...concerned parent, I decided to restrict them to their rooms, take away all forms of entertainment (i.e. games, movies, or tablets) for two weeks, and ordered an earlier bedtime. With tears pouring down their young faces and a plethora of apologetic promises, my children began to scream like Patrick Henry “give me liberty or give me death.” In retrospect, after reading the articles from Amy Chua and Hanna Rosin (two polar opposites with controversial cultural distinctions on how to raise and discipline a child) it would be an honest assessment that (figuratively speaking) I gave my boys both “liberty and death.” Amy Chuna, a Chinese mother raising two daughters Sophia and Louisa, holds a traditionally strict parenting style. Within her Asian household, Amy focuses on the success and discipline of her children, raising them on an ancient Chinese philosophical idea that “nothing is fun until you are good at it” and “happiness comes from mastery” (Chua, 2011). According to Chua, her daughter were “never allowed to attend sleepover[s], have a playdate, be in a school play, watch TV, play computer games, or get any grade other than an A” (2011). Chuna’s beliefs for an overzealous discipline, combined with extremely high expectations, will bring preparation and protection to her children’s success in life and ultimately, if her children were not receiving top scores in every subject, then it was her fault (or the parent’s fault). Chuna’s further believes that the parents of western...
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... and knowing that there is an answer to all questions to ensure the moral development of a child. The argument is to convince the reader that good responsible child could be raised by either a single parent or jointly. (Informal Fallacy identified as Composition) * Identify the barriers and lack of support from fathers in the African American community. The argument is that the African American male is undependable, uncommitted to marriage, prone to engage in violence, corrupt behaviors, and/or physically absent due to abandonment or incarceration. The argument is that this stereotype or myth has largely contributed to the fact many women raise children alone drawing from the conclusion that these myths take on a life of itself. That myths and stereotyping can cause problems in the raising of a child. That some men in the African American community lack confidence to follow their dreams, having a job to provide for their family and knowing that there is an answer to all questions to ensure the moral development of a child. (Informal Fallacy identified as Hasty Generalization) * Children deprived of the right of responsibility. There are too many mothers and fathers, not fulfilling the role and taking the responsibility and not available to provide training as parents together. The argument is that responsibility does...
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...November 19, 2011 Linda Branch, Ph. D. The Disciplining of Infants There are opposing schools of thought on the benefits of disciplining infants. Some experts and parents believe that infants cannot comprehend discipline or right from wrong. The other side believes that infants are clever and know how to test the limitations of their environments. It is a fact that infants do need structure and protection; however, doctors, parents, and other experts of child psychology differ in opinion about the effectiveness of positive discipline and negative discipline when applied to infants. According to Dr. Lawrence Kutner (2009), the connotations of discipline need to be reevaluated differently by the caretaker and viewed from another perspective. Instead of viewing discipline as punishment, parents should view discipline as a teaching opportunity between child and parent. Dr. Kutner (2009) advises that warnings, swats on the child’s bottom, and threats are nonproductive in achieving desired results. His advice is to use environmental controls. Environmental controls are a fancy moniker used in describing how to make the home or other environments child-proof and safe (Kutner, 2009.). For example, he asserts that covering the electrical socket is better than yelling at the child to stop playing with it. The parent must realize that the child has a natural curiosity to explore and he or she is not mentally developed enough to understand what is safe and what is not safe. Other...
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... John Tempr The Autism program is a good way to give every parent or soon to be parent good insight into this particular disorder. Autism was something I never heard of until the year of 2010 when I had a student in my classroom named Tony of which was two years old at the time. Tony entered my class on Halloween 2010 and I noticed when his mom bought him in I fixed him a plate because we had a party. On his plate was the usually sweets that children love like chips, cookies, cupcakes, and I gave him a juice, and all he did was look at the plate and take things off one by one so I was shocked because I thought every child loves junk food. I was thinking to myself that is strange but at the same time I was thinking maybe he just ate and is not hung The following week that Tony got enrolled I noticed other things that he was doing that was unusual so I talked to one of the baby-net therapists that comes to the facility and I asked her a couple of questions and her answer to me was she cannot give me definite answer until she evaluates him. I talked to his mom and told her the things that he was doing and she said he was just spoiled but we had her permission to let him see the therapists. The therapists finally diagnosed him at the age of 3 with autism and I was shocked because that was my first time ever hearing about this and the therapist said the earlier the detection the better. I want all parents to know there it is unnecessary to be in denial. Early detection...
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... Youth Sports 2 Youth Sports What does it take to be successful in youth sports? Is it an amazing young athlete with God-given abilities? Sometimes that may be the case but many times success can be gained from a normal child when parents take the right steps to properly motivate them. The roles of parents are an integral part in the development of a child in youth sports. With many families having two working parents it may be hard for these parents to properly get involved in their child’s life. The wrong kind of involvement could lead to children being “babied” or leading them to believe winning is what is most important. This brings on unnecessary pressure creating a negative experience for the child. How parents get involved and how they teach sports to their children both have a significant effect on the child’s experience in youth sports. Many parents have become conditioned into thinking one of their only roles in their child’s life in sports, is to be a taxi cab driver or chauffer, and to make sure they’re registered and signed up for the leagues, camps, or clinics. Parents often forget that they can and should be more involved with their children. In the article “The Good Father: Parental Expectation and Youth Sports” the author discusses the father’s role in youth sports. In society, fathers are looked upon as the head of the house, the one who makes all the money. Fathers become...
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...read to us. It was always at the same time each day, naptime. Each student would race to get a little carpet to lie down. The teacher would dim the lights and begin to read with a soft voice. I remember that I would get so excited to hear the story, but before she could finish the book, I, along with most of the other students, was sound asleep. Television (T.V.) was never an option in my house. If we did not have something to do, we found a book, magazine or newspaper to read. It was more educational for us to read about the news than it was to watch it on T.V. With T.V., they had no idea if what was on the news was appropriate for us to watch. With magazines or newspapers, my parents were able to tear out all the violent pictures or stories. Not only did my siblings and I read, but both my parents did too. Throughout my early childhood years, I can remember my mom and dad always having...
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...Ray Bradbury – The Veldt Parents, as well as the peer group, still have the strongest influence on children. The bond between parents and their children are usually the first social experiences children have. Therefore parents have great responsibility to set a good example and enable their children to get a good education. George and Lydia Hadley, the parents in Ray Bradbury’s “The Veldt”, made many bad choices that had great effect on their children’s personalities. Since the Hadley family lives in a futuristic house that does everything for the children, Peter and Wendy, they started to grow apart from their parents. As a consequence, the children noticed they didn’t need their “real” parents any longer and developed a plan to get rid of them. Nonetheless, George and Lydia Hadley are self-responsible for their murder. George and Lydia disregarded their parental responsibility to a high degree. Instead of caring for Wendy and Peter, they had their house to care for everything and everybody. The house cooked, comforted and even played with the children. According to Lydia, the house has become “wife and mother now, and nursemaid.” It took over the role of the parents:”You’ve let this room and this house replace you and your wife in your children’s affections.” George was often too busy to spend time with his children. These examples show that George and Lydia didn’t care too much for their children and missed out on the children’s nurturing. Further...
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...17 she says; “I’m going away to London”. There are 4 persons involved in the song, Sinead, her dad and her 2 children. Sinead goes through a transformation, from being sad and “locked” – both by her father, but also by not having any opportunities, in Dublin, to being free and happy in London; e.g. (line 33-34) “I’m glad I came here to London, I’ve had myself some big fat fun”. One more thing that shows the transformation is stanza 1 vs. stanza 4. In stanza 1 she says that she wants to be cool, wants to stand up tall and in stanza 4 she says that she feels real cool and stands up tall. She goes from wanting to do it, to doing it. The moral of the song is to have the courage, to break free from your parents, but also parents letting go of you. Breaking free from parents is a huge part of growing up, and in this song we see it when Sinead wants to go to London. E.g. she says: “And I told my poor worried father”; her father isn’t happy about her going away. The song ends with...
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...Do parents deserve love unconditionally? Often we as people are born into a family. This family can range from the “traditional” nuclear family to the growingly common “alternative” family. With being born into a family some bonds come along with it, this parent-child bond is what I am interested in examining. Is it something that is set in stone upon birth? Is it a condition which cannot be changed? Or does this connection between parent and child come with a certain set of conditions? Of course it’s safe to assume the majority of people would out right claim that it is set at birth and only an ungrateful person would deny his or her mother’s or father’s love, or that a parent just has not been patient enough with their child to refuse love to them. If there are conditions, what may they be? If these conditions put either child or parent at risk for diminished quality of life, may it just be better to lose the love for a parent or child? I grew up in a small suburban community, like many other American kids. My father worked for the Department of Defense and my mother was a hairdresser. My father worked long days and my mother would be the one to watch over us most of the time. Of course my brother and I would get into trouble as little boys do. I was always worse than my brother when it came to disobeying rules and basically causing havoc. The typical punishment for just about any offensive minor or major was a spanking. Common in the time I know and even more common in...
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...Both Parents should assume equal responsibility in raising a child Both parents should be required to assume equal responsibility in raising a child because children need the emotional and material support of both parents. When one parent pays less attention to the child they start developing symptoms of various problems. Marriage is a new stage in the life of each one which is based on sharing everything in the couple’s life. It is a company but in a different concept from the business point of view. Every decision, step, or event happens in the house should be informed to each participant in this house. Normally, it becomes commonly shared between people that mothers are the first school from which children can form their manners and behaviors. However, fathers can teach their children better to be responsible and brave, teach them to be wise in taking decisions, and help the child to have a peaceful environment in the house. For the previous reasons, fathers should have equal importance in teaching their children many aspects of life mothers cannot provide during raising up her child. The first reason why both fathers and mothers should have equal opportunities to raise their children is that father, by his masculinity nature, will be better to give his child the sense of braveness and teach him or her to defend themselves against anyone who could hurt them in their environment. For playing out similar situations in the house with his child, would certainly increase the...
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...Paternal incarceration creates a temporary single-parenting system, in which the mother acts as sole guardian, but imprisonment tends to produce far worse effects on children than do other causes of parent-child separation (Lowenstein, 1986). Separation due to death or similar causes disrupt the family, yet these happen to provide a “focal concern around which the remaining members can rally and mitigate the impact of their loss”; quite to the contrary, separation due to imprisonment rarely elicits any such response because of the stigma with which it is associated (Fritsch & Burkhead, 1981, p. 84). Typically, a child faced with the social stigma of paternal incarceration will often also encounter embarrassment and shame, which may in turn further inhibit the ability of the child to adequately adjust to the anxieties resulting from the separation through incarceration (Hannon et al., 1984; Lowenstein, 1986). The deleterious effects on child behavior, of course, are that prolonged periods of shame and embarrassment may promote depression or behavior typical of withdrawal, such as an unwillingness to engage in social interactions. Unlike other causes for paternal separation, paternal absence due to imprisonment is a multi-dimensional phenomenon, which takes on different meaning depending on the manner in which the particular cause for the incarceration is perceived—either as being “normatively approved” or as “bearing a stigma” (Lowenstein, 1984). While there is a correlation...
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...Why chinese mothers are superior I remember one thing from my upbringing that made a big impression on the person, I am today. One thing that my parents always kept reminding me about when I was a kid, was that I could loose in games and my opponents could win. My parents would in that way form my thoughts in a way, so that I definitely not would be a bad looser that would cry and get upset because of a lost game. Because to loose sometimes in life is something everyone will experience once in a while. Some people can not handle this scenario as good as other people. This is because of the differences in the upbringings from child to child/parent to parent. Upbringings are actually very different from culture to culture. The writer Amy Chua wrote an article in The Wall Street Journal, January 8th, 2011 with the title “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, in which she explains how her kids were raised and where she also in general writes about how different upbringings can be in opposite cultures. The sender of this article is the John M. Duff, Jr. Professor of Law at Yale Law School, Amy L. Chua (October 26, 1962). She joined the Yale faculty in 2001 after teaching at Duke Law School. Prior to starting her teaching career, she was a corporate law associate at Cleary, Gottlieb, Steen & Hamilton. She specializes in the study of international business transactions, law and development, ethnic conflict, and globalization and the law. As of January 2011, she is most noted for her...
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...I'd like to say, though I'm not here yet thank you for the gifts I'll get And thank you from my parents, too for all the gifts in pink and blue My closet was empty, my belongings were few but that's all changed now, thanks to you! I'm sorry I couldn't be here but I'm not quite ready yet I'm painting my eyes, hair and cheeks and soon I'll be all set I'm sending this little message to convey to you this thought The stork will soon have left me to use the gifts you've brought Thanks for the lovely welcome you have given me today And when you see the stork fly by you'll know I've come to stay Just give my Mommy time to dress me up so dear I thank you from my tiny heart for the lovely gifts you share Soon I'll be on my way home to show you how much I care I’m so excited that you all came To help throw a shower for my mother Hope you had time to enjoy yourselves And have some laughs with one another. It’s too bad I can’t be there too To join in the fun baby shower But I’m pretty busy myself I’m growing every single hour. While I can’t be there in person To say thanks for gifts you bought We all are very thankful For the special baby thought. I’ll be here before you know it And I’m happy can’t you see That after I’m a little older You’ll all come around to see...
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...Parenting Practices Over Generations By Michael Gainer PSY 260 Module 1 Assignment 3 Instructor Taomina 4 March 2014 * 0 Many different aspects in a parent’s culture can affect the way that their child is raised. While conducting the interviews, not only did the generation of parenting show similarities and differences, but also the part of the world played a tremendous role. The cohort effect that the first generation of parenting carried over through the generations of parenting. Although the same life events were not shared, the practices brought from those generations affected the most current generation. While continuing through the generations the contextual factors that played a role in parenting are more noticeable. 1 0 1 | Generation 1: 1940-1960. Raised in a small working village in Italy. The children consisted of 4 boys and 2 girls | Generation 2: 1970-1990. Raised in the United States. The family consisted of 4 girls and 1 boy | Generation 3: 2000-present. Raised in the United States. The family consisted of 2 girls and 1 boy. | Parenting Practice 1: Education | Going to school at this point in time in the area they lived was not an option. The kids instead worked on the farm with the family. | The family moved to the Untied States to give their children a better life. All...
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...‘chicken’ shows the rivalry between the brothers to display their ability and skill. Although it may seem as though it’s a game played by the adolescents to display strength and courage, we later see that it has far greater meaning. “Anton was by far the stronger swimmer and he had no excuse to fail.” Simply because Anton was genetically screened, Vincent found himself loathing and constantly attempting to outshine him. He found that he was inferior to his brother. “By the time we were playing blood brothers, I understood there was something very different flowing through my brother’s veins, rather than mine.” The protagonist also found he was competing for his parent’s love. “Anton was a son my father considered worthy of his name.” His parents recognised that Vincent was inferior, as he wasn’t screened, like his loved brother. He was outshone in ability, seemingly wits, and his significant genetic status wasn’t that of his brother’s. “Ten fingers, ten toes. That’s all that used to matter.” Now, however, he found he was slowly being ‘rubbed’ out of the family picture to make room for his perfect sibling. They not only competed for honour in their simple game of chicken that they would play as children, they were now also competing for their parent’s love. Vincent constantly found himself being rejected and unloved. He sat separately from his family at meal times, and his family repeatedly reminded him of how he would be unable to achieve his fantasy of joining the space team. “The...
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