...In the film Juno, directed by Jason Reitman, a character than I admired is Vanessa Loring. Vanessa is a successful career woman in her early 30s who is desperate to be a mother. She is a perfectionist who initially comes across as uptight and controlling but later we learn that she is just nervous about the baby adoption falling through and is struggling to keep her marriage together. Vanessa shows a genuine love for children and a great devotion to being a mother. However her husband, Mark Loring, is struggling to grow up and is not ready to become a father. Film techniques used in the film to make us admire Vanessa are camera work, costume and dialogue. These techniques show us that she is the only mature and realistic adult in her marriage, her realisation that she does not need the “perfect family” to be happy and her natural mothering skills and genuine love of children. Dialogue is a verbal feature used in Juno to make us admire Vanessa. Initially we see Vanessa as cold and controlling, but as the film goes on we begin to realise that she is the only grown-up in her marriage and is having to deal with a husband who refuses to grow up. Vanessa shows great patience when she says, “Hate to interrupt the jam session.” This is how Vanessa responds to Mark after catching him and Juno playing with his guitars when they are supposed to be discussing the adoption. The adoption is a huge deal and Vanessa manages to turn a blind eye to Mark’s insensitivity, showing she is mature...
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...Gay Marriage Gay marriage, moral, immoral, equal rights, unconstitutional just some of the words that are spoken when this topic is brought about. This topic is a touchy one to say the least. When talking about same sex marriage or union it can be argued in many different lights. Some argue the morality, some argue about equality, some argue just about using the term “marriage” to refer to it. My point of view on this topic is solely on how I feel about it as an individual not to be considered right or wrong but just to get an understanding of how I feel about the subject. Two individuals committing to one another for life to me shouldn’t matter on gender. I look at us all as human beings and truly believe the meaning of life is the pursuit of happiness and love. So to deny two individuals that, weather they are same sex or different races, religions, whatever to me seems wrong. My first opinion of this subject will be referring to the equal rights as Americans. I feel that same sex marriages should be allowed and they should be given all the rights as traditional marriages. Why should we discriminated against who someone chooses to be with? We as a country grow and progress, we’ve changed over time to give women rights, African Americans same rights because they are just people like everyone else. They are part of this country what makes this country what it is, so I believe everyone should be given the same rights. No matter how people feel about it. If we went by how everyone...
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...2015 Women that are to Sorrow In both stories A Secrets Woman and “A Sorrowful Woman” are about two woman centered on ideas of marriage and family. However, marriage and family are viewed and experienced in two different ways. Karen van der Zee shows a married life style with the perfect children and family in her dream; it’s what Faye, the protagonist of A secret Woman, wants for her happiness. While Godwin’s protagonist, marriage and family has already come true, and searching for a resolutions why she is suffocating of her home and eventually leads to her suicide. Both of the Protagonist in the stories have experienced a dramatic crises in their lives. In A S Secret Sorrow, Faye’s dramatic crisis comes before her marriage. She is discomposed because she can no longer have children, and she fears that her being unable to have children will prevent her from marrying the man she loves. Both Fays and her husband Kai always wanted marriage and children, and she assumes that it’s only under those conditions to be truly happy. Faye feels that she is incapable of having children now is a flaw. “Every time we see some pregnant woman, every time we’re with somebody else’s children I’ll feel I’ve failed you!” (36). Faye’s fears is not getting married to the man she loves and not having children. In “A Sorrowful Woman” The dramatic crisis comes after her marriage and family has already started. Unlike Faye, she would be blissful in this woman’s shoes, the protagonist of Godwin’s story is...
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...Financial stability has always been regarded as the most important factor in ensuring a happy marriage. It is the pillar that holds a family together just like how pillars (the foundation) are imperative in preventing buildings from collapsing (good analogy). Without financial stability, marriages often end in divorce. A recent poll by the Jiayuan match-making website has shown that sixty percent of 1000 women are not in for ‘naked marriages’ this means that more women will only decide to tie the knot if their spouse owns a house. This just further proves (word choice - emphasizes) the importance of financial stability in marriages and that it plays a big role in ensuring happy marriages. So, what exactly is financial stability? In my opinion, being financially stable does not necessary mean that one needs to be rich and can afford a very extravagant lifestyle. Instead, it should simply be when one is debt-free, is able to afford and pay for the expenditure of their family and have the monetary means, savings, income to meet the needs for today and the future. (good definition of key terms) “Money can't buy you happiness.” (Dialogue) I believe most of us are very familiar with this quote and are now wondering, if money can’t buy us happiness, how or why does financial stability ensures a happy marriage? Couples get married not only to justify (word choice - as a testament of) their love for each other but also in view to start a family. (explanation) In today’s fast-paced...
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...Breanna Westbrooks Ms. H Marriage & Family paper 24 February 14 Marriage and Family Once said by Winston Churchill, “There is no doubt that it is around the family and home that all the greatest virtues, the most dominating virtues of human society, are created, strengthened, and maintained.” Marriage is a socially recognized union between two people, which may pave the way to starting ones family. Usually, when one thinks of the definition of family, the picture of a mother, father, and children come to mind. Yet, as a society if we were asked what family means to us there would be different definitions for most people. With that being said, before you can begin a family usually two people decide to be together in a committed relationship. This leads to wanting to take things to the “next level” or making the decision of making another person their partner for the rest of their life, normally done so by the male party by proposing to his mate indicating the longing to be with this person forever. Given by dictionary.com, marriage is the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitment. Just like many other things in life, if you want something to last and work then you must be willing to put in the effort that is required to have pleasing results throughout the marriage. When deciding to marry someone, you then make the decision of making a commitment to your partner, but to yourself as well...
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...said that marriage has a 50 percent chance of being successful, but this percentage really comes from the divorce rate. The days of “Happily Ever After” and “Till death do us apart” are gone for many people. However, I have learned from my parents that happily ever after and till death do us apart still exists for many couples like them. That is why I believe that despite the big amount of people getting divorced now a days, happily ever after still exists and can be possible. As kids we were shown movies with all having a happy ending and we grew up with the idea of one day getting married and living happily ever after. But in real life things are not so simple. There are many ways to define a marriage as successful or happily ever after. Here, Ill define it this way: Two people who have been married in the eyes of God for 25 years or more and still have mutual interest for each other. They like to spend time together, enjoy each others company, and don’t keep secrets from each other. A couple who is together for love rather than just out of habit. I'm happy to know that my parents meet these standards. My parents have been married for 33 years now and I've seen the struggles and obstacles they've had and how they managed to overcome them. If you ask my parents, they will be the first to tell you that marriage isn't always easy and that there are many days where both parties want to quit, but they will also tell you that life is good on the other side. Every marriage goes through...
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...Interpersonal Communication in a Marriage COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor: Stephanie May April 28th, 2014 Dear Michael and Lisa, Relationships are a lot of hard work, and they become harder when a pairs relationship blossoms into a marriage. It takes two strong people to put in the work to make the marriage become greater by the day. In order to succeed in a marriage the couple has to be willing to compromise, and work together to keep their lives in balance. It is not always easy to make decisions and think about another person before making a choice in your life. Balance trust, and understanding are things that are needed to create a happy and long lasting healthy relationship. Explain the principles and misconceptions in effective interpersonal communications. In interpersonal relationships is communications, between two or more people. “The capacity to form and develop healthy interpersonal relationships with others is fundamental for human development” (Paat, 2013). This communication allows individuals to share who they are with others. “No form of communication is simple. Because of the number of variables involved, even simple requests are extremely complex” (King, 2000). The principles of interpersonal communications are inescapable, irreversible, complicated, and contextual. There are verbal communication practices and non verbal communication practices. Sometimes we are unaware that we are communicating with others with even speaking...
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...life, we expect a marriage life to be happily ever after like the children’s stories, Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty, but it isn’t always the case. In reality, some marriage life does last forever but some doesn’t. As for mine, it only lasted for a couple years till I finally draw the line and said, “No more of this miserable life.” As time goes on, I have been living in a more stable and happy life compared to the married life I have before. How and why did I do it? Basically, I did it by re-socializing to adapt and cope to the married life I have now. What do I mean by re-socializing? It means that I must learn from my past experiences and make a dramatic change in the area concerning my behaviors, attitudes, expectations, and values to improve my new life. Before I get into my behavior change, I want to give a brief discussion on the topic why people get divorced. There are many reasons why people get divorced, but I will list a few of the important ones. First reason has to do with the break-down in communication and disclosure. This occurs with when both party starts to limit the communication between them. When one stopped talking to the other, it showed a lost of interest to be with the other one. If this goes on, both parties will eventually have negative thoughts such as, he or she is cheating, he or she don’t love me no more, or he or she is up to something no good. These kinds of negative thoughts aren’t good in a marriage life. Another reason...
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...our lives is considered either rewarding or punishing and therefore we are motivated to seek the rewards and avoid the punishments. What we find rewarding or attractive in a person reflects our unmet needs, this can differ from person to person and can range from financial security to support. Mutual attraction therefore occurs when each partner meets the other’s needs. As people in our life are stimuli and stimuli can be either rewarding or punishing it can explain why some people make us feel happy while others make us feel sad. The principles of operant condition suggest that we are more likely to repeat behaviour that gives us a desirable outcome while avoid the behaviour that results in a less desirable outcome. Therefore it is thought that we enter into relationships because the other person creates positive and happy feelings inside us and we want to repeat these feelings. It is also thought that attraction can occur through association, not just direct reinforcement. When we are in a happy mood we are more inclined to like someone we have no previous feelings towards than if we were in a bad mood. Following the principles of classical conditioning we come to positively value a person through association despite them being a neutral stimulus beforehand. The balance of these negative and positive feelings are thought to be important in the formation of romantic relationships. If the positive feeling outweigh the negative feelings a relationship is more likely to develop...
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...a beautiful thing. It makes people happy. It can change a person, and show someone things that they never knew about themselves. It lifts one up, knowing there is always someone who will stand by their side through anything. It brings people together, and makes the world a better place. Some people may disagree; they might think love is just a fantasy. Either way, it is a fantasy that everyone deserves to dream of and experience in all its glory, whether straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. However, not all people are so accepting of love when it is not in the form that they are familiar with, or is not demonstrated in ways that they think are proper. This can be easily seen in society’s treatment of non-heterosexuals, especially in the cases of marriage laws, bullying by teens and young adults, and general homophobic attitudes in our culture. It is important that these situations be changed so that each and every person has the same rights and is not harshly and wrongly judged because of the sex of the person that they love. When thinking of the word “marriage,” what comes to mind? Is it long white dresses and dapper tuxedos, or a towering cake and beautiful flowers? Do sappy love songs and the first dance come to mind? Some imagine a fairytale come true, with a horse and carriage whisking the happy couple away from the church in which they nervously exchanged vows? No matter what comes to mind, most people can agree that marriage is happy, and wonderful, and beautiful...
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...The marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Bennet The definition of a good marriage is the perception of the judge. When considering who is to blame for the Bennet's marriage, it must be said that it depends on which perspective is being considered. Jane Austen's portrayal of Mr. and Mrs. Bennet's union leads us to believe this was not a match made in Heaven. However, if the marriage is looked at from different perspectives such as; Mr. Bennet’s, Mrs. Bennet’s, circumstance, or society’s, they provide opposing views of happiness and who is to blame in the absence of joy. After all are considered, is the marriage that bad? A person’s reasons to get married are essential in determining whether or not they can be happy. Society dictated that the Bennet's marriage was contractually imperative for both of them. Mrs. Bennet wanted to be secure and accepted a proposal that she thought would be acceptable. Mr. Bennet wanted a wife to take care of his needs and give him children, preferably a son. Both were tolerable to the other in the beginning and entered into the marriage with freewill. Early in the novel we learn the Bennet's marriage is portrayed as ill-fitted. They appear to be two opposites in humor, character, tact and priorities. In Chapter 1 we read: Mr. Bennet was so odd a mixture of quick parts, sarcastic humour, reserve, and caprice, that the experience of three-and-twenty years had been insufficient to make his wife understand his character. Her mind...
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...other will have a huge impact on how happy and fulfilling your marriage will be. Considering we have been communicating since birth and think we know how to communicate well with others, I want you to really take a look at your communication skills for self-examination. Learning to identify roadblocks, understanding how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expressions affect your relationship, and realizing how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception are some things I want to share with you. I hope I can help you move past some of these barriers and on to a lasting marriage. A successful marriage depends on a lot of things with the most critical element being a compatible partner. The two of you seem to be very compatible and you need to continue to build on that compatibility with the second most critical element for a successful marriage, which is effective communication. According to Fischer & Hart (1995), “The most critical skill in marriage is communication. For whatever else marriage is, it is certainly a long conversation.” The two of you will be spending the rest of your lives together and you will want to make your long conversation interesting and purposeful. Get to know each other’s likes and dislikes and ask each other plenty of questions. Once your careers take off and children come along, it is hard to find time for everything that needs your attention. Make sure you always make time for each other and keep your...
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...Can We Talk Tanya Lynn Vilano Interpersonal Communication Professor Steven Fritzenkotter June 3, 2012 Can We Talk After reading the article on “Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in marriages”. The author does deliver enough material on self-disclosure in relationships. Self-disclosure is when you share personal thoughts and information with someone you are in a relationship with. The author states “In 1987, a review in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that higher rates of self-disclosure were tied with higher rates of marital satisfaction. Expression of love and support was also linked to happy marriages” (Schoenberg, 2011). When you are in a marriage you are looking for happiness from your partner. Self-disclosure brings reinforcement because it lets you be who you are and the same time improves your relationship and when someone you are in a relationship accepts what you tell them about you can help build your bond with one another. The first serious relationship I had, I chose to discuss the most intimate points of my life, because I thought it would bring us closer to one another. I told him about how my Dad disowned me after I got pregnant as a teenager and how it affected me inside it hurt me deeply. This time in my life affected me with my relationships with people, it made it tough for me to open up and trust anyone. It was difficult for me for me to open up to him because I did not share my personal affairs with people...
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...Explore the ways parent and child relationships are presented in Romeo and Juliet Romeo and Juliet is set during the Elizabethan period, where society favoured men over women and the women had to obey the men. Fathers were the ones who decided who there daughters would marry and they cant refuse the marriage because if they did they would bring shame upon the family and most likely disowned by them and if this happened they would have nowhere to go as women didn’t really have jobs apart from housework and looking after the children. I think that this society is bad because it is biased towards men and doesn’t give the women a choice for what they want to do in there own life. In Act 1 Scene 2, we learn that Lord Capulet is a fair and just man ‘for men so old as we to keep the peace’ this shows us that he doesn’t want to make the fued between the Montagues anyworse and wants to stay away from all the violence and try to get on with his own life with his family. Paris asks Capulet if he can marry Juliet ‘ but now, my lord, what sat you to my suit’ but Capulet is cautious about allowing Paris to marry Juliet because he feels she is still too young ‘ my child is yet a stranger in the world; she hath not seen the change of fourteen years’ this shows that he is not ready to let his only child go into the world without him yet as she hasn’t had any experience of what its like for women and he wants to protect her from all the bad things in the world , like any father would want to...
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...of her gender. Although Beatrice states ‘I would rather hear my dog bark at a crow than hear a man swear he loves me’ she is ultimately fooled into believing that Benedick loves her. The fact that she is tricked so easily, and subsequently admits her reciprocal love, tells us that she views marriage in a more favourable light than she had previously led us to believe. Whether she gave in to the ‘social construct’ demanded by the patriarchal society in which she lived is questionable. What we do know is that Shakespeare has presented her as a wilful, self-confident, autonomous woman who appears to revel in her single status. In contrast we have Hero, the antithesis of Beatrice. She is meek, obedient and completely dominated by the men in her life. She is the perfect foil for Beatrice, her willingness to please further enhancing Beatrice’s character. It is clear from the start of the play that Beatrice is not an ‘acceptable version of the feminine’. She is strong-willed, and full of confidence, even to the point of interrupting a male conversation. Her mocking comment: ‘I pray you, is Signior Mountanto returned from the wars, or no?’ is the first thing she says in the play and gives us an immediate insight into her character. This play on words refers to Montanto, an upright thrust used in...
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