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Why chinese mothers are superior

I remember one thing from my upbringing that made a big impression on the person, I am today. One thing that my parents always kept reminding me about when I was a kid, was that I could loose in games and my opponents could win. My parents would in that way form my thoughts in a way, so that I definitely not would be a bad looser that would cry and get upset because of a lost game. Because to loose sometimes in life is something everyone will experience once in a while. Some people can not handle this scenario as good as other people. This is because of the differences in the upbringings from child to child/parent to parent. Upbringings are actually very different from culture to culture. The writer Amy Chua wrote an article in The Wall Street Journal, January 8th, 2011 with the title “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, in which she explains how her kids were raised and where she also in general writes about how different upbringings can be in opposite cultures. The sender of this article is the John M. Duff, Jr. Professor of Law at Yale Law School, Amy L. Chua (October 26, 1962). She joined the Yale faculty in 2001 after teaching at Duke Law School. Prior to starting her teaching career, she was a corporate law associate at Cleary, Gottlieb, Steen & Hamilton. She specializes in the study of international business transactions, law and development, ethnic conflict, and globalization and the law. As of January 2011, she is most noted for her parenting memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.
Amy Chua wrote this article about upbringing and parenting with a focus on her own children and her own parenting. The main purpose of this article is to explain to the readers why this strict upbringing method is a good and normal way of raising children in particularly China. The structure of this article is a lot more different than many of the articles we know from our daily newspapers and magazines, in which the writers use as much attention seeking effects as they possible can. But Amu Chua does not use a very interesting typography, which would make one think: “this article catches my attention” at the first look at it. Instead she is only writing one headline and no subheadings and only using one picture. Many article writers would use as much of those effects to make the article seem more interesting. Amy Chua is clearly writing this article directly from her own personal experience with parenting. Chua also engages the reader to agree with her own personal conclusions. A very good example of that is when she explains about Western parents worrying too much about their children’s self-esteem. She does not give the reader the opportunity to have their own meaning about this: “Western parents worry a lot about their children’s self-esteem. But as a parent, one of the worst things you can do for you child’s self-esteem is to let them give up. (…)”. (s. 10. l. 167-168) Generally all this subjectivity in this article does make an impact of the freedom one has as a reader – you do not have the opportunity to have own personal meanings and conclusions. Some people would say that she is critical and open-minded and not as subjective, but I really mean that she stands on the Chinese side and persuades people to use the Chinese upbringing method. I have not tried to bring up children myself, but when I take a closer look on how my parents brought me up, I clearly see that there are both pros and cons with both the Western and the Chinese upbringing method. As a subjective comment on this subject I would first of all comment on how Any Chua looks at her children. I think she forgets to look at this very strict method of upbringing from a psychological angle. I think these Chinese children who have gone through a very hard and strict upbringing will at some point of their life not be able to act right in special scenarios, like in social situations at their school where they have to play and interact with their friends etc. I think that these children will have a hard time with communicating with the other pupils if they have not “trained” social situations, because they had strict rules like prohibition of these so-called “playdates”. These kids will be bad at most social situations sooner in their lifetime, like when they get a job. All their great qualifications and good characters will not be very helpful in situations where you have to know what to do to interact and talk with other people. But I think that positive sides of the Chinese method are to find. As Chua explains: “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work. And children on their own never want to work (…)”(p. 7. l. 44-45).
What I mean is, that I think that some western parents might give up too fast with something their children do not want to do. I played soccer when I was a kid, but I stopped because I got too “mature” in my own opinion, but I would have loved it today if my parents at that time kept me playing, because I then could have been very good at it now.

Generally this article gives a very good insight in different methods of upbringing and the reader will after going through this be left with something to think about.

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