FMG On-Demand Video #33067
Women and Men Unglued: Love and Relationships in the 21st Century

• Creating an intimate relationship involves the merging of two separate identities, whereas romance involves the sacrifice of the individual.

• For young adults today, _____ and ____ are often the priorities. Per this video, many young women don’t want to have kids; don’t want to settle down with one partner because that would restrict their freedom to ______.

• One girl interviewed for this video, “Jude,” things maybe we’ve evolved such that we continually need new people in our lives, to serve as new “stimuli” for us, in order for us to get to know who we really are.

• A couple of guys, who were interviewed separately for this video, believed that women choose to date “losers.”

• Right now there are a variety of options for the type of relationships you can have – involving varying degrees of involvement, etc. There are no clear “norms” right to tell young people what is ‘the’ typical or socially acceptable type of relationship to have; nor is there a “marriage” for achieving any such ideal relationship.

• One guy says his dog gets unconditional love from him, while his girlfriend gets reserved affection from him. He reasoning for dividing his affections up this way was that his dog won’t leave him, won’t piss him off, won’t hold a grudge.

• Author Vivian Gornick noted there is nothing more lonely than the loneliness of feeling like an “exiled” WITHIN the relationship you are in.

• Nowadays, young people “hang out” in groups…this allows group members to know that person.

• “Christine,” a young lawyer making six figures, says she has put career over relationships because the income she makes gives her freedom – and she defines freedom as not having to rely on someone else and doing things for herself.