...with developing effective ways of parenting their children. Many people are unsure of how to be a good parent to a child. People strive to be the ideal parent to their children. To some people an ideal parenting style is based on the way that they were raised. Other parents want to be a friend to their child rather than a parent. Every parent is different in his or her own way and sees different parenting styles. According to psychologist Diana Buramind, parents will show at least one of three parenting styles. One parenting style is the authoritarian style. In this parenting style the parent is in full control. When a child messes up they are usually punished which instills fear, discipline, and manner. When a parent of this style makes a rule they are to be followed without questioning. Parents of this style don’t give their children any choice in situations. With no choice in situations children usually do not know how to be independent. While developmental experts agree that rules and boundaries are important for children to have, most believe that authoritarian parenting is too punitive and lacks the warmth, unconditional love and nurturing that children need. Authoritative parenting is the main parenting style across the world and sometimes referred to as the best parenting style. Authoritative parents listen to their children while at the same time place limits and consequences to their child’s behavior. Unlike authoritarian parenting independence is strongly encouraged...
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...Authoritarian Parenting Style: The Negative Effect On Children Abstract The Authoritarian Parenting Style is one of four parenting styles used to rear children. Authoritarian Parenting style is described by Feldman (2011) as “parents that are controlling, punitive, rigid, cold. Their word is law, and they value strict, unquestioning obedience……; they do not tolerate expressions of disagreement (p.251).” Because children are unable to explore their own feelings, values and opinions, they, grow up with various negative effects. Some of those effects are anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of social skills and bullying other people. The negative effects, that these children inherit, naturally follow them into their adulthood. Feldman (2011) confirms “Children of authoritarian parents tend to be withdrawn…..they are not very friendly….boys are unusually hostile (p. 251).” The parenting style we choose to raise our children is so pivotal because it will shape the traits, personality and mannerisms of our children. As parents, ultimately we want to produce Godly, respectable, successful children that will one day be an asset to society. Parenting Styles Children reared with an authoritarian parenting style are laden with various negative effects that produce: anxiety, low self-esteem, over-aggression in males, dependence in females, lack of social skills, and becoming a bully. Although for this paper we will be focusing primary on the negative effects...
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...personalities than one another. Despite these challenges, researchers have uncovered convincing links between parenting styles and the effects these styles have on children. During the early 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted a study on more than 100 preschool-age children (Baumrind, 1967). Using naturalistic observation, parental interviews and other research methods, she identified four important dimensions of parenting: * Disciplinary strategies * Warmth and nurturance * Communication styles * Expectations of maturity and control Based on these dimensions, Baumrind suggested that the majority of parents display one of three different parenting styles. Further research by also suggested the addition of a fourth parenting style (Maccoby & Martin, 1983). The Four Parenting Styles 1. Authoritarian Parenting In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure to follow such rules usually results in punishment. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, "Because I said so." These parents have high demands, but are not responsive to their children. According to Baumrind, these parents "are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (1991). 2. Authoritative Parenting Like...
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...Week 2 Discussion 2 Parenting Styles The text describes four basic parenting styles in chapter four. Describe each parenting style and list probable outcomes for a child based on the style of parenting he/she received. Provide an example of someone you know who was at an advantage or was at a disadvantage based on the parenting style he/she received at home. Authoritarian Parenting In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure to follow such rules usually results in punishment. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, "Because I said so." These parents have high demands, but are not responsive to their children. Authoritive Parenting Like authoritarian parents, those with an authoritative parenting style establish rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. However, this parenting style is much more democratic. Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions. When children fail to meet the expectations, these parents are more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishing. Permissive Parenting Permissive parents have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control. permissive parents are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional...
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...Sydney L. Guy Dr. Chabot November 10, 2013 English 1302.T.11 Parenting Styles Every day persons engage in others who have been conveyed up in different dwellings than they have been raised in. The new people they meet converse, proceed, and respond differently than what that individual may anticipate. These outsiders act this way, not by alternative, but by the way they were raised. Parents around the world have numerous distinct ways and traditions that they bring their young kids up in that these parents believe will arrange their children for the genuine world. There are three different kinds of parenting methods that are prevalent in this generation. Authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative parenting methods each have distinct characteristics and effect the way their young kids grow up and evolve and are classified accordingly in the society today. “Old-fashioned rules help your children understand where they stand, what they are allowed to do, and what is expected of them. Unlike permissive parents who always want to be liked, authoritarian parents expect to be respected” (Llyod). Authoritarian parenting is dictatorial, unjust, and rough. With obedience being the first priority, authoritarian parents are strict with their children. These parents do not display much warmth or nurture towards their children and are inclined to be requiring yet not responsive.”These parents support one-sided communication where they establish rules without explanation and expect them...
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...of Parenting Styles Parents are a huge part of a child's life. However they act, whatever they say, anything that they do largely impacts a child's development from the moment they are born. According to psychologist Diana Baumrind's research, she found that there are four types of parenting styles (Parenting Styles in Psychology, Brittany Olivarez). Through naturalistic observation, parenting interviews, and other research methods, Baumrind identified the following four parenting styles: * Authoritative: democratic style of parenting, parents are attentive, forgiving, teach their offspring proper behavior, have a set of rules, and if child fails to follow their is punishment, if followed their is reward/reinforcement * Authoritarian: strict parenting style, involves high expectations from parents but have little communication between child and parents. Parents don't provide logical reasoning for rules and limits, and are prone to harsh punishments * Permissive: parents take on the role of "friends" rather than parents, do not have any expectations of child, they allow the child to make their own decisions * Uninvolved: parents neglect their child by putting their own life before the child's. They do provide for the child's basic needs but they show little interaction with the child Each of these different parenting styles impacts and influences the development of child. Through Baumrind's observations she found that the most ideal and balanced style that...
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...CheckPoint Parenting Styles and Development | Whether children are exposed to an authoritative, authoritarian, or permissive parenting style may have a great influence on how children handle challenges in their lives. Describe how three adults, each brought up under a different parenting style as a child, might cope differently with one of the changes listed in the table in Appendix F.Post a 200- to 300-word response. | For anyone going into young adulthood can be very difficult to overcome on their own, though depending on the way ones parents raised them and how their parental style was can make facing these challenges harder or easier. Parents who are more authoritative than other parents may have more confidence in their children facing these obstacles alone, and the children may be too “mature for their age” which means in my opinion they would handle the situations very well because they have seemed to think in their mind they have been independent on their own for some time now. Though young adults raised by parent who are more authoritarian are more attentive, more so want their parents attention to be on them for as long as possible. Which I believe means that there was not enough communication as parent and child, so with that being said these kids finally want just something to be about them in their parents eyes. I believe having to be raised with this parenting style may be more difficult than others because these children are more prone to feeling lonely,...
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...Life Span Development Today the assignment is to speak of the parenting style(s) of our parent(s). I chose to speak about both of my parents because they have different parenting styles. First, my mother, her name is Samantha. I consider her an authoritative parent. The reason behind my opinion is because as a child in my household we (myself and my two sisters) were always expected to mind our manners, but we could negotiate on the small things. When we were answering an adult of any age we were always taught and constantly reminded to be respectful by saying “yes ma’am”, “no ma’am”, “yes sir” and “no sir”. If we responded with a “yeah” or “no” we always got the ONE CHANCE to make the correction and we knew exactly what was expected of us when we heard the “excuse me, what did you say?” As we got older, she did become more lenient with SOME of the rules. She no longer gives us the “chance” to fix our responses as she expects us to automatically have respect and remember to whom we are speaking too. We also now have more lenience because when she tells us to do something we can always respond respectfully and tell her we will do it in a moment. We also no longer have curfews like we did when we were younger. Now, instead of “be inside when its dark outside” we have all now come to the compromise that as long as we tell her our plans are and let her know if we are or are not coming home she is fine with us coming and going as we please. Now, to speak of my dad, his...
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...Parenting Styles Infancy and early childhood is one of the most serious and complicated stage of development because in this span of ages, the human being’s world still evolves in its parents’ means of taking care of them. “Each phase of the parent- child interaction can alter the status of the child so that during the subsequent phase of interaction the child stimulates the parent in a different way or reacts differently to parent behavior. In turn, parents discover that previous behaviors are no longer appropriate, and they are faced with finding new ways of guiding and interacting with the child” ( Hamner, 2001). Parenting is a huge responsibility. Some parents choose to practice an authoritative style of parenting. This type of parenting has high control but low responsiveness. Parents are often strict and have high expectations for their child’s behavior. They also value obedience and discipline and sometimes use punishment when their children do not do what is expected of them. The parents that practice this type of parenting do not explain the reasoning behind the rules they set. If the child asks why things and rules are like they are, the parents’ response will simply be because they said so. These parents are “obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation” (Baumrind, 1991). The product of such parenting is children that are obedient and good student but are also unhappy, anxious, and withdrawn...
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...Ginny Bouphasok Diana Refsell Developmental Psychology 10/2/12 I think so many factors influence parenting. I would like to start this off with one of the most important factors I think that influence parenting, and that is having a child unplanned and not being ready for it versus planning for a child and being ready for it. I am a little old fashioned when it comes to certain things and especially when I think of how I would raise my child. I do not have one, and I am a lesbian. I am not sure when I will have one, but I want to with a potential partner, hopefully she can carry or we can adopt as well. When I say I am a little old fashioned I guess I am referring to how I would raise my child. When I see the way my friends act with their kids, I do not think they are doing anything wrong, but I think to myself I would not do that. I believe a lot the children I see now don’t have any manners. When I go over to my friend’s house and I see the children running and screaming at the top of their lungs, then cutting through parents and jumping on the couch, I think oh my, I wouldn’t let my children do that at our house or anyone else’s. If I even thought of doing anything like that when I was younger I would have got spanked. I definitely would not hit my child I do not believe in that, but I do believe in strict discipline. Another thing I would be strict or serious on is how my child answers or responds to me. I would teach my child to respond to me and others properly...
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...INFLUENCE OF PARENTING STYLES ON SOCIAL SKILLS AND ACADEMIC PERFORMANCE Chapter 1 THE PROBLEM INTRODUCTION There is a great agreement among developmental psychologists that parenting styles have important implications for child development (Darling, et al, 1993). Child rearing or commonly known as parenting is a complex activity that includes many specific behaviours that work individually or together to influence child outcomes. The relationship between a student and his or her parents has been noted to have an influential impact on not only the student performance in school but also in his/her life generally. Parenting styles have been analysed and grouped by educationists. Numerous studies such as Baumrind, (1991), Maccoby & Martin, (1983), Mandara, (2006) and Micki, (2008), have shown that the parenting style experienced by children contribute in no small measure to the moulding of the behavioral pattern generally and specifically, the social skills and academic performance of the children. Miki (2008) noted that the relationship between parenting styles and their children's social skills and academic performance has shown that parents can have a dramatic impact on their children’s performance, often resulting in a vast improvement. Also, though; not as preventing, it is also shown that parents can have a powerful impact on their children's behaviour in the classroom and at other...
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...There are many different factors that are involved with parenting. Suppose you have a child named Michael who is 13 years old and wants to rent an M-rated video game he has heard about from his friends. The response that Michael receives is strongly influenced by the parenting style his parents use. There are four different styles of parenting; they are authoritarian, permissive, authoritative, and uninvolved/disengaged. Each style of parenting will have different reactions and answers towards Michael’s request. The first type of parenting style is authoritarian parents. Authoritarian parents are “parents who are controlling, punitive, rigid, and cold, and whose word is law. They value strict, unquestioning obedience from their children and do not tolerate expression of disagreement.” (Feldman, 2014). If Michael’s parents are authoritarian parents, it is likely they will be angry and upset with Michael. They will tell him he will not rent the video game, he will be punished for it, and will be told not...
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...“Does Parenting Style Matter” Author vs. Author Demanding vs. Relaxed Veronica Miller October 30, 2015 WRTG 101S Amy Chua, an author and Yale law professor and Hanna Rosin, an author and journalist have written competing articles in the Wall Street Journal about their parenting styles. The woman have different childhoods and backgrounds that have altered their views and styles as it relates to raising children. Ironically, it appears that even though the views and styles of parenting are different the results appear to be the same. Amy Chua believes in a more strict rigid style of parenting that applies a lot of pressure on the child to perform at a high level. Amy Chua’s style does not necessarily allow children to enjoy being a child but places high demands on them to be extremely successful. Hanna Rosin believes in the exact opposite style of parenting than Amy Chua. Hanna wants her children to enjoy their childhood with as little pressure as possible and to have the ability to enjoy making their own choices in life which will eventually become their path to success. Amy Chua sparked a lot of conversation and controversy with her Wall Street Journal article “Tiger Mom” referring to the fact (in her opinion) that Chinese mothers are superior to Western mothers when it comes to raising successful and productive kids. (Chua) Amy Chua believes Western mothers don’t have the tough love techniques that Chinese mothers possess in order to carry out the necessary task...
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...PARENTING STYLES: EAST OR WEST? Name School Parenting Styles: East or West? Parenthood is a privilege but is also a great responsibility. Parents wish there was a manual that came along with children when they were born; however, that is not the case and parents can only do their best in different situations. How parents act in child rearing is called parenting styles, and geographically speaking there is a wide variety of styles practiced. The most controversial styles are the ones adopted by the eastern and the western cultures in the world. While eastern parents are stricter and demanding, western parents are more flexible, nurturing, and more tolerant. Amy Chua’s article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” and Hanna Rosin’s counter-article “Mother Inferior” explore three basic concepts that make the difference between Chinese and Western parental approaches: children’s self-esteem, children’s appreciation, and children’s interest. Amy Chua states that the first difference she notices between these two parenting styles is that Western parents care a lot about their children’s self-esteem and psyches, while Chinese parents don’t. She explains that Western parents worry too much about their children’s feelings; hence they are always trying to comfort them. She also points that Chinese parents, on the other hand, demand perfection through criticism, punishment, and shaming the child, because they believe with this humiliation the child will be properly motivated to...
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...Natalie Melcher Assignment 6 The “Autocratic” style in the quiz coincides with the “Authoritarian” style learned in class. This style includes low acceptance of the child’s ideas, decisions and choices. The parent’s decision is the bottom line and it’s a “my way or the highway” approach to parenting. Unfortunately, parents with this style may also use yelling, criticism and commands to get what they want from the child. These children can be more anxious, unhappy and have low self-esteem because of the constant demands that are put on them. Alternatively, parents could have a “Permissive” child rearing style. The parents are warm and accepting, but impose little rules. They may not have set chores in the house, no set bedtime, parents have a hard time getting the child up in the morning or a hard time telling them to get things done. These children may have poorer school achievement and antisocial behavior. Lastly, the “Active” style coincides with the “Authoritative” parenting style. These parents have high acceptance and involvement with their child. They also allow children to make their own decisions when the children are appropriately able to do so. However, these parents exercise a firm hand when needed. This allows honest, open communication between parent and child. The child also will have higher rates of self-control, self-esteem and cooperativeness. The second part of the quiz was hard to answer because I don’t have kids. I don’t know if my kids would get themselves...
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