...discussion of whether it is proper for a parent to spank or not spank their child is a very controversial disciplinary technique. This touchy subject has created countless books, magazine articles and talk show discussions. Spanking is a widely used form of discipline. According to a 2006 study in “Pediatrics,” 14 percent to 59 percent of mothers spanked their children at least once a week when children misbehaved. Growing up, many people who are now parents, received spankings from their own parents when they misbehaved and, thus, feel that this is a proper form of discipline for their own children. Others feel that this is an outdated form of punishment and is cruel to spank children. Some of those who believe spanking a child is a necessary form of punishment may refer to the Bible for justification. There are several passages in the Bible, specifically in Hebrews and Proverbs, which refer to a rod being used to discipline a child. Others say that the bible does not advocate spanking and is equivalent of violence. On one side are parents who believe it is all right to spank their children. On the other side are parents who strongly feel that spanking should not be used as a form of discipline to children. Although parents have the right to discipline their children, parents should consider the method of discipline they will choose, to spank or not to spank and should consider alternative methods of discipline. To spank or not to spank? This is usually on the thoughts of new parents...
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...Forms of Discipline: What is best for the child? Children are like flowers, if well taken care of they will bloom. If ignored or tortured, they will wither and die. Child discipline is one of the most important elements of successful parenting. Today, many people have this notion that physical abuse is in no way a solution to helping children discern between right and wrong. Since generations children have been taught the art of discipline through physical punishment. Often this approach to disciplining has resulted in two outcomes, one is where the child becomes more tolerant and is willing to adhere to what he/she has been told, or the other which more often results in children developing a sense of anguish and desire to revolt. Physical punishment often destroys the psychological mindset of a child and can scar his/her childhood, resulting in them to grow up to be particularly irritable and frustrated individuals. Over the decades we have seen that fewer and fewer parents are resorting to this sort of method of violence to discipline their children. However contradictory to all that has been stated, I believe that sometimes parents are caught in a situation when children cross all boundaries of discipline and spanking is the only effective solution. Therefore, it is imperative to do so. Nonetheless, before spanking is even taken into consideration; all the other non-violent forms of discipline should be used. If none work then finally the act of spanking can be justifiable...
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...child abuse has now affected the proper discipline of today’s children and young adults. Some parents are actually afraid to discipline their children in the same way they were brought up due to fears of child abuse claims. Are you one of those parents? It is surprising how many of us are. Is there a right or wrong way to discipline children, and who has the say in it? Most experts on child rearing are against spanking in belief that it causes negative long-term effects, but parents who were spanked as a child tend to believe it is the only way to discipline their children when severe behavior problems arise. So do we act on an old-fashioned learned method or concede to following the expert’s advice and find other alternate measures for discipline in hopes that children will behave? Most adults can say they were spanked as a child and they turned out just fine, so what would be wrong with using that same form of discipline on their children? Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. Parents who do spank their children argue that if done properly and only when absolutely necessary, spanking can be an effective disciplinary tool. However, parents who choose not to spank their children, say that hitting a child only teaches them that violence is a way to solve problems that arise. At what age is it appropriate to start disciplining or spanking children? Teaching children discipline should start at an early age and be learned into their youth years. Researchers from...
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...viewed in a negative light. Many people consider it child abuse and unnecessary. In some situations with some children however, it can be an effective form of discipline. For some problematic children, it may be the only effective option. “The problems some kids who are spanked have in later life might have to do more with their personalities--the behaviors that got them spanked in the first place--than with the punishment (Paul). Parents should be able to discipline their children as they see fit as long as they are not abusing them. Parents are allowed to spank their children in the state of Missouri. Missouri State Law provides the following as to what is abuse: “ (1) "Abuse", any physical injury, sexual abuse, or emotional abuse inflicted on a child other than by accidental means…, except that discipline including spanking, administered in a reasonable manner, shall not be construed to be abuse” (Mo. Gen. Assembly RSMO 210.110). RSMO 160 Section 10, pertaining to corporeal punishment in schools, concurs stating: “Spanking, when administered by certificated personnel … in a reasonable manner..., is not abuse within the meaning of chapter 210” (Mo. Gen. Assembly). These statutes are vague however, in defining how to spank your child in a reasonable manner. In a recent interview, Greene County Prosecutor Dan Patterson shed some light on the matter. “His office looks for certain signs showing that a report of abuse is valid” (Clark). These certain signs include: * “The purpose...
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...Parents have always wonder if their method of educating their kids is the right away. Everyone educates their kids based on how they were raised or based on what they know from previous experiences. Knowing how to educate your kids is something very important because based on how you educate them, leads to who they will be in life. Is spanking your child a good method to use when educating them? This question is very controversial since people have different opinions when it comes to this question. Some parents believe that spanking helps a child learn by spanking them when they do something wrong. Other parents believe that spanking does not help educate a child at all and that there is better ways to try to educate a child instead of abusing them. First of all, what is spanking? According to an online article, “Spanking is a type of corporal punishment involving the act of...
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...punishment. Spanking a child is just one of many forms of punishment that a parent can implicate on his child. By choosing spanking as the method of punishment, the child is learning to use violence as a way to obtain a certain outcome. Soon-to-be parents should be aware that spanking their child has been shown to lead to aggressive behavior, fear of adults, and anti-social behavior, and because of these risks, the parents should not spank their children. Spanking has been recorded since the Ancient Greek times. Spankings were administrated to the adults by pagan priests to increase fertility in women. The Catholics adopted this practice, but instead they used the concept to spank the sins out of women (Lefkowitz 23). The practice began to descend until it was an acceptable punishment for children. Many defenders of spanking believe that they have the right to spank their children because of the proverb “Spare the rod, spoil the child,” which is written in the Bible. By law, in most areas, spanking is left for the individual to determine if it is right for...
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...One of the biggest debates in child bearing is the choice whether or not to spank your kids. To me spanking is kind of like a right of passage here in the south. It is so widely accepted here because it’s a part of our culture. Our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and so forth were spanked and it seems like something that is passed on from one generation to the next. As defined in Kazdin and Benjet’s article “Spanking Children: Evidence and Issues”, discipline including “hitting children is intertwined with religious beliefs, cultural views, government, law, and soil policy and has enormous implications for mental and physical health throughout the world” (2003). According to “Is it Ever Appropriate to Spank a Child?” over “90 percent of parents in the United States spank their child or...
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...In book two The Man Behind The Glass, Mango, Reyna, and Carlos share their story in El Otro Lado. They had been in El Otro Lado for three months now. they had broken the law by coming to the United States. Paper is very strict about telling people that you are not allowed to be in America and also about education. Reyna went to Aldama Elementary and Mango and Carlos had gone to Luther Burbank High School. Reyna and the kids are living with their paper and their stepmother Mila in a Fourplex apartment with one bedroom. They live in Highland Park, it is a Latino neighborhood in northeast Los Angeles. Papi can't afford a bigger apartment because he needs to pay back all the money he borrowed from the smuggler. So, the kids sleep in the living room for now on. Reyna goes to school at Aldama Elementary.She wasn't used to...
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...Recess is very important to kids in fourth grade. Well at least to me it was, so important I risked getting in trouble for it one day. I got a bad grade on one of my math tests. When we got a bad grade on a test in that class we were always supposed to get it signed by our parents, or we would have to lose our recess. Losing my recess was a horrible thing to me, no four square or jump rope? I could not have that. In the fourth grade I decided that instead of going outside and playing four square, jump rope or hop scotch, I was going to get a call home and a spanking from my parents when I got there. Yea, you could say I chose the wrong choice. Not intentionally of course. Right before recess my fourth grade teacher at commodore, Mrs. Carey asked for all the signed tests. I forgot to have my mom sign my test so I forged her signature thinking I was going to get away with it, I was so wrong. Not only did it look bad but I also only wrote her first name. My teacher noticed it right away. I did not go to recess at all, she kept me in class. Mrs. Carey took me to the front office to call home but not before lecturing me about how forging a signature can put me in jail. I cried so much to the teacher but it didn’t help anything. Once I got home I had to go straight to my room. My dad came in a little later, he sure did spank me. No matter how much he didn’t want to. I didn’t think my dad would ever spank me but I guess I did something very bad. He even apologized that he had to do...
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...Chapter Five of the textbook discussed learning and operant conditioning through the use of reinforcements (Licht, 2014). A popular form of punishment around the world is the act of spanking one’s child. Though it has been argued that the method is proven to be effective, some might disagree (Moninger, 2015). Is violence really the solution to everything, even if it is as harmless as a small slap to the buttocks? Suppose a child is misbehaving by hitting another child or sibling. If one chooses to spank them, are they not just demonstrating the fact that, by executing the violent act towards the child, the violent act that the child is being reprimanded from doing is apparently alright for the parent to perform. The kid is basically having...
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... Today I would like to persuade you to use different forms of discipline other than spanking, now or when you decide to start having children. (Transition: Let’s begin by addressing why spanking would not be good for the child.) Body [Need] I. According to psychcentral.com, spanking children can send them wrong messages. A. Spanking can show a child that violence solves problems. 1. Physical punishment can be seen as a form of bullying. 2. Can send a message to a child that hitting is an effective way to get others to things their way. B. The idea that “stronger” is always right is another message a child could take away from spanking. 1. It shows a child that whoever is stronger is always right. 2. A child may think that if he or she gets stronger than their parent or someone that they will always be right by using violence. C. Spanking could also teach a child how to be sneaky. 1. Some parents think spanking their child I the quick way to change the unwanted behavior. 2. It may solve or fix the behavior for a short period of time, but not permanently. 3. The child might make the parent think the problem is solved, by not doing what he or she got a spanking for when the parent is around, but does it when the parent is not around. 4. The child may start off by being sneaky with just doing little...
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...I think Atticus Finch is a good citizens because of his actions towards his kids and his community. He treated his kids differently then most parents did if his kid’s did something wrong he would talk about it with them and explain to them why it was the wrong thing too do. On the other hand most parents would spank there kids Atticus said I have never put a hand on my kids. Atticus Finch is a very humble guy the last person on the earth that he cares about is his self. He is guy who gets what he needs to done he is a very hard worker. He cares more about making others peoples lives it takes away how his life is. Atticus is man that does what is right not so more what he want’s to. He does this because he does not want to look at decision...
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...The parent’s question reflects a common misunderstanding about child management. In his response Dr. Dobson emphasized that it is possible even easy to create a violent and aggressive child who has observed violent and aggression at home. If a child is routinely beaten by hostile, volatile parents, or if the child witnesses physical violence between angry adults, or even if the child feels unloved and unappreciated within his or her family, the child will not fail to notice how the game is played. Scholars hypothesized that parents who did not usually spank their kids ended up using corporal punishment when they lost their tempers. Being a parent carries no right to slap and intimidate a child because you had a bad day or are in a lousy mood....
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...Xenia Burgara Marajan Hazrati English 103 January 29, 2013 Parenting Every parent has his own personal philosophy of child rearing. Many issues are controversial because there are supporting facts to both opinions. One major issue in today’s society is whether to breast or bottlefeed an infant. Another difficult issue is how to discipline a child. Some parents believe that spanking in certain situations is acceptable, and some view it as child abuse. Many parents believe religion is an essential part of growing into a moral person, and many do not. Family meals are important to some families, and unnecessary to others. Another big controversy is placing a child in daycare. Some couples believe it is completely wrong for the mother to work outside the home. Other couples say that without two incomes, they would not make it financially. When I had my child, I choose to breast feed her. I think it is very important to the infant’s health. Colostrum, the fluid that comes in before the real milk, allows the baby to receive immunity to many infections, and also enables the infant to gain necessary weight faster than bottle-fed infants. In breast milk, eight percent of the cells are macrophages. Macrophages are cells that kill bacteria, fungi, and viruses. Breastfeeding is much easier and more convenient, because it can be done at any time of the day, without preparation. With bottle feeding, there are bottles to wash, formula to mix, refrigeration to worry about, and warming...
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... Often we as people are born into a family. This family can range from the “traditional” nuclear family to the growingly common “alternative” family. With being born into a family some bonds come along with it, this parent-child bond is what I am interested in examining. Is it something that is set in stone upon birth? Is it a condition which cannot be changed? Or does this connection between parent and child come with a certain set of conditions? Of course it’s safe to assume the majority of people would out right claim that it is set at birth and only an ungrateful person would deny his or her mother’s or father’s love, or that a parent just has not been patient enough with their child to refuse love to them. If there are conditions, what may they be? If these conditions put either child or parent at risk for diminished quality of life, may it just be better to lose the love for a parent or child? I grew up in a small suburban community, like many other American kids. My father worked for the Department of Defense and my mother was a hairdresser. My father worked long days and my mother would be the one to watch over us most of the time. Of course my brother and I would get into trouble as little boys do. I was always worse than my brother when it came to disobeying rules and basically causing havoc. The typical punishment for just about any offensive minor or major was a spanking. Common in the time I know and even more common in my mothers’ time as she was raised in a very...
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