...It wasn't until our second child was born that we realized how different raising her was compared with our firstborn — our son with special needs. Yet no matter the different roles and responsibilities each person has or takes on, it often falls on the wife and mother to discern how to best support and nurture each relationship within the family. Wife and mother. In both of these roles, I (Cindi) have been stretched through daily challenges and frustrations as well as through life's victories and joys. I have learned in both roles to perfect the dance that best fits each relationship within my own family — to master the movements that make each relationship work together. Our goals as a couple and as individuals are first to develop our relationship with God; second, to keep our marriage relationship strong; so that, third, we have what it takes to raise our children and care for them the way God would want. Work, ministry and friends — while important — should not take precedence over our relationship as a couple, or over our relationship with our children. It's tough enough balancing the demands of normal, everyday life, but when one child requires hours of therapies, hospital stays and seemingly constant attention, that's a whole new ball game. As a wife, I want to be a supportive helper to my husband. Each morning, Joe and I have our individual routines involved in getting our son ready for his supervised place of employment. As Joe walks out the door to take Joey...
Words: 370 - Pages: 2
...Mothers Role in Mythology In most epics, the hero seems to conquer and prevail by themselves without any external help. Although this may be true for some myths, many others have additional help from either another person or deity that is often overlooked. In the case of the ancient Sumerian epic Gilgamesh and the Greek myth of the Iliad, both Gilgamesh and Achilles receive help or guidance from their mothers, a key component of both myths that can often be missed. In the epics, both mothers have a heavy influence on on their sons’ lives, which in turn affects the outcome of the myth. To fully understand how the mothers affected the myths, it is important to examine both and understand they way both mothers went about helping their sons. In the Epic of Gilgamesh, Gilgamesh is a demi-god and ruler of Uruk and has seemingly god-like abilities and because of this, the people of Uruk looked at him as a hero. With his god-like abilities, Gilgamesh went on many journeys that tested his strength and physical endurance. Although part god and seemingly invincible, Gilgamesh still sought his mother’s opinion. One example of this is when Gilgamesh seeks counsel with his mother Ninsun to understand two dreams he had about a future opponent named Enkidu. For the first dream, Ninsun interprets: This star of heaven which descended like a meteor from the sky;[sic]which you tried to lift, but found too heavy, when you tried to move it it would not budge, and so you brought it to my feet;...
Words: 1037 - Pages: 5
...in order to have a smooth movement of traffic on the roads, the traffic rules are made by the traffic police. These rules are meant to be followed to the last word by each and every individual moving on the roads, and becoming a part of the traffic. It is necessary to have rules for the road, but it is still more important for all of us to follow the set of rules. Once an individual is on the road, it is absolutely compulsory for him/her to follow the rules, and that also explicitly. We have just got to follow rules because, without following them there will be absolute chaos and confusion on the road, and no one will be able to move about. This chaos would lead not only to delays in movements but would also lead to struggles and even accidents. When, for example we are supposed to cross the road from the zebra crossing, we must make sure that we do so, for, if we cross from elsewhere, there is a chance that we meet with an accident. If we jump a red light we are putting ourselves to danger and are inviting trouble with the possibility of an accident. Thus, rules must be followed for maintaining discipline on the roads, and above all for our own safety. It is in our own interest that, when on the road, we follow the road traffic rules to the last word. The rules are there to keep us safe, and following them is in our own interest. When we break the rules we are inviting trouble to ourselves and doing no harm to any one else. The traffic rules in India are as strict as they...
Words: 613 - Pages: 3
...The redefinition of a woman's role in society and the image of the maternal figure through comparison of female characters in Henrik Ibsen’s A Doll House and Bertold Brecht’s Mother Courage and her Children. Henrik Ibsen’s Nora Helmer and Bertolt Brecht’s Mother Courage present two strongly defined female heroines whose actions not only adversely affect the other characters’ lives but also suggest a fundamental problem with their societies. Both playwrights establish the macroscopic view of society’s turmoil in the microscopic, individual characters of Nora and Mother Courage. Both characters have an indomitable magnetism that, on the one hand, allows them to control others but, on the other, cause them to make desperate choices that reflect a repressive society. In analyzing the figures of Nora in A Doll House and Anna Fierling in Mother Courage and Her Children, it is important to examine the ways in which they interact with their respective societies, specifically how well they play the roles defined for them. For each play, there exist social structures, as well as exigencies of a given period within those structures, which range from being burdensome to downright inimical to the process of being a good mother. In the case of Nora, the perspective is bleak: due to the oppressively, male-dominated society , not only is she in no position to be a provider or protector for her children, but due to the condescending, patronizing attitudes of her father and...
Words: 2749 - Pages: 11
...herself, in order to avoid risking any loss of her father’s reputation. Agnes shows how self-sacrificing she is by being willing to allow Uriah to continue forcing her to take his hand in marriage. Patience is a strong quality of Agnes, and it shows as she suffers through David’s other romances with Em’ly and Dora, and although she loves David, once again, she brushes her feelings under the rug and is not overcome by jealousy: But the meeting is equally characteristic of Agnes herself, who at the very least must be disappointed, but who nonetheless greets Dora with solicitous affection. There are several ways to understand Agnes’s kindness to Dora: perhaps she is suffering agonies of jealousy but disguises her feelings and acts a stoic role; perhaps she has successfully throttled her jealousy; or it may be that she genuinely lacks any inclination to jealousy or resentment at all—that the quality of her charity is not strained. (Garnett 213) This says a lot about Agnes’s character. Regardless if deep down she is jealous of David and his relationship with Em’ly or Dora, she has a great way of bottling up these feelings and keeping them to herself. Once again, this goes to show readers how strong of a woman and how mature Agnes is over Dora. Agnes remains self-sacrificing throughout the novel as she has loved David this entire time. Soon after the death of Dora, David admits his love for Agnes: Dearest Agnes! Whom I so respect and honor—whom I so devotedly love! When I came here...
Words: 1079 - Pages: 5
...Laetitia’s mother in the story border, has many different traits, her charater is one that takes the whole story to figure out. At the begging of the story, I discovered that Laetitias mother didn’t want Laetitia to leave, her mother would always back Laetitias reason to leave. “SaltLake City is the gateway to some of the magnificent skiing….” Laetitia said “we have got everything right here” her mother said. I feel as if Mrs. Manyfingers has a big role in the mother’s personality, because, her mother sort of let the thought of Laetitia leaving, after she bragged to Mrs. Manyfingers how well Laetitia was doing. “mother liked to tell Mrs.many fingers, she had not gone floating after some man like a balloon on a string.” Laetitia’s mother is also proud of her ethinsity, she has varipous different times in the short story she proves that for example “there are black feet on the Canadian side and the American side, which side o you come from?” and her mother said “the black foot side.” When laetitias mother was talking about how each star has a story, it brought out her emotional side, or softer side which was excluded...
Words: 426 - Pages: 2
...In her book, Revolutionary Mothers, Carol Berkin addresses readers about the major role of women throughout the American Revolution and how much of an impact they had. Berkin argues that not only did women do a lot in the war effort but were horribly mistreated as well, moreover, she calls out the “gender amnesia” (Berkin, 3) many historians have shown in regards to the American Revolution. The book states in the beginning that, “women could hardly have been passive observers” (Berkin, 7) because the war was so close to home. Women participation began immediately, during the British goods boycott they “became crucial participants in the first organized opposition to British Policy,” (Berkin, 13) without their assistance the boycott would not have worked. They continued to be part of the war effort when many would accompany soldiers into battle, “as cooks, washerwomen, seamstresses, nurses, scavengers for...
Words: 569 - Pages: 3
...In the book Revolutionary Mothers: Women in the Struggle for America’s Independence, Carol Berkin has discussions about the various roles women had during the American Revolution. As we see the fight for independence was not fought alone by men. The actual fight was with the women. They went to almost exhausting attempts to do their part as well. These women overlooked their own welfare as well as the safety of their children. While being strong and breaking free of beliefs and stereotypes about what was conceived to be behavior that a woman portrays. Although it was not at all for the women. The women in the book did indeed struggle, different groups of women struggled in different or more forceful ways. Berkin talks about different major...
Words: 1205 - Pages: 5
...The book titled Revolutionary Mothers by Carol Berkin, portrayed the life of women in the struggle for America’s Independence. The author wrote the book to show that both men and women played an important role during the revolutionary war. According to her book, women played an amazing role during the war, but despite the facts that women contributed to the growth of our nation, most history books did not acknowledge them. She proves the important roles women played during the war by writing this amazing book that focuses on the struggle women went through during the revolutionary war. She focused on every race, class and color of women like the African Americans, whites, and Native Americans. Berkin also focused on all social classes, low, middle, and high. She explains the level of loyalty and support women showed to their husbands. The book proves the role women of all class and color played during the war. Berkin used several sources to prove her thesis, she cited hundreds of sources by using the last few pages of the book. These sources were gotten from few history books that discussed the role of women during the colonial period,...
Words: 1477 - Pages: 6
...College mothers in the dual roles of student and parent: implications for their children's attitudes toward school.(Report) Article from: Merrill-Palmer Quarterly | January 1, 2009 | Ricco, Robert; Sabet, Sarah; Clough, Cassandra | Copyright inShare 2 The experiences of female college students who are raising children while pursuing higher education have received limited attention in the educational and psychological literature (Christopher, 2005; Colbry, 1995; Dyk, 1987; Gigliotti, 2001, 2004a, 2004b; Haleman, 2004; Home, 1998; Quimby & O'Brien, 2006; Ricco, McCollum, & Schuyten, 2003; Ricco and Rodriguez, 2006; Scott, Burns, & Cooney, 1996). The research that has been conducted with this population is primarily concerned with psychological stress resulting from conflicts among student, family, and work roles and with identifying the antecedents and moderators of such stress as well as the impact of role conflict on academic performance and overall adjustedness (Gigliotti, 2001, 2004a, 2004b; Home, 1998; Quimby & O'Brien, 2006). While research with college mothers has understandably focused on the negative consequences of their efforts to occupy multiple, conflicting social roles, the more positive implications of multiple roles for these mothers have not been consistently explored (Christopher, 2005; Dyk, 1987; Quimby & O'Brien, 2006). Mothers attending college are in a unique position as parents; they share with their school-age children the important...
Words: 2072 - Pages: 9
...Working Mothers Many women today are facing choices that their mothers never had to face. One of these choices is whether or not to go back to work after having a child. The thought of going back to work was practically unheard of in the 1950's. However, in the 1990's it is not whether the mother will or will not go back to work, but rather a question of when. When did this choice to return to work become set in stone? Why do the mothers of today have to work outside the home versus working in the home, much like their mothers or grandmothers did? When one thinks of the subject of working mothers, many differing opinions come to mind. What will happen to the child, will the mother have sufficient time to bond with the baby, how will household chores be divided, and so on. When thinking of working women, two models come to mind. One of which is paid employment that has a protective and beneficial mediating effect. Employment protects women against certain negative aspects of being full-time homemakers and mothers, such as monotonous housework, dependence on the male partner for financial and emotional support, increases self-esteem because they are contributing to the world they live in. These women receive a renewed interest in life because they are in the thick of it. They are living life to the fullest. This model is the one that is constantly referred to as "bad" because it paints the woman as someone who does not really care about the effect of working will have on...
Words: 1104 - Pages: 5
...often different roles in shaping their children lives. These roles involves teaching them, being playmate, caregiver, disciplining them, and attachment to their children. However, the attachment role is very crucial among the other roles that the parents play. This is because the role itself determines the social as well as the emotional character of the child in future. However, there are different kinds of attachments that exists. Secure Attachment Under secure attachment, children feel brave as well as confident. This is because they are well aware that their needs will be met owing to the attachment being around them. The mother assures the safety of the child as the child explores its surrounding. Thus, in case of distress, the child will run after the mother. The mother is emotionally available to the child, perceive as well as respond to the child’s needs. On the other hand, the child will respond by playing toys and moving all over the room. The child expects to be emotionally regulated as he plays with the environment. However, after the mother leaves, the baby will become distressed. The child may move to the door or move to the mother’s chair as a sign of distress. But when the mother returns, the child will respond positively and become happy. Avoidant Attachment Under avoidant attachment, the child is not dependent on the mother or cannot become used to the mother as he orientate himself to the environment. The child cannot depend on his mother physically as well...
Words: 634 - Pages: 3
...evident, pervasive. Yet, while the novel suffers no shortage of mother figures, Shelley’s interpretation of the maternal archetype in her seminal work is unique in its focus. The theme of the maternal finds itself in a paradox wherein its absence becomes evidence for its ubiquity; it is everywhere in that it is nowhere. One can therefore conclude that the concept of motherhood in Frankenstein does not require a mother, but only demands the notion that there was once a maternal presence where there is now none. By promptly abandoning his role as his monster’s creator, Victor seems to have perfectly complied with Shelley’s aforementioned definition of the maternal archetype. Still, some argue that the fact of Victor’s sex precludes him from ever fulfilling the theme of motherhood in Frankenstein. Victor is a man; the evident conclusion would be to declare Victor a paternal force in his creation’s...
Words: 1196 - Pages: 5
...In the stories of Theseus and Beowulf, there is a mother role present, but this mother plays different role in the story. In Beowulf, the archetype of an evil mother comes into play with Grendel’s “mother; she, a foul sprite, whom the peasants had sometimes seen walking with her son over the meadows. From her dwelling-place she now came forth to avenge the death of her son, and snatched away from the group of sleeping Ring-Danes the good Æschere” (Rabb 4). Grendel’s mother represents the evil mother because she decapitated one of Hrothgar’s mightiest thanes to avenge the death of her son. This use of the evil mother is not very common in other tales because usually the evil mother is the mother of the protagonist and the mother also usually...
Words: 267 - Pages: 2
...Motherhood/Mother It is said, observed and a proven a universal truth as well that, a mother, regardless of her specie in terms of life and living, will continue to feed and love her child even if she herself is deprived or incapacitated. Motherhood is not something you can take lightly. Entering into motherhood shoves two decades' worth of responsibilities into your life. Preparing to handle motherhood is one step toward being a good mom. As a mother, you have a multitude of jobs, from being an at-home teacher to being an emotion coach. But all these jobs have the same ultimate goal: turning your child into an independent, productive adult. Mothers are required to have diplomatic skills, negotiating matters of importance, like sharing. They are required to constantly research and adapt systems to meet the ever-changing nutritional, educational, psychological and spiritual needs of their children, without sacrificing their commitments as a wife. It's a 24-hour-a-day job, and there's often no training to prepare a woman for the tasks at hand. A mother, whether she is ready for it or not, must let her roles evolve in order to meet the demands and needs of her children. As children age, the roles of motherhood will change to help the mother raise children of various ages. Perhaps mothers with children of various ages have a tougher role, as they must care for numerous children and children of wide age differences. Aside from the obvious evolution an individual mothers must face...
Words: 1094 - Pages: 5
