...Marriage Guidance – Summary MGG201W MGG201W – Marriage Guidance – facilitative couples counselling Theme ONE – Understanding couples Intimacy involves: love, affection and caring, deep attachment to another person. The TRIPOD of couple relationships An intimate relationship consists of three factors that form a tripod on which the relationship rests. 1. Passionate attraction (PA) 2. Mutual expectations (ME) 3. Personal intentions (PI) Passionate attractions (PA) → Individual experiences intensely pleasurable sensations when thinking about or being with a new partner. → Blushing, trembling, breathlessness, high sexual desire → Referred to as infatuation = passing love “a foolish and unreasoning love’ → Infatuation is not a realistic / accurate appraisal of the relationship / idealisation → Negative / flaws in the idealised beloved may be intellectually recognised, but disregarded as endearingly special. Person chooses to ignore the negatives → Normal phase in the process of relationships → Infatuation can lead to a lasting relationship – but it mostly fades away and relationship based on infatuation alone will fail. Love → Involves physical attraction - deeper → Love encompasses PA, ME and PI → People rely mostly on life experiences to guide them to their own unique way of demonstrating love. → Eric Fromm “love is active concern for the life and growth of the person we love” → Love is deep, unselfish, caring, deep respect Hauck’s basic principles about love • It is not just...
Words: 19948 - Pages: 80
... ASSIGNMENT DATE: 2011-07-25 Contents 1 PART 1 3 1.1 PREMARITAL COUNSELLING 3 1.1.1 Definition of premarital counselling 3 1.1.2 Purpose of Premarital Counselling 3 1.1.3 Purpose of the Helper 4 1.1.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 4 1.1.5 Degree Of Structure Needed 5 1.1.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 5 1.2 MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT 7 1.2.1 Definition of Marriage Enrichment 7 1.2.2 Purpose of Marriage Enrichment Counselling 7 1.2.3 Purpose of the Helper 7 1.2.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 8 1.2.5 Degree of Structure needed 9 1.2.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 9 1.3 COUPLES COUNSELLING 11 1.3.1 Definition of Couples Counsellin 11 1.3.2 Purpose of Couples Counselling 11 1.3.3 Purpose of the Helper 12 1.3.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 12 1.3.5 Degree of Structure needed 13 1.3.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 14 1.4 DIVORCE COUNSELLING 16 1.4.1 Definition of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.2 Purpose of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.3 Purpose of the Helper 16 1.4.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 17 1.4.5 Degree of Structure needed 18 1.4.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 19 1.5 DIVORCE MEDIATION 20 1.5.1 Definition of Divorce Mediation 20 1.5.2 Purpose of Couples Counselling 20 1.5.3 Purpose of the Helper 20 1.5.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions...
Words: 5802 - Pages: 24
...Assignment 1 Question 1 A job description for a volunteer counsellor on marriage guidance, The person required for this job must be fully qualified, previous experienced not accentual but would be preferred, good telephone manner required as counselling would be given over the telephone. Question 2 Help for Heroes; a charity that provides counselling to help the recovery of the armed forces. ChildLine; a charity that provide counselling to children that have been or are still victims or cruelty. Relate; helps to provide relationship guidance to the whole family. Cruse; helps provide counselling to people who have suffered from bereavement. Question 3 I would make a client feel at ease by introducing myself as they come into the room, that I would offer a handshake and a warm friendly smile. I would start by explaining what the session will include so they have an understanding of how the time they have will be used. I would also make sure that it is a quite environment or that of which the client may tell me will help them to relax and feel at ease. Question 4 Anorexia Nervosa is a form of eating disorder where the person develops and obsession with dieting, losing weight and food. Anorexia Nervosa will usually have begun to develop under the age of 20 but is not always the case. 5% of these cases are men as it is sometime know as the “celebrity illness” to which is mostly seen in young women. Question 5 PMS stands for Pre-menstrual syndrome...
Words: 808 - Pages: 4
...Experiencing Relationship Difficulties? You, like many couples before you who walk through our door, may feel very stuck and pretty hopeless about your marriage or relationship. When you made a commitment to your partner, you never imagined that the two of you would ever have the kinds of emotional distance or conflict in your relationship or marriage that you are now experiencing. Amid these conflicts you may be asking yourself, have I made a mistake? It is a normal part of marital development to come to a place in the relationship where the dream of how you thought things would be, and the reality, do not match. Many people make one of three choices. They can leave, possibly trying to get it right with a different kind of person....
Words: 1958 - Pages: 8
...Forced marriage, family cohesion and community engagement: national learning through a case study of Luton Dr Nazia Khanum OBE March 2008 Forced marriage, family cohesion and community engagement: national learning through a case study of Luton Completed by: Dr Nazia Khanum OBE Director Equality in Diversity Commissioned by: MP Margaret Moran’s Office – Ushrat Sultana Metropolitan Police Service – Jim Blair Home Office – Deborah Jamieson Published by: Printed by: Equality in Diversity e-mail: nkhanum@aol.com Bartham Press (Watford) Ltd e-mail: koyes@barthampress.com Phone: 01582 459402 / 573471 Mobile: 07931 973967 © Nazia Khanum 2008 All rights reserved ISBN: 1-904070-02-7 March 2008 Acknowledgements As soon as I started conducting this piece of research in 2006, it became clear to me that I was dealing with one of the most sensitive subjects, the actual scale and complexity of which will probably never be known. The paucity of available data and the inconsistency of recording incidents across agencies were clear from the start. Since the lack of data was anticipated, this research project took a qualitative and not a quantitative approach, and so no attempt has been made to indulge in a number crunching exercise. Full advantage has been taken of the opportunity to delve into the interviewees’ personal views, perceptions and experiences. During the research, I came across all kinds of emotions and value judgments including mistrust, fear, denial,...
Words: 29846 - Pages: 120
...Basic Principles of Guidance and Counseling The basic principles of guidance and counseling as accepted by most authorities in the field of guidance and counseling are described as follows: (1) Guidance and Counseling is for everyone. The service is not only for those with special handicaps but it is also meant for all “normal”, developing children and adults; 10 EDU 724 FUNDAMENTALS OF GUIDANCE AND COUNSELLING (2) Guidance and Counseling activities should therefore be based on the need and total development of every person. It is the duty of all personnel in a setting to identify the needs of individuals so that programme activities can be designed to meet such needs; (3) Guidance and Counseling must be provided in a way that ensures human dignity and worth. The full and adequate development of the individual must be given preference. It should be seen as encouraging individuals to attain maximum satisfaction, to realize their potentials and to be aware to self. No one who has gone through counseling should feel inadequate; (4) Guidance and Counseling is a sequential, continuous and developmental process, which starts from birth to death. This means that guidance and counseling runs from the nursery school through primary, secondary to the tertiary institutions. It is not a once-and-for-all event but a process which is an integral part of the total educational programme throughout the school life of an individual; (5) There is a close relationship between...
Words: 2502 - Pages: 11
...SPOUSAL ABUSE Name: Institution affiliation: Date: Spousal Abuse Grabber Spousal abuse also known as a domestic violence is a behavior that involves a person being abused by his or her partner in a domestic setting. For example, it might be a cohabitation or in marriage. The people who are affected mostly are women although recently there are some rising cases of men being abused by their spouse depending on their religion, race, or their ethnic group. This violence does not target a certain group as there are many people who are affected. A domestic violence is may be overlooked at times since people may term it as a simple argument (Kim, & Cho, 1992). Therefore, it can be concluded that this violence represents some weakness in women and power in men as most men try overpowering their women as well as the people who may not be able to defend themselves. Thesis Through a deep and serious study on some articles, magazines, and other forms of the media, domestic violence has affected most of the men and women. For example, an article known as Domestic Violence Unveiled by Abdul Hakim Muhammad showed that almost 40% of women as well as 29% of men in the United States are subjected to domestic violence. The main forms of the unlawful actions are through a sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional, and verbal abuse. Also, the violence ma range from various forms such as coercive, marital rape, and physical abuse such as throwing acid or through a female genital mutilation...
Words: 2614 - Pages: 11
...individual well - being. The job of career guidance counselling is thus very important. By facilitating successful transitions into paid employment, high quality careers guidance can also help ameliorate social deprivation and poverty: The role of career guidance is vital as there are mounting evidence suggests that an individual’s level of consumption, self-esteem, social-status, and even happiness depend to a large extent on not just income, but also social status, associated with occupational attainment. (Brown, Sessions and Taylor, 2004, p 20) This is one offered by Arthur et al (1989) who proposed that career is ‘the evolving sequence of a person’s work experiences over time’ (p8).It plays a role in raising career expectations and aspirations of pupils (Brown et al, 2004) and may also enhance broader school effectiveness (Killeen et al, 1999). Osipow and Fitzgerald (1996) postulate that the concept of career has recently undergone a transformation (p50) and distinguish between career choice as a point-in-time ‘event’ and a developmental ‘process’ over a longer period of time (p54). Whilst acknowledging that broader definitions (which include life roles and life span) have emerged, they suggest a more ‘parsimonious’ definition (p51), limited to vocational behaviour and vocational development. Looking back at the traditional theories, we can say that Frank Parsons began a concept of vocation published a book vocational guidance in his book “Choosing a Vocation” He laid...
Words: 4383 - Pages: 18
.............................................................3 1.2 Effects.................................................................................................................4 1.2.1 Effects of child abuse..............................................................................4 1.2.2 Effects of sexual abuse and emotional abuse...........................................5 1.3 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs................................................................................6 SECTION TWO: GUIDANCE FOR TINA 2.1 Definition of counselling........................................................................................7 2.2 Differentiation between counselling and support for learning problems.............8 2.3 Phenomenon of child trauma and its effects..........................................................9 2.4 Differentiation between parental involvement and parental counselling...........10 2.5 Learning intervention program.......................................................................... 2.6 Guidelines taken into account............................................................................ INTRODUCTION SECTION ONE: BACKGROUND One of the most important roles of an educator In a school is to assist learners pastorally (Best, Lang, Lodge, Wattkins 1995: 63). Each year in South Africa approximately five million children experience some form of traumatic experience. More than two million of these...
Words: 3282 - Pages: 14
...gone to help those who are bereaved or traumatized by the disaster. Counselling is big business in the natural world. But counselling is also a very natural and very essential part of the Christian Church and the Christian life. With this argument postulated by McClatchey I launch my objective analysis of the question “Is Pastoral Counselling Necessary Today?” I do concur with the view that counselling is an integral and essential part of the church and Christian life. However to fully answer this question one has to first answer other fundamental questions, such as what is pastoral counselling? What is its aim and purpose? Also one must also observe the nature of pastoral counselling and its impact on the church, the home and wider society. For the purpose of this paper the proposed questions will be keenly examine so as to justly establish whether or not pastoral counselling is of any necessity in today’s society. A definition of the term ‘Pastoral Counselling’ is what be the first stride in looking at this intriguing argument. Pastoral counseling is a form of psychological counseling which incorporates spirituality into therapeutic treatment. The goal of this type of psychotherapy is to address a variety of underlying psychological needs from a faith-based perspective. As one observe this definition it is clear that pastoral counselling seeks to merge psychology and theology to aid in the counselling process. This merger might even be one factor why many Christians...
Words: 3474 - Pages: 14
...by the limited support and materials available to helping step-marriages? I mean in a world where there is consistency in the rise of the numbers of stepfamilies, one would expect a lot of alliances involving religious and non-religious bodies towards helping these peculiar family units? The UK Office of National Statistics (ONS) pointed out that nearly one in every ten dependent children live in a stepfamily? The ONS went further to clarify that stepfamilies are couple families where there is at least one stepchild in the household. Under this environment, it may be the natural children of the couple as well as child (ren) from previous relationships. In other words stepfamilies are created when one individual...
Words: 1231 - Pages: 5
...essay will reflect on counselling, and include what I think that is, and how it differs from other forms of helping. I will analyse and compare the different types of counselling, giving specific examples of how they vary from each other. This essay will also evaluate some of my personal experiences of having professional counselling which will enable the reader to gain an authentic perspective from the clients viewpoint. This essay will also state some of my own perspectives on what counselling is and what counselling has done for me personally. I will also demonstrate my understanding of the laws and legal implications of counselling Counselling can be a complex and abstract subject. Everyone has their own opinions on what counselling is. I am currently a student at Ty Elis training to be an integrative counsellor. This means that the therapist uses an approach which uses element from different forms of counselling and psychotherapy. After being a client and receiving personal therapy for a period of 18 months and now having started training to be a therapist myself, my own views on counselling have changed considerably. The BACP defines counselling as “Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective or enhance their wellbeing”. Before I explain the different types of counselling I am going to express...
Words: 2185 - Pages: 9
...1 Introduction The mapping which follows was conducted over a period of six weeks during February and March 2003, including one week of preparation and one week of report writing. Regional working group members of Save the Children Sweden - Denmark (SCSD) in the respective countries took the responsibility for identifying and contacting organisations and individuals who are working to combat CSA, particularly those providing psychosocial support to children affected by abuse. A total of 34 organisations and individuals were met. Six days were spent in each country, except in Afghanistan, where only three days were spent. The six locations were Peshawar, Islamabad and Karachi. Organisations met included those working on child sexual exploitation and sexual health, and those working with communities of street children, MSM (men who have sex with men), and trafficked women and girls. Many groups could not be visited due to time limitations. Non-governmental organisations (NGOs), university psychology departments, community-based organisations (CBOs), international non-governmental organisations (INGOs) and donor agencies, as well as independent research consultants and a theatre animator | | | were amongst the contacts met. Interviews were held | | | with those at management level, heads of organisations, | | | coordinators of child protection units, trainers, | | | programme officers, field workers, therapists and | | | counsellors. Wherever possible...
Words: 9700 - Pages: 39
...Effects and Ways of Curbing Youth Restiveness in Nigeria: Implications for Counselling Happiness Ihuoma Igbo1* Innocent Ikpa2 1. Department of Educational Foundations, Benue State University Makurdi, Km 1, Gboko Road, PMB 102119, Makurdi, Benue State, Nigeria. 2. Department of Educational Foundations, Benue State University Makurdi, Km 1, Gboko Road, PMB 102119, Makurdi, Benue State, Nigeria. * E-mail of the corresponding author: hapigbo@yahoo.com Abstract The study was a survey designed to investigate causes, effects and ways of curbing youth restiveness in Nigeria. Three research questions were formulated. A total of 200 National Youth Service Corps members were sampled from 1200 Batch B 2012 Benue State. An instrument titled “Causes, Effects and Ways of Curbing Youth Restiveness Inventory” (CEWYI) was used to collect data. Data was analyzed using frequencies and percentages. The result revealed that youth restiveness is mostly caused by illiteracy, unequal distribution of national resources, poor child upbringing among others. The effects include upsurge of social vices and destruction of lives and properties while the result also revealed that it can be curbed through skill acquisition programmes and enlightenment against the phenomenon. The paper concluded that counselling could be an effective way of curbing youth restiveness in Nigeria. Keywords: Youth Restiveness, Causes, Effects, Curbing, Counselling 1. Introduction Restiveness among youths globally and those in Nigeria...
Words: 4337 - Pages: 18
... An introduction to counselling Introduction Stories of counselling Paula’s story: coming to terms with trauma Myra’s story: being depressed Matthew’s story: everything is getting on top of me Laura’s story: finding the right counsellor What is counselling? Defining counselling The relationship between counselling and psychotherapy Counselling and other helping professions The diversity of theory and practice in counselling The aims of counselling Counselling as an interdisciplinary area of study A user-centred definition of counselling Conclusions Chapter summary Topics for reflection and discussion Key terms and concepts Suggested further reading Introduction Counselling is a wonderful twentieth-century invention. We live in a complex, busy, changing world. In this world, there are many different types of experience that are difficult for people to cope with. Most of the time, we get on with life, but sometimes we are stopped in our tracks by an event or situation that we do not, at that moment, have the resources to sort out. Most of the time, we find ways of dealing with such problems in living by talking to family, friends, neighbours, priests or our family doctor. But occasionally their advice is not sufficient, or we are too embarrassed or ashamed to tell them what is bothering us, or we just don’t have an appropriate 2 An introduction to counselling person to turn to. Counselling is a really useful option at these moments. In most places, counselling is available fairly quickly...
Words: 8315 - Pages: 34