A Sexy Guide bySteelAndSilk© While I was pondering a bit about another how-to, I stumbled onto the idea of one about how women could be sexy (or sexier) toward men, and also, avoid being unsexy. Now, as I've stated in some of my other articles, I have no business telling men how to be sexy toward women. I'll leave that to a woman, seeing as she would know a hell of a lot more than I would.

There are the obvious things, of course, for both sexes. Being in decent shape, having a good attitude toward each other (though some women do go for the douchebags, a concept I'll never understand), etc, are all great things. However, not every guy is going to be able to get all ripped out, and not every woman has time to tone her abs or get supermodel hot. Let me share a secret with you ladies...you don't have to in order to be sexy. But, it is good to take care of yourself, just as you would want your man to.

Now, understand that when I "speak for men" we're talking about your run-of-the-mill normal guy. Sure, there are guys who think you dressing in a skin-tight latex full body suit with weird goggles for your eyes and a zipper on the mouth while you spank his ass with a spiked paddle is sexy. I'm not remotely experienced with that, so I'm going to leave that be. Nor am I getting into the men who supposedly love obese women. No experience there either.

So what do you think of when you think sexy, girls? Maybe waiting for your husband to come home, candles lit and music playing, and he finds you on the bed, dressed in some killer lingerie (or nothing), and ready to fuck? Well, yeah, that is sexy, really sexy. However, you probably don't have time to do that every day, and honestly, even if you did, that would get old after a while.

But there are so, so many ways to be sexy that you might not even know. Unfortunately, there are also ways to be unsexy that you might not know, but are doing anyway. Let's start with something sexy though.

Your lingerie is great, don't go tossing it. But save it for special occasions. After all, the less we guys see it the more we appreciate it. Don't take that as a go-ahead to be stingy with it either. Maybe just reserve it for a couple nights a week. In the meantime, a pair of sweatpants and a t-shirt will do just fine. I don't mean big baggy things. I mean a nice pair of lounge pants that might hug your ass a little, and a t-shirt that is snug enough to show off your chest, maybe a bare midriff too. You don't have to go too tight though, it's not necessary to be uncomfortable to be sexy.

Clothing really isn't so much the key to sexiness though. In all honesty, it's attitude. Allow me to tell you that the "let's fuck and get it over with" attitude is the very, very least sexy thing to a man, short of not wanting to have sex at all. Having a sexy attitude means you show desire, and you can (and should) do so in two ways (don't take these as order of importance, they are equal). One, you show desire to please your man. Blowjobs, doing his favorite positions, and telling him how much you want to fuck him, are great ways to do this. Two, let him know you desire him because he pleases you! That's right, ladies, your men should want to please you. And there are few things sexier than a woman telling her man she wants to fuck him because she knows he's going to blow her mind. I challenge you to get in touch with your animal side and growl, "I love how you fuck me," mid-coitus. I would make sure you already came though, because it's not going to be long until he blows his load.

As I said before, there are ways to be unsexy without meaning to. Complaining about your body is a huge one. If your man compliments you on being hot and/or sexy (which if you have a good man, he should) then take the compliment. Smile, giggle, tell him he is too, whatever, just take the compliment. DO NOT turn around and say, "I'm fat," or any variation of that. In the first place, even if you do have some love handles, he probably doesn't give a damn. Second, with that simple statement, you just told him you couldn't care less what he thinks of you, and it makes him feel stupid. Not remotely sexy. Where women got the idea that pointing out mild flaws, if they even are flaws, is a good thing I'll never know. In most cases, you'd never hear a man tell you he thinks his cock is small if you tell him it's huge. But I'll tell you this, even if you complain to fish for compliments, it's not sexy. As I said, a good man should tell you that you're good looking on a regular basis, just like he should tell you regularly that he loves you. Believe him when he compliments you. If you don't feel sexy, be willing to see yourself through his eyes, and you will. Also, don't complain about breast size or facial flaws or that type of thing. The whole issue is that since he chose you, he is attracted to you! Saying that you are unattractive is either going to make him feel bad, or, in the worst case scenario, convince him you're right.

Being sexy, particularly during sex, can also depend on how your body corresponds with your man's. Hopefully you do have a guy who takes care of himself. Guys, you need to work out, seriously. Yeah, there are women who prefer guys skinner than they are. Again, I don't get it, so I'm not getting into it. Let's just go from the typical perspective.

Suppose you're a shorter, smaller girl. Your man is probably taller and larger than you, so let him know you feel safe with him around. A man feels great when he knows his woman feels secure with him, touching on that inner guardian and warrior all men are born with. During sex, let him pick you up, hold you, and fuck you with your legs wrapped around his waist. He will feel strong and powerful, his masculine ego is stroked, and you will get the fuck of your life.

But now, suppose you're not short and petite. You might work out yourself, and are tall and toned. It might be that, while you're definitely not fat, you weigh more because of your height and build, so your man can't pick you up for long enough periods of time to fuck you properly while holding you. You can still make him feel strong by making him fight for it a bit. I'm not suggesting forcing scenarios, that's up to you. I mean playfully resist, smile to let him know it's in fun, but strain against him. Make him pin you down, or wrestle with him a bit. Conversely, it's also very sexy if you pin him down and "take what you want," so to speak. I don't recommend doing that all the time though, or rather, doing just that all the time. If you do have that in your regular play, and there's nothing wrong with that, just remember to let him turn the tables. It's not about men being superior or any damn thing like that (put the picket signs down), it's about stroking his male ego. You want to be sexy, make him feel sexy, and have a great fuck? Stroke the ego. The sexiest thing to a man is when you make him feel like a man.

Why? Ladies, it's a cruel world. Now, most of you know that too. But men are particularly vulnerable to hurt egos, even though we act like we're not. In all likelihood, your man probably has a stressful job. Getting passed over for promotions, getting paid less that what he knows he's worth, and dickhead bosses and/or co-workers mentally beat him up all during the day. You are his safe haven, and that is why it's so sexy for you to stroke his ego. Honestly, if you make him feel like a man, fuck everything else, because all the assholes in the world don't mean anything as long as he has your respect.

Yikes, went off on a tangent there! It's true though, so keep it in mind. Moving on though...

If you both work out, another great way to be sexy is to work out together. Wear either some workout pants or short shorts and a sports bra or t-shirt, depending on if you work out at home or in a gym. I recommend working out together at home, if you can. Your man LOVES to see you work out and sweat! Your body glistens, then shines, your skin is slick, your pheromones are pumping out as you sweat, your chest heaves and you're groaning...excuse me a moment (sticks head in a bucket of ice water). Ahh...that's better. But seriously, do you get it? Does all that sound familiar? It should, because working out duplicates the effects of sex on your body (at least if you're doing it right...fucking, I mean). That's why men love to watch women work out! It's sexy as hell! Now, when you're done (if you can make it that far) take a shower together, and either wash each other up and get into bed or just fuck in the shower. But, if you want to go for a real turn on, drop the weights or whatever you're using and fuck him right there. Now, yes, you're sweaty and hot and in your opinion, that might be gross. If you can't get over that, well, don't force it, because you won't enjoy it. But I would suggest trying to get over it, because you'll be in for a great ride. You might not want to go down on him, or have him go down on you, but other than that, go with it. Your bodies will slide on each other, and you'll both be pulsing with heat, your blood pumping with exertion and arousal from watching each other. Sure, you smell strongly, but that doesn't mean bad. Sweat carries a lot of pheromones. It's not as though you're just sitting in your sweat for hours and then trying to have sex when it turns to B.O. No, you're getting at each other when your bodies are emitting those powerful scents that arouse and excite. Also, having just been physically active and aroused means you can just launch right into the hot fucking, you don't have to turn each other on. As an aside, there's also the mental aspect that you both know the other person is taking care of themselves and wants to look good for you, so it's sexy in the mind as well as the body.

Another aspect of sexy is body hair or the lack thereof. This is hugely opinion driven. Now, most guys dread the thought of shaving their balls, chest, armpits, etc, largely out of some misguided and inaccurate thought that it's "gay". Whatever. It's the 21st century folks, men shaving their body hair isn't gay or straight anymore. But I digress. Personally, I do my balls and pits because I think thick body hair is gross and it traps smells, which isn't good, and I personally feel sexier when I don't have that. Ladies, many men nowadays think a woman who has a totally hairless body is sexy, I happen to be one. That doesn't mean that's the case for every guy. This is an area I really think a lot of couples should discuss and might be embarrassed to do so. Flush that, and just talk about it. Men like everything from a full bush to a landing strip to totally shaved. It's all good. Some guys even like their women to have armpit hair. It's natural and, in some countries, exotic. Body hair might give the appearance of wild and feral, and that turns some guys on. It's not gross, it's not wrong. I recommend talking about it and doing what he thinks is sexy. BUT, fellas, if she's willing to do whatever you want, make sure you're willing to return the favor. My wife likes me to retain what chest hair I have (not much), so I do. Wives, talk to your husbands and ask him what he wants, then tell him what you want.

All in all, sexy really is a respective thing. But there are a few constants, and above all, the thing that determines sexy is attitude. I'd fuck a girl with a few extra pounds wearing a sweat suit who has a great smile and a "come fuck me" attitude over a supermodel in a g-string and push up bra who bitches about her appearance and acts like sex is a pain in the ass. Communication is paramount when it comes to sexy, after all, how can you both know what the other thinks is sexy if you don't ask? So open it up for discussion, be open minded, maybe even get a little weird, and stay sexy!

How To Drive Your Man Wild byPussymad© There are a lot of articles on this site and elsewhere offering advice on either how to become a sensational lover yourself, or turn your partner into either a stud or a raving nymphomaniac. This is not one of those articles. For many, some of the ideas put forward are simply too much for either themselves and/or their partners so what I propose is a far simpler solution.

This article is written from a man’s perspective but for a woman to read, about all of the little things that she can do to make sex a really special experience for her partner. I do not profess to know what women want so I will leave it to a woman to write the other side of this and I would be more than happy to hear from you if you want to take the trouble of contacting me.

None of what I am about to say requires having to become a contortionist, be a raving nymphomaniac, have a 12 inch cock or be able to get it up ten times a night. What you have to remember is that sex is as much psychological as it is physical. After all, if a guy has his cock in a woman’s pussy, he’s going to enjoy it to a degree even if she acts like a plank of wood, so what makes the experience special is the subtle things she can do to really excite his mind, stimulate his imagination and most of all, flatter his ego.

The first thing to remember is that men put themselves under tremendous pressure to ‘perform’ and be a really talented lover. While I accept that there are men out there that care only for their own pleasure, I believe that most men would really like to know that what they are doing is being appreciated. Most women I know say that they are very satisfied with their husbands/boyfriends performance in bed but do you always make it clear to him that you do while actually having sex?

Let’s start with basics. Don’t just lie on your back and make him do all the work because then he will get the impression that you are only doing this because you feel obliged to in some way. It is only very recently that society has begun to accept that women can enjoy sex as much as men and old attitudes are hard to dispel so you have to make sure that he knows you want to be having sex with him. These historical beliefs tend to mean that men generally assume that they are a lot keener on sex than the woman and women tend to be inhibited about expressing what they actually want in bed in case they come across as a ‘slut’. Don’t worry, men may like ‘ladies’, but in the bedroom they want a slut.

Men tend to naturally adopt a more dominant role in bed and I’m not suggesting that this should change but women do need to be a little proactive in the relationship. This will make the guy feel like a stud and I guarantee that you will appreciate the results because the more of a stud he feels the more he will be prepared to do whatever you want in return. I am not suggesting that women everywhere should just jump on their man’s bones and ride him senseless. No doubt he would enjoy it but this article is about more subtle techniques that can be used. So, how do we achieve this in less demanding ways?

Most women have reasonably sensitive breasts and nipples and enjoy a man fondling, kissing, caressing or sucking them. This is an ideal place to start because most men are pretty keen on breasts too and it is often their first port of call. What’s the problem, you may ask? A problem arises when women just lie there and accept what his hands and mouth are doing. It isn’t enough to just allow him to suck and squeeze to his heart’s content. Remember the psychological side of sex. He desperately wants to know that you enjoy what he is doing and want him to do more. If he is sucking on your breasts, make sure that you put your hand on the back of his head and slightly pull him towards your chest. This will be enough to let him know that you like him being there. In his own mind he is already becoming something of a stud and will probably redouble his efforts for you even more, both parties win. Even better, use oral encouragement as well. It doesn’t have to be desperately articulate, a soft moan should suffice or maybe a “That’s nice”. Furthermore, if you want him to do something slightly different, don’t be afraid to tell him. He won’t mind and you will certainly enjoy it more.

Much the same sort of advice holds true when he is going down on you. I don’t know any women who don’t like a man eating their pussy and I even know a lot of women that prefer it to penetrative sex, being only able to achieve orgasm this way. If he starts eating your pussy without any prompting, great, but he will still be looking for encouragement. As with your breasts, make sure that you hold the back of his head and apply some pressure. To make sure he is doing the right things for you, increase the pressure on the back of his head in proportion to how much you are enjoying what he is doing. He will soon learn what you like and you will get a far more memorable experience. Better still, be even more proactive and push him down to your pussy first as this way he will be encouraged by your enthusiasm. Alternatively, just move yourself and sit on his face. Unless he has an irrational objection to eating pussy he certainly won’t object. Either of these techniques are good because in his mind he will once again see himself as something of a stud because he has got you so excited. Sex, for him, is suddenly out of this world and he will probably again redouble his efforts for you – a win/win situation.

You need to remember however that oral sex works both ways and getting a blowjob is something that every man loves. The physical reasons for this are fairly obvious and by now you are hopefully beginning to appreciate how his mind works as well. As the woman has to do a lot more in a blowjob than any other aspect of sex I’ve mentioned I will spend more time on this.

For a woman to take a man’s cock in her mouth is an extremely intimate act and, like vaginal sex, will probably be enjoyed by the man regardless of how well the woman performs this act. Nevertheless, there are a number of things the woman can do to make it extra special.

1. Make sure you go down on him before he tries to eat your pussy. I know it should be ladies first but there are a number of practical reasons for the man to be seen to first in oral sex. Obviously it helps to allow him recovery time so that he can calm down before engaging in full intercourse and he can do this while eating your pussy. If you have only excited him with oral sex he will probably eat your pussy for quite a while because he will be afraid of cumming too soon when he does enter you. No man wants this. If you have sucked him to completion he will obviously need recovery time and because he will be so grateful for what you have done, will probably do whatever you want during this period.

2. If the woman starts to give her man head before he has eaten her pussy it is far less likely that he will see the blowjob as something she feels ‘obliged’ to do. Men like such enthusiasm in a woman. It flatters their ego because they will always believe that it is due to their prowess as a lover. Also, a woman should never be in a situation where her man has to ask her to suck his cock. While he may still be pleased that you have, it will nevertheless spoil the overall effect and thus dampen his enthusiasm – enthusiasm he can be using to your benefit.

3. How to suck a cock. There is plenty of detailed advice about this elsewhere so I will try to keep it as brief as possible. Firstly, don’t rush to just shove it in your mouth and suck like a Dyson vacuum cleaner. No doubt he will enjoy it but the effect can be made more powerful by slowing down. As men enjoy all aspects of a blowjob so much it is one of the few times in sex when the woman doesn’t have to worry about slowing him down. All I will say is use kisses and your tongue all over his cock (including his balls), suck slowly at first and then gradually build from there. Lots of people talk about deep throat techniques but this just isn’t going to happen with most women so let’s concentrate on what can be achieved. Men like penetration deep, be it vaginal, oral or anal. He will always try to get his cock as far into a woman as possible. I think it must be an evolutionary thing so it increases the chance of his sperm fertilizing the woman’s egg but whatever the reason, it is always true. Lots of women do not take as much cock into their mouths as they can because they are afraid that the man will suddenly push forward and choke her. Do not fear. Take as much of him into your mouth as possible (he will love it) and then wedge your hands between your mouth and the base of his cock. If he does then push forward he will only push your head safely away but he will very much appreciate that you are trying to take as much of him in your mouth as possible. If he sees that you are trying to get as much of his cock in your mouth as possible it doesn’t matter if you get it all in or not because if you fail (as most women will) he will see it as being due to the immense size of his equipment. True or not, that is how he will rationalise it in his head.

4. Moan a lot while sucking him. This is very effective because the vibrations in your mouth and throat will be transferred to his cock and increases his enjoyment. He will also feel like a real stud because you seem to be enjoying it so much and are clearly in awe of his impressive equipment.

5. Spit or swallow. The eternal dilemma. Actually it is up to you and there are arguments on both sides. Contrary to what may be seen in porn films I can guarantee that he will want to cum in your mouth and not just on your face. All men prefer to cum inside a woman regardless of the hole being used. We simply find it far more satisfying, which is also probably an evolutionary thing. If you are to spit, make sure that you only have the tip of his cock in your mouth when he cums. You can then close your throat and hold it in your mouth until he has finished before spitting it out. You haven’t swallowed but as it is resting on your tongue you have tasted it a lot. If you are to swallow the opposite is true. Position his cock as far back in your throat as possible so that when he cums it will shoot straight down your throat. Start swallowing straight away and you won’t taste a thing. Does allowing a man to cum in your mouth make you a slut? Yes, and that’s exactly why he likes it so much. Men will always believe that their partner is a lady so he will tend to rationalise your slutty behaviour in the bedroom as being solely down to his skill as a lover. His ego is flattered and therefore he enjoys the sex a lot more. Not allowing him to cum in your mouth at all comes a very poor second but if this is the case, make sure he cums all over his favourite part of your body (usually tits).

Finally I would like to point out that all men like it when a woman talks dirty to him during sex so don’t be bashful. The bedroom is an unreal environment and sex is really a form of adult escapism so if you can’t act out of character there, with a person you love, when can you? Men can be quite contradictory creatures. They like a demure lady out of the bedroom but a wild slutty type in the bedroom. They don’t usually like their woman using too much inappropriate language in everyday situations but love it when they talk dirty during sex.

Why?

Once again it is simply because it flatters the very fragile male ego because he will always rationalise it that he has made you lose all control because he is the best lover you have, or ever will, encounter. If you want an idea of the kind of things he will appreciate you saying you can check out any good porn film. I’ve seen loads of porn films and the best scene I have ever watched involved a rather fat woman who was nothing special to look at. What she lacked in looks, she more than made up for by what she said. In the cold light of day phrases like “Ohhh, your cock’s so big and hard” or “My pussy’s so wet, it feels so good wrapped around your big dick” seem a bit ridiculous but don’t worry about that. Remember, a man will always rationalise such behaviour as being due to his own skill and will therefore love you all the more for it. Some experimentation and research will help but I would suggest that some things will always be true of most men. They will always want to know that you appreciate the great size of their cock; they will always like you commenting on how hard it feels; and they will always want you to beg/plead them to fuck you. The word ‘fuck’ is an important one for you to use precisely because it is so unladylike.

Most women would also do well to remember that men are not psychic. Every woman is different in their sexual preferences just as are men, yet many women have difficulty in expressing exactly what they want their lover to do. It makes life a lot simpler for everyone if you tell him in some way. Don’t just say that what he is doing is wrong, as his ego won’t be able to take it, but do suggest alternatives. Most men really do want to please you so he will appreciate the guidance and certainly won’t take it the wrong way if you are doing all of the things I have already mentioned. If you don’t feel comfortable just telling him, try to guide his actions with gentle pressure from the hands and a system of moans and groans when he does something right. I can’t emphasise too much how important it is to be vocal during sex. Like a clever sheepdog, you will find that he catches on quite quickly.

A Girl's Guide to Bush Confidence bysophia jane©
Watching the L Word the other night was an enlightening experience: evidently, I know nothing about being a lesbian, which isn't a shock considering that I'm bisexual, just coming out of a ten-year monogamous marriage, and whose first and only experience with a woman was at age 17. One of the phrases that really struck me during the show was "bush confidence" (and no, I'm not talking about confidence in the President). I've thought a lot about it since, and what I'm wondering is-- can straight women have bush confidence?

Think about it: as a straight woman, you're unlikely to be familiar with the sight, feel or taste of pussy. Maybe you've seen your own in a mirror, maybe you've been adventurous enough to have even tasted yourself, via a partner or your own fingers. Most likely, the whole "down there" region is going to be a foreign concept, a forbidden land that is only entered by occasional partners (and hopefully a toy or two). How can we be confident about something so foreign, something we're taught is "dirty" from our very earliest years? And if we're not confident in our pussy, confident in our own unique appeal as women, can we really and truly celebrate and enjoy our sexuality?

Oh, I know a big part of the phrase "bush confidence," as used on the L word, was about hair and lack of. I know they weren't making a huge statement about women's sexuality, but, honestly, even the concept of shaving pubic hair is foreign, even bizarre, to many women. I had to have my best friend (coincidentally, a lesbian) walk me through the process. It is such a scary thing, with such pornographic stigma attached, that it's no wonder most women opt to just leave their pubes as nature intended.

But, back to my point. I completely lack bush confidence. It's been over a decade since I was up close and personal with a pussy (not counting my own), and I've forgotten the appeal almost completely. Sure, I'm somewhat familiar with the taste of my own, but after a decade of marriage to a man who hates oral sex, I've become almost ashamed of the entire "down there" area. And this sense of shame has carried over to my sexuality, making me one who aims to please but seldom allows my partner the pleasure of pleasing me. If I am ashamed of my body, of the very parts of me that make me unique as a woman, how can I give the gift of myself to another?

The answer is- I can't. And perhaps the reason for so many dissatisfying sex lives is that many others can't either. As women, we should stop being ashamed of ourselves, of our desires, our fantasies, and our bodies! We should not hide our smells and tastes. We should be thankful for them because they are part of us, part of the blessing and beauty of being a woman.

So how do we become "bush confident" you might be asking. It's a good question, one with many answers. The biggest obstacle to overcome on the path to "bush confidence" is your own mind. Those teenage boys who made fish jokes? Forget them. They were full of shit about everything, if you recall, so there's no reason to believe them about this. The guy with the weird hang-ups who always wanted to shower after having his mouth on your pussy? Forget him, too. He wasn't normal, and it was no reflection on you. I've been there, for ten years, and I know how easy it is to believe that your pussy tastes or smells bad. Trust me girls, it doesn't. The taste and smell of a pussy is sexy and sweet, with just the right tangy kick. Don't believe me? Ask a lesbian. They know a lot more about pussies than you do. For that matter, if you have a partner who seems to like giving oral sex, as I've discovered many men do, actually listen to him when he tells you he loves the way you taste, the way you smell you when you're aroused, the way you grab his head when he's doing something that feels good, the way your legs tighten around his ears as your body begins to tremble in climax. Listen to him when he tells you he loves to get his mouth on you, not because he wants a return favor (though, of course, he does) but because he enjoys it. Sure, there are men who hate cunnilingus, just like there are women who hate giving blowjobs. But they're a minority, and it's their own preferences that make them that way. It is not about you. There is nothing wrong or gross or bad about nestling between a woman's legs and feasting on her. Trust me on this.

It also partly depends on you, on who you are and what your particular hang-ups are. Are you like Charlotte from Sex and the City who had never "seen" her pussy? If that's you, the first thing you need to do is find yourself a hand-mirror and a private space and get yourself familiar with your nether regions. Why does it matter what "it" looks like? Because if you don't know what your partner is seeing when he/she is between your legs, you're more likely to be ashamed and/or embarrassed. Things to notice when you're checking yourself out: the flare of your labia (otherwise known as your pussy lips), the varying hues of your folds of skin (who knew it was such a colorful region!?), and exactly where your very important openings are. While you're down there, why not play a little so you can witness the changes your body makes when it's aroused.

A slightly more advanced (and more fun for the adventurous) version of this would be masturbating in front of a larger mirror. Ever watched yourself come or admired the way a toy looks sliding in and out of your pussy? It's a beautiful sight, even for the most self-conscious (I know because I avoid mirrors, but still managed to take and enjoy some great pictures of the slide of a toy into my pussy). What you see in that mirror is similar to what your man sees when he's fucking you. Ever notice him look down while he's on top, watching his cock plunge into you? He's not checking himself out girls; it's what he's doing to you that he's admiring.

Another important step to being "bush confident" is taking care of any hair issues you have. Does it bother you to have a full bush? Do you hate to see your partner pulling pubic hair from his teeth? Trim it. It's not a hard job, just requires some scissors; it's easiest while sitting on the toilet (instant disposal of the hair and easier straddling position). Just be careful not to get too close to the skin. Being trimmed isn't short enough? Go for the bare look by going to the salon and getting waxed or by shaving it yourself. Don't be afraid to go for it. Bare isn't just for porn stars, and I can tell you from first hand experience that being bare increases sensations, particularly during oral sex. For me, being shaved means instant and continual arousal. I want to be seen, tasted, and thoroughly devoured. And when I am being seen, tasted and devoured, I fully enjoy every second knowing that there isn't anything getting between me and his (or her) mouth.

Does it really make a difference whether you're confident in your pussy? Absolutely. If you're not completely confident in your body, in your womanhood, confident not just in your breasts or in the sway of your hips, but in every aspect of your body, it is impossible to revel in the innate sensuality and sexuality of being a girl. Not to mention that lacking pussy confidence makes it nearly impossible to really enjoy oral sex. And while fucking is great, there's nothing quite like a partner sucking, licking, nibbling, and thoroughly tongue fucking you to multiple orgasm exhaustion. Speaking of which, I think I need a volunteer....