...Some say I’m a perfectionist, I say I have an eye for detail. Others say I “try too hard”, I say I’m my harshest critic. Characteristics like these define who I am and how I lead others. My junior year I took on the role of becoming an editor on my high school’s yearbook staff. I was normally a “behind the scenes kind of girl” when it came to group projects, but now I had to face a whole class who were also some of my closest friends. At first I wasn’t too sure how to show any leadership abilities around them, and as weeks passed I began to noticed nothing was getting done. I’m not one to leave things until the last-minute nor do I tolerate people who don’t keep up with their own work, so at this moment I knew I had to address my group about...
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...Ashby et al. (2008) added to these statement that having a poor quality relationship was obvious in maladaptive perfectionists (as cited in Improving Lives counseling, 2013, p.5). However, in a relationship if both spouses are maladaptive, their relationship has seem only negative outcomes. Having a partner who is maladaptive perfectionist is seen as a problem because when maladaptive perfectionists are criticized, they answer excessively sensitive (Ashby et al., 2008 as cited in Improving Lives counseling, 2013, p.6). Also, when they are hurt emotionally, they respond aggressively in their intimate relationships. Besides, they have tendencies to fear the intimacy, commitment etc. and they expect their partner to be...
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...Psychology Today. This particular periodical seems to have been written for people who show an interest in the understanding of several varying human behaviors and also for people who are interested in changing these behaviors to a certain extent. I chose the article, “The Making of a Perfectionist,” by Hara Estroff Marano. This article caught my eye only because more often than not, I catch myself attempting to be a perfectionist although I may not always want to be one. This article, including the title pages, is eight pages long. Interestingly, throughout all eight pages of this article there are no heads. This article was not based on a research study per say, but it simply provides you, as a perfectionist, ways to cope with your perfectionism. It describes a perfectionist as only being a “slave to success.” The hypothesis given in this article is that perfectionism is essentially a crime against humanity. Unfortunately, no conducted study was included in this article however, it does discuss particular conclusion which were made about how someone may become a perfectionist. A man by the name of Luc Goossens, a developmental psychologist and his colleagues, have determined that a perfectionist can be the result of particular parenting skills applied throughout a child’s first eighteen years of life. Gossens states that there are two sources of psychological control when dealing with a child. The first happens to be the parents’ own perfectionism. This is when parents make it...
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...“Perfection is an illusion and those who seek perfection will find themselves unfulfilled their whole lives” (Fiona Childs). In the story Pancakes by Joan Bauer you will read about a girl named Jill and how she feels that everything always has to be perfect. You will see how she attempts to do everything by herself just to make it turn out the way she feels is best. You will also learn the lesson that no matter how hard we try nobody is perfect. As you read this story think about if you would classify yourself as a perfectionist like Jill does. Andy broke up with Jill for being a perfectionist because he could not deal with someone who couldn't be happy unless everything went the right way. Jill had no choice but to classify herself as a perfectionist because that is exactly what she is. Whether it's how she has to iron all of her clothes before she puts them on, or having to get all the orders right a work, or feeling like she has failed, she had to have everything perfect! That definitely shows at her work, Jill was having a long day at work and everything turned inside out and backwards when a table of 66 came in. At this point of time Jill didn't even know where to start, after the huge table came in everyone started coming in. And she was the only waitress there....
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...LSI ASSESSMENT Introduction The Life Styles Inventory (LSI) is a self-assessment diagnostic instrument that measures 12 key thinking patterns, or "styles". The LSI promotes performance change and improvement by increasing personal understanding of one's thinking and behavior. By responding to these, individuals learn exactly where they need to focus their development efforts, without ambiguity or guesswork. The results of the self-description are plotted on a circular graph for easy visualization of how the individual thinks and behaves in the 12 LSI styles. This profile acts as a personalized developmental needs assessment, calling attention to the individual's strengths as well as areas needing improvement. PERSONAL THINKING STYLES According to my LSI Profile shows my primary style is “Affiliative”. By definition Affiliative behaviors are behaviors which promote cohesion (friendly/positive) gestures. An Affiliative leader will promote harmony among the followers and helps solve conflict. He builds teams by making sure the followers feel connected to each other. I completely agree that I’m affiliative in nature. In the school days, if any fellow classmate would have difficulty in understanding a particular subject, I would stay back at school and try my best to make him understand the subject or have active discussions with my teacher to make him understand it better. Be at home, I would always participate in family discussions and try my level best to give suggestions...
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...LSI ASSESSMENT Introduction The Life Styles Inventory (LSI) is a self-assessment diagnostic instrument that measures 12 key thinking patterns, or "styles". The LSI promotes performance change and improvement by increasing personal understanding of one's thinking and behavior. By responding to these, individuals learn exactly where they need to focus their development efforts, without ambiguity or guesswork. The results of the self-description are plotted on a circular graph for easy visualization of how the individual thinks and behaves in the 12 LSI styles. This profile acts as a personalized developmental needs assessment, calling attention to the individual's strengths as well as areas needing improvement. PERSONAL THINKING STYLES According to my LSI Profile shows my primary style is “Affiliative”. By definition Affiliative behaviors are behaviors which promote cohesion (friendly/positive) gestures. An Affiliative leader will promote harmony among the followers and helps solve conflict. He builds teams by making sure the followers feel connected to each other. I completely agree that I’m affiliative in nature. In the school days, if any fellow classmate would have difficulty in understanding a particular subject, I would stay back at school and try my best to make him understand the subject or have active discussions with my teacher to make him understand it better. Be at home, I would always participate in family discussions and try my level best to give suggestions...
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...My life styles Inventory: Upon reading and analyzing all the characteristics in the Life Styles Inventory “LSI”, I found out that, I have many traits of behavior but my most dominant styles is Aggressive (Perfectionist) and my least style is Passive (dependent) style which is conflicting to that of the my dominate character. The LSI feedback explained the Passive styles (dependent) to be self-protective and courageous, controlling and has the ability to encourage and motivate others to achievements. The Aggressive style (perfectionist) focuses on fulfilling security through task-related activities. According to the “LSI” My primary thinking style is considered as a “Perfectionist”. This means, I am aggressive, dedicated, time conscious, organized and a detailed person with high standards. I do not settle for anything less than perfection. I totally agree with LSI definition about my characteristic of valuing my work more than my relationship with the people around me. I am fast in everything I do and gets things done right away. This characteristic is genetic because it can be traced down to my father and grandfather. Also, due to my competitive nature, I get upset very easily when I feel I am been cheated or people are been dishonest to me. According to LSI, dedication, focus, and self-discipline leads to performance accomplishments and; since achievement and satisfaction are directly related, I know understand why I work hard and strive for great achievement at all times...
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...Inventory (LSI) survey was something that helped me somewhat understand more about myself than I knew before. It also was helpful with confirming other characteristics about myself that I already knew and had knowledge of. After taking the Life Style Inventory survey, I noticed that I scored relatively high in the following areas: Perfectionist, Power, and Competitive. These three were my top out of the 12 categories or characteristics from the LSI survey. I would agree with two of the following, in which the competitive style kind of surprised me. Then again, thinking about the types of decisions and situation that I’ve come across, those three things actually play a big part in how I deal with different things. When it comes down to situations that involve work or even my social life, I have the tendency to show each one of those styles in some way, shape, or form. Within society, those three styles, in my opinion, are needed in order to survive this “cold” world that we live in. If you are strong willed, you will succeed, but if you are weak minded, you might crumble beneath the pressure of society and the beings that live in it. Perfectionist, Power, and Competitiveness are things that play a key role within the aspect of my life and everyday situations. I’ve always been the strong willed being, which always strive for success regardless of the situations that I may encounter. These things are somewhat like another part of me internally, due to the way that I was raised...
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...Time is precious for me and if you make me wait, i will consider that as an insult. I hate to hear criticism and hate to criticize. If i am criticizing other people, then i must be influenced by other Zodiac. I am and i like to be a perfectionist. I always think i am doing the right and appropriate thing , and often i think i make no mistake. I am a bright guy and could accept comments if i thinks it can improve myself. I am the type who well adjusted to make changes. I will spent money carefully and spent it worthwhile. I will only extravagant for my personnel pleasure only. I am quite romantic, a type of guy who can drive 100 miles just to tell you how much i misses you. If i does not care about you, i will not even spent a dime to call you locally. Long distant special low rate call is also out of the question. I hate rough and crude people. My woman has to be clean and dress well. I inspects anything in details beside being a perfectionist, so you could be lying in your bikini with a perfect figure and i can suddenly comments you about your big feet. If you gain 2 pounds , i may comment you are getting too fat. Before going out with this kind of guy, look at yourself had to toe in the mirror and ask yourself if you are really and entirely ready. Unless i dates a model, then i will have less comments. I am neat and tidy, so my life always in a schedule, a fix time to lunch, the same theme to go home. I am well knowledge about food and conscious about nutrition...
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...English as a Second Language Podcast www.eslpod.com ESL Podcast 772 – Types of People at Work GLOSSARY to show (someone) around – to give someone an orientation; to teach someone where things are in an unfamiliar building or city * When Ida moved into the apartment building, her neighbor offered to show her around the neighborhood. the lay of the land – the organization or layout of something; where things are placed or found * This is such a big campus! It’s going to take us weeks to figure out the lay of the land. perfectionist – someone who has very high standards and wants to do everything the right way, without making any mistakes * Gladys is a perfectionist who does her work well, but very slowly because she wants to make it just right. stickler – someone who follows the rules exactly and insists that other people do the same; someone who is very strict * Damian is a stickler with his exercise routine. He runs 8 miles every weekday, and 12 miles on Saturdays. slacker – someone who is lazy and does not do the work he or she is supposed to do, or does not do it well * Adam is such a slacker. He just watches TV all day and refuses to work or help around the house. troublemaker – a person who creates difficulties for other people; someone who creates problems * Hans is a troublemaker in the classroom, so the teacher watches him carefully. warning – advice about a dangerous or difficult situation that may happen in the future; caution * The embassy issued a warning about...
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...to an event; however, I have now cultured the inns and outs of producing an event. Individual interpretations of major events, The Victoria Secret Fashion Show, New York City Fashion Week, bring varied insights to an agents capabilities and it is also interesting to point out important props that the agent has added emphases to. I have always been a perfectionist, but throughout my first degree, an A.A in Fashion Merchandising, I have greatly sharpened my critical thinking and creative skills. Instead of focusing on being a perfectionist, I have learned to continuously find motivation from all over the world right at my fingertips and to believe in everything that I successfully produce. Also, by having the opportunity to assist backstage at many events, fashion in-particular, and work with a well-known PR agent on different charity events; this has helped me to develop a broader horizon on the knowledge of a career field as such. I guess you can say that my appreciation and knowledge has matured in respect to the career field of PR, which has enlightened my inner creativity to shine on my future. Being a creative perfectionist had always been a skill of mine, but it was challenging to take the first step in working with individuals in the career field I’m working towards becoming a part of. Moving past this stage has greatly opened my mind to a better understanding. My thoughts on producing a floor plan for an event are more effective. Another achievement is my ability to think...
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...Have you ever wondered what your personality traits say about you? I have, so I took a personality test online from 16personalities.com and was told I am an INFJ. The “I” stands for introverted, the NF stands for an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets me apart is my accompanying judging (J) trait. My personality type in known as “The Advocate.” My personality type is rare, it makes up less than one percent of the population, nonetheless leaves a mark on the world. INFJs aren’t idle dreamers, but take concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact (16 personalities). Some personality traits that best describe me from the results of the test are: soft-spoken, imaginative, extremely private, perfectionist,...
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...Between these two articles, The Perils and Promise of Praise, and The Key to Classroom Management, I found a couple similarities. The first one being, providing flexible learning goals. As Robert and Jana Marzano state in The Key to Classroom Management, “Giving students this kind of choice (choosing their own learning goals), in addition to increasing their understanding of the topic, conveys the message that the teacher cares about and tries to accommodate student’s interests” (Marzano, 2003 p. 204). If students are actively engaged in designing their own learning goals, this can help them better to understand the process of reaching these goals, thus understanding their learning better. This perfectly coincides with Dwecks, idea of having...
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...One important message to disciples of perfectionism is that perfectionism will not only hurt them but also the people around them. Hence the need to overcome it. The result of this is that because perfectionists are afraid of failing, they will most of the time refuse to act or give their lives a meaning. Now to make matters worse, as they gradually sink into the ocean of low self-esteem, they procrastinate and never do anything. Furthermore, if they even muster enough courage to do something, they never are satisfied with their achievements or results. As you have read, perfectionists are prone to having low self-esteem because they always rate themselves not to be up to standard. How you can overcome your perfectionist tendencies is simple....
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...Life Styles Inventory Assignment Traya Ransom ransomtj@verizon.net MGMT591 – Leadership and Organizational Behavior Brett Gordon November 11, 2012 This paper discusses the content Life Styles Inventory (LSI) results for Traya Ransom. It identifies her primary, backup, and limiting thinking styles, the impact her personal styles have on her management style, and it also explains how she developed the personal styles that were reveled in her LSI. The LSI results are shown on page 5. Primary, Backup and Limiting Styles Traya’s primary style is Achievement, with a percentile score of 99. This thinking style describes a person who has confidence in their ability to improve situations and is not afraid to take action. They are able to inspire confidence in others. Achievers set realist goals and usually able to obtain high quality results. On her job, this style is manifested often in the way she distributes work to her employees. She is able to identify their strengths and weaknesses and utilize this knowledge to obtain the best outcome. As a result her employees work with confidence because of their high degree of success. Therefore, Achievement style is an accurate description of Traya. Traya’s secondary style is Self-Actualizing, with a percentile score of 93. This thinking style describes creative people who have great sense of personal fulfillment. Self-actualized people enjoy living in the moment. They take the time to develop themselves and are intuitive. This style...
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