Styles of Love | Marcia Brandon | Professor Iwamoto PSY265 June 7, 2013 |

Styles of Love
Possessive, excited love (mania) can start out as something interesting and fun at first. Mark and Sarah meet at a bar and get a long great. They decide to exchange phone numbers and plan a date for next week. The following week they hook-up and go out to dinner and the movies, Mark is feeling really into Sarah, but after this date Sarah isn’t feeling the same kind of connection as she did at the bar. At this point Sarah decides she only wants to be friends with Mark. However, Mark feels differently and start sending her flowers, visiting her unannounced at work. At this point Mark can’t stop thinking about Sarah, he is losing sleep, having a hard time with eating, and he has become obsessed with Sarah.
This level of mania is very unhealthy and is starting to scare Sarah. The unwanted attention, starts to feeling as though he has become overwhelmed with her. At this point things have become very bad for Mark, and can lead to bad things for Sarah as well.
Selfless love (agape) is a love that is very giving. The person becomes willing to give-up just about anything to make the other person happy. They value the love of his or her partner more than him or herself. This form of love can become easily abusive. The person receiving this love may take advantage of the loving person, taking him or her for granted.
John and Becky have been together for a few months now. Becky has devoted her life to pleasing John in any way she can, even if it meant giving him the very shirt off her back. Becky is a hard working person, she works 40 hours a week to make money to support John and his habits. She is very happy in this situation, however John has been taking advantage of it and using Becky for her money and a free place to live. Becky is so involved in wanting