...S TE VE HARVEY STEVE HAR V EY E R Y Denene Millner Act Like a Lady, T HINK LIKE A Man This book is dedicated to all women. My hope is to empower you with a wide-open look into the minds of men. Introduction Everything You Need to Know About Men and Relationships Is Right Here 1 1 T H E M I N D -SE T OF A M A N 1 What Drives Men 2 3 11 19 Our Love Isn’t Like Your Love The Three Things Every Man Needs: Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie 37 “We Need to Talk,” and Other Words That Make Men Run for Cover 49 4 2 W H Y M E N D O W H AT T H E Y D O 5 First Things First: He Wants to Sleep with You 61 6 Sports Fish vs. Keepers: How Men Distinguish Between the Marrying Types and the Playthings 69 7 Mama’s Boys 8 Why Men Cheat 3 85 95 T H E PL A Y BO OK : HOW TO W I N T H E G A M E 9 Men Respect Standards—Get Some 10 115 The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets in Too Deep 129 11 The Ninety-Day Rule: Getting the Respect You Deserve 147 12 If He’s Meeting the Kids After You Decide He’s “the One,” It’s Too Late 163 13 Strong, Independent—and Lonely— Women 179 14 How to Get the Ring 193 15 Quick Answers to the Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask 205 Acknowledgments 231 About the Author Credits Cover Copyright About the Publisher V EVERY THING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN AND REL ATIONSHIPS IS RIGHT HERE I ’ve made a living for more than twenty years making people laugh—about themselves...
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...What is the definition of being a man or a women? Women were seen as lesser beings during the time period of Shakespeare but he decided to show them as strong and influential. In William Shakespeare's play “Macbeth“, Shakespeare shows the challenges of the ideas of traditional gender roles, like power, masculinity, and leadership. In act 1 there is a quote that I believe is a good example for my thesis. Lady macbeth finishes reading the letter of the witches prophecy and then says “Come, you spirits that tend on mortal thoughts, unsex me here/Make thick my blood“ (1.5.47-54). she is calling the "spirits" to make her into a man that she believes her husband can't be. She refuses to act how her society suggests she should. Shakespeare portrays Lady Macbeth as ruthless and evil instead of obedient and nurturant, which is how females are usually seen as....
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...“Look like the innocent flower but be the serpent under it.” That is one of the famous quotes that Lady Macbeth says, this is said before they kill King Duncan, Macbeth is having second thoughts about murder and Lady Macbeth tell him that it will make him a better person, stronger, and more manly. Lady Macbeth may look like a pretty, sweet, innocent woman, but in truth, she is strong willed and ambitious. Throughout the play her mental state changes and can relive that she does indeed have a heart. Lady Macbeth changes throughout the play from willing to kill and then to having a guilt that overcomes her. Lady Macbeth at first is the one very eager to kill Duncan. She is the one to push and persuade Macbeth to kill Duncan. When Lady Macbeth first hears...
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...reigning of king James I. A time when a man was expected to be strong, brave, gallant and the head of his home. A lady was to be found weak, waiting for her husbands next command. Both Macbeth and Lady Macbeth do not fit into their stereotype or gender roles, they display characters of role reversal. Macbeth is the opposing stereotype of what a man should be. In this time period men where known for their strengths, bravery, greediness and sometimes murder. To the public and his friends Macbeth seemed to be a man in control of his wife and household but behind closed doors he was all the characteristics a man should not be. Macbeth displayed characteristics more suitable for a woman such as; self doubt, worried, fear and guilt. “I am afraid to think what I have done; Look on’t again I dare not” (Macbeth Act II, Scene II page 35). Macbeth is persuaded by his wife to kill Duncan even when he objects and has doubts. In the beginning of the play Macbeth allows his wife to make the majority of their decisions. Who he should kill and what guest they invite to the party in order for him to become king. This shows his character to be weak and void of leadership. Stereotypical when you hear the name Lady Macbeth you think etiquette, elegance, meekness, soft spoken and gentle. Lady Macbeth is quite the opposite. Her characteristics in the play are empowering, greedy, fearless, evil and murderous. Not only does Lady Macbeth display characters more of a man she summon the spirits to request...
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...work in pairs, there is often a dominant and submissive personality. In William Shakespeare's play, Macbeth, Lady Macbeth has an extreme influence on her husband Macbeth. Due to Macbeth’s submissive personality, he is easily conceivable and will do whatever Lady Macbeth demands he does. If Macbeth did not have Lady Macbeth telling him what to do he would never rise to power and make the play have such an influential message. Lady Macbeth is more important to the deeper meaning of the play than Macbeth because she is influential, ruthless, and ambitious and even though she was not the one who put the most action into anything she was the one who convinced Macbeth to act on anything. First off, people gain most power...
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...Act 1 - Three witches are planning to go see Macbeth - The captain (injured and part of the fight) explains to the king (Duncan) how the fight went down Macbeth and Banquo fought and beat Macdowald He then had to fight against the Norwegian since the Thane of Cawdor (Nobility) betrayed them Macbeth = Tough&Brave - King Duncan demands that the current Thane of Cawdor be killed and that Macbeth becomes the new one - Witches are bonding then meet up with Macbeth (In thunder) and tell him he’ll be thane of Cawdor, and then King. - They also tell Banquo he won’t be king but his kids will - Description of the witches (Page 12 or 2) - Ross and Angus step in once the witches leave and tell Macbeth he’s the new thane of Cawdor like the witches predicted - Macbeth and Banquo side talk about believing the witches theory. Banquo warns Macbeth that the witches are bad news and to fulfill their theory he’s going to be led through evil - Macbeth is considering killing Duncan (the evil Banquo is talking about.) - Macbeth thinks he might actually hot have to do anything to fulfill his destiny (He’s experiencing doubt. He so far knows better) - Duncan wants to know if The thane of Cawdor is dead yet - Malcom says his bodies not arrived but that he died with deep regret. Duncan doesn’t care (27) - Duncan thanks Macbeth and tells him that his son is prince of Cumberland - Macbeth thinks the son is going to be in the way of him becoming king, making him reconsider committing...
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...of hand. Lady Macbeth is one of the most aggressive and ambitious characters of Shakespeare’s plays. Much of the fame of Macbeth should be credited to her because it was her ruthless and almost man-like nature that set her apart from other women in Shakespeare’s plays. She is a round and dynamic character in this play because she changes and develops as the story’s proceedings unfold and conflicts emerge. Throughout the play, Lady Macbeth gradually changes from being driven nearly entirely by ambition, to being manipulative of her husband to get her ways, and finally to becoming the complete opposite of her once strong-willed self. Lady Macbeth is seen as a woman of ambition in the beginning of Macbeth. Upon her discovery of Macbeth’s prophecies to become king, she immediately started to think about how to fulfill them. As her ambitious and cold nature overcame her conscience, she mapped out the murder of King Duncan with Macbeth. She came off as being very strong in the opening of the play. Shakespeare’s indirect characterization of her makes her unique from other female characters in his works, which is what sets Macbeth apart from the rest. Lady Macbeth has just as much ambition driving her as Macbeth has, if not more. Lynn M. Zott writes that Lady Macbeth’s ambition may be more aimed towards Macbeth’s successes and not solely hers. “Representing what is generally viewed as a traditional estimation of the character, George William Gerwig (1929) interprets Lady Macbeth as...
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...the family and most likely disowned by them and if this happened they would have nowhere to go as women didn’t really have jobs apart from housework and looking after the children. I think that this society is bad because it is biased towards men and doesn’t give the women a choice for what they want to do in there own life. In Act 1 Scene 2, we learn that Lord Capulet is a fair and just man ‘for men so old as we to keep the peace’ this shows us that he doesn’t want to make the fued between the Montagues anyworse and wants to stay away from all the violence and try to get on with his own life with his family. Paris asks Capulet if he can marry Juliet ‘ but now, my lord, what sat you to my suit’ but Capulet is cautious about allowing Paris to marry Juliet because he feels she is still too young ‘ my child is yet a stranger in the world; she hath not seen the change of fourteen years’ this shows that he is not ready to let his only child go into the world without him yet as she hasn’t had any experience of what its like for women and he wants to protect her from all the bad things in the world , like any father would want to. This is emphasised by the possessive pronoun ‘My’ which shows that he feels that she is his procession and that he has to keep her safe and with him forever. Capulet also thinks that he should allow Juliet to have some choice in who she marries ‘my will to consent is but a part; and she agreed, within her scope of choice’ so he is saying that he will agree if...
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...Blind Leading the Blind In MacBeth, Shakespeare writes about a greedy, power-hungry man who murders the king to fulfill his selfish desires. MacBeth was one of King’s Duncan’s noblemen and honorable general. However, after he is claimed as the Thane of Cawdor and Glamis, he believes a prophecy by three witches that he will become King and, along with his wife, decides to murder King Duncan in an attempt to gain more power. Although MacBeth grew uncertain about going through with the assassination, his wife, Lady MacBeth, manipulates and deceives him to follow through. As a king, he becomes a tyrant and starts to kill anyone who he felt threatened his position on the throne, including one of his good friends, Banquo and the family of MacDuff. Throughout his reign, the MacBeth’s guilty consciences take a toll on them and eventually lead to both of their downfall. Furthermore, MacBeth’s reign does not last long when MacDuff gets revenge against the tormentor by killing him in the end. As a result, King Duncan’s son, Malcolm, becomes king. Through the use of symbolism and characterization, William Shakespeare, in MacBeth, depicts how one’s desire to gain power causes others to change gender roles to create deception within an environment. In MacBeth, MacBeth’s horrific murders proved how strongly he desired to gain power. Desire means to have a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. When a person desires something, he or she becomes...
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...Oct 23rd, 2015 Don’t Assume Anything The Tragedy of Romeo and Juliet Research Paper “The world is such a scary place. Sometimes it seems like it's nothing but anger. And violence. And hurt. It can be terrifying when you're out there in it. But if you know where to look for it... the world also has warmth. And love. And forgiveness. The world has joy in it. When you find a place that allows you to experience that joy, when you find people that make you feel safe and loved, like you belong... you don't walk away from it. You fight for it.”( Espenson). In The Tragedy of Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare a lot of violent and scary things happen, but the characters somehow find a way, in the midst of the chaos, to find that happiness. Shakespeare focuses on the power of love to capture the attention of his audience. This love leads to things all throughout the play to come across as much different than suspected and end up defying stereotypes. Shakespeare uses characterization, visual motifs and dialogue to convey this theme that things aren’t always what they seem. The first way that Shakespeare conveys this theme to his audience is through showing the thoughts on marriage from Capulet and Lady Capulet. Capulet says “And too soon marred are those so early made. / Earth hath swallowed all my hopes but she; / She is the hopeful lady of my earth. / But woo her, gentle Paris, get her heart, / My will to her consent is but a part, And she agreed, within her scope of choice/...
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...Theory to show how Lady Macbeth and Macbeth went against each other. In the story “Macbeth”, three witches approach Macbeth and tell him one day he would become king. Macbeth begins to have self-fulfilling prophecy and he went after the throne. Macbeth let his wife, Lady Macbeth; conceive him into murdering people to get the throne. Lady Macbeth felt that Macbeth was weak so she started to go against her husband in order to keep the authority and power in her hands. Lady Macbeth has more strength and power then Macbeth. By letting Lady Macbeth take control over the situation, it made her gain more power and the upper right hand over Macbeth. Macbeth had thoughts about murdering King Duncan, but Lady Macbeth convinced him to make King Duncan his first victim. “Were you drunk when you seemed so hopeful before? Have you gone to sleep and woken up green and pale in fear of this idea? From now on this is what I’ll think of your love. Are you afraid to act the way you desire? Will you take the crown you want so badly, or will you live as coward, always saying “I can’t” after you say “I want to”? You’re like the poor cat in the old story” (Act 1, Scene 7, lines 35-42). Lady Macbeth is trying to persuade Macbeth to take the crown from King Duncan meaning he would have to kill him to get it and if Macbeth doesn’t take the crown, they would be poor and helpless. Also, she is questioning how much courage and heart he has if he let fear overcome it. Lady Macbeth thinks Macbeth don’t have...
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...Being Earnest,” Jack Worthing, the play’s protagonist, is a young man who shoulders many responsibilities as a respectable citizen of Victorian society. In Hertfordshire, he is appointed the role of guardian to Miss Cecily Cardew, by the deceased Mr. Thomas Cardew, who adopted Jack when he was found abandoned as a baby. He also carries the title of Justice of the Peace and controls a large country estate. As such, he invents an alter ego for himself whom he calls Earnest. Earnest possesses all the qualities Jack pretends to disapprove of; he is exciting and irresponsible. Whenever Jack seeks freedom from his responsibilities he goes into London and tells Cecily he must take care of his brother Earnest who is always getting into trouble. In truth, Jack is posing as Earnest in London and Jack in the country. In Act I, Jack goes into London to tell Algernon Moncrieff, his friend, that he intends to propose to Gwendolen Fairfax, Algernon’s cousin. Algernon, who has begun to suspect Jack’s alter ego, asks Jack why he has a cigarette case addressed to “Uncle Jack” with the inscription, “From little Cecily with her fondest love.” Jack explains that his true name is Jack Worthing and that he takes the name Earnest in London whenever he wants to indulge in certain pleasures. Algernon confesses that he too tries to escape the boundaries put on him by pretending he has a fictitious friend, Bunbury, who is always getting sick. Lady Bracknell, Algernon’s aunt, and Gwendolen enter the scene, which...
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...d’autore) A COMEDY IN THE MAKING By Luigi Pirandello [1921] English version by Edward Storer [New York: E. P. Dutton, 1922] [see also 1925 preface by author] CHARACTERS of the Comedy in the Making • THE FATHER • THE MOTHER • THE STEP-DAUGHTER • THE BOY • THE CHILD • (The last two do not speak) • THE SON • MADAME PACE ACTORS of the Company • THE MANAGER • LEADING LADY • LEADING MAN • SECOND LADY • L’INGÉNUE • JUVENILE LEAD • OTHER ACTORS AND ACTRESSES • PROPERTY MAN • PROMPTER • MACHINIST • MANAGER’S SECRETARY • DOOR-KEEPER • SCENE-SHIFTERS Daytime. The Stage of a Theatre N. B. The Comedy is without acts or scenes. The performance is interrupted once, without the curtain being lowered, when the manager and the chief characters withdraw to arrange the scenario. A second interruption of the action takes place when, by mistake, the stage hands let the curtain down. [Lo straniero, conversazione alla finestra, 1930, F. Casorati] ACT I The spectators will find the curtain raised and the stage as it usually is during the day time. It will be half dark, and empty, so that from the beginning the public may have the impression of an impromptu performance. Prompter’s box and a small table and chair for the manager. Two other small tables and several chairs scattered about as during rehearsals. The ACTORS and ACTRESSES of the company enter from the back of the...
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...From the beginning of Shakespeare’s Macbeth, Lady Macbeth is viewed as very controlling, strong, and certain; saying that Macbeth ‘Shalt be what thou art promised’. This illustrates Lady Macbeth’s position in the relationship, she is ordering Macbeth to become what the witches have foreseen. We see just how powerful Lady Macbeth is, if she can command her husband to murder the king of Scotland. Her power is also shown in the way she taunts Macbeth, saying he is ‘too full of the milk of human kindness’. This shows how cold Lady Macbeth is, as milk is the food of new born children, she is implying Macbeth is too much like a kind child to murder anyone, which is another method used to spur Macbeth on into killing Duncan. Her coldness and control is again shown when she begins to plot Duncan’s murder with Macbeth, she says he should ‘look like the innocent flower but be the serpent under it’, more advice for the killing of his king, and ‘leave the rest to me’ shows her cool control over the matter. Lady Macbeth also shows a more helpful side, offering help. ‘I may pour my spirits in thine ear’, which although apparently providing a contrast to her cold hearted plotting earlier, is in fact another way in which she is convincing Macbeth to kill Duncan. Her words propose sweetness, but are in fact rooted in evil, and this perhaps shows an ‘innocent flower’ side to Lady Macbeth. Macbeth, however, is on the other end of the scale in their relationship, and this is seen once he plucks...
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...what she believes women can learn from men, some men. She believes that getting tough is the one trait acceptable for a woman to replicate from a man. In this article she discusses the continuous battle between the two sexes and how women portray themselves as “too damn ladylike” (Ehrenrich, 2012). The message she is trying to convey is that she wants women to become stronger, and selfish individuals by using a sarcastic tone. She believes that if a woman was to adapt the traits of a man they would be able to accomplish more and earn what is owed to them. However, Ehrenreich’s article failed at convincing her female audience to adapt this trait by her tone, language and the organization of the article itself. Throughout the article, Ehrenrich (2012) uses a mocking, sarcastic tone. Ehrenreich (2012) states that a “prestigious professor” attempted a pass at her, which she put an end to abruptly. She states, “I, a full-grown feminist, conversant with such matters as rape crisis counseling and sexual harassment at the workplace, had behaved like a ninny – or, as I now understand it, like a lady” (2012). The way that she reacted was any women’s instinct in a situation of that sort, feminist or not. The fact that she states “like a lady” proves her mocking tone even further as she believes acting like a lady does not reach her standards. Ehrenerich (2012) states that when a woman has achieved something they would usually say “‘Well I really don’t know...
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