...I've heard on numerous occasions that one of every two marriages ends in divorce. Although I believe this estimate to be high, there is no question that divorce has become a common occurrence in today's society. I think the biggest cause of divorce is people getting married too soon. Couples should live together before they marry. People become enveloped in a sort of euphoric haze when a relationship first begins to take a serious turn. The object of your affection seems to be perfect in every way and can do no wrong. You want to spend all your time with this person; often neglecting anything you enjoyed pre-relationship. In effect, you lose your individual identities and become Siamese twins (thus the term, "joined-at-the-hip"). Thankfully, this stage in a relationship is only temporary. However, many couples mistake this hormonal surge as the sign that this is the one-and-only person they could spend the rest of their lives with. When the haze dissipates, only the strong relationships survive. If each couple contemplating marriage during this phase were to move in together first, the perspective the couple would gain on their relationship would prove whether [or not] their feelings were deeper than pure physical attraction or lust. It may sound clichéd, but you truly do not know someone until you live with that person. When a couple lives together, the comfort level between the two gradually increases until nothing is sacred. Little quirks that a person tries so desperately...
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...increasing rate of cohabitation in the society. Cohabitation by definition is two unmarried people living together. In moral values, this does not seem an appropriate situation because there is no marriage between the couples. However, cohabitation is a chance and requirement to establish strong bonds at the relationship. I became interested in the topic because of my own situation. I am a Christian, so according to the Bible, it is considered a sin to live together outside of marriage. However, I stand in grace. As a grace believer, I know that if I was going to live under law, breaking one “rule” means you break them all. What a frightening thought considering everyone falls short in some area or another. My thought on the subject is that I have seen both sides of the story, and having married young and watching the marriage fall apart, I am very content just living with my significant other. Marriage is a commitment, and before God we have said our vows to each other, but according to man we have not. I feel as though we are married, but I also do not feel as though signing legal documents will change anything accept gain the approval of the world. It is not my intentions to live in sin, but I also do not feel as though it is necessary to sign a bunch of papers just to gain the approval of man. I suppose I feel so strongly because I have seen how devastating marriage can be, and although any relationship can end, the repercussions of divorce are enough to cripple a person...
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...Living Together Before Marriage The candles are lit, the wine is chilled, and the ring has been bought, as the nervous boyfriend gets on one knee as asks the question, “Will you marry me.” In a time not so long ago, this is how couples began to plan for their life together. In today’s society, the question for couples is not, “Will you marry me?” but “Do you think we should live together?” Even though living together is more common and a socially acceptable thing to do, my position is that couples should not live together before they get married because there is no formal commitment, women and men have different views on living together, and it can have negative effects on a person and marriage. Couples need to consider these issues before they decide to live together. “I take you to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, form this day forward until death do us part.” These wedding vows are serious, legal, and hold deep meaning for couples getting married whereas couples who decide to live together do not share in this commitment. There are many reason couples choose to live together before getting married. These reasons include: getting to know each other before marriage, economically cheaper, and they want to spend more time together. According to Jennifer Roback Morse, “Unfortunately, cohabitation is correlated with greater likelihood...
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...Should Couples Live Together Before Married? As I grew up in my mother house it was instilled in me that you should never live with a man unless you’re married and since that was strongly installed in me that is what I live by I didn’t have the chance to live together with my husband while we were dating. It was difficult during our first year of marriage. We argued a lot, mostly for reasons like leaving clothes on the floor in the bathroom and not cleaning up after his self. Living together before making our vows would have reassured us about the lifelong commitment and basically letting us see what we were getting are self into. From my own experience, I believe that couples should live together before getting married, so they can start to know each other on a closer, more personal level and also see how compatible they are with each other. When you live together with your partner you start to know each other on a closer more personal level. For starters you learn what your partner likes and dislikes, I think there’s a lot to find out about your partner and from your partner; and I think the only way to do this is move in together. For example I didn’t know my husband liked to watch porno videos or sleep with the house freezing cold! Believe it or not, its little details like these that can often make or break a relationship. Second, you learn what kind of bad habits you and your partner have and whether or not you can get rid of them or live with all the bad habits. For...
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...the bridge to get you to a real successful life. With marriage, couples will show seriousness in working together to make their relationship powerful and faithful if love is present. Some people who are in love get inspiration to get married soon enough to build the bright expectation for their future together. In order to get a step on that stair you need someone who loves and cares about you deeply. The motivation that leads people to get married is the feeling of loneliness. When couples are married, they will not feel alone even if they are a thousand miles away from their own families because relationship between husband and wife is dominant with love. However, many of people in the United States prefer to live together before marriage so they can find out if they are capable getting along well together. From my perspective and my culture, living together before marriage has disadvantages to the couples, so people should get married in order to protect their rights and enjoy their lives together. One reason why I strongly support marriage over living together is that marriage will give the couple the energy to work on their strong commitment to each other. When people get married, they have full knowledge of what responsibilities involve with their marriage. And that will make the relationship last longer than ever. The partners share sorrow and happiness with each other and they also can face all the hardships together. But if they weren’t married, perhaps one partner would...
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...Proposal: Solving/Reducing the growing number of divorces in America? The basis of what is thought to be a lasting marriage in American society, in some cases, is a somewhat complicated issue. Many people fall “in love” only to realize that they are with the wrong person. There are two effortless solutions I will propose to help solve the growing number of divorces in America. In comparison to any other country in the world, more marriages in the United States end in divorce. This trend can be seen throughout America's history. In a consensus report, which was recently posted it showed that the overall U.S. divorce rate experienced a brief increase after World War II, but was followed by a dramatic decline. It started rising again in the 1960's gradually, but even more quickly in the 1970's. From the 1980's till now the rate of increase in divorce has fluctuated. It is predicted that 40-50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if this trend continues. Divorce would not be thought of as such a terrible thing, if negative aspects weren’t connected to it. Divorce greatly increases the chances that children of divorced families will be more likely to experience psychological problems, juvenile delinquency, suicide, and teen motherhood. These problems come to light during and after the divorce process, more than from the actual conflict during the marriage. The increased threat of divorce has led to a generation of children in the U.S, with an increased risk for poverty, alienation...
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...Cole Lifespan 232 February 27, 2013 Couples Should Live Together before Marriage I have heard that one of two marriages end in divorce. Although I believe that this is just merely a word of mouth or this estimate is to high, there is no question that divorce has become a more common occurrence in the society we live in today. I think that the biggest cause for divorce is people getting married to young and too soon. I strongly believe that couples should live together before they marry due to the fact that you learn the habits, both good and bad, of the other person before you make the marriage commitment. “Cohabitation by definition in our text book refers to the lifestyle of unmarried couples who have a sexually intimate relationship and who share a residence. In many cases this prepares couples for marriage – a time to test the relationship and get use to living together.” (textbook book pg. 487) People become engulfed in a sort of euphoric haze when a relationship first begins to take a serious turn. The entity of your affection seems to be perfect in every way and can do no wrong. You want to spend all of you available time with that person; often neglecting anything you enjoyed doing prior to your relationship. In effect, you lose your individual identities and become more like Siamese twins (individuals that are “joined-at-the-hip”). This stage in a relationship is only a temporary period. However, many couples mistake this hormonal surge as a sign that...
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...` Cohabitation Before Marriage Huynh Thi Thanh Tam Nguyen Kim Ngoc Quyen Le Dang Phuong Luong Thi Thanh Thao Tran Huy Bao Phan Thi Ai Hoa Luu Ho Xuan Quynh Nguyen Truong Vinh Phat Academic Skills November 14th, 2012 Professor Douglas M. Foster Cohabitation Before Marriage Love between man and woman is the precious one of human that people must spend a lot of time and effort to seek. However, there is a perceptive difference of love between Western culture and Eastern culture. Westerners find out freedom and satisfaction in love and marriage is a great importance of their life, therefore they often cohabitate to learn about their partners carefully to get a better marriage in the future. “More than two-thirds of married couples in the US say that they lived together before getting married” (Jayson, 2005, Cohabitation is Replacing Dating, para. 2). In opposite, the feudal reflection, which affects Easterners culture and makes contrary between cohabitation and culture. Therefore, cohabitation is not common in Eastern countries. Nowadays, society is more and more developing and modern. In pace with that trend, cohabitation lifestyle of Western has entered and influenced on the Eastern thought, so cohabitation becomes more acceptable in Eastern. Especially in Vietnam, the rate of which Vietnamese adults want to cohabit is high in both male and female. According to the survey of...
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...Almost 40 percent of children will spend time in a cohabiting household by age 16. Living together is now common, but it is not without consequence—particularly for children. The effects of this family structure on children are just beginning to be understood. However, initial research by Brown and others suggests cohabitation is generally a less stable family structure than married couple or single-mother households. While there is some evidence that children in cohabiting households fare worse than those in married or single-parent families on several key indicators (Manning & Lamb, 2003), what is less clear is why. Do these negative outcomes stem from something inherent in the family structure? Or are these effects due to the types of parents who choose to cohabit (rather than to the experience of cohabitation itself)? How does living in a cohabiting household affect both children and adults? Impact on Children Development Spending extended time in cohabiting households at an early age is linked to slowed cognitive growth and language acquisition in children. Brown notes that even in stablecohabiting households, children show smaller gains in mental development. The Urban Institute finds children in cohabiting homes are also less likely to be read to than other children. Poverty Poverty is higher in cohabiting homes, around 23%. By contrast, the poverty rate for married couples is just 7%. Researcher Linda Waite of the University of Chicago confirms cohabiting households...
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...A Study of What Makes Marriages Succeed or Fail Priscilla Mullennix Liberty University Abstract Marriage is a very special gift for the human race, God knew that we are a people of loneliness and He did not want us to go through this life alone. Unfortunately society does not see it this way. Many marriages fail at not putting God first. They fail at not looking at their marriages as being a covenant. And they fail at not communicating their feelings to each other. With this they end in separation and divorce. From the start we should put God first in marriages, realizing that marriage is a covenant with God and your spouse. Having your marriage become a success or a failure is all up to the couple, it is their choice on what path they will choose for their marriage. They need to consider what path they take and the outcome of that path at the end. A Study of What Makes Marriages Succeed or Fail Marriages today have become under the direct line of fire from our adversary, the devil. Our day and time seems to have diminished the value that is placed upon marriage and the great treasure and gift that this is from God. As with many things in our day and age, many ask the question of how they can have success to prevent a failure. Nobody likes to fail in the matters of life. It doesn’t matter what it is, owning a business, going back to school as an adult, and even the marriages and relationships we find ourselves in. How does a marriage succeed? And what is the...
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...LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cohabitation_in_India Cohabitation or live-in relationships in India though not illegal, is considered socially and morally improper. Cohabitation is prevalent mostly among the people living in metro cities in India. Legal decisions[edit] Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 recognises “relationship in the nature of marriage” and protects female partners from domestic violence. Such partners can claim monetary and other reliefs under the Act.[1] In S. Khushboo Vs. Kanniammal & Anr.,[2] the Supreme Court of India, placing reliance upon its earlier decision in Lata Singh Vs. State of U.P. & Anr.,[3] held that live-in-relationship is permissible only in unmarried major persons of heterogeneous sex. The Supreme Court on 13 August 2010 in the case of Madan Mohan Singh & Ors v. Rajni Kant & Anr. [4] has once again entered the debate on legality of the Live-in Relationship as well as legitimacy of Child born out of such relationship. The Court while dismissing the appeal in the property dispute held that there is a presumption of marriage between those who are in live-in relationship for a long time and this cannot be termed as 'walking-in and walking-out' relationship. In the case of Bharata Matha & Ors v. R. Vijaya Renganathan & Ors. [5]dealing with the legitimacy of child born out of a live-in relationship and his succession of property rights, the Supreme Court held that child born out...
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...that they should date the person first before they get married to them because they have the right to choose their own match, since they are the one who will be spending the rest of their life with them. "They asked what I was looking for in a wife. Then they looked around, found a family they felt was suitable, and sent a formal proposal to the parents" (Reader 183). This is what traditional arranged marriages were like. Dating before marriage is also referred to as courtship and is essential. It helps an individual decide whether they would want to spend the rest of their...
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...for declaring a marriage null and void. Unlike divorce, it is retroactive: an annulled marriage is considered never to have existed. In strict legal terminology, annulment refers only to making a voidable marriage null; if the marriage is void ab initio, then it is automatically null, although a legal declaration of nullity is required to establish this. The process of obtaining such a declaration is similar to the annulment process. Generally speaking, annulment, despite its retrospective nature, still results in any children born being considered legitimate in the United States and many other countries. Annulment is the process by which a Court states that a marriage never legally existed. An annulment must be based on mental illness, fraud, forced consent, physical incapacity to consummate the marriage, lack of consent to underage marriage or bigamy. Children of a marriage annulled for bigamy or mental illness are legitimate. In annulment cases, the court may award custody of children of the marriage and require payment of child support and support of a party. Annulment is different from divorce. Marriage is a sacrament that joins the couple together under the eyes of God and legally under the state. When a couple decides to get married it should be for life, however sometimes couples choose to get married in a haste than later realize that they do not want to stay in the marriage. If a couple has been married under the Roman Catholic Church and the marriage did not work out...
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...Divorce What is marriage? Marriage is an institution whereby men and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family. This means that a couple should stay together to create and maintain a family life. However some couples are unable to maintain or keep their relationship, this could lead to separation or even divorce. Different religions teach different things about divorce, in this essay I will be talking about the different religions and what they teach. Christians don’t agree with divorce, they think that a couple, once married should spend the rest of their lives together because they made a vow in front of their God. When a couple gets married in a church they make a vow before God “till death do us part.”This is means the couple agree to live together for the rest of their lives no matter what happens. Christianity also teaches that marriage is a covenant agreement, meant for life, therefore it must not be broken under any circumstance; remarriage further violates the covenant and therefore is not permissible. Even though Christians believe that divorce is not what God wants and should be avoided, some Christians cannot cope with marriage, so they divorce. They may not be able to cope because their partner may not be part of the same faith or the one of the couple has committed adultery. In some situations even though divorce is not God's desire, is sometimes the only alternative when all else...
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...Terri Ruth 1 Kim Oesterle Eng 0099 Nov 1, 2012 Living Together and Getting Married One of the most debatable questions of recent times is whether to live together or get married. Live-in relationships and marriages can be successful with hard work and commitment. In today’s society living together is considered normal compared to the traditions of the past. Years ago it was considered sinful to do so. So, the question is, should a couple live together or get married? You decide. One main reason for doing either type of commitment is for financial gain. Both living together and in marriage gives couples the opportunity for this. When a couple lives together they have larger chances of saving money for their future. This can include saving for things such as, purchasing their first home together, buying new furniture, and even joint saving investments. If they are married they can save financially on health and medical expenses, insurance costs, and everyday living such as utilities and survival needs. A major fallback for the decision of living together is one of tradition. The old fashion society we live in looks down on couples whom cohabitate before marriage. This type of disapproval can cause couples to deny and hide aspects of their relationship putting stress in their every day lives. Their thoughts of happiness and joy begin to turn to thoughts of disgust and they may begin questioning their selves on whether they made the right decision. ...
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