After reading an article on “can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in marriages”. I feel that self disclosure in relationships is important to know where your partner stands or feels about certain issues that might come up. My wife and I sometimes have discussions with one Another to try and find out ways to make each other happy because according to her I am a grouch. We try our hardest but it’s like everyday there is always something different. I believe that self disclosure is important because it relates to having a good intimate relationship. I believe it is a blue print to one’s emotions and it bears great weight on intimate relationships.
In regards to gender similarities, I notice that woman are more sensitive when it comes to intimate communication they need to verbally hear “I love you” and desire a great deal of attention. I know this first hand my wife is telling me that all the time and I say ok. She wants me to kiss and tell her that I love her all the time. On the other hand, men seems to cater more to non verbal body language; they desire to be depended on and be ask for their guidance and their leadership in most major decisions. This is so true instead of hearing my wife tell me that she loves me a million times I would rather see her cook me a meal. That lets me know that she loves me. I tend not to say I love you that often but I think she gets the hint by me doing things when she asks me to do things. This type of action makes men feel connected to their spouse rather than verbal intimate communication. It is just like what the article said “Her study also found that "affective affirmation" — basically, behavior that makes your partner feel loved, cared for or special - plays a role in happy marriages and that men need it more than women.
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