...In Dating and the Single Parent, Ron Deal opens up conversations necessary for many single parents as to whether dating or considering the possibilities is the optimal thing to do, as well as coming to terms about the best time to do so. He presents his story through a variety of synopsizes of stories collected through many years of studies. He is open and honest using biblical doctrines as the foundation of his advice. This critique will examine Ron Deal’s key ideas, Christian approach, and two of the theological approaches he addressed. Summary Humans are created beings, created with the sole purpose of serving a higher calling. Dating and the Single Parent addresses many of the most important issues that surround an individual’s life and the need for relationship. It places God at the forefront of every decision or lack thereof that ill-informed or misinformed people continue to make. Ron Deal tackled issues that many churches are afraid to, leaving not many areas untouched. He discussed the necessity of waiting and consulting God in every area of a single parents life exercising godly wisdom. According to Deal (2012), “I beg you to heed the call of Wisdom regarding your relationships, your family decisions, and your parenting or you might as well start drafting your email to me now” (p.23). As marriages continue to fail at an alarming rate, the need for better understanding becomes greater. Humans are created with an overwhelming need for relationships, this need...
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...DATING AND THE SINGLE PARENT: A Critique Shemika Peoples Liberty University COUN 603 Summary Basically this text serves as a guide to single parents who are thinking about dating. This book details the struggles and expectations single parents may face in the dating field. Deal places a huge focus on the single parent and the individual dating the single parent. Deal addresses every stage of the dating process in throughout the text. Although the text places a huge focus on dating and the single parent the author recognizes the challenges a single parents paramour may be facing during this transition. For a single parenting dating can be extremely nerve working and challenging at times as well. Making the decision to date as a single parent is a major decision. Single parents should take in account their readiness to their children before they start to date. The author also explains the vast difference between "coupleness" and "familyness" and that often blended families will fail because the two adults involved made a great couple, but with the kids involved they do not make a great family. This book helps you to look past the "coupleness" of your relationship and evaluate whether or not you and your love interest also have good "familyness" together with the children involved. Deal discusses the importance of patience. "Wise adults patiently let time be their friend as coupleness and familyness develop" (Deal, pg. 105). Deal encourages adults to make wide decision...
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...Deal wrote “Dating and the Single Parent”. He starts his book with a foreword, as most books do. However, this is one of the most powerful portions of the book because it gives the reasons for the book. While the content will be summarized, many people (especially the church), have not been dealing or addressing the blended families that are in need of help because the single parent is so prevalent and many people are not going into marriage of blended families with an awareness of how to do this effectively. Here are some shocking, but not unbelievable statistics: 1. “Forty two percent of adults are in a step relationship of some kind. 2. Thirty percent of marriages to attend Family Life’s Weekend to Remember marriage getaways are in blended families. 3. Two-thirds of marriages where one or both partners brings children into the relationship end in divorce” (Deal, 2012). He continues to explain upfront that many of the issues are understanding the difference between “coupleness” and “familyness”, and that the latter is what will create a legacy. The book chapter’s attempts to guide both the single parent and the person interested in dating the parent advice and guidance in the process. The first portion of the book consists of five chapters and it titled “Getting Pas the Butterflies and Warm Fuzzies.” The first chapter “Dating in a crowd: Dating with purpose” (pg. 29) starts off the book with a reminder that when one dates a single parent, he/she is...
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...Female, White, 35+, Single, Sergeant Police Officer, Average income, Graduated College Tutuola (MAIN CHARACTER) * Male, Black, 40+, Single, Detective, Average income, College degree Amaro (MAIN CHARACTER * Male, Italian, 35+, Single, Detective, Average income, college degree Rollins (MAIN CHARACTER) * Female, White, 30+, Single, Detective, Average income, college degree Barba (MAIN CHARACTER) * Male, White, 40+, Single, District Attorney, Average income, college degree Carisi (MAIN CHARACTER) * Male, White, 30+, Single, Detective, Average income, college degree Pediatric Doctor #1 * Female, White/Asian, 40+, Doctor, PhD Pediatric Doctor #2 * Male, White, 50+, Doctor, PhD Parent #1 * Female, White, 35+, Married, Rich Student #1 * Male, White, 15/16, Single, high school student Parent #2 * Male, White, 40+, Married, Rich Parent #3 * Female, White, 35+, Single, Rich Student #2 * Female, White, 15/16, single, high school student Parent on Trial * Female, White, 35+, Single, Rich Parent/Lawyer * Female, White, 40+, Single, Average Income, college degree Student #3 * Male, White, 15/16, Single, high school student Lawyer * Male, Italian/White, 35+, Average Income, college degree Juror * Male, Indian, 45+, 2. Chicago P.D. Wednesday 10:00pm Hank (MAIN CHARACTER) * Male, White, 45+, Sergeant, Single, college degree Lexi * Female, White, 20ish, college student, dating Lindsay (MAIN CHARACTER) ...
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...Felix Chevasco Professor: LoRe English 101 Date: 12/10/12 Traditional Courtship vs. Online Dating The Difference between Traditional courtship and Internet Dating When I was listening to my favorite talk show, Focus on the Family, they talked about the advantages of Internet dating. This allows the listeners, who got married prior the new millennium, to ponder the benefits of online dating, which were absent during their time of courtship. In traditional dating initial eye contact and study of the personality of the person is an important element in determining chemistry. However, what makes traditional dating best is the boundary and purpose that courtship provides. In contrast, online dating is more casual. In traditional dating, couples were introduced to each other by a friend and relative, or they met in a social activity such as their local church, school or family reunion. Nowadays, it is not necessary to meet people face to face in order to start a relationship. The internet changes our lives forever with chat rooms, social networks or online websites. More and more people are drawn to using the internet as a form of dating, with a high cost, and are unaware of the danger that you can face meeting with a stranger. Traditional dating is much better that online dating because traditional dating gives the couple the complement of courtship, commitment and purpose. Traditional dating is not only based in a feeling or a rush gut reaction. It gives the couple the opportunity...
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...Family History Interviews On recent research about family history I learned a lot about how things have changed over time. Dating is a lot different now than it was many years ago, marriage is totally different, as well as many other things. I interviewed a few people from my family as well as people close to my family. It’s very interesting to find out how things have changed drastically since our grandparents were born. The things that we find normal today were looked down upon in the 50’s. But the most interesting thing was getting to know people on a more personal level. My interviewees consist of Louise, 65, Robert, 60, Mary, 44, Larry, 42, Michele, 24, and Edward, 21. The first group of people interviewed was a 44-year-old woman name Mary and 42-year-old Larry. Mary was born in 1970 and grew up in the 90’s. Larry was born in 1972 and also grew up in the same time period. The societies were totally different then than it is now. Getting married at a young age was unheard of in that era. The people that were married were at least 30-40 years old. Society wasn’t much different from what it is now. People were hooking up with each other back then just like they are now. Society is pretty much the same but the only thing that really changed is the technology we have now and the different social medias. Marriage for Mary was highly unlikely because she didn’t find anyone she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. But for Larry he always wanted to get married one day,...
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...Sarah Crement 11/13/13 Compare and Contrast Dating Then Vs. Now I asked my mom the other day what dating was like when she was a teenager. I was shocked to find out that almost everything she told me was different than how dating is nowadays. From what she told me, dating seemed to be very traditional and what it still should be like. The point of dating was to find a husband or wife. But now it isn’t like that at all. There aren’t any teenagers that are looking to find someone to marry. There’s even kids in elementary school that are supposively “dating”. When it comes to a first date, my mom said when she was my age the guy would take her out to a fancy restaurant or a movie. The guy would ring the doorbell to get her and then have to speak to her parents first before they left. Sometimes on dates the guy would buy her flowers or a gift of some sort. And of course the guy would always pay for whatever they did. Now when it comes to dating, instead of going out somewhere nice, the girl is usually stuck at her date’s house. Doing nothing. Because the guy either doesn’t have money or doesn’t care about the girl enough to spend the money. Also, instead of being a gentlemen and coming to the door to get the girl, he would wait in his car and text her saying “here”. How most people met each other back then was through school, work, or maybe even parties. Meeting was always face-to-face because there was really no other way of doing it. But now I would say about 75% of...
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...The internet dating and games addiction Xu Fangzhou PRE SESSIONAL COURSE July 2011 The Language Centre EFL Unit University of Glasgow Introduction The purpose of using the internet is to facilitate the prosperous of business and organization; the purpose of using the internet as a way of social communication remains strong and increase continuously. Concurrently, young people are encountering others online and establishing interpersonal romantic relationships through this modern way. Internet dating indicated as the processes of introducing to potential dates through an internet dating service and knows other individuals through email, chat, and other available services and possibly developing the online relationship into the "real world" by dating in person (Baker, 2002, 367). The main purpose of this essay is to investigate how people use the internet to build relationships especially internet dating and discuss problems which arise from internet dating. It will also cover the addiction of computer games among young people which cause a great deal of social problems. Firstly, it will note the problems caused through the internet and then make suggestion which might be suitable. Then, it identifies which solutions are more suitable. Internet dating Many young people are tired of encountering potential dates in bar and find other means of meeting potential friends and partners. Some singles turn to matchmaker services, dating services, and personal advertisements...
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...“Courtships and dating through cultures and time” Chapter 1 Sources: http://blog.badonlinedates.com/date-stories-jens-blog/2014/03/fantastic-world-dating-customs.html http://eventective.com/blog/weddings/2008/06/11/worlds-bizarre-wedding-customs/ http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-strange-courtship-rituals.php http://www.everyculture.com/wc/Brazil-to-Congo-Republic-of/Kayapos.html http://www.ticotimes.net/2012/02/17/young-and-in-love-costa-rican-couples-make-a-scene -Polterabend is a German pre-wedding tradition where friends and family come together for an informal party. While that may not seem odd, what they do at these parties certainly is. They break dishes, flowerpots, tiles, toilets, pretty much anything except glasses or mirrors. To symbolize working together through future difficulties, the bride and groom must clean everything up. Due to the need to replace all the broken goods, I suspect that German sellers of housewares are quite fond of this custom. - The Day of the Geese, or Antzar Eguna, is a Spanish tradition in which a greased goose is suspended over water and young men jump from boats and attempt to rip off the head of the goose. This competition serves as a way for young men to prove their strength and eligibility to females. In addition to winning the adoration of young women, the winners also gets to keep the goose. Although this tradition was once practiced all over Spain with live geese, this competition is now only held during the San Antolin...
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...The advantages and disadvantages of teen dating Rome Newbold Mr.Leadon 101 Physicists have argued over the years if teens should or shouldn’t be able to date. In these paragraphs I will be talking about the advantages and disadvantages of teen dating. There are many advantages of teen dating according to Sue Edgerley, author of “5 Keys Parenting,” “A teen boy can learn to be a gentleman by opening the door for his girlfriend, pulling out her chair before she's seated or helping her carry heavy packages. A teen girl can learn to express gratitude, appreciate her boyfriend's goals and be considerate of his other responsibilities such as family time, school assignments, work or extracurricular activities. The dating experience can help teenagers shift part of their thinking away from themselves and toward the other person.” In my own opinion teens learn how to become a better and more compassionate person. Teens often learn important communication and interpersonal skills while dating. According to the Center for Young Women's Health, “the most important part of a healthy dating relationship is learning to communicate and listen. Dating encourages teenagers to step out of their comfort zone and instigate conversations about life, family, goals, dreams, hobbies and interests. Introverted teens learn to share their feelings with a dating partner, listen to their partner's opinions and expand their social skills. Dating teenagers often explore news ways to communicate,...
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... I just think that the United States see public assistance kind of like a call out for help. It seem they explain the thoughts of people who are on welfare and how it is the composed way to live. Although, many liberals do not like the new program but there are not many people welfare. It does not say that they are ok before welfare. The text also state citizens employed and parents are not spending really any time with their young ones and more than half of the parent jobs offer no health insurance. It seems to me that conformists hides the truth containing...
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...Running Head: PARENTS RESPONSIBILITY IN RAISING A CHILD Both Parents should Assume Equal Responsibility in Raising a Child Christina Wells Critical Thinking March 6, 2012 Professor Mario Del Carril Men and woman who have children should always share in the rearing of their offspring. Raising children is not an easy task. It requires the participation of both parents in order for their children to grow into well balanced adults with strong character, and skill necessary to carry them through their lives. This can happen when the parents collaborate together, whether married or single in the shared parental responsibility and major decision making. The parents' input has long term consequences in the lives of their children in areas of ; child care, schooling, school trips, activities, vacations, medical care, choosing doctors, religious training, sports, etiquette, handling finances, how to keep their homes, proper nutrition’s, how to drive, hunt, fish, home maintenance, dating issues, discipline, and a host of other things that their children will face in their life as they grow into responsible adults. The responsibility of raising children begins immediately from the time they bring the child home on the first day. This is when the bonding of the child and parents begins. The mom of course is in need the most help during this time. The input from her mate is vital, as she is feeling the pain of the literal child bearing experience, and really needs the father to be...
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...Your Beliefs Will Have A Big Impact On Your Dating Life I've talked about limiting beliefs before and how to shatter them, but I've never talked about common limiting beliefs that hold you back from having the single life and the dating life that you want. If you don't think your beliefs, are important - think again! They are so important that the course of your day is being created by your current beliefs. What you are experiencing right now - boredom, anger, happiness, or annoyance, is produced because of your beliefs. Following are some common beliefs that will hold you back from dating success. 1. You Believe That You Are Not Good Enough To Date Believing you are not good enough to get, impress, attract, or have success with women is painful to believe, but easier to hold on to than face a...
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...could match one of her client’s demands, she confronts the woman and says “I’m a love hunter. Are you looking for love?” In another part of Beijing there’s a different kind of love hunter, an old widowed woman (Ms. Yu) who is desperately looking for a spouse for her son. Ms. Yu is not the only parent hunting. In the park, where she is, there are long rows of elderly men and women with homemade signs specifying the specs of their sons or daughters. All sitting there, waiting for inquiries, and with a small hope of getting their children married. The problem of finding a spouse in China is rising and with 118 boys born for every 100 girls the number of potential partners is shrinking. That leads to a big boom in the Internet dating industry in China, and with the number of singles rising and dating sites established, it makes more people, rich and poor, turn to hands-on matchmaking services. Essay about finding a spouse in China Finding a spouse in China or Denmark is only as hard as you make it. It seems that the more the social media is expanding, the lazier we get. We are getting lazy when it comes to meet new people, in this example, meeting “the one and only”. With the many dating sites that are available today you automatically get pickier when it comes to meeting your next boy- or girlfriend. All that you want, or need, to know is already written black on white. This means you will have a head start...
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...“I'm not opposed to it,” he admits, “but it's not, like, the biggest deal for me.” It appears as though many people are beginning to feel this way, considering 30% of the country(over the age of 18) is single and never has been married (Dr. Charuvastra COD Lecture). When asked about kids, I was truly shocked to find out he does want them someday. Many of the arguments against gay marriage is the fact that they cannot have children. Although it is true that they could not have a biological child together, that does not mean they cannot raise a child at all, as there are multiple other methods of obtaining a child. In 1990, three same-sex couples requested a marriage license in Hawaii and were denied. In 1993, the “Hawaii Supreme Court rules that there must be a compelling state interest” and so the case is reheard, with the testimony beginning three years later in 1996. In Hawaii's defense of heterosexual marriage, Eggebeen states, “Well, to me it’s the... the conclusion is clear that marriage represents a gateway to becoming a parent. When people get married, by an extraordinary margin they intend to become parents.” This is not always the case, as many heterosexual couples marry with no intention of having children, as well as gay couples marrying with the intentions of having a...
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