...5 Essential People Skills Dale Carnegie BOOK REVIEW While reading this book, no one can ignore that the central idea of this book surrounds around teaching a person how to be more assertive and less fearful of putting your thoughts and ideas out on the table. Assertiveness is the ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we feel we need to. It includes Expressing your own opinion and feelings. * Saying "no" without feeling guilty. * Setting your own priorities i.e. choosing how you spend your time. * Asking for what you want. * Being able to take reasonable risks. * Choosing not to assert yourself at times when you feel it would be better not to say anything. The book teaches you that there are a lot of people who are not assertive and forthcoming in speaking their minds out clearly and hence that might lead to them not getting what is due to them and also to feel bad about themselves. They may go over a situation in their mind time and time again thinking, "Why didn't I say that?" or "If only I'd done this". This can lead to feelings of blame, depression and anxiety. The book teaches that applying appropriate assertiveness to all your interactions is the most effective approach to creating a successful career. This book helps you be the most positively commanding, prosperous, and inspired professional that you can be. The primary achievement of this book is to identify and explore five essential people...
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...Michael Garcia English 1301.52 Professor Hailie July 3, 2012 The Best of Both Worlds Jimmy Carter once said “War may sometimes be a necessary evil. But no matter how necessary, it is always an evil, never a good. We will not learn how to live together in peace by killing each other's children.” What I think Jimmy Carter means by this is even though we see war and inevitable, war is never going to be a good thing. We will never grow as a whole as long as we keep killing each other’s youth. The youth are fighting in the wars of today many not even being able to see tomorrow. The implications that war brings a sense of supreme power and security to the Americas does not make up for the trauma, PTSD disorders, and emotional detachment issues our soldiers face at the end of the day. Trauma can be experienced one of two ways, physical being wounded or hurt on the outside or mental trauma which is experienced inside the individuals own mind. Both can affect a person’s life drastically, but it’s the mental patients that give the appearance that they have no problems, but upon further examination end up being the lives that where affected the most. In the film “In the Valley of Elah” by Paul Haggis a young woman goes to the police after her war veteran husband drowns their dog in the bathtub, believing she’ll be next only to be turned away. It is very clear that the woman’s husband is suffering from mental trauma. That is why he drowned the dog. Trauma can make you do things...
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...Orientation Questions Who are you? Please tell us a few interesting things about yourself. Please answer any two of the following “fun” questions: If there was one type of food that you couldn’t live without, what would it be? What is one goal you’d like to accomplish during your lifetime? When you were little, who was your favorite super hero and why? Who is your hero? (a parent, a celebrity, an influential person in one’s life) What’s your favorite season of the year, and why? If they made a movie of your life, what would it be about and which actor would you want to play you? If you could visit any place in the world, where would you choose to go and why? What are your favorite hobbies? Tell us about a unique or quirky habit of yours? If you had to describe yourself using three words, they would be... How will you be accessing the class website (e.g. home computer, ARC Learning Resource Center)? What is your back-up plan, should this option fail? Using the links from Step 1 of the Online Orientation, do you think that you will be a successful online student? Which 2 characteristics will be your strongest assets? Which characteristics will be your vulnerability and how will you overcome them? After reading about the Course Design in Step 3, what aspect of my class design do you think will be the most difficult part of this curriculum and how will you overcome...
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...The Rationale behind the Communication Decisions: Sexual Harassment The Rationale behind the Communication Decisions: Sexual Harassment The problem of sexual harassment is increasingly "coming out of the closet". Companies are starting to realize that the problem is real; some managers are admitting that it could affect their staff, and more victims are starting to gather the courage to complain. And in terms of recent labor legislation, victims do have legal recourse. Yet most people do not fully understand the problem, its causes, its consequences, or its extent. Even more difficult is the question: How does one deal with such behavior? Before considering the causes and consequences of, and possible cures for, this deep-rooted problem, we shall have to define it. We shall also describe six different types of harassers, and consider who the victims are usually. Every man and woman, who becomes aware of the implications of this issue, can help both companies and individuals to address this insidious and destructive problem. The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) describes sexual harassment as a form of gender discrimination that is in violation of Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act. In 1998, the U.S. Supreme Court made employers more liable for sexual harassment of their employees. Moreover, the Society for Human Resource Management has reported that 62% of companies now offer sexual harassment prevention training programs, and 97% have...
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...Denial is simply refusing to acknowledge that an event has occurred. The person affected simply acts as if nothing has happened, behaving in ways that others may see as bizarre. In its full form, it is totally subconscious, and sufferers may be as mystified by the behavior of people around them as those people are by the behavior of the sufferers. It may also have a significant conscious element, where the sufferer is simply 'turning a blind eye' to an uncomfortable situation. Denial is a form of repression, where stressful thoughts are banned from memory. If I do not think about it, then I do not suffer the associated stress have to deal with it. However, people engaging in Denial can pay a high cost in terms of the psychic energy needed to maintain the denial state. Repression and Denial are two primary defense mechanisms which everybody uses. Children find denial easier, as with age, the ego matures and understands more about the "objective reality" it must operate within. Denial is one of Anna Freud's original defense mechanisms. Repression involves placing uncomfortable thoughts in relatively inaccessible areas of the subconscious mind. Thus when things occur that we are unable to cope with now, we push them away, either planning to deal with them at another time or hoping that they will fade away on their own accord. The level of 'forgetting' in repression can vary from a temporary abolition of uncomfortable thoughts to a high level of amnesia, where events that caused...
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...Spousal Abuse Domestic violence is considered to be one of the most unreported crimes in the United States. Spousal abuse has always been an issue across the nation, it can be found in many different cultural, genders and social classes. Spousal abuse is abuse that is physical, emotional, mental or sexual abuse caused by a partner, or a spouse. According to American Bar Association (2011), "Approximately there are 1.3 million women and 835,000 men that are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States” (Domestic Violence Statistics). Noticing and acknowledge signs of an abusive relationship is key for trying to end the violence. Laws that Help Protect Spousal Abuse Spousal abuse has become more common over the last forty years. Before then, women were abused on a regular basis. Now, due in part to cultural diversity among neighborhoods and the internet, many of these crimes have come to light. Because of spousal abuse, new laws have been put in place to curb the violence. Crimes such as assault, sexual abuse, spousal rape, assault with deadly weapon, and even murder are only a few violent acts that the victim’s partner can be arrested for today. Although the crimes remain the same for many individuals, crimes involving spousal abuse have changed a bit. In past decades, when a spouse would report abuse, law enforcement would go to the place of the complaint looking for evidence of a crime (i. e., witnesses, physical marks...
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...REP RI N TED F ROM To subscribe: www.emc.com/on | issue NO. 1, 200 9 Reprinted with permission from ON magazine. Copyright © 2009 EMC Corporation. All rights reserved. adversity happens. it happened to me, and some form of adversity will happen to you. do you have the strength and will to bounce back? iN search Of by glenn e. mangurian resilieNt leaders 22 ON Number 1, 2009 illustratiON by hadley hOOper On May 26, 2001, i suffered an unprovoked disk rupture that pressed against my spinal cord, leaving the lower half of my body permanently paralyzed. at the prime of my life as a successful business executive and father, it was the last thing i ever expected. since then, i’ve come to realize it’s very likely that we will each experience some form of adversity: a career crisis, financial disaster, devastating relationship breakup, or frightening diagnosis. in business, we are trained to examine various scenarios and prepare responses in advance, but life-altering experiences like these are not something we can anticipate. Who has a contingency plan for living life from a wheelchair? for me, becoming paralyzed is, without question, the worst thing that has ever happened. at the same time, the experience has allowed me to come back, not just changed but stronger. i’ve learned that our innate ability to survive and adapt is greater than we imagine. resilience is one of the key qualities desired in business leaders today, but many people confuse it with toughness...
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...examination to determine the correctness of something” (Harper, 2010, Para. 1). According to Hogan, 2007, p. 38) The standards for Educational and Psychological Testing defines test as, “an evaluative device or procedure in which a sample of an examinees’ behavior in a specified domain is obtained and subsequently evaluated, and scored using a standardized process.” Furthermore, Hogan stated that a test is a systematic and standardized qualification procedure or device that produces information about behavior, and cognitive processes, and measures a sample of behavior rather than an extensive examination of the variety of individual’s behaviors Describe the major categories of tests and identify the major uses of these tests. The major categories of psychological tests are, mental ability, achievement, personality, interests and attitudes, and neuropsychological tests. Mental ability tests measure cognitive functions, such as intelligence, memory, spatial visualization, and creative thinking. Achievement tests assess capability within certain areas of expertise, and sometimes include assessments of reading, math, science, and social studies, at the same time identify more specific achievement. Personality tests are designed to produce information about personality and are most widely applied of all psychological tests. These tests compare an individual’s responses to different clinical groups for similarity, and sometimes measure depression, eating...
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...Sexual Harassment in the Workplace Sexual harassment is unwanted and unwelcome behavior, or attention, of a sexual nature that interferes with your life and your ability to function at work, home, or school. Sexual advances, forced sexual activity, statements about sexual orientation or sexuality, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature all constitute sexual harassment. The behavior may be direct or implied. Sexual harassment can affect an individual's work or school performance, and can create an intimidating, hostile, or offensive environment. Sexual harassment is largely a form of gender discrimination, or discrimination "based on sex" such as requiring someone to submit to sexual demands, quid pro quo. However, this can also be a form of discrimination against homosexuals who are often targeted because of their orientation. In the United States, sexual harassment is mostly defined under civil law, though some states and countries also define it under criminal law. Moreover, the problem can escalate to involve criminal offenses, such as rape and stalking. And a vast majority of sexual harassment situations go unreported. According to dotcr.ost.dot.gov “I think that sexual harassment should also be defined under criminal law everywhere when the harassment reaches a certain level of intensity, it’s a shame that most cases go unreported. There should be better measures to prevent and monitor sexual harassment.” ...
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...sexual abuse or exploitation; or an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm” (Childwelfare, 2008, pg. 3).The number of confirmed reports of child abuse in 2005 is 899,000 (U.S. Department, 2007). In 2005, 12 children out of every 1,000 children up to age 18 in the United States was a victim of some form of maltreatment or abuse. Child abuse falls into six categories, some that are more self-evident such as physical abuse that leaves marks on the outside of the body and others, such as emotional, which leaves no mark save the one on the child’s heart and mind. The various forms of maltreatment for 2005 fall into the following categories: Neglect 62.8% Physical Abuse 16.6% Sexual Abuse 9.3% Emotional/psychological 7.1% Medical Neglect 2.0% Other 14.3% The listed percentages equal over 100% as children are not always the victim of just one category; regrettably, children may be the victim of both physical and emotional abuse. Studies into the cycle of abuse has shown that a person abused as a child becoming abusive as an adult, reveals “about one-third of people who are abused in childhood will become abusers themselves” ((NYTimes, 1989, pg. 1). Research has also revealed that abused children are more likely to have issues as an adult with depression and alcoholism, along with sexual maladjustment, and mental illness of multiple personality (NYTimes, 1989). The cycle of abuse needs to stop for the child, the parent, and society’s...
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...Warning: This blog entry is one big spoiler alert, so if you haven't seen "Shutter Island" but want to then please refrain from reading this until you've paid your ten dollars and fifty cents. "Shutter Island" is one of those films that rips the rug out from under your expectations with the frequency and intensity of a magican's act. Initially, we think we are watching a well-intentioned U.S. Marshall named Teddy enter an insane asylum/prison hoping to uncover the whereabouts of a recently-disappeared patient/inmate. Later, our strangeness barometer begins to beep and we recalibrate our assumptions. Now we think we are witnessing a brave and bereaved soul searching for damning evidence that will expose Shutter Island as an expensive, cutting-edge torture chamber. Only during the final act (unless you've connected the foreshadowing dots), when our barometer falls off the charts, do we realize that the narrative is really about tragic psychosis and elaborate role play. Overall, I found the film to be a very intense, somewhat entertaining discussion of lines - the kind of elusive, easily blurred lines that exist between perception and reality, normalcy and insanity, even exceptional and subpar filmmaking. There is another extremely relevant though largely ignored line of which I'd like to discuss, the line between realistic and melodramatic portraits of clinical psychology. Although issues like delusions and 20th century inpatient treatment are aggressively examined within...
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...Expository Writing 101: Section EA Professor Morrone Dissociation is Normal Dissociation is when an individual mentally spaces out in order to not remember or remove themselves from a situation. The dissociation can be triggered by anything at any point in time and is often related to a traumatic experience. Individuals who dissociate intensely usually do not know that they are dissociating, and many who do seek psychiatric help. Anyone can dissociate and in her essay “When I Woke Up Tuesday Morning, It was Friday,” Martha Stout, a psychologist, speaks about her successful, ordinary, normal patients who dissociate due to traumatic experiences. Society perceives individuals who seek psychiatric assistance to be “abnormal,” but Stout challenges this concept by illustrating how her patients defy this generalization. Therapy is not just for “insane” individuals because Stout’s patients are intellectual individuals who carry through conventional lifestyles. Society labels individuals who acquire psychiatric help as irregular simply because the individuals seek the therapy. Seeking therapeutic help is the first step towards fixing personal problems that cannot be fought alone. Everyone has issues that are difficult to face on their own; in Stout’s patients’ cases, the issues are severe episodes of dissociation that hinder their everyday routines. One patient in particular, named Julia, is a successful producer of documentary films. As a child, Julia...
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...Helping Experience Proposal My aunt was recently the victim of a stabbing during her shift as a nurse at a home for mentally retarded adults. After doing a little research on the effects of patient/nurse incidents and traumas, I decided that assisting her while she recovers from her injuries would be an excellent experience for this essay. My paper will focus on post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as well as nurses who work with mental patients. The long-term effects on nurses caused by mental patients are a very influential part of the nurses’ lives. After assisting my aunt, a recent victim and candidate for PTSD, I hope to gain a better understanding and respect for these nurses, as well as witnessing first-hand what being a victim truly means. Depression and Anxiety contained a research article about PTSD in nurses. Their research did not include nurses who have experienced a traumatic event, as my aunt has, but, nevertheless, is related to my topic. The research suggests that nurses in general are more likely to develop degrees of PTSD just from the trials and tribulations of their jobs than people in other, lower-stress jobs. Also, several nurses experience trauma and death as an everyday aspect of their job, which can result in PTSD as easily as being a victim can. Nursing, especially in high risk positions such as my aunt’s, can result in symptoms of PTSD. My aunt is at an even higher risk to developing this disorder due to the recent trauma she experienced at the...
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...Today I had the pleasure of meeting with Marla in my office at the clinic. She is a 42 year old Hispanic woman that had a well groomed and neat appearance. She also looked very tired and noticeably anxious. I smiled and offered her something to drink while she made herself comfortable. When I returned with her tea, she and I had a conversation that I was able to include the following questions so I could reveal more information about her troubled lifestyle. How are you doing today? As Marla took a sip of her tea she said she is very tired from not sleeping well at night. She also stated that she does not like the jumpy feeling she is constantly experiencing when she is at work. She also stated that because of these feelings and lack of sleep she is unable to concentrate which is effecting her work performance as an accountant. Which is starting to annoy her boss. What has been going on lately to bring you to the office? Marla told me her mom has been ill recently and she and her siblings all helped to take care of her. She also told me that her mom lives in the same neighborhood where Marla and her siblings were raised. She also added that she feels anxious all the time especially when at work. What type of neighborhood did you grow up in? I asked that question because when Marla was talking about her mom she had the look of concern on her face as she answered. Marla went on to tell me that her mom’s neighborhood is not safe for her mom. She said that there...
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...The meaning of Post- traumatic stress disorders (PTSD) is a type of a mental illness that comes from a experiencing in a major traumatize event in life that can cause a victim to cope leaving them at the mercy of their worst fears. Most of the times that who has PTSD are this person who has served in the military. This person has dealing with particularly horrendous war and combat situation. There is much other type of life experiences that are blame to offset the PTSD. When the PTSD can be unexpected and cannot be controlled, which they are a type of candidate for PTSD. This type of illness not only impact on the person that has PTSD, it also affords other people that are dealing with the person who has PTSD. Example of these people who are there medical personnel giving care of the patients, family members, or co-workers. Some of the event that triggers the PTSD could become violent assault, a major accident such as sexual abuse, natural disaster, and rape, car crash ("Types Of Traumatic Events", 2009).History of the Illness The post traumatic stress disorder is a legitimate and can functional diagnose but is not the only answer to a trauma event. This type of disorder is frequency in the ordinary population is between 1-8%. This type of disorder is a type of linked with excessive rates of harm in the social and job-related operation. This type of disorder can be distinguished from a further psychiatric condition as a chemical substance in a living organisms...
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