...among life’s big questions would be: “Who am I?” This question, recently, has been becoming one of the most topic that people keep talking about. “Be yourself”, “Understand yourself and you will understand others”, “What others think about you is not important as what you think about yourself”… they are some of the most popular quotes that have been shared among the social network recently. The bottom line question is, why people start to care about that topic. Actually it is not new that people ask themselves such these question, but before it was challenging to find the answer due to lack of knowledge or direction. Fortunately, thanks to all the theories developed by respected psychologists, we can use those theories as a guideline in order to analyses about ourselves. I, as a mortal, always wonder who I am and why I think, feel and behave like I do every day. Basically, I want know what make me a unique individual and how I differentiate from the others. In psychology, they call it “personality”. There are variety of perspectives to explain one’s personality; and in this essay, I will analyses my own personality based on three different theories of three psychologist: Adler, Eysenck and Kelly. Adler’s Individual Psychology I remember since I was a kid, I have always felt inferior to my peers since I was sent to the kindergarten later than the other kids. I was told my mother wanted to send me earlier but my grandmother hindered her from sending me there. Instead my granny...
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... Focusing on the future and trying to make things perfect or right are the things I like about Adler’s theory. Weather we admit it or not, we are driven or motivated to do things if we are positive rather on focusing on the flaws we might commit. Even though we cannot make everything perfect in our way, at least the idea of doing our best and trying is better than telling ourselves that we suck and cannot be successful. Alfred Adler’s theory of striving for perfection is very helpful to us because there is always something at the back of our mind telling us that we Can do something right or do our best. In addition, Adler’s Psychological Types are also helpful so that we may have a source or basis in understanding different behaviors. Adler’s Birth Order is also a good basis to understand the people in our family and surroundings. The idea that our siblings can also affect us shows that Adler broaden his horizon rather than focusing on the parent-child relationship. Regarding his counseling method, I like his idea and stand that the counselor should not look too authoritative so that the patient will not feel taunted. Letting the patient feel that you are helping gives them the chance to break the wall between the two of you leading to a clear communication and helpful type of counseling. Lastly, the idea that the patient has the power to give up his/her neurotic lifestyle shows that even in drastic times, we can do something to save ourselves if we really wanted...
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...fulfill our potentials, to come closer and closer to our ideal. It is, as many of you will already see, very similar to the more popular idea of self-actualization. "Perfection" and "ideal" are troublesome words, though. On the one hand, they are very positive goals. Shouldn't we all be striving for the ideal? And yet, in psychology, they are often given a rather negative connotation. Perfection and ideals are, practically by definition, things you can't reach. Many people, in fact, live very sad and painful lives trying to be perfect! As you will see, other theorists, like Karen Horney and Carl Rogers, emphasize this problem. Adler talks about it, too. But he sees this negative kind of idealism as a perversion of the more positive understanding. We will return to this in a little while. Striving for perfection was not the first...
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...Personal Narrative If someone was to ask me whom im more like my mother or my father? I would immediately say my mother. Im constantly told im a”mini Chrissy” and when I was much younger I would cringe at hearing that, but now I understand why were really exactly the same. From our voices to the shape of our noses I am clearly my mothers daughter. And don’t even get me started on our personalities it’s like having a clone or looking in the mirror, scary to think how similar we are. But that shifted quickly of course we still had the same little button nose and our voices were identical but her fun side seemed to go out the window. It was July of 1999 and God seemed to have another plan for my family. A plan that none of us were on board for. Today when I think about the month of July a million things instantly come to my mind. I could make a list of all the good and an even longer list of all the bad. Lets start with the bad, why not just cut to the chase? July 19th 1999 I could remember this day in my sleep. We were at Westchester Country Club and it felt like I had the world at my fingertips. And for a four year old that was pretty grand. I was wearing my favorite green Lilly Pulitzer bathing suit with a matching green cover up I felt like the coolest chick around and no one was about the bring me down. Until my Aunt came running down to the baby pool pointing her finger at me, making me feel as though she was accusing me of doing something wrong, but that wasn’t...
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...Ivy Hackett Water For Chocolate Summary Water for Chocolate is written by Laura Esquivel's which tells the deep and personal story of Tita De La Garza. This book is organized by showing how to prepare a recipe while telling an exciting and romantic story of Tita's life. Tita's family is living in Mexico in the time of the revolution. She is forbidden to marry because of the families’ tradition of the youngest child to take care of the mother in her old age. This tradition has a profound effect on Tita’s life throughout the story. In January her recipes are Christmas rolls and sausages she says that preparing sausage is a family tradition for them so everyone has a role one day while they were preparing the sausages she tells her mother that Pedro Muzquiz would like to ask for her hand in marriage. Mama Elena tells Tita that it is useless for Pedro to ask for her hand in marriage because Tita, being the youngest, is obligated by family tradition to care for her mother until death. Pedro and his father show up at the ranch to ask for Tita's hand in marriage, and Mama Elena refuses and offers Rosaura her sister to him instead. Pedro takes her sisters hand in marriage because he claims he is doing it to get closer to Tita. In February the recipe is for a Chabela Wedding Cake. This is the wedding cake that she is going to use for her sisters weeding. She was mad at her sister for marring Pedro so she missed the engagement party because of a "headache". Mama Elena punished...
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...Synopsis Grave of Fireflies is the animated movie between two orphaned children, fourteen year old Seita and his young four year old sister Setsuko who managed to survive during the Kobe fire bombings in the end of the World War two. Themes Every movie is based on some or the other real life instances and movies mainly focuses on a particular point similarly this movie reflects about the result of war or effects on the people due to war, lot of people were dead and many people lost their families. The relationship between Seita and Setsuko is the key theme of the movie. This tells us about how brother Seita took responsibility of his sister Setsuko in spite of the way his aunt treated them after they lost their mother who was badly injured during the fire bombings. The sacred love between brother and sister continues. Characters Seita: The responsibility taken by Seita at a very young age towards his little sister was apparent throughout the movie. His commitments towards his sister even more increased after his mother’s death and the way they were treated by their distant aunt. The caring love he showed to his sister was ultimate; he even carried her on his shoulders when she was unhealthy in spite of fire bombings and difficulties he faced during the bombings. He always tried to give his best to her. He lonely took his sister to the doctor for the treatment but he could not keep her alive as he was not having enough money and the doctor was also not so kind. If he...
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...Psychosocial Report I. Identifying Information Name: KP Age: 21 Sex: Male Education: 2nd year college Religion: Roman Catholic Status: Single Birth order: Youngest among the 3 siblings. Occupation: Students Location: Angono Rizal Living with: Relatives and siblings II. Referring Person The person who referred KP to me is his mother. His mother notices that KP has been going home late very often and is even drunk when getting home. They always fight because of that. She stated that she can’t handle her son anymore, he listens to no one. His mother thinks that he needs someone to talk to, someone to guide him so he was referred to me. His mother also added that she wants to know the reasons why KP is doing such things that are bad for him. His family is concerned about him that his doings affect his studies. III. Presenting Problem According to the client everything started when he was in high school. There was a certain someone, an ex-girlfriend who got into a car accident. So because of the incident he started drinking and it just got worse and worse. Another cause of his drinking problems is the people around him. He stated that the relationship is mutual: his friends influenced him in drinking and sometimes he is the one influencing them to drink. Alongside his drinking problems blossoms his smoking habit. He says that he started smoking because of his peers and he is curious about smoking. Up to this point in time he still smokes and his average sticks...
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...Rabbits – by Dorothy Nimmo The short story is about to sisters who are sitting in the orchard garden and having a tea party. Both of them Katy and Ellen has been given a china rabbi by their uncle. Kate who is elder by two years has gotten a blue rabbit; Ellen has gotten a brown one. Kate Manipulate her sister to give her the rabbit she had been giving. Then Katy wants her own rabbit back, and somehow gets it again. Settings The text “Rabbits” take place in a summerhouse orchard (frugthave), the story is not real but could be something happening in real life. In the text, the girls are not only in the summerhouse but also some other place ex. The shed. We do not hear about the social environment in the text. The text is describe detailed and we get a sort of an imagination of the place the two sisters are staying in. Their surroundings makes the story peaceful and idyllic. (Does it reveal anything about the characters’ feelings? Not answered yet). Characters In the story, there are two characters involved two sisters, Kate and Ellen. We know that Kate is two years older than her sister Ellen is. Kate is the dominating sister, who is able to manipulate Ellen. From Ellen’s point of view, Kate is described as a Clever, naughty, pretty, talkative, lovable and most importantly older then she is (Page 1 line 16-17). We do not get the age of the two girls, but I would say that Kate is 8-9 years old. Kate is very aware of herself and manipulative against her little sister Ellen...
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...every individual has different personal goals in place that they seek in life and different ways in which they approach these goals. Individuals are influenced by family dynamics, social interaction, cultural differences, and overall environment. Chris Kyle, known as America’s most deadly sniper, was born in Texas in April of 1974. As a child he had his eyes set on what he wanted to be when he grew up. His dream was to be a cowboy or be in the military, which he was unsure of what branch. Kyle was raised in a loving home. Growing up his parents instilled important values that he would carry on into adulthood. He was taught the importance of family, protecting others, religion, and the value of one’s self. Kyle stated “If I had to order my priorities, they would be God, country, family. (Kyle, McEwen, 2012, p. 7) These core values that were instilled in him by his parental and social influences played a substantial role in the development of Kyle’s personality. Chris Kyle was a man of great integrity and had a passion for making a difference. He was known to be a little hard headed and stubborn which was a driving force behind his success. Kyle was also a passionate and encouraging individual. If he set his mind to something he was going to work as hard as he could and as long as he could to strive to be successful at whatever goals lie ahead. Chris was blessed to have the opportunity to do both things he wanted to do as a child, which was to be a cowboy and be...
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...Birth Order and the Development of Personality Student’s name Institution Affiliation Introduction Birth is the process of bringing forth a new individual from the womb into a new environment. The young one new surroundings are set to determine the growth and development of the child's personality and behavior. New children tend to ape the valuable and meaningful characters from their parents. For instance, a child is first introduced to the society's aspect of love by the mother who first accords it the much-needed love and affection. Eventually, the child grows knowing that everyone should be accorded everyone regardless of their status in the society. On the other side of the flip, birth order is the sequence in which an individual is brought out of the womb. Birth order plays a crucial role in the growth and development of an individual's, character, personality, brilliance and various decisions in the personal growth process. This task, therefore, seeks to explain how the birth order in a family relates to an individual's personality growth and development, relationships, intelligence and social attitudes. A child's personality is well nurtured and cultured by his or her birth order in a family. For, instance the first-born kid is usually perceived to be excessively burdened with a responsibility which eventually molds him or her to be a charismatic leader, hardworking, perfectionist and loving. Types of birth order The different kinds of birth order...
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...Rabbits Rabbits by Dorothy Nimmo 1. Summary: The story is about two sisters, who had been giving a nice china rabbit each by their uncle. They’re having a tea party in the garden and it is all very idyllic. But the oldest girl is very manipulating, and manipulates her little sister, to give her the rabbit her little sister had been giving. Then the older sister decides that she wants her own rabbit back, and she gets it her way. 2. Characterize the two sisters: Kate: Kate is described, from a small girl’s point of view, as a brave, intellectual, talkative, naughty and pretty girl. I will say, that Kate is about eight or nine years old. She is very aware of herself and very manipulative against her little sister Ellen. She is probably a bully, because she seems to enjoy nagging on Ellen. She calls Ellen fat, because she is eating redcurrants and threatens to tell their mother. Kate has a great power over Ellen, and is abusing it for her own amusement. Ellen: Ellen is two years younger than Kate. Six or seven years old, is my guess. She is very cautious, a fusspot if you may. She is described as a clumsy girl who always fall over her own feet, and is all covered up with plasters. She looks up to her big sister Kate, and sees her as an idol. Ellen is imitating her big sister, and does as Kate says. Kate asks Ellen, to go to the shed and get a brush, and Ellen just goes down the path to the shed, without protesting. 3. Comment on Kate’s way to manipulate: ...
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...Bibliography I. Race and Gender A. Ibn Battuta’s Mali (1352) B. Michel Montaigne’s Of Cannibals (1575) C. Sor Juana Inez de la Cruz’s The Poet’s Answer to the Most Illustrious Sor Filotea De La Cruz (1691) D. Lady Mary Montague’s The Turkish Embassy Letters E. Mary Wollstonecraft’s Chapter 13 from A Vindication of the Rights of Woman II. Explanation A. The readings listed above are all pertinent to either race or gender. What sets these apart, though, is the overall tone of the authors. All of these readings are observations. Judgment is passed at times, but that is primarily due to the differences between the author’s own life and the way of life that he or she is describing. Race and gender is the first category of readings because it cannot be changed or altered, it simply is what it is. Ibn Battuta’s Mali best encompasses this category because of the genuine interest he had in his observations. He describes things about the people of Mali that are praiseworthy as well as things that he dislikes about their way of life, giving the entire work brilliant objectivity. Something that he praises about the culture is “the small number of acts of injustice that take place there [in Mali], for of all people, the Negroes abhor it [injustice] the most.” He also appreciates the religious customs of the culture and identifies with the importance of religion, but admires the dedication the people of Mali have to their God. Something that Battuta...
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...Rabbits by Dorothy Nimmo 1. Summary: The story is about two sisters, who had been giving a nice china rabbit each by their uncle. They’re having a tea party in the garden and it is all very idyllic. But the oldest girl is very manipulating, and manipulates her little sister, to give her the rabbit her little sister had been giving. Then the older sister decides that she wants her own rabbit back, and she gets it her way. 2. Characterize the two sisters: Kate: Kate is described, from a small girl’s point of view, as a brave, intellectual, talkative, naughty and pretty girl. I will say, that Kate is about eight or nine years old. She is very aware of herself and very manipulative against her little sister Ellen. She is probably a bully, because she seems to enjoy nagging on Ellen. She calls Ellen fat, because she is eating redcurrants and threatens to tell their mother. Kate has a great power over Ellen, and is abusing it for her own amusement. Ellen: Ellen is two years younger than Kate. Six or seven years old, is my guess. She is very cautious, a fusspot if you may. She is described as a clumsy girl who always fall over her own feet, and is all covered up with plasters. She looks up to her big sister Kate, and sees her as an idol. Ellen is imitating her big sister, and does as Kate says. Kate asks Ellen, to go to the shed and get a brush, and Ellen just goes down the path to the shed, without protesting. 3. Comment on Kate’s way to manipulate: Kate knows that...
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...Mark Piehl 2-17-11 Significant object essay for a grade Pokemon Cards As a child growing up I was completely infatuated with collecting Pokémon cards. The cardboard scent and the ripping sound of the reflective plastic package really got me excited like a little kid on Christmas day. I was always on the look out for the special holographic cards, which meant this particular card was rare. I had piles and piles of these cards that really aren’t worth anything now a days stuffed in a vans cardboard box under my bed hidden by a fluffy pillow because I thought one of my friends would try to sabotage my collection. Everyday of the week I would try to hustle my mom for four dollars so I could feed my unstoppable habit of buying more Pokémon cards. My old heavyset neighbor who wore small round rim glasses would trade cards with me back and fourth, unfortunately he usually never wanted to trade with me because he always had better cards. This bothered me to the core; he only did not have two of the rarest cards out in the market at the time, Charzard holographic and the Mew. The Charzard card resembles an orange fiery dinosaur that destroys anything that crosses its path within a few seconds. The Mew looks like a small pink alien with big bright yellow eyes that can magically cast spells on the enemy. Every card has a blue wave on the back of it with a red and white pokey ball that resembles the home of where the Pokémon evolve. The mere sight of this gave me a chill down my skinny...
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...Faithia Gibson Prof. Teti-Beaudin English 100 April 6, 2015 Being an only child vs Siblings In today’s society “being the only child” and “having siblings” has been a question that have been asked from time to time. Some people think it’s better to be the only child, others feel like having siblings is the way to go. In my opinion as an only child I think having siblings is way better. Being an only child has a lot of benefits but having siblings outweighs being an only child If you’re an only child your parents only have you to spend money on without having to worry that they have share amongst you other siblings something. As an only child you grow up more independently and being able to fend for yourself better. You get more attention from your parents you never have to compete with anyone to get all of the attention from your parents but of course if you had other siblings your parents would have to share their attention. Another good thing about being an only child is your maturity level is always higher than people your age, your mentality is always different than people your age.so people will often tell you that your so mature for your age. This also makes you more introverted as a person because you get to spend more time alone. And think about stuff differently. The most important pro to being an only child is you have no sibling rivalry. Having sibling rivalry prevents so much issues in...
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