Reflection
How has your participation in this self-assessment increased (or not) awareness about yourself.
If you have hit a rut or a roadblock in your career, now may be the time to break out some self-assessments and find out where the problem lies. Assessments like these can help us understand why we have had trouble fitting in at certain jobs, what kinds of skills it would bring us greater enjoyment to use in our work, and which kinds of work environments would make us feel more at home.
After completing this Emotional Intelligence self-Assessment, the insights and practical application were incredibly insightful for me. I identified ways in which I need to work together better and healed frustrating and difficult relationship issues.
What have you learned about the topic and/or yourself?
Here, our subject is emotions—and whether we know what we are feeling and what we do with that knowledge. A friend of mine takes umbrage when I broach the idea with him. “Of course, I know what I am feeling,” he protests. He points to his chest—in the vague direction of his heart—and then to his throat. “I feel my emotions so, of course, I know what I am feeling.”
He is only partly right but the fact that our emotions are embodied makes us more confident about our ability to know what we are feeling and our emotional intelligence. It is “the above average” effect —our tendency to over-rate our skill set and abilities—except it is on steroids, as a study by Marc A. Brackett and others showed.
Companies who once focused only on where their new hires went to college, have learned that IQ alone isn’t going to make them successful. The way they conduct themselves, the way they express themselves, and the way they interact with others are all as important if not more important than the person’s score on an intelligence test.
Think for a moment about the last time that you