If I were to choose to be mentored or to mentor, I would be would choose to mentor another. To me this means I am in the position I desire and have the knowledge to be closer to the position desired. The text book Human Relations explains coaching is an important part of mentoring; the difference in coaching is the mentor gives on the spot advice and direction to help the protégé be skilled in a project or sports team. One thing that stuck out in one of the skills and techniques is: Give some constructive advice. “Advice in the form of a question or suppositional statement is often effective” (DuBrin, 2009). To be a mentor one need to engage themselves outside the work force to learn of the wide range of helping behaviors, like being a trusted friend and coach (DuBrin, 2009).
I have worked with many difficult people, know-it-alls, blamers, and No-people. With know-it-alls it’s easy to shake your head yes and smile, but when this type asks you to do something and you know it’s the wrong way, I will do it the way I have either always done it knowing it is the right way, or reconfirm with another to make sure if I do it the way the know-it-all wants me to is okay. Blamers can be difficult and unethical. Depending on the situations I may take the blame, sometimes turning it around or correcting the blamer makes you look worse than just taking the blame. No people are the easiest for me to deal with. When one is negative, keeping a positive attitude sometimes influences the negative, being around certain people rubs off; hopefully it’s the positive that rubs off on the negative.
I think that the only way to know if others see you as a difficult person is ask, and for someone to tell you you’re a difficult person.
Dealing
