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Since the beginning of the semester to now; I can say I have definitely changed as an individual and a student. I have learned many new things about myself and who I am as a gendered being in this world. My views and beliefs have changed significantly. Man Up/Act like a Lady really made me think different gender roles and meanings behind them. This semester has been a journey. It was a constant roller coaster ride, with many ups and downs. I can proudly say it has brought out who I am and helped me find details about me that I never knew existed. At first going into college was very rough. I was two hours away from home and did not know anyone. It was a little nerve racking. Also, adjusting to college was difficult; high school …show more content…
I read things more closely now and always try to analyze them. When I read He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut by Jessica Valenti, I thought it was interesting how I could analyze it and figure what she was saying. In advertisements, magazines, television shows, etc. women are shown as tall, skinny, big boobs, and blonde. This is what girl should supposedly want to look like, but if you don't look like this you aren't good enough. Men don't nearly face as much harshness when it comes to being the ideal man. They are shown as big and strong. In our society there isn't as much criticism towards men as much as women. If a girl sleeps with a lot of men; she is considered a slut, but if a guy sleeps with a lot of girls; he is a stud. Not just our looks are criticized by society now, even our parts are. If a girl gets pregnant; according to today's world it was her fault because she was being a slut. A line from Valenti’s book is “Let’s not judge young women on what their sexual lives are like” (pg.37). One thing I learned from Jessica Valenti's book is that society is never going to be pleased so you should just do what makes you happy. This is only one of the many readings we did in class, but this was probably my favorite. Also, my critical thinking skills improved; sometimes if I do not know what a word means I can figure it out just by reading …show more content…
I never paid much attention to what was going on and how women are treated versus’ how men are treated or even how they are portrayed. It never registered it my mind that this is a big deal. Before I thought there was a real separation between what constitutes being a male or a female, but now I realize the definitions of gender are created through stereotypes and bias which are produced by the outside sources; such as, television, advertisements, etc. In a reading that we did in the very beginning we learned about what hegemony is and how media affects today’s society. The article was by Kellner; he explained that hegemony is the power or dominance that a social group holds over other social groups. It can also be referred to as "asymmetrical interdependence" in relations with political-economic cultures. One main point made by Kellner is that media is today's society defines who we are. It defines who we are not only as people, but within our identities such as gender, race, ethnicity, and

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