There’s a quote by H. Jackson Brown, Jr. that goes, “Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important that your own.” To put it differently, it is when a person suffers long for someone you find yourself loving him or her. However, in the dictionary, love was only described through the intensity of the feeling. It does not explain fully what to experience inside ‘love’. Nevertheless, it all arrives in some point. Love is vulnerable, unconditional and a decision. Love means to embrace vulnerability. Vulnerability means capable of being hurt physically or emotionally. Love involves both but often times, it is the feelings that is involve. Usually, when a person loves someone, he or she tends to do everything for him or her. Even if it means getting hurt, they will still continue. Being vulnerable means accepting everything is going to happen, anything is going to happen. It sounds scary but people become this kind of people because of love without even them knowing. It won’t be a weakness because this will be their strength, they will gain courage. They will face obstacles even if it looks like they are not going to survive. It is what makes them strong.
Vulnerability makes its beauty visible. It is like a balloon, it is fragile but it looks so much better if it is seen and not hidden and if it is felt and not absent. It exhibits its beauty in its own way. That’s what love becomes when it’s vulnerable. The beauty of the relationship becomes noticeable.
Love means to give everything unconditionally. It means it sees no limitations in love. They always give what they have but never looked if they will receive the same amount of what they gave. They never expect but they hope that you will be able to feel their love. They give all their best just to make someone happy. They suffer long for their loved one’s smile because it’s their one way of showing their love.
One example of unconditional love is the mother’s love. A mother’s love will never fade and that makes us all blessed because God created someone like her. She is a cook, a tutor, a mother, a friend, a sister, a worker, a driver and everything. Mothers do their best for their children even if it needs sacrifice. Sometimes, they don’t sleep because they need money, they don’t eat because her children needs it more, they don’t complain even if they can’t figure out what to do and such. Those are their duties and they only ask for small payback and that is to be a good person and work hard. It is still considered as unconditional love because even if they don’t say that, we ought to be like that.
Love means to make decisions. Love is a choice because it always involves the heart and the brain. Usually, people only use their heart that’s why some people end up miserable. In the following days, they become bitter about love. What they don’t understand is that love always starts with feelings but as time pass by, there will be times when someone feels like the love is fading and it takes a lot of courage to still pursue the love. It’s easy to fall in love but it’s hard to stay in love. There are times when it’s easy to love and it’s difficult to love but it is a decision to make if someone will continue it or not.
Love as a choice can be compared to commitment. Commitment means keeping your word the whole time even if the feelings or moods changes. Love is built through commitment and stability and it takes a “man” and “woman” to be able to achieve this kind of love. It requires time because love is not instant. It needs warmth because it keeps the love ongoing and sparks it. Their heart and minds need to mature to understand the circumstances.
Love takes an amount of bravery to give happiness to someone even if it will not meet what the person has given. It needs discernment because without understanding, love will not be attained.