In his book, The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do To Prevent It, M. Gary Neuman discusses the issue of infidelity through the mind of married men. Newman surveyed over 25,000 married men, selecting 200 for his final analysis. Half of the respondents were faithful in the marriage, the other half were not. Newman examines why men cheat and how they typically carry it out. He also lays out the psychological factors behind the decision to commit adultery. Neuman’s study looks at five main points married men cite as reasons for cheating—the number one reason being not feeling appreciated. As a marriage counselor for over twenty years, Neuman did this exhaustive study because he wanted to get to the bottom of the cheating …show more content…
His research project began in Miami, Florida, where he interviewed a large group of men who were attending a mandatory group for divorcing parents. Later, the project was expanded to an International online survey firm specializing in medical and psychological research. Respondents totaling over 25,000 from 48 states completed one of two surveys. If the male had cheated on his wife he answered the infidelity survey, if he had not, he would answer the other. The latter survey was geared toward the root reasons for staying faithful and marriage …show more content…
Where it used to be commonplace for men to be the bread winner and provider, today it’s not that simple. Roles are changing and so are expectations. Neuman feels that men in general, may not receive the appreciation they seek because they don’t communicate in the same manner as women. Also of note is the environment that surrounds someone who cheats. Men who have friends who have cheated or are currently cheating are more likely to have an affair. Add a father or another family member who has openly cheated to the equation and the numbers skyrocket. Finally, men who work in an open, co-ed environment are more likely to stray from their marriage if things aren’t going well. Neuman encourages wives to keep close tabs on their husband at work and notice strange behaviors like staying late and often, along with surprise business trips. Neuman states that the following signals and warning signs are common in marriages that end in infidelity. Time away from home with increased frequency, lack of sex life and avoiding contact with you mentally and physically are major signs that something is wrong. Your husband, according to Neuman may also talk about a female friend or co-worker more than you care to hear about. Finally, he often initiates fights or is overly critical of the things you