015, revealed that twenty seven (27) or 90% of the total 30 respondents have been involved in some sort of emotional relationship with the opposite sex. Of these 27 Grade 8 students, eighteen (18) or 66.66% are Male while nine (9) or 33.33% are female. Eighteen students involved in the same, experienced “YOUNG LOVE”, Seven opt for “MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING”, and two considered their relationship complicated.

Twenty-one (21) or 70% of the students – respondents confused to have experienced the infamous “Friendzoned” a program in contemporary Computer Programming where a person is to be regarded merely as a “Friend” without extension or strings attached.

When put in a situation of having a relationship, Fifteen (15) or 50% of students – respondents preferred “TRUE LOVE”, eleven (11) or 36.66% of the students – respondents voted for “YOUNG LOVE”, four (4) or 13.33% settled for “PAST Time / FLING” while none of them picked “LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP”.

Due to various/personal and/or private reasons, a total of twenty-two (22) or 73.33% of the same students – respondents did not regard to necessity of being involved in an erotic relationship at an early age. Some of the respondents who favored the same reason out that age doesn’t matter when one is to be in a relationship may mean motivation to one’s mind and body. As expected, involvement in an erotic kind of relationship is more prone to male students – respondents (18) than to female students and a total of eight (8) students (6 boys, 2 girls) believe that it is necessary for youngsters to get into an erotic relationship, with three (3) male students and one (1) female students going for an eros that is meant only for Past Time/Fling.

4.1 Graphs And Interpretations

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Fig. 1 = GENDER DISTRIBUTION OF STUDENTS WHO EXPERIENCED EROS

[pic]Fig. 2 = TYPES OF EROS EXPERIENCED BY SOME C.G.E.A.H.S STUDENTS

[pic]Fig. 3 = STUDENTS – RESPONDENTS WHO EXPERIENCED “FRIENDZONED”

[pic]Fig. 4 = STUDENTS – RESPONDENTS’ CHOICES OF EROTIC RELATIONSHIP

[pic]Fig. 5 = STUDENTS – RESPONDENTS ANSWERS ON THE NECESSITY OF EXPERIENCING EROS EARLY IN LIFE

V. SUMMARY/CONCLUSION/RECOMMENDATION

More than the advantages of getting into Eros early in life, as one’s acquisition of knowledge of the many and/or various demands of life, some Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S) students who are enrolled for Academic Year 2014 – 2015 still consider it better not to be involved in it. This kind of relationship that may also demand for a portion (big or small) of a student’s time has the possibility to be destructing. True love, which can only be attained when one enters into Eros is best achieved if and when maturation seeps in, and this usually comes later in life.

As every student should know, physical and physiological changes accompany an emotional experience. These changes are due to the functioning of the of the autonomic nervous system (The Psychology of Adolescence, 1971), and when one experiences an emotion, like fear upon seeing a snake the sympathetic or thoracic branch acts, as evidenced by tense muscles, inhibited digestion, construction of blood vessels, delation of the pupils of the eyes, and secretion of sweat glands making the hair on the skin stand on end. Set jaws and clenched fists, heavy breathing, choked voice, dilated nostrils, release of adrenalin from the medulla, increased blood pressure or pulse are other reactions of emotional experiences.

Eros, a kind of relationship with the opposite sex commonly involves love, which is a feeling of strong affection or attachment, it is the concern for someone, or the feeling of delight or pleasure in an object, person or situation. There is also love for God (Agape), and love for friend or relative (Filia). But unselfish love, better honed by a more mature mind which is dependent on a person’s biological structure, is the absence of an over – show of affection, selfish possession, or overprotection of parent, love for an older one known as crush relationship, over – developed attachment of teacher – pupil, passion toward the opposite sex, or obsession for an object. Generally, it is love that can inspire a young person to do what is right.

The Researcher strongly recommends the suspension and/or delay especially for some Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School (C.G.E.A.H.S.) students to satisfy a curiosity or interest to experience Eros. Even if in the Philippine setting, love is regarded by many to be one of the Four Cardinal Values along with justice, courage, and hope, it still is an action that demands giving and not all can give, especially those who enter into it early. A student who is into Eros type of relationship is bound to be thinking of the other. It is doing what one is supposed to do well and until a person is physically, psychologically, and emotionally ready, he or she is suggested not to be involved in an emotional carousel.

B I B L I O G R A P H Y

Cruz, Corazon L., Contemporary Ethics Manila: National Bookstore Publishing, 1995.

Gabriel, Josefina P. and Martires, Edda M., Communication Skills IV, Manila: R.R. Yan Printing Press, 1992.

Greely, Andrew M, Faithful Attraction, New York: Tom Doherty Associates, 1991.

Kapunan, Rocio R., The Psychology of Adolescence, Manila: Rex Book Store, 1971.

Survey Sheet
Camp General Emilio Aguinaldo High School
S.Y. 2014-2015
“Different Kinds of Relationship”
(For IV-Bonifacio students only)
Name:_______________________________ Date:________
Year & Sec.:__________________________

Direction: Check a box for an answer.

1. Have you been involved in a relationship? □Yes □No

2. If your answer is Yes for no.1, what kind of relationship do/did you have? □Mutual understanding □Complicated relationship □Young love

3. Have you experienced the so called “Friendzoned”? □Yes □No

4. If you were put in a situation of having a relationship, what would you choose? □True love □Young love □LDR (Long Distance Relationship) □Past Time fling

5. Is it necessary to be involved in a relationship at a chronologically early age? □Yes □No *If your answer is Yes, why? _________________________________________________

Thank you!
Prepared by: Chester M. Cucio