...Вечер е… Една есенна хладна вечер, ти сигурно спиш… Ала моите очи не се затварят. През мен минава бурята , която ти създаде… Когато си в мислите ми , честотата на вибрациите се изостря, преминават моментите ни заедно, после идва една необяснима радост, заменя я усмивката ти, а сълзите ми потичат, незнайно как… Емоция , може би… Прегръщам те и времето спира, целувам те , хах този път май сърцето спира…. Живота ми е песъчинка от морския пясък… Толкова много животи на едно място , не правят ли вечност… Когато четеш това , аз ще бъда точно до теб, от дясната ти страна,ще се смущавам от погледа ти , ето вече ме гледаш … Може би ме целуваш или пък пушиш …. Чети.. Даде ми шанса да прогледна … Колко е красив света ти , колко е честна усмивката ти , колко нежно е сърцето ти, колко важна е свободата ти … Аз не разбирах, криех се от теб, бягах и лъжех себе си , от страха на едно „глупаво“ сърце… Колко търпение вложи в мен, колко пъти не заспиваше спокойна, мислейки за моите проблеми, колко пъти те предизвиквах и виждах ужаса в очите ти, колко пъти не те чувах… Онова, което вложи в мен, което предизвика в мен, което намери в мен ,това е любовта ни. Заспиваш кротка до мен , ставаш с усмивка… Щастлива съм , благодарна съм … Осмисля се срещата ни. Думите скриват мислите ни,но усмивките ни ги издават.. Страст- огъня в погледа ти, горещите устни , нежните ръце , правят ме слаба , падам в разкоша от удоволствие , владееш ме и аз харесвам да бъда твоя… Не, не ме обсебваш, не ме обвземаш...
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...instance nature and nurture that is use to develop a concept of themselves, which comes from an individual’s past and future. Concept of self also comes from just who the individuals were in the past and who they plan to be in the future. The study of personality shows that an individual believes in fears, hope, and understanding of what to look from certain elements in the world, how to behave, and who the individual thinks they should be. A person social environment plays a huge role in how an individual will behave, certain influences the person will look at when it comes to her behavior. A person consists of three concepts when it comes to self: self-esteem, self-concept, and self-efficacy. When we take these concepts we are able to see how to look at them in the social world. In this paper we will define self and take a closer look at the concepts that are used to make me a better person. Self Self-shows how an individual pictures themselves in the world. Self-concept explains the organization of attributes and the roles that a person sees when looking at them. The general definition of self begins with social interaction, the social interaction helps to guide or influence a person’s behavior. Myers (2010) states that self-concept has three sources: self-perception theory, self-presentation, and cognitive dissonance theory (p.140). The self-presentation theory shows how an individual can try to stay consistent; an individual usually does not want to look inconsistent or foolish...
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...Personal Reflection on the Self University of Phoenix Self-concept is extremely important, it is the image that a person has of themselves, and how they think about or see themselves. Self-concept is the individual's belief about himself or herself, including the person's attributes and who and what the self is" (McLeod, 2008). The self has many aspects that help make up integral parts of it, such as self-awareness, self-esteem, self-perception, and self-efficacy. These are important components of self-concept. Self-awareness is one of the first components of self-concept. Self-awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions (Van Warmerdam, 2013). In simpler terms, self-awareness is the way a person looks at themselves and the way that they believe that other people see them. Self-awareness is something that every human being has, but everyone looks at themselves in a different way. While self-awareness is something that is central to each and every human being, it is not something that people are acutely aware of at every moment of every day. Instead, self-awareness becomes woven into the fabric of who a person is and emerges at different points depending upon the situation and a person’s personality. However, people are not born with self-awareness (Cherry, 2014). Self-esteem is also an important part of self- concept. In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a...
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...One of the most crucial aspects of the self-concept is self-esteem. (Greenwald, Bellezza,& Banaji 1988). Self-estem is a simplistic term for varied and complex mental states pertaining to how one views oneself. (JosephA.Bailey,1,MD) Sigelman (1999) claims that self-esteem is the evaluation of a person’s worth, that being high or low which is based on self perceptions being both positive and negative which make up the self concept of a person. As human beings, self esteem is an important emotion to us as it effects our daily lives in different ways. It can be the determiant factor in the outcomes of our performance. Self esteem is our sense of self worth. It is how we feel about ourselves in relation to the world our around us. Low self esteem...
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...Paper on the Lack of Self-Confidence GEN/200 Research Strategy Paper on the Lack of Self-Confidence Johnson Pope, an English poet, said, “Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” However, I definitely do not have that quality. Self-confidence describes a person who has faith on themselves. A problem that affects me every day is my lack of self-confidence. My self-confidence affects me in my decision making, career, and social skills. It also affects me when I am passing up opportunities that can be rewarding. An example how my self-confidence affects me is when I will not stand a chance competing against another person. I do not do well in a challenge. I give in easily. I doubt about myself and my abilities to do any task. The fear of rejection and failure hunts me every day. My lack of self-confidence overly preoccupies me with what others think. What I need to do is build confidence and take charge of my life to overcome my problem. One of the methods I can use to work on my self-confidence is looking for a support group. They are a lot of internet support groups or blogs about self-confidence that I can rely for support. I feel that if I can share my feelings without face-to-face time, I can open up more to my feelings and assist me better. Another place that I can use to gather information is to see a Psychologist. Psychologists are trained individuals and with a tremendous amount of experience that can be use in assist me in finding a solution...
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...of self and identity, attachment and relationships and context and socialisation are interwoven concepts that greatly influence each other. A sense of self-concept and identity is created through attachment and relationships, which is influenced, by social context and socialisation. Context and socialisation also influences self-concept and identity. In looking at these three themes collectively, it is evident that your past interactions influence your future interactions which influence your self concept and how you want to be in the future. In order to explore these themes, I have focused on the core characteristics of my relationship with my mother and two different socialisation outcomes of my childhood, to fully explore the impact that these themes have on an individual. The first core characteristic of my relationship with my mother is using her as a secure base; to an infant, a secure base is the attachment figure that they use as a point of safety that allows them to engage and explore their surroundings. As a child, my mother was used as a secure base, particularly in social settings, as I would engage more with other people when I was with my mother. This has resulted in me being more comfortable exploring new and different situations when I am with someone that I am familiar with. This definitely influenced my socialisation, especially my trait of being assertive. This attachment relationship has meant that my internal working model has been influenced by my expectation...
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...leadership” the leader must first understand their own behavior and the underlying reason for it in order to maximize their leadership potential. The next step for me is to proceed with self-evaluation which is defined as the process by which the self‐concept is modified and socially negotiated. There are four different motives to do self‐evaluation and those four motives are self enhancement, self-assessment, self-improvement and self-verification. Some examples of self-assessment methods and techniques include Leadership Steps Assessment (LSA), Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MTBI) and etc. Some of these methods help to compare the own self-image with people’s view of oneself. Based on my Myers-Briggs Type Indicator I am an ISTJ indicating that I am organized, compulsive, private, trustworthy, and practical. Possible career as office manager, accountant, business manager, tax agent, public servant. Looking at my possible careers, accountant is the one I have chosen as a career and it’s interesting to see based on my answers my personality is a fit for this career. By taking the self-assessments it has lead me to better understanding my own traits, strengths, but also weaknesses. Taking self-assessments leads to increasing confidence, trust and credibility by others and an improvement of emotional, social intelligence and self-esteem. According to James Clawson, the own behavior is controlled by VABEs, which are defined as Values,...
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...Responsibility is applied when I am self-motivated, I have time management and set personal goals. This will insure academic success. Being self-motivated is the force that drives me to do things. It makes me hold myself accountable for academic success and personal success. Being self-motivated pushes me to achieve my academic goals and pushes me to finish a difficult task. It will help me be sharp and not be influenced by the wrong people, and to be open to positive learning. I will set higher goals than normal people because I am self-motivated. Being self-motivated it will give me the ability to do what needs to be done, without the power or influence from other people. It will give me the strength to complete a task, even when challenging without giving up or someone to encourage me. I will motivate myself not to give up on my academic success, and I will graduate from college. I always told myself that I wanted to go back to school and get a diploma, but I never motivated myself to go back to college. I was always working and taking care of my family, so I always found an excuse not to go back to school. Now that I motivated myself to go back to college, I will not look back and receive my diploma. Self-motivation will be an important factor in my academic success. Having time management is the key to having academic success. Without managing my time due to personal, and work life I cannot be successful in bettering my education. Time management will give me the ability to plan and...
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...Interview This is a paper that states what I feel would be my dream job, my self-concepts or who I think I am. It also explains why the self-concepts I have chosen represent me as a person. This also shows how some of these self-concepts came to be apart of me. It will also show the explanation of different catagories that some of these self-conceptes fit into. This will show why I am cable of doing my dream job I have chosen. As well as who I am as a person in general. My dream job would be to become a Medical Lab Technician. Medical Lab Technicians are a big part of the medical field. They deal with toxicology, chemistry, hematology, immunology, and microbiology. As well as receiving, typing, testing and recording inventory...
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...Inventory Paper DeVry College of New York Leadership & Organizational Behavior Abstract This paper contains detailed analysis of my primary, back up and limiting thinking styles depicted from Life Styles Inventory survey results and how I manifest these thinking styles in my personal and professional life is in the first part. This paper also contains the impact of my personal style on management style, assess the impact on my effectiveness as a manager in terms of the four functions of management in the second part. Genesis of personal style, how I developed these styles as revealed by the Life Style Inventory survey is included in the third part. The paper will conclude with summary containing on how I value this exercise for my academic, personal and professional growth. Life Styles Inventory Part I: Personal Thinking Styles (Primary, Back-up, and Limiting) From the Life styles Inventory (LSI) survey, my primary thinking style is “Conventional” which showed a score of 91th percentile and my back-up style is “Self-Actualization” which showed a score of 90th percentile. I accept the survey results regarding my primary and back-up personal thinking styles. “Conventional” thinking style measures how the native adheres to rules, follows practices and principles. “Self-Actualization” thinking style represents the Self-respect, Self-realization, Receptive, Simplicity, emphasis equality, creativity, pursue of knowledge and desire to give for the society of a native. I...
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...Emotional Competency Emotional competence is part of being emotionally intelligent and is as important as skill-based competency. Being able to stop and focus what you are feeling and how you are reacting can affect your leadership skills. I reviewed my emotional competence during this past Saturday by tracking my emotions throughout the day. My day began fairly relaxed with a sense of content enjoying breakfast and planning the rest of the day. With a relaxing mood, I was able to think clearly and ponder activities for the rest of the day. As the day progressed and I began reviewing items on my list and had a feeling of apprehension and sense of daunting task that couldn’t be fulfilled. This emotional state had me feeling flustered and...
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...The Self Keepa Secret PSY/400 February 6, 2011 Ingrid Lewis The Self Philosophers and Psychologists have been debating and pondering the question of what exactly constitutes the self for many years. Considering that there are certain concepts and aspects that makes up what psychologists refer to as “the self” in the social world is definitely worth taking a look at since defining what exactly it is can help us understand our roles in society and move us a little closer to understanding our motivations, desires, and why we do the things we do. In this essay we will examine the concept of self in the social world and discuss how I apply the self to my own life. In addition we will also examine the roles of self concept, self-esteem and self efficacy, and how these concepts build a framework for my conception of self. I will also describe two social experiences that affected my personal development in an effort to help the reader understand why I am who I am today. Self in the Social world The concept of the self cannot be found in any book or dictionary. It is not something any one person can concretely define. It cannot be explained in third person because the self is an individual topic. I can’t decide for another person what the definition of self is for them, especially as it relates to their experiences in the social world. I can only decide what self is and how it manifests itself in my own life based on my own experiences, thoughts, feelings and...
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...Concept of the self in the social world Name: Course: Tutor: Date: Concept of the self is a system of the individual representations about himself; realized part of the personality; the image of the self. (Sedikides, 2007) The formation of the self is influenced by a range of factors, which are the self-concept, self-esteem, social self and self-knowledge. In particular, the body, abilities, social relations and many other personal manifestations can be the subject of self-perception and self-esteem of the individual. Based on the self-concept, the individual builds interaction with others and with himself. Therefore, the formation of an adequate self-concept, and self-awareness as a whole, is an important condition of education of conscious member of society. The concept of the self was created in 1950 by Maslow and Rogers in branch of the phenomenological and humanistic psychology, and it was considered as the integrity human self, as a fundamental factor of behavior and development of personality. (Sedikides, 2007) Often the term is used as a synonym for self-awareness, but the self-concept is less neutral, it includes an evaluative aspect of self-awareness. In essence, the self-concept does not define just what an individual is, but also what he thinks of himself as looking at his active principle and development opportunities in the future. Throughout adulthood, the self-concept of man simultaneously seeks to preserve the continuity and but...
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...personal, management and leadership level representing the essence of an individual's usefulness. The circumflex provides an image of an individual's thinking and behavior and then compares results with those of other individuals having taken the inventory in order to create self-awareness of strengths and weakness in order to create awareness of constructive behavior. The forming base for the LSI represents nearly ten thousand individuals from various organizations, ages, levels of education and from both genders. The results plotted on the circumflex a divided into area defined by higher order and lower order needs of satisfaction and security; and task-centered and people centered orientations. Within these spheres are twelve separate styles (agreement, conservative, reliant, prevention, oppositional, power, aggressive, obsessive, success, self-actualizing, humanistic-encouraging, and affinitive) which are consequently grouped into three exact patterns (success and reliant; self-actualizing and avoidance; humanistic-encouraging/oppositional; and affinitive and power). Cooke and Lafferty (1989), the authors of the inventory, suggest, "Aiming for the blue" the Constructive Styles of thinking and behavior. My Results Position Style Score Percentile 1 Humanistic-Encouraging 12 1 2 Affinitive 35 75 3 Approval 24 91 4 Conventional 7 9 5 Dependent 28 95 6 Avoidance 0 0 7 Oppositional 1 6 8 Power 0 0 9...
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...TREATMENT OF SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIOUR. THE APPROACHES SHOULD BE SELECTED FROM THOSE INTRODUCED IN MODULE 5. In this essay I will try and demonstrate my knowledge and understanding of the title, by describing and evaluating two approaches of the treatment of self-defeating behaviour. INTRODUCTION Self-defeating behaviour is a behaviour used to cope with a traumatic situation. It is then repeatedly used but often has a damaging effect on the person. This can be identified as being deliberate or intentional behaviour that has a clear, definite or probably negative effect. People are more likely to have a self-defeating or destructive manner when either there are threats made to their egos or when they have low self-esteem. When people have low self-esteem they are more likely to be susceptible to having depression, anxiety and emotional distress, which are problems that are usually directly related to low self-appraisal. There are many examples of self-defeating behaviours like, being needy, guilty, envious, angry, obsessive, rebellious, addictions, eating disorders, procrastination, controlling, gossiping, self-doubt and depression. Basically self-defeating behaviour is a coping mechanism we use when we are dealing with a threatening or stressful situation. We grab at any solution that we can find. The solution might have helped in the short term, and that is why we keep repeating it. Nonetheless, it can also have a negative impact on our life. WHAT IS THE DEFINTION OF SELF-DEFEATING...
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