...Stages of Grief There are five stages of grief that a person goes through when a loved one passes away. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, we all go through these at our own pace and in our own way. In the written “Lament for a Son” we will go through the journey of a father’s loss of his son and how he goes through the stages of grief (Wolterstorff, 1987). Denial and isolation is the first stage of grief, in lament for a son it does not specifically discuss that he goes through specific denial. Denial is the first reaction most people have when learning of the death of a loved one (Axelrod, 2014). A person will just hear part of what the person is saying when they are being informed that a loved one as died, especially in an untimely death such as the one we read about a 25 year old dying while mountain climbing. This is usually the most temporary stage. Anger is the second stage and this when reality usually sets in and the pain and intense emotions arise (Grand Canyon University, 2015). Sometimes the anger is directed and the one who died sometimes it is at us for not spending enough time with the person who passed away. Some of the anger that was discussed was with how people try to console you, when they say “it’s really not so bad” or “I know how you are feeling (Wolterstorff, 1987).” Death is really that bad and there is no way anyone could know how another person is feeling in their own grief. Bargaining is the third stage of grief; this is the...
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...Grief counseling and children: Ambiguous loss and its effects on children: Implications and interventions for school counselors. By K. Guidy, C. Simpson, T.Test, and C. Bloomfield. Texas A &M University Commerce. * In addition to emotions, children experience physical responses to a loss such as exhaustion, insomnia, headache, stomachaches, and regressive behaviors. * Just like adults children process grief in different and unique ways, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. * Grief work is essential in order for the individual to become actively engaged in their own life again. * Children need adequate information, reassurance, routine, validation, active listening, and adult models to demonstrate mourning behaviors constructively and appropriately. * When a child losses someone in their family they are grieving the loss of the systemic role in the family, the loss of a relationship, loss of an emotional connection and the fear of possibly losing someone else in their family. * May have self-blame, confusion, fear, isolation, or alone * Faced to deal with the changes in their new family systems, adjusting to the remaining parents new way of life may be difficult * SC should build meaningful relationships with the student as well as validate, understand, listen, and normalize their loss when the child is comfortable enough to share with them * You need to meet children and families where they are, support them with patience, compassion...
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...of his 25 year-old son during a climbing accident, and how he was able to appease his grief based on his faith in God; therefore, I will be identifying the five stages of grief. The five stages include how the author finds joy after his loss, the meaning of death in the light of the Christian narrative, and how the hope of resurrection play a role in comforting the author. According to Elisabeth Kubler Ross, there are five stages of grief: denial and/or isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These five stages of grief are associated in direct correlation with mourning as a response of a painful event such as loss of a loved one, terminal illness or the end of a relationship. During the bereavement process, we experience the five stages of normal grief, which may not necessarily be in order, or for a specific length. (5 Stages of Loss and Grief, 2015). For some that have experience death, we know that we may not experience it the same way. There are individuals that can be open to expressing their emotions; whereas, others may not be able to express their feelings at all. It’s important to mention, regardless of the order to the stages of grief, hope will help us organize our thoughts and push to get through those unpleasant moments of sorrow. (5 stages of Grief). In the book Lament For A Son, the author expresses these heartbreaking five stages of grief. The author attempts to locate his son in a group of students that were passing by and...
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...“The Raven†is the best-known narrative poem of Edgar Allan Poe, a major figure in literature. The poem features a mysterious bird that speaks only one word, in ominous tones, to a grief-stricken young man mourning the death of his young ladylove. The poem has garnered international attention and became one of the most famous poems ever written (Poestories). Therefore, the poem of “The Raven†by Edgar Allan Poe is the most successful poem, surviving heavy criticism, all due to the combination of poetic devices with structure, imagery and symbolism of Leonor, the Raven and language such as The Night’s Plutonian Shore and Nepenthe, that together emphasize the themes of insanity, love and the supernatural. Edgar Poe uses several themes that are found throughout his creative works. It includes the tragic death of a beautiful woman at a young age and the grief of the young man whose affection for his lost love transcends the physical boundaries of death and life (Got Poetry). This supports Poe's fascination with the imagery of young lovers separated by death. Throughout the poem the young man (narrator) slips into insanity, which now begins to question the existence of the Raven. The motif of the Raven as the omen of misery and sorrow also embodies grief caused by loneliness and separation. This is the central confrontation of the poem, bringing out the idea of a conflict between man and nature. It is these themes of madness, love and the paranormal that are the focus...
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...by providing patients or families with reassurance, offering advice on how to fix problems, or avoiding talking about situations often express dissatisfaction. Nurses should be invited to explore ambiguity and seek understanding through dialogue and nursing knowledge. Encouraging nurses to define the meaningfulness in nursing practice that embraces human science theory will help relieve some of the ambiguity that exists in current practice. This article will explore the concept of ambiguity, highlight how nursing theory based on human science can support practice, and propose recommendations for practice. urrent trends in the healthcare system call for nurses to build the capacity to practice in situations that require complex decision making on the part of practitioners, patients,...
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...TREATMENT PLAN GOALS / OBJECTIVES Note: Always make objectives measurable, e.g., 3 out of 5 times, 100%, learn 3 skills, etc., unless they are measurable on their own as in “List and discuss [issue] weekly…” Abuse/Neglect Goal: Explore and resolve issues relating to history of abuse/neglect victimization ▪ Share details of the abuse/neglect with therapist as able to do so ▪ Learn about typical long term/residual effects of traumatic life experiences ▪ Develop two strategies to help cope with stressful reminders/memories Alcohol/Drugs and Other Addictions Goal: Be free of drug/alcohol use/abuse ▪ Avoid people, places and situations where temptation might be overwhelming ▪ Explore dynamics relating to being the [child/husband/wife] of an [alcoholic/addict] and discuss them each week at support group meetings ▪ Learn five triggers for alcohol & drug use ▪ Reach ____ days/months/years of clean/sober living Adoption/Foster Care Placement Goal: Explore and resolve issues related to adoption/out-of-home placement ▪ Discuss ongoing concerns and issues related to adoptive and/or biological parents during weekly sessions ▪ Talk about his/her wishes with regard to permanency planning Anger Goal: Increase and practice ability to manage anger ▪ Walk away from situations that trigger strong emotions (100%) ...
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...University of Toronto, Toronto, Ontario, Canada NORMA D’AGOSTINO Department of Psychosocial Oncology and Palliative Care, Survivorship Program, Princess Margaret Hospital, Toronto, Ontario, Canada DAVID B. NICHOLAS Faculty of Social Work, University of Calgary, Calgary, Alberta, Canada GERALD SCHNEIDERMAN Department of Psychiatry, Hospital for Sick Children and Department of Psychiatry, University of Toronto, Toronto, Ontario, Canada The authors investigated longitudinally bereavement in mothers and fathers whose children died of cancer. Thirty-one parents were interviewed 6 and 18 months post-death. Analyses revealed parental differences and changes over time: (a) employment—fathers were more work-focused; (b) grief reactions—mothers expressed more intense grief reactions that lessened over time; (c) coping—mothers were more child-focused, fathers more task-focused; (d) relationship with bereaved siblings—mothers actively nurtured relationship with child; (e) spousal relationship—parents reported diversity in their relationship over time; and (f) relationship with extended family—mothers maintained contact with extended Received 14 August 2009; accepted 7 August 2010. We wish to acknowledge the Hospital for Sick Children Foundation and the Canadian Institutes of Health Research for funding this study. Address correspondence to Maru Barrera,...
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...emotions and scenery – which gives a better understand or feel. The emotions that Poe shows in the story are generally a dark type of feeling – making the theme to be related to that type of feeling and emotion. In Poe’s work of “The Raven” he describes setting types that benefit in understanding the theme, which is life after a death or grief, loss, madness, and even love. In the beginning of “The Raven” Poe states, “a midnight dreary, while I pondered weak and weary … and a curious volume of forgotten love” (Bayum 637). When he uses the words midnight and dreary those show an emotion of dark as well as eerie. Since, dreary means bleak and lifeless they relate to depression. With the words, weak and weary – they both mean lifeless as well as extreme exhaustion. Feeling tired and the lack of doing anything are the signs of depression too. Grieving shows many kinds of emotions, while during the time of grieving the feeling that will be felt is sadness – that follows in pursuit of...
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...Tess Ungerleider Mrs. Schlangen Honors English II July 14, 2014 The Secret Life of Bees In Sue Monk Kidd’s, The Secret Life of Bees, she demonstrates many literary devices such as motifs, foreshadowing, and themes. The one device that stands out the most is her use of symbolism. Symbolism is defined “as a literary element that uses symbols to signify ideas or qualities by giving them symbolic meanings that are different from their literal sense” (Literary Devices 1). In The Secret Life of Bees, symbolism is shown by Black Mary, the Wailing Wall, and the bees. In the novel, Black Mary represents something different for each character. For the store clerk and the people in the town, they see Black Mary as a label on a honey bottle. The clerk tells Lily that most people do not buy the honey “‘cause it’s got the Virgin Mary pictured as a colored women” (Kidd 64). For the Boatwright sisters, it stands for something completely diverse. They call Black Mary the Black Madonna. She represents their hope and aspiration, as well as their religion. Every night before they go to sleep, the Daughters of Mary all pray and worship the wooden statue. Another symbol she stands for is female power. Because of this, August Boatwright is able to help Lily become a powerful woman, and be able to stand up to other students and even T. Ray. Lastly, Black Mary signifies a connection Lily has with her mother because she found the wooden picture with some of her belongings. Through this picture,...
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...Parental Grief Also, sometimes a parent's love makes them unable to let go. I've seen so many parents put their needs above their infant's because they just can't bear to suffer the grief of losing a child. It's heartbreaking when you can see parents in total denial and you know that the end will come one way or another but they just can't accept it. I don't know if that's the case here or not, but it's certainly a possibility. Parental Grief The theme of parental mourning has been a universal one throughout the centuries. In the literature on bereavement, writers repeat certain themes, thoughts, and reflections; they talk of the powerful and often conflicting emotions involved in "the pain of grief and the spiral of mourning; [they refer to] the heartbreak at the heart of things...grief's contradictions"; they speak of parents devastated by grief (Moffat 1992, xxiii). It is frequently said that the grief of bereaved parents is the most intense grief known. When a child dies, parents feel that a part of them has died, that a vital and core part of them has been ripped away. Bereaved parents indeed do feel that the death of their child is "the ultimate deprivation" (Arnold and Gemma 1994, 40). The grief caused by their child's death is not only painful but profoundly disorienting-children are not supposed to die. These parents are forced to confront an extremely painful and stressful paradox; they are faced with a situation in which they must deal both with the grief caused...
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...spending time with family, including grandchildren, and maintaining physical and mental health throughout the entire stage of late adulthood. Quality of life in late adulthood is determined by genetics, the modification of destructive lifestyles and behaviors, and selecting healthier options not only throughout the earlier stages of development but especially in this stage for improvements to health and having an overall sense of well-being (Berger, 2009). Remaining socially active and independent for as long as possible instead of succumbing to isolating is key during this stage of adulthood (Berger, 2009). In the stage of late adulthood living socially active, healthy, and physically active lives while maintaining important family roles is very important , which illiminates some stressor of aging that may be brought on by negative and stereotypical thoughts of ageism which will assist in their premature decline. High quality medical care assisted by technology can provide aging adults comfort knowing they are helping to protect and safeguard younger generations as science learns from the older generations. Ageism and Stereotypes In late adulthood, there are a lot of stereotypes and misunderstandings of older adults (Emotional and Social Development in Late Adulthood, n.d.). Ageism and perceptions against someone’s age, causes negative understanding of older adults. Some of these stereotypes are representations of weakness or ineptitude in a negative light, and some are...
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...Demonstrative Communication Demonstrative communication is an important role of everyday communication. Demonstrative communication is nonverbal and unwritten communication skills and if executed properly is a two-way process between sender and receiver. The sender through nonverbal communication must send the correct message, and the listener must receive and interpret the message correctly. Several types of demonstrative communication are body language and facial expressions. Demonstrative communication, as with any form of communication can be positive, negative, effective, and ineffective for both the sender and receiver. The key to this process is the audience listening and responding appropriately to ensure the messenger receives valuable feedback. Whether a person is aware of it or not, when he or she speaks, nonverbal communication is taking place. Body language is a type of demonstrative communication that consists of hand gestures, body movements, and posture. Limited or non-engaging body language can be negative and ineffective. Others may interpret limited or non-engaging body language as not possessing any interest in the interaction. This perception may not be accurate but it is how it is viewed. This can have a severe impact, especially during job interviews, client consultations, or working with coworkers. For example, if a person is talking to someone, and they are playing with his or her hands, folding his or her arms, checking the time, or slumped over...
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...Looking back over the expansive history of humanity, have the roles of men and women evolved? Not really. Women still work and watch over the house and such while the men go out to be breadwinners, but there’s still the underlying sexism that women are the ones who should be doing only the real woman’s work, raising the family, maintaining the house, etc. Men are still free to do as thy wish while no one bats an eye, whereas women are scrutinized for their non-conforming actions. This pushes females to morph, pressed by their situation, into more complex characters. A perfect example would be “The Odyssey” by Greek poet Homer. It’s very much an epic tale of male oriented heroic quests when, however, women play an incredibly large role as well. This epic tale revolves around Ulysses’...
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...Andrew Fahmy Ms. Sarkovski ENG4U1 January 15, 2014 Hamlet as a Tragic Hero In Shakespeare’s plays, many factors create a tragic hero. According to Aristotle, a tragic hero must be a person of high character who faces his destiny with courage and nobility of spirit, hence the pity felt by the audience. In Shakespeare’s play “Hamlet”, the character Hamlet is depicted as a tragic hero because of his noble intentions, the pity he evolves and his sincere, yet, self-destructive over analysis of his predicament. In the play “Hamlet”, the death of Hamlet’s father and the suspicious remarriage of his mother bring the audience to feel pity for him. For instance, Hamlet says: “Oh, that this too, too sullied flesh would melt, Thaw, and resolve itself into a dew.” (Act I, Sc. ii, Ln.129, 130) Although, he is saddened by his father’s death, the larger cause of Prince Hamlet’s misery is Queen Gertrude’s disloyal remarriage. By viewing Hamlet’s state of depression in the Elizabethan perspective, Elizabethans believed that the human body is made up of four basic elements, called humors: phlegm, blood, yellow bile and black bile. Hamlet’s seems to be suffering from what Elizabethans referred to as “Melancholy”. This was associated with too much “black bile” in the body. It is similar to what medicine calls “clinical depression” today, in which it is the state led to lethargy, irritability and distorted imagination. Since this is the 17th rather than the 21st century, Hamlet can’t just...
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...women‟s issues and an acceptance of their demands as legitimate issues for policy making, both at the national and international level. The major themes of the International Women’s Year and Conference were-- Equality, Development and Peace. Equality, however, had been a dominant issue for the U.N. Commission on the Status of Women and it came primarily from the feminist movement of the Western industrialized nations. Peace was increasingly considered to be a women issue by the countries of the Eastern block. Development, on the other hand, was a recent issue put forward mainly by the newly independent “Third World” nations as a key to improving women’s lives. During the Decade, the important but previously invisible role of women in the social and economic development of the poorer countries was highlighted. The declaration of the International Decade for Women (1975-85) signified the new visibility of Women in Development (WID) in international forums. During the past few years, the term "women in development" has become common currency both inside and outside academic settings. But while "women in development" or "WID", is understood to mean the integration of women into global processes of economic, political and social growth and change, there often is confusion about the meaning of two more recent acronyms, "WAD" and "GAD". This topic will begin with an examination of meanings and assumptions embedded in...
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